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omoenoma:
Agbani Darego was the first Indigenous African to win Miss World, she won the crown in 2001 and got married to Ishaya Danjuma in 2017. Her Hubby is the son of General Theophilus Danjuma. Read More https://enomaomoruyi.com/agbani-darego-and-hubby-mark-5th-wedding-anniversary/

Nyash and breast lovers where are you ppl

omoenoma:
Agbani Darego was the first Indigenous African to win Miss World, she won the crown in 2001 and got married to Ishaya Danjuma in 2017. Her Hubby is the son of General Theophilus Danjuma. Read More https://enomaomoruyi.com/agbani-darego-and-hubby-mark-5th-wedding-anniversary/

I thought she married since , she's so pretty

Exkandayee:
River babes na ogbanje full that side,my guy marry one Carry come America, This girl don Bleep all us weh be en husband friends,Las Las we sendam go back,

Your friends wife bleeped all of you , like she raped you ppl , I don't understand z how are you even saying it with your mouth and it's not sounding somehow , I hope your friend send una go back too jeeeeez

Patrioticbreed9:
You claim we are related but you dont patronize and marry ladies from rivers instead you are flocking akwa ibom ladies en mass!.

Why is it so?

This one don't know what he's saying

ESenthusiast:
Hello! I am a man.

Yes Finland has a small population of 5.5 million people but it is large in size. I, for example have visited more countries than cities in Finland because some of them are very distant from each other. And it's not really necessary to leave southern finland theres just small towns and forests in the north.

Yes, there are black people in Finland. Mostly Somalis who came here as refugees in the 90s. It's not really rare to see black people in major cities, but it is still very rare in the north.

There's definitely racism in Finland. The chances of someone hurling racist abuse in public are low, but it has still occurred. There has been some anti-immigration (or refugee) sentiment around especially in 2015-2016 when around a million Syrian and Iraqi refugees fled to Europe. Right-wing people said that they were rapists, ISIS supporters, wanted to islamize Europe etc. All of the movements born during that period have died but there's an anti-immigration party in the parliament with a lot of seats (though not in the government) called Perussuomalaiset. (Literal translation=regular finns). Some racism has also been noted in the housing and job market. Some employers have been accused of preferring candidates with Finnish sounding names.

Thank you
So it's not really part of the Asian continent right?

Altruist1414:
There's this girl my course mate that has been my friend for sometime, recently I told her my feelings for her and asked her out.


Well she told me she liked me too, but we can't date, in her words: " I like you a lot, you are not just a friend, you are more than a friend to me, but we can't date". Which kind zone be this one?


Her reason is that she doesn't feel prepared for any relationship now, there's a lot of things she has to work on herself before getting in a relationship. This is someone that broke up with her boyfriend last year, according to her she just felt so stressed from academic work that she just picked up her phone to tell the boyfriend it's over.

I want to know if I should just move on and forget about her, or I should just continue in the "more than friends" thingy?

Is like you're talking about me ? Jeeeez
I suggest you forget her , she's not going to change her mind , if you force it it'll be a one sided relationship even if she likes you , I know it looks like she's playing hard to get but she's not and the sooner you forget her the better , the more than friends thingy is not going to be anymore than that , the babe is just not really in the mood and it's like that for some people , you'll get tired and then get bored of the relationship thing , the only way you can grab her attention is in contributing to her life in this aspect that she has confided in you about or try to make it better but that still won't guarantee that she'll change her mind .
But you're a coursemate you're probably just as busy and as stressed as she is , I won't advise you to start offering to carry extra load for someone at this stage , so my best advice is let it go and forget about it

LaPrimero:
My Brother got gainfully employed mid 2021 due to the efforts of my parents. He had been struggling with a 10k job since he finished service before he got this well paying job. Everything was going well as he started well at his working place and was even getting applauded by his boss and higher ranking staffs as he was taken as someone of great promise. He was also in good times with my parents.

Around November last year, he sighted this chubby fine girl and became restless. He even said "she is the one". He hustled for the girl's number and soon started something with her. She accepted his proposal the moment he asked. Our Dad told him it was too early for all that and he needed to focus on building his still budding career but he turned a deaf ear. He soon started lavishing funds on the girl to my parents consternation. He even started discussing intimate details about our family with the girl within a short frame of time. Around January this year, Matters came to a head and started being utterly disrespectful to our parents. He even cut off Everyone that tried to advice him on the folly of the "relationship". He basically became a stranger to the family and his friends all because of a girl. The girl was so demanding, Manipulative and infuriating. The worst is that the girl was a serial girlfriend, having dated at least 8 men before him. She was a so called Dj and her whole life was all about parties and fleshpots. My brother on the other hand came from a strict Christian family and abandoned all the values he identified with because of the girl. The only thing he got from the relationship was premium billing.


