Hmmm.. Let me begin to initiate plan B be that

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Lol.. The last I checked that's over $1000.. The funny thing some of them may have never given their parents 5kobo in their miserable lives

Saraki.. Frank underwood of Nigeria

Nairalanders are savages.. You guys want to kiii me with laughter.. Eeehmmm op.. I don't know what to advise you but you just help validate what one of my female bestie told he sometime ago.. She said.. WD ladies have fish brain.. Its now I believe.

Good day.. plese i need help with modelling a dual porosity reservoir model in eclispe.. can any one help? pls contact me asap if you can help. Thanks

pocohantas:
Story for the gods. Guys break these codes every other day


I dated my brother's friend years back, but my bro made sure that relationship crashed. He will tell me so many negative things, then end it with "no be say I dey cast am o, I just dey tell you, unto say you be my sister"...

ROFL damn it.. You reminded me of persin like that sha...

WinningSun:
I love you write up.

firstly I wouldn't dwell on the issues assuming the are set standard.

throughout the world women still look at marriage as a success step that needed to be attain.

men should be groomed to accept responsibility and be allowed to grow so as to attain financial stability before getting into marriage.

Thanks, I was expecting the usually bashing from nairaland but atleast its good to know someone understand my point. Your last statement should be taken to heart by young men and even women. Thanks

Silvermoney:

How 'stable' is a stable income? What if you have a good job before marriage and then later lose the job in the next 7 to 10 years, by which time you already have three school aged kids? What would you do then, would you get divorce? Besides, in that situation, how are you better than someone who got married in the first place with no "stable income"?.. Life is too deep. Let's not over simplify it.

good question.. but what happens to a second passive stable income.

emerged01:
Op,always plan on your own resources. You are not a man enough to have allowed your woman's Money get into your head.
I remembered when my woman was putting pressure on me. Mind you,we are of the same age. my income was below hers. She knew that,and she insisted on spending the rest of her life with me. Considering her age,I decided to sit her down and told her I don't want to care about how much she is earning,that every our plan will be based on my income. One thing I realised is that woman will let you down when you need them most. That is the sole reason you must always plan on my your resources. Go after what you can afford not what you can do to please her,to ensure you don't spend above your income.

for me. this is the best advice so far.. many people were just mocking the op directly or indirectly. I can't tell the op what to do. he obviously didn't do much homework before flying into the hot soup of marriage. but I wish to expressly plead with him to shun any idea of making his wife pregnant or having children now.. if by commission or ommision, a child comes into this unresolved issue.. it won't be funny.. pls don't bring a child into this mess. thats my only concern.

I think I have been shying away from saying this due to several factors but I think as the pressure is being mounted on daily basis. It’s time to speak my mind on it. Personally, I feel for ladies and that majorly because, whichever way the pendulum swings, it doesn’t always favor them. They are the most venerable. Virtually, in almost every discussion I engage in within the last few months, 9 out of 10 involves marriage, and it comes in different forms, sometimes as a direct question, some subtly asking me when and where would I be getting married. For the record, marriage is a good thing ONLY if both parties are sincere and want it to work with conditions such as SELFLESSNESS, SACRIFICE, UNDERSTANDING AND I would add, REALISM being the foundation amongst other qualities. I have discussed with several persons who are according to the society due for marriage but yet to be married and my assessment of our discussion shows that many persons are oblivious of reality, banking on false hope especially the one peddled and sub-consciously fed into our soul by divergent religious beliefs. And from my perspective, I put the blame on our hard-core and unchanging belief system in handed down traditions and ways of life. This I call the ‘AFRICAN MENTALITY’. The African mentality with respect to marriage is not just archaic but simply unrealistic. Yes it did worked decades ago. But it is just not working right now. An average marriage now is either at the brink of breaking down, or in a managerial position where all parties involved are society-conscious, i.e. bothered about what people would say about them if things fall apart. (PLEASE TAKE NOTE OF THE WORD AVERAGE). But then, an average young person is consistently pressured or let me put it in a more succinct way, is wired to envisioned marriage as an integral part life because that is what the society is modeled to be. Let me be practical a little. Let take a look at the African model of an ideal life below.

This model worked perfectly back in the days. It was simple and realistic then, why? Because the world was not as complicated as it is. Women in those days are second-fiddle to men, low-average population, low rural-urban migration, better economy than we have now amongst other factors. Their place in the society is well mapped out and designed to be “in the other room”, kitchen, in fact their office is their home. That’s all. But today, can we totally say this is true? Though the mentality is still very much with us and If you agree with me that there is a change in situationalism, then how then do you expect the above model to work? Personally, I think it still work in rural areas, villages and much less infrastructural settlements. I think you should know why it would likely work there.

The funny thing about the above model is this, as soon as you enter stage 4 (marriage). You are in OYO (On Your Own). No one will help you feed your family, pay bills because marriage gives one a sense of responsibility for life. Let’s play the African model in today’s scenario. Presently there are over 200 million Nigerians with 10% of the Population accounting for 90% of Nigeria’s wealth. By implication, 180 million Nigerians are more like in poverty which kinda includes me and you because I am pretty sure am yet to be in the elite 10%. Thus, I can confidently say, for an average young Nigerian, who just got a job lives on an average job salary of N50,000. He gets to meet the love of his life, BAM! got married because it is the next phase of life. And a new circle begins. If he is a little smart, he marries a lady who is working too within same salary range. Thus, the new family has an average cumulative of N100,000 monthly. It is good for a start. For me, for the two of them, it’s not bad, but as soon as child one get in, the quality of life gets slimmer in geometric progression especially bearing in mind that perhaps none of them like work for the government, so the chances of a salary raise or promotion is as good as imaginary. Thus, with N100,000 for two people, it becomes N100,000 for three, four , or perhaps five in less than 10years. With more resources moving towards the children and much less towards the parents and considering the current bad economy, inflation and if you are realistic, based on history matching and future prediction, things are not gonna get better, N1 can never come back to $1, cost of living will continue to get higher, life expectancy will get lower except you choose to live in your religious fantasy and dreamland. There is no how, such family will not crack.

I may not be able to tell how long they would stick together but those cracks get wider every second when there is a need that cannot be met financially or otherwise. Here comes, the justification for vices such as adultery. The wife tries to keep up with her societal friends who are making it big by augmenting the peanut she gets with a business I call SEX FOR MONEY trade-by-barter model with other men apart from her husband. The man, out of frustration get to sweet-tongue one side-chick to satisfy his sexual desires because madam-wife no longer have his time. Before you say, jack, side-chick is pregnant and wants to be a shareholder in husband and wife international company. It can either end up splitting the marriage or having a turbulent merger, thus having, husband, wife and side-chick turned wife international company. I know many persons are highly religious and have so much faith, but I am a realist, I work with what I see and projections made on reality. Ask an average married fella? They will usually say, ‘marriage is not easy’; that’s a subtle way of saying, if I have my way, I will back-out. Why? They are bearing it not enjoying it. The façade, pretense is no more, reality has sunk in deep and its either you bear and carry your cross like Jesus did or throw the cross away and be free again.. and I think many people are doing the later because they aren’t Jesus. Hence, the several divorces and brutal separations. Mind you that’s just a figment of one possible realistic scenario which one thing or the other, you can relate with. This has birth the bastadized model of African life now, the baby-mama/ baby-papa lifestyle. Whether you like it or not, it is creeping in gradually and would stay put. Why? There is only one burden to carry by both parents, their child which is the connection.

Personally, am no fan of such lifestyle but it’s part of the reality I come to terms with but not necessary agree with but why is it gaining ground, because of the stiffness, conservativeness and blind religious beliefs the African society has held on to with little or no room for changes. This has made some young people damn the consequences and do whatsoever they do to make themselves happy. Mind you, while a lot of persons like me don’t like the idea of baby-mama or papa. Some persons involved or not involved see it as the way out of the bondage called marriage. I don’t blame them. The model they knew never worked for this generation no matter how it is spinned especially from the religious circles.