The Crux of the matter now is that he went bankrupt trying to fund her extravagant lifestyle and even went into debts. He borrowed money from 7 different loan apps and they have been on his neck. We have been able to handle 3 of the loans and some of the remaining loan companies are even threatening to post his photos on social media and Newspapers as a fraudster and also blacklist his bvn.

He has been getting troubling phone calls from the loan apps and is basically ruined both mentally and physically. He looks so lean this days and has become humble to my parents and even to me his younger brother. The family he rejected and refused to even give one Kobo in his heydays is now trying by all possible means to rescue him from the slump as we are his only backbone . The girl in question does not even know what he is going through.

How do we rescue the foolish young man as he still isn't ready to fully give up the girl. A friend told him he can't even help him get back on his feet because it will be like pouring water into a leaking bucket. While I was at school this dude hardly sent me or my younger ones anything but was sending a sizeable amount to the girl monthly because he was "in love". I really need helpful suggestions from the house on this matter. Mods help me get this to fp

He's lucky to have you people , I disowned my brothers because of this same foolishness , ever since I was a child I always listened to them , I used to fight my parents because I wanted to go out with them , I really thought I was lucky to have 2 tall fine brothers in my house , today if anyone asks me about my family , I will tell you that I'm the first child and I'm truly the first child , because I'm the only one that acts like it and I'm the one that is approved by my dad as his first child ,
How can you as a son come to see your younger siblings and you don't feel bad that you can't even bring bread ? You're so comfortable coming empty handed to see your father and your so called junior ones and you're expecting us to respond to you or respect you ,
Today I can call him and say brother I need 100 naira card and he will tell me that his house just collapsed , his fish just died , his boat was stolen and I'll be shocked " brother you had a boat ?" , " You had a house?" " You're even engaged and you're still the one taking care of your fiancee and her child ( that is not his) " , as I'm typing this I'm in 400 level and from the year I entered uni , they've been asking for my account details and 100 naira has not entered ,.
God knows why he made my Dad a responsible father , is only my dad I have and he's been there all day , every day , he always picks my call to hear my complaint , my goodnews , my update , my gossip ,my demands , I don't insult ppls father's because insulting my dad can lead to fight and I will win the fight

My cousin brother hit jackpot just recently too , I don't say he's my cousin coz we look alike and I also loved him alot so I just tell everyone he's my brother , I used to look up to him and I was his only ear when he was down , all of a sudden he hit jackpot , he went to pack one gold digger and took her shopping, she's basically a family member because she grew up in our compound , her brother in law bought our grandpa land and our extended family house and their house are facing each other ( face me I face you ) , since we were kids she and her sister had ashawo tendency , I'm older than her oh but she's trying to flirt with my dad , my papa wey get pikin wey fit born her "sir my phone is spoilt "

They used to tease her with my cousin and he was broke then and she will be like "God forbid oh , that kind person " now he has money , the people that gave him house to stay he didn't see them , the people that were feeding him , he didn't see them , his little cousins he didn't see them , he only saw her and he took her mega shopping , a box of clothes , series of perfume , a box of clothes for her sister , my cousin sister is always calling to report him and I'm just irritated , I'm not going to ask for anything from him , till I die and I've kept my promise , only thing I asked him for and he struggled to give me was a body spray , not even perfume, and that was ages ago , I have pride if I ask you for one thing and you say no , especially if I can do more than what I'm asking for, that's the end forget about me because I will do you back and the relationship won't recover from it

My cousin sister on the other hand suffered but she was always thinking about everyone , she doesn't mind giving you her last #200 naira even if your phone is bigger than hers , she goes out and comes back with school bags for 4 of her little brothers , she'll buy this purse for her mom , cook , clean , wash clothes for her siblings that are old enough to wash for themselves, she'll still bath them , dress them up for school , both her parents are irresponsible so she had to fend for herself and her brothers while her parents were trying to look youthful and flex

I don't trust any of my brothers and infact I trust no male relative except my dad
Even if my dad gave me everything I felt abandoned and lonely coz i really grew up to understand that all of them didn't really give a dam*n about me they were just being nice coz they knew dad loved me , and I understood that in reality even if I was dying or starving they won't lift a finger so far as it's me , my cousin own is general ( everyone is waiting for him to crawl back)
But I think having them in my life helped me be a better sibling and daughter , I know I'm going home , I'll save up maybe on my way I'll see bread I'll buy it , I've been like that since I was a kid but I was just doing it for doing sake , now I know it's very very important to never appear in front of family or friend empty unless you have no choice , before going my siblings gather to discuss what and what I should look for when I'm coming back so I can prepare in advance , so that I don't have excuses like " you did not tell me fast " , sometimes it's fun and sometimes it's not and sometimes it involves compromise but the conclusion I'm not just a sister by blood or by mouth, I carry out my responsibilities and when it's my turn all of them come out to help me , even when I don't ask ( noone wants to be on my bad book but they don't know that no matter what they do I'll still be there , coz I also wanted an older sibling that was also there )

zed7:
Women sit on their own whilst men chase them. Learn how to keep your man. It's more than giving him just food and sex.

I personally feel like it's not possible to keep a full grown man unless he's already a kept man , that's why you have to watch out for the red flags before marriage , the signs are always there but most of us women are blind , all you're hearing is " he wants to marry me , what will our children look like , so ppl will start calling me Mrs Robinson? wow , I have done it " it's coz of how they make marriage look like a Bleep*ng crown especially in Africa , you can be useless but as far as you're married , you've made it

Marry someone who is already what you want , changing a full grown human being is almost impossible , let love not blind you into marrying dustbin

Mrscarter:
Hope d wife beat her cheap ass. I really dislike homewreckers. Theyre cheap dirty hoeees who dont realize theyre only wanted for their bodies and are pretty much prostitutes cos theyre giving their bodies in return for materialistic things. Youre nothing but cum collectors. Once the man screws you he dnt want you until his lust clouds his brain again. Would u prefer a man to love you or just use you for ur body then go bk to the woman he loves. All these kinda women deserve beating and to be shamed in public. If i were that woman id be ashamed cos being wanted just for ur body is no achievement in life. Youll just keep on getting used by all kindsa men who once they cum return to their family while your left on your lonesome with your material items ur pussy brought you and a dirty stretched out smelling pussy

All u homewrecking husband snatchers out there just know some day youll have a husband of your own AND most likely, your very own side chick too. hopefully one that will send herpes into your bed. And thats what you call karma.

NEVER DO INTO OTHERS WHAT U DONT LIKE DONE TO YOU!!!!

Mrscarter we all know that it's the husband that goes out to look for these girls and disturb them , if you were once a girl you'll have that knowledge or that experience , I know the number of married men that come to me to say 1 or 2 things , some even deny that they are married , some will accept it , the other ones will say their wives and children are in a different state , different countries , different planet , the woman is not the one that made the vow with you , it's your husband and he's accountable for his actions not HER, the sooner you learn this the better
Instead of shouting and laying curses on a girl that probably didn't plan to be a sidechick in the first place , since your husband is so precious to you , carry the matter to God , how are you a wife and you don't have an active spiritual life and you're hoping that your marriage will be perfect , magically?
And I know there should not be an excuse for cheating but sometimes ehn I don't always blame the husbands , eventually when a woman starts to battle the changes of childbirth , the demands of work , chores , it's very easy to forget about sex , it's very easy to stop caring about your appearance and very easy to just not care anymore , both of you don't discuss anymore , you don't play anymore , if it's time for sex , one person is doing the other one is sleeping , I'm not talking about chronic cheaters oh , I'm talking about the men that feel like "their wives are giving them excuse to cheat " , and men can be selfish and not see the other things the woman is doing and just concentrate on "we're not having sex anymore"

All in all ,the matter is between husband and wife, noone can come into your house if every entrance is locked and that is the truth , it's either your husband's door is open or yours ( wives cheat too) ,
And lastly you need to do more research , saying that the men are just using the girls for sex , if you watch soap operas , you'll understand that sometimes ehn the mistress has a stronger relationship with the husband , and sometimes it's not even sex ,
The real one I know of he cheated on his housewife with his business partner , why? Housewife is not working , he married her for love but love faded , her mom needed surgery he paid , her sisters tuition he covered it , eventually he paid for a separate house for her family to stay in and then he met another woman , rich , working , divorced and beautiful , his wife cannot stand where his mistress is standing , and the family welcomed the mistress in behind wifeys back , there are levels to this thing , maybe the sidechick your husband is packing are street girls but when some big men cheat ehn , it's not always about sex , so aunty carry your problem to God and pray for your marriage , no be to dey shout , have you gone for counseling ? Have you spoken to your spouse ?
Homewrecker this , homewrecker that , the women that married as virgins nko , why are their husbands cheating on them if they were not sidechicks before they married ? Too much film is not good