Like I said earlier, I pity ladies more, why? Because they are the ones that are more stuck in the African model of life and the funny thing is, it does not favour them. They let go their ambitions, their visions and dreams just to be in bondage with some man. It is only in Africa, Nigeria that an ambitious woman, Career lady is unfulfilled because she is not married. It is only in Nigeria that a well-to-do- lady would for-go her work or even business and hand-over the rudder of her life to a man. I don’t believe in surrender it all, I believe in Partnership. My question is this, would you rather be single, ‘lonely’, maybe ‘unhappy’, maybe ‘financially instable’ than be married and potentially experience the entire above but with a clause, you are married with more responsibilities. The point is, no matter how they spin it that it is better to be married than single. Reality says otherwise and you are better off, you stand a chance having a better marriage if you add realism (being realistic) to your marital plans. Please stop making a big deal out of marriage it is no big deal. It is a good thing but not compulsory.

NairaMaster1:


Ashawoism is now happiness? Poverty in Africa has made us legalized promiscuity to responsibility.

They even forgot they are products of marriage. Thank God the men you are running after are mostly married, others will also marry later while you stay single.

I wonder if you're happier than Omotola. Pride and promiscuity won't allow you humble yourself under a man.

Are you kidding me? did you read where it was stated that THE WIFE OF...... damn it, it is because of people like you African cant move forward.. the so called AFRICAN MENTALITY.. the lady made a very good and solid point. Deal with it.

jFrankNorfleet:

In the end, the one thing that did it for me was observing, as a pastor, how Christians lead their lives when they think nobody is watching. Because if there was one fundamental promise of Christianity that I kept sticking to after years of disappointment, it was that God is changing people’s lives. I could live with God not giving me my daily bread and not delivering me from evil – after all, it could always be because of his perfect heavenly plan that I am just too limited to comprehend. But the one thing that I thought the Bible is clear about is that he is supposed to change people for the better. Maybe not instantly, maybe not completely (not in this life anyway), but by the power of Holy Spirit people should be transformed into the glory of Christ, becoming better, more compassionate, more moral, more Christ-like. But nothing like that happens – in church, they just learn how to masquerade better. This was the final straw, the ultimate promise of the Bible that turned out to be false too. The whole house of theological fine print finally collapsed.

Source

of all the excuses the above quote. .. was the most disturbing of all... and that made it easy to walk away from the slavery of religion. only curious minded people get to this point of no return... no regrets till date..

oneolajire:


The main purpose of christianity isn't to check mate politics. If it were so, Jesus would have told us. The fact that Martin Luther King Junior might have made such a statement doesn't mean he is actually correct. The purpose of christianity is far much beyond that of policing the government. 

Nigerian leaders don't seek advice from church and her leaders, if they had been, our society would have been much better. Most of our politicians are proud, selfish and clueless. Their motive is not to develop the society, hence they don't seek divine direction. Even when they deliver little dividends of democracy, they do so in order to have some projects to campaign with. Politicians only need church leaders for religious aspect of public ceremonies and solidarity during election season
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lol.. am not surprised you coughed out this kind of reply. but let me take you back to the scripture, Samuel and Saul, Nathan and David, ahab and Elijah.. and all other prophets.. only Solomon whose time there was no record of any disagreement with a prophet. even Jesus was not lived by the Pharisees and saducees.. the point is not create enimity.. but like I said.. the aforementioned prophets stood their ground for justice, and godliness and would not condole it even from the most powerful men of their time.. that's what kept Israel sane and acceptable before God.. the minute few who are bold to say the truth are not and cannot be in the limelight.. and your revered pastors knows that the day they choose to speak the truth and act along... there will opening of can of worms.. yes.. I repeat can of worms.. they are as rotten as the politicians.. it's a simple partnership, politicians ravish the people by denying them dividends of democracy, religions leaders are to ensure the mindset is prepared to accept, adapt to the crumps they get and more importantly use them as a tool for political leverage. pls ask yourself again how did. a commissioner became a vice president... ?