3 years ago one man from Ghana said he married his wife a virgin and she had twins and he wanted to have sex with me , that his wife doesn't like sex and they only do one round 36 years old , I still know another one with a virgin wife that stayed abroad and that one wanted the same thing , if I agreed to do anything with any of them , nothing will happen to me , no be me call them, na home training dey make me respect myself

EmzyT:
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Pained fool I could see your frustrations from this side

Noone on Earth is allowed to spit on my father's name especially not a dog breath 23 year old toddler

EmzyT:
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Anything that comes out of ‘Iyaebe's
mouth is trash to me

More so, I don't need to prove anything to your generations okay? Kiddo

This will be my last reply to you!! Mumu

If you don't have anything to prove turn why did you bring it up , confused retard

EmzyT:
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Lmao Nice lines you've got there But I don't think I need that advice because I can feed your entire generations even with the ones unborn without complaining. And guess what? I'm just 23 So, direct the message to your Blockheaded Dad, he needs it more I think.

My dad is old enough to be your grandfather and unlike you I know my responsibilities as a woman , a daughter , a sister , a wife one day , that will become a mother , I also know how to respect my elders , what you type on social media even as cruise reveals who you are and you my friend are a lonely child that needs his mommy

My papa get 9 children trained 3 of us outside , you wan come dey follow me dey drag wetin ?
If you want to feed me and my family , come and pay my dad's salary for a month let's see , abi is it my sisters fees that you want to pay ? Do you have 650k to spare ? Should I send my account ?
23 years and you lack home training, lack sense , lack direction
You want to follow redpillers and be doing zuzu , you go reach 45 pikin you no get , wife you no get , that's when you'll understand

FunnyDude:
You kid. Is it not gf that will later turn to wifey?

I spent on my woman when we're dating, today we are happily married.

I don't know whose daughter would accept to marry that guy, I think he's better off alone

EmzyT:
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Lmao Nice lines you've got there But I don't think I need that advice because I can feed your entire generations even with the ones unborn without complaining. And guess what? I'm just 23 So, direct the message to your Blockheaded Dad, he needs it more I think.

Prove it

2nd of all I said what I said without insulting your parents but like I said in my first response , everything that comes out of a woman's mouth is trash to you even if it's for your own good , you don't need to tell me your age I smelled it from here

Iyaebe:
We didn’t expect less. I observed that very dark guys are always wicked and heartless

Omo your list is not complete if he's ;
Black
Tall
Fine
Educated or uneducated
If he's now a last born forget it
If he has big dick too , there's no single hope
They are very cold , they behave like robots
I've dated two (one was 30+ and the other 20+ but they were identical in character , dangerous ppl) and from my friends experiences I confirmed that I wasn't just crazy , they just operated that way
Very worse set of people for relationship , if anyone wants to have a sexmate , choose a black one , they lack the capacity to express or develop feelings for anything , they can make you hate yourself without saying anything or touching you , very selfish , very arrogant , very rare to find a black man like attoh that knows what they want , very rare , I've not seen one or seen a friend that has seen a friend that has seen one , we are still looking Sha .......

EmzyT:
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Your own is so far as it's not a man that said it , I won't believe it , you probably don't believe you were born from a woman , better use this your cancelling skills to cancel poverty so you won't be having panic attacks when you hear people talking about giving

shilenji:
If you spend 5naira on girl wey you never marry,you be SIMP.

DON'T BE A SIMP!!!!

So you didn't read ppl that commented before you , even if they post it on billboard you'll still miss it , better go and check your IQ

soundOsonic:
I don't understand the trend, if a lady wants to have a comback when an insult is thrown at her by a guy, she immediately result to broke shaming a guy.
Most ladies, if not all ladies that do this are financially below the man they are broke shaming.
You are broke, you come dey laugh person like yourself because he broke. You no too dey reason nii?

For the record the only people I broke shame are people who deserve to be broke shamed , and it consists of a list of few people from both genders and no I was not financially below them , i no dey put mouth for where person never put me ,

If it's just ladies that broke shame , you're probably one of those ones that make too much mouth , too many promises , too many lies , maybe that's why they're always broke shaming you
For me I won't feel guilty about brokeshaming anybody coz I'm very sure they looked for my trouble first , how will someone starve herself to buy phone and be coming to me that she has ulcer and after stylishly taking money from my small money to be feeding for days if not weeks , she still want to say that I'm stingy and I will not broke shame her ,
How will a man ask me to borrow him money to pay debt that I didn't know he borrowed and later change his mouth to say that he was testing me to see if I'm a good person ,no be person wey you don help first you go test ? tested my patience too

What did you do that they brokeshamed you? Abi Dem just see you for road begin brokeshame you , the girls I know only brokeshamed people that try so hard and untop fake life they still insult other people who don't care about things they care about
Person dey drink garri day in day out , but you're using the latest iPhone , if you're not using the iPhone you bought the iPhone case because you will die if you don't have iPhone , you na want to insult an Android user that has money that can buy your iPhone stored in piggyvest. Broker

Magnoliaa:
You will get a reasonable response from me when you tell me why men who sleep around slut-shame women.