lol. op I wish I had time to reply in full.. you have made several good points .. no they are not the problem.. they are part of the problem.. but I tell you sir, the main purpose of religion is to check Nate politics.. and according to martins Luther King Junior.. the church should be the conscience of the society.. if the church is the conscience of the society, we should all things being equal have a better society why? politicians, non politicians and sundry.. all damn believe in one supernatural power or the other and thus are compelled to accept and believe in what religious leaders tell them, also seek advice for them.. hence if the society is in this comatose state.. then religion is useless... be it Christianity or Islam or what have you.. check mate

hmm... I strongly share the op sentiment. the Truth is... people like him..me are being realistic.. we don't hide under uncertainty. I saw where someone wrote.. he is scared of taking responsibility.. no.. that's not it.. on the contrary.. he is being responsible for himself and avoid being irresponsible as the issues pile up. Marriage does not guarantee that you won't be lonely. I have seen several married folks lonely.. so live your fantasy marriage and let us.live ours too.. my only issue is.. I don't know how to break it to my parents that marriage is not in my dictionary.. it would be hell that day when they find out.. hahahahahaha

donstan18:



But fornication with his girlfriend cannot take his glory?

Oga carry your spiritual realm and glory komot for romance section abeg Go to religion section.

oboy.. you b confirm savage. ROFL

I seriously give up on Nigerians... so patethic. at least if you can't read or don't have patience to read. ask someone to summarize. no matter how much you hate obj.. a thief is no thief until he is caught.. at least so far so good.. no more $16billion bullshit to mess with him except new evidence surfaces.. deal with it haters... I don't like him either but I accept fact when it is presented with clarity and obj earned my uttermost respect again and again.. go and hug transformer or bring evidence to.nail him

whoever tells me 250k is cheap is joking abi?

Due to the comments, I took time to watch the 9mins clip. personally, I don't like rowdiness of the guys around him.. but I think, we should not underestimate sowore, he is using student bodies. If he successfully get their backings without being betrayed. our politicians are in trouble cos these are same set of people they use for their political bullshit. my own is... don't underestimate sowore. he is not gonna win but gonna trouble the waters for the greater good

op.. this life in discovered is unfair. good people most times get tag along with the wrong or bad people. pls don't hesitate to let her go. she is a mole

snowden9:
So, Yesterday was my birthday but before that, two days to my birthday, i changed my facebook birthday date to another date. I really wanted to know if my close friends knew my date and won't be waiting for any facebook reminder.

The result i got though have really made me to ask myself if my 'close friends' are really my close friends. My 'best friend' that I've known for nine years now haven't called me up till today to wish me happy birthday or apologize for not remembering. I remember trying to call him on his birthday and his number wasn't going through, i had to call his girlfriend in order to reach him and his comment when I later got through to him that night was 'It's now you're calling me since morning'. Likewise my female 'bestie' that I've known for 6 years now,she hasn't called either. The list goes on. My dad, in his late 60s though, didn't remember my birthday as well. I had to tell my mum and siblings not to remind him so I'll see if he remembers. At 28,i believe I'm not a kid though to be wanting affection and birthday wishes from my old man but I just feel it's something a parent shouldn't forget. To crown it all, I got a girlfriend this past January and Yea, she forgot my birthday as well after most recently telling her last week Thursday. She called and texted today to apologize but I just told her to give me a week off without calls, texts or visits. Although she didn't agree and was still persistent but that's the verdict I have for her.

All in all though, I was and I'm still kinda disappointed with these 'Key' people in my life that I expected not to ever forget such an important day to me but they all did. But still, I don't think it should make me change my mindset towards them even though it hurts.

So guys, passing the speech stick to you, 'How would you feel if your loved one forgot your birthday?'

at first I thought it was a lady. I would have ignored. but a guy bloating over birthday..it's surprising. so for you.. remembering your birthday make you feel loved abi? was the sky yellow because it was your birthday? pls grow up. only superficial people cry over issues like this

right on point op. 90% of my song collections are gospel. it's my addiction. I love good music. good gospel music and otherwise. infact sometime last year I led in worship in church.. you are not alone bro
it's who we are. I don't want to be something else. that's the beauty of being free.