Thank you

Toks2008:
Let me paraphrase this so that it can make more sense. Would you rather be with someone who wishes to be with another person? Because this is the case if you find yourself married to the one you love who does not love you and YES people marry without really wanting to be with the person they are married to.

This may sound so twisted but it is not at all. It is the dream of many people to be with someone they love who also loves them in return but we all know that this is seldom the case as we usually have the feelings tilted in one direction and as they say, the person who loves less in a relationship holds the power over the other.

I have met ladies who i love and i have met those who love me and i can tell you for a fact that these two categories are not in anyway alike.

When you love someone and they don't feel same way, you usually see yourself having to do more of the work to make it work and in most cases, you are taken for granted because the other person cares less if you stay or leave..

But when you are with someone you don't really desire but the person desires you, you will feel very uncomfortable at the beginning but there will be this serenity in your life with so much inner assurance that you are truly cherished and you will feel so alive and loved so much that you will inevitably start developing strong affection for the other person. (The beauty and the Beast is not just a fiction very realistic)

As a man, if you marry a lady who truly loves you, she will submit to you, cherish you, treat you like a king and will never see any reason to be with another man. And in like manner, if a woman marries a man who truly desires her,. he will treat her like a queen and cherish her all the days of his life.

YES i understand how twisted this sounds cos whether you choose the one you love that does not love you or you choose the one who loves you but you do not feel same way, the bottom line is that there is still an imbalance in the affection.

But be it as it may, you can never know how special you are until you meet someone who genuinely desires you and sometimes it is best to leave the one you love to be with the one who loves you because with time, you will realize you made the right decision.

So let us have your opinion.

The one that loves me is always first choice , so far as it's love and not just toxic obsession ( yes it doesn't just happen in movies) , because I know myself I'll grow to love a person once I can see that what they have for me is real .
I don't want to marry who I love more coz I'm not very good at keeping my fingers to myself and the men we know don't like when you like them too fast , too much , too easily or when you like them first .
I'm also a big sucker for pet pet love and that is more possible when he loves me more , the compliments , the sweet name calling , I love men who love to love , be masculine but don't bring it to me , there's one of my Bff's brother that has been trying to get me and this guy harsh die , he'll be crazy about you but in his crazy attempt to hide it he'll just be insulting you with play , something you will just say I'm fine , he will be like " you try fine today blackie"

But the time I gave this man that loved me q chance to have me , he wan use compliment finish me , just be staring at me and next thing I'll hear is " how do you always smell good ?" " I love this , I love that " I will do more because my bori will be sweering me
Abeg date who love you , it's easy to grow to love someone as a lady , most times the person you think you like is just infatuation and your feelings will exaggerate their appearance in reality they were not fine , it's when it fades that you'll see his real face

Johnny147147:
As the heading clearly states, some of us have someone here on NL that we would wish we've met.

Simply, i have many but I'll list just few

Weyrey Saphiere... The future is ...?

MosdII... All girls are....?

And so it goes. Pls share ur crush. Mention wid a reason. Mine is Saphiere

You ppl memorize names ? I will just type and forget
For the guys I want to see thegidredpiller and illicit , I want to know what both of them look like , most times these stubborn dudes are actually just big softies , they will just have mouth

I was in ss1 when we met , I was the new girl and I quickly became that girl that people wanted to be friends with because of the fact that I was the best artist in school at that time , I was pretty but not that pretty at least to my own eyes oh , most of girls were fair , Igbo girls , my school was around oyigbo so most people there were Igbo .

One morning my classmate came to drag me that someone wanted to meet me , around 7am coz I was in class early and we went to ss2 class and there he was , tall, dark , small beautiful eyes , I became defensive coz I knew his type ( Playboy alert) I judged him too soon ,

His name was Henry and he was a calabari boy , I can't remember his age but I remember his full name, he was holding my work that my classmate took from me secretly to show off to people , I only showed my classmates, I was very protective with my paintings , I only gave them to teachers that requested, even my friends would just look ( acrylic is not cheap ) ,
Henry glanced and stared at me arrogantly " did you do this?" I said yes , he said " very nice , maybe you could help me out with my drawings every now and then " and I said "for how much" he just laughed , with him were his notorious ss3 classmates girls and boys , they were the meanest set in the history of prefects especially his two closest friends identical twins ( chigozie and chimezie ) the twins were handsome too but
they had very stupid personalities ( they hated me) , Henry was overall prefect for everyone and school and he wasn't the typical overall prefect that look like goodboys , alot of ppl didn't want him to get that post coz they said he was meanest but I never saw that side of him , he was a softy in my opinion ,

80% of ss2 boys in his set were just tall anyhow as if they planned it , our set were just short and very young compared to them , you can't walk when they are walking , you have to wait for them to pass , I'm a tall girl but I felt like a toddler standing and staring at them as they passed me and because of how big they were most of them were proud and were bullies , it was bad because teachers don't interfere so they were like mini gods , especially their witches(ss2 girls)

Eventually after that day I began seeing more of Henry than in the past , after class he would wait in front of my classroom door with his note in his hand and ask me to draw something silly like a fish ,I drew my first fish and my first goat at the age of 6, so I knew he was just using that as an excuse to boss me around , I told him I had notes coz I don't see the board and I'm a slow writer so I usually write my notes after class when I borrow someone's and he offered to do that for me and we exchanged , I didn't think too much of it

The next day he returned my notes with an incomplete single sentence that he managed to scribble so he only did 0.5% of what he promised to do and I was like nope I'm not drawing anything for you again and he came again with his bio note and asked me to draw some skeletons for him , I took it and returned it empty and he laughed coz he knew why I did that , so he made a new deal for every drawing I made he'll pay me and it was just #50 but as a boarder girl #50 naira could go a long way , I told him to buy me custard cream with the #50 naira everyday and he did that ,

sometimes I just took the notes without exchanging words " I said I would never like a person like him " and that kinda made him look like a regular person to me but ss2 girls had crushes on this dude , they started coming for me slowly, at first he just told them I was his school daughter and nothing more , but he didn't ask me to be his school daughter ,and I would've said no if he did ,because that means I agree to be his messenger and nobori has time for that , I didn't even have a school mother , yet I still had an influence on juniors standing on my own , I had school daughters Sha and a school son ( Gerald) , they forced themselves into my life but they were cute , I had one girl that saw like school daughter but it wasn't official we were neighbors , our bunks were near each other so we just started gisting , she was the food prefect and I got extra for and I later became food prefect as well because of her

So it went on for a while , I just didn't put my mind there and one day girls prefect came to me ( chichi the bulldog ) short fair aggressive violent creature , if it was just me and her I knew I could beat her but if you touch one of them , you've touched all of them and all of them will beat you together , I'm talking about girls that ganged up to beat a junior hostel mistress for defending a junior student ( boarding school is dangerous oh),
Chichi the bulldog came to me that she was Henry's best friend and he told her I could draw ( she knew already , she just wanted to start with me) she said I should draw her in still life and picked a date and time and I did , she and her friends sat and I drew just her and she said she would give me her rice that evening as payment for my time , she started trying to boss me around especially in Henry's presence , out of the 100s of girls in school I'll be the one picked to sweep their class and Henry would be there and he'll just act like he wasn't seeing me , It cancelled the idea that he liked me, I just thought he was just lazy in doing his work that's why he was disturbing me , I let it go

One day I got into a physical fight with a serial beater in our class , this guy was fond of hitting girls and that day he came into my lane ( Mike Tyson's daughter ) I was the first girl to retaliate for the guy , broke his nose before he could land his slap on my face , scratched him silly , we're in the same class and you want me to be scared of you and nobody in class intentionally looked for my trouble, just normal gossip

When everything was over only my friends supported me , many of my class girls were against me including the aunty that introduced me to Henry , Henry arrived late that day , he didn't witness the fight , I thought he did , which was why I fought with all my strength make person no beat me for my crush front , it even gave me energy , but in honest truth if the guy had enough time before they separated us, I would've had more than a broken lip because he pack muscle oh ( short and muscular )

When Henry asked what happened after all my classmates were done speaking their mind " De you're not supposed to hit a boy blah blah blah"
I explained everything to Henry with tears just hanging on my eyelids and my voice shaking and he just said sorry I didn't expect him to do much but I secretly hoped it would be more than sorry

My real friends whom I still talk to, took me back to our hostel to calm down and talk and congratulated me on standing my ground instead of doing what his other victims did ( cry like little girls and report) I felt good after a while coz it was an achievement and i really needed to release that anger,
30 mins later our close friend Nina came in and was like "guyyyyyyys come and see oh " on my way there I met the same girl that introduced me to Henry she took me aside and I thought she was going to sympathize with me , she just shocked me with insults " prostitute , fake girl , so you're dating Henry behind our backs, snake" omo I was lost , when we reached the hall , the two entrances were blocked with students , everybody was watching what was happening inside "more ppl started looking at me funny ( my class girls , ex friends , notorious ss2 girls )"

I didn't see it with my eyes but Henry and his twin sidekicks and others , beat the guy up , let's just call this guy Manuel coz his name was m and it was a native name , they beat him up and it worsened his nose bleed that he got from me , I felt awful , he caused the fight but I threw the first punch, so it was 50/50 if Henry didn't interfere.