op I feel your pain. I was involved with boi early last year and the previous year. one thing I discovered early was the inconsistency in their prerequisites. At first they wanted people with ideas .. at another stage, u must have a business running having an office and some administrative capacity. I told myself, if these people are like this now... I won't survive this loan. I backed out. twice. I tried Tony elemelu stuff too.. did not make it but looks and behold, my idea scaled through with another fella on it.. since then.. I lost interest in such venture

op.. the logic behind your question or post does not correlate.. it is one thing to create... it is another thing to procreate. No sensible creator or inventor creates or invent a thing and does not have total control except it is being compromised by another creator of same competence. If God created Lucifer and the angels, he owes them no apology to do whatever he wants . moreover.. his wish his supposed to be their command. as a creator if my creation is deviating from it's purpose.. I can either repair it. reprogram it to status quo or I destroy it . The God - lucifer- angels scenerio only means any of the following:
1. that God and Luficer are either co-creators but with Lucifer playing the lesser role in terms of hierarchy. hence he could reprogram some angels to do his bidding

2. or God is not as powerful, creative and intelligent as he ought to.. such that he created something he can't destroy. not even at the threat of opposition.. even man destroys a fellow man for far less things.

that story does not add up.. it's obviously fake And tales by moonlight.

jasper83:



Life is just too funny. In fact it's truly a series of unlimited schools we all go through but at different stages of our lives as humans but mysterious taught with almost if not the same syllabus with little or no editing but with different teachers.

What happened to you bros happened to my elder bro almost a decade ago, in fact if he is privy to read this thread na laugh he go dey laugh. Now quick one, do you want an honest advice devoid of emotions? please drop that lady asap. God has just saved you from a future marital crisis, as a man you must have a discerning spirit and try to be less emotional. I know it's not easy but that the only way to life a long and fulfilled life and it's an hard way. I have learnt in a very hard way to adopt it and it's working for me.

Your girlfriend mum not liking you is a huge red flag for me, secondly concerning that pastor lover boy na dia way be that always intimidating people with God say this and that, let him have her by taking undue advantages like closeness to her mum, the spiritual inclination to the story blah blah. Na dia wahala be that, I know it's painful when you think of the great times you have shared together, maybe the smoochings, hugs, great sex etc, you are now imagining her doing it with the pastor, no think am, na dia wahala let him have her.

Bros fear anybody that over analyses issues,what does she mean by my grandmother married twice, my mum same thing, you see na dia way be that always trying to spiritualise and rhyming stuffs together.
God forgive me ooo, something tells me it's that pastor during the wooing that deposited that consciousness in my heart coupled with her mum unlikeness for you. But they have forgotten that marital bliss comes from God only, marrying a pastor doesn't guarantee that evident by what we read daily. She saying that she hasn't choosen a bae is a lie, from abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh, she just doesn't want to hurt you so she wants to gradually withdraw. Just watch and observe her tactically withdrawing, she is gone, please forget her and move on. If you forcely marry her any time the union has any minor issues she will always refer to this time that she doesn't want to do but you coerced her into the union and nothing makes a man go mad like that ugly statement which will surely leads to domestic violence and the end of the union. Hasn't she said it? that your union with her will be unblissful abinitio? Bros abeg think without emotions...

This is the best time of your life to run your race without distraction and shine like a star, when the time is ripe you will surely get yours. Set the record straight at the start, do genotype test, medical compatibility, spiritual blah blah no time for story. Be strong we have passed through that route before, welcome to the CLUB of strong men!

SECONDED... op... you should rather be happy. you just got saved from an impending divorce. Any lady who values the word of a so called man of God more than the voice of reasoning.. should be avoided.at all cost.. cos.. you will never have a say ur family.. it is about what the pastor say it is.. Congrats once again..

hopefulLandlord:
lmao! Rachealoduah is obviously a newbie to the religion section

We've been wiping the floor with your god idea for years on end here, stay longer and you're bound to get used to it

savage you are .. she sure sound like one..lol

hmmm.. op.. I don't know where to start but I know one thing for sure.. Marriage is OVERRATED. you said you don't want to lose your peace.. there is more certainty u will lose that peace when u get married.. there is no guarantee anywhere.. be happy with who you are.. some married folks are regretting it today.. don't let the societal pressure get to you through that mentality.. only married men are asking me out... for me that's enough to put me off... for the record, marriage is a good thing only if and only if both parties want it to be good. pls think less of marriage and more less of who approaches you... it would help you remain sane... thank you very plenty