After the fight I hid from Henry coz I didn't know what to say , when he saw me again I was on my way home and I hoped by next semester everything will go back to normal but it became more intense , he was in ss3 and I was in ss2 , over the break there was a rumour that

Henry fathered a child and my friends rang it in my ear like iPhone alarm clock , the school said that info was false and he kept his post but still as a little girl you believe alot of things people tell you and I believed he just got away with it , but in fact he didn't even have sex with the girl , she was ugly in jss 3 and she was always everywhere, and Henry was one of the everywhere that ppl saw her with so they just put 2 and 2 together and said he's the only suspicious looking person so it's definitely him ,
he came to me and explained that it was just gossip and I should know him better but I still didn't buy it , I ignored him everywhere and everytime , this clueless guy sent chichi the bulldog to me to talk to me, (the girl had mad crush on him on he didn't see it , just carried me and drop me inside hot peppersoup )

after sometime I just went with the flow , we talked Everytime we saw each other , my heart was always beating when I saw him coming to his class , if you see how he walks , during Friday Assemblies we stood together but he never told me liked me or loved me , it was just a silent agreement , we spent break talking at mama ejira shop , he'll buy food and just drop on my desk or biscuit and he won't even talk to anyone, he'll just drop it and leave ( very arrogant ) he smiled alot around me ( dimple , open teeth , Asian eyes he had all , tiny moustache) ,

It became obvious that we both liked each other but I still couldn't say we were a thing because we weren't , I feel like he intentionally didn't ask me out coz it would be very bad for me and for him , I was hostel mistress pet and my chemistry teachers pet too,he was the overall head boy , it was a missionary school , dating could lead to serious punishment and we both had so many ppl just waiting to cast us and create drama , so we just kept each other company for the mean time , never kissed , just hugs and held hands , it was a holy relationship but I heard that he kissed other girls but it was just corner talk , they said he would get me pregnant one day another side talk

Every time they seized my stuff he always returned , I wore this cardigan that wasn't allowed coz of the color but it matched my uniform and I'd intentionally spray it with this expensive perfume that I blackmailed my dad for coz I know Henry would return it , and I want him to know I smell good , and another day I wore a black shoe on the days we were supposed to wear canvas because it was a really cute shoe and he would bring it back , you would just see him holding up my 1 leg of shoe , frowning like they forced him to bring it and he'll just throw it and leave ( a big softy) ,and I bought this aba made fancy sneakers just to impress him , me that was comfortable walking with one leg before when they seized my shoe , I started making efforts to look like the girl that was worth his attention, I started making my hair , I was always on low cut , they shined my head for me one time but he didn't care

[/b]OUR FIRST FIGHT[b]
One day someone gave the twins , Henry sidekicks , a tip that I brought my phone to class and I did , and it was a classmate ( the person that introduced Henry to me) , I quickly hid it smartly coz I also had friends that with gifted ears ( chronic gistlovers) ,if you see how Henry scattered my bag , apparently they warned him that if I was caught with a phone and he didn't smash it they would tell on him ,

this was because they felt like I was breaking their rules and they thought I was just taking advantage of him , especially since I wasn't even his girlfriend , so when he ransacked my bag , everybody was like " I knew it they were dating and now they probably broke up " I was on my period that day so there was a set of unused pads for emergencies and if you see how this human being flinged it like maybe he touched shit , it was embarrassing ( considering the stigma of being seen around pads as a girl in highschool ) but at least he didn't see the phone, we would've really separated if he saw the phone coz he would break it , school gave him permission for that

We didn't talk for a week because of that ,his friends really hated me Sha and I was always telling him before , eventually I forgave him and We went back to the way we were , sometimes he asked me to sing for him after school was over and I did , honestly I'd never felt that way with anyone like I did with him and the fact that he didn't even attempt to do anything like kiss or other stuff was what made me feel like he really just wanted to be around , if he could repeat class to stay with me he would , there was another guy that really liked me but compared to Henry he wasn't my type , he was cute but not up to Henry , Henry wasn't Babyface fine , he was just handsome but he was not the finest in his class, the twins were the finest , he just had more power,more influence and more confidence
And that was the first and last time I really felt anything like butterflies in my stomach for a guy , even his name was perfect for him not Henry his main name ( Henry was his middle name )
But for some reason he vanished from everywhere , social media, Facebook , Twitter , Instagram , we spoke after graduation but not for too long , I just remembered him now and wondering how he is , if he grew up nicely and other stuff , my senior highschool experience was very sweet and I was innocent from beginning to end , not entirely but I never did anything with anyone and I'm proud of that
It was the first time I didn't feel any sort of rush or pressure , every hug felt blessed , imagine being tall and still hugging a taller guy , it was nice while it lasted tho

ESenthusiast:
Hi!

You guessed right they are too busy. In finnish society there really isnt the concept of men working and the women taking care of the children. It Isn't an option for a regular finnish family to have someone at the house all the time with the children since the costs of living are very high and it would be hard for a single person to provide to their entire family. The other thing is family relations that vary largely. Some families that are very close sometimes have a grandma/grandpa or even an uncle/aunt to take care of a child. Some families are more distant and see their family members rarely or have bad/cold relationships with their family.

We do get to spend time with the family but i dont know if in other cultures that would be considered too little. For example i remeber when i was in elementary school i would get home at 1 and my parents would come home by 4/5 so i was alone for about 3 hours.

Cheers!

Are you a man or a woman?
I used to think Finland was part of the Asian continent
Is it as small as I heard ? Coz I follow this Finnish tiktoker and she said there's just 5million people in Finland
Are there many black people there?
Do you think racism is present in Finland ? You might probably not be racist coz you're here and I'm sure you know that majority of Nigerians are black if not all

Kingpin1000:
Your life was the opposite of mine,The black and white we used to have in the Sitting room was transferred to my parents room. I only see my Dad in the morning and when He was on leave, I still suspect my mum told him I was getting too addicted to the game.
My favourite position was the window, because of mischief, I will be at the window to obstruct the view of my pals outside. They will be like Kelvin(not real name) comot for the window na, you dey do like say u no dey come person house, I go pursue if you come our house. Musmsi may notice and say Kelvin, are those not your friends at the window, open the door let them come in. If it is lunchtime, my ration will be reduced because she will dish the rice on a tray, na there you go see survival of the fittest, the first thing is selection of meat, and the eldest will be the first to select meat, for my papa house o. We will then hold our meats in our left hand and use the right hand to be eating the rice.. that was when Nigeria was still good. Now na gate dem don use cover everywhere.

Nigeria reach everybody oh
It's by God's grace to be okay in this country

Kingpin1000:
Your life was the opposite of mine,The black and white we used to have in the Sitting room was transferred to my parents room. I only see my Dad in the morning and when He was on leave, I still suspect my mum told him I was getting too addicted to the game.
My favourite position was the window, because of mischief, I will be at the window to obstruct the view of my pals outside. They will be like Kelvin(not real name) comot for the window na, you dey do like say u no dey come person house, I go pursue if you come our house. Musmsi may notice and say Kelvin, are those not your friends at the window, open the door let them come in. If it is lunchtime, my ration will be reduced because she will dish the rice on a tray, na there you go see survival of the fittest, the first thing is selection of meat, and the eldest will be the first to select meat, for my papa house o. We will then hold our meats in our left hand and use the right hand to be eating the rice.. that was when Nigeria was still good. Now na gate dem don use cover everywhere.

Eldest dey select meat first for friend house? your mom probably did that to teach you something's , overniceness dey worry my papa too , but he will not near my food , one time he bought mr bigs for me and my cousins were around he gave us one plate to share and as expected they tried to cheat me , I ate the smallest amount and after that he just came and told me to come and sleep in his room , I was angry coz I wanted to play but when I got in the room he close door and brought out another full plate of Mr bigs and chicken for only me because he knew they always cheat me and if he give me in their front they will eat theirs fast to still come and cheat me, I chop belleful sleep forget myself , those ones were thinking that I was being punished nonsense
All the ijekuje that he was buying I'm shocked that I didn't get diabetes , he will even hide and give me coz my mom said he was spoiling me

I'm still his favorite oh , but last born is closely behind me , when she dey house I no dey hear word

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How ? What's a deriv account

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I’m making more than the minimum wage monthly through freelancing.

All you need is an internet enabled phone.

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Come learn to make exotic snacks, drinks and so on, at the cheapest price. You may never get this wonderful opportunity again. You don't have to keep staying BROKE after undergoing this training.

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Tokotaya:
Customers accuse GTB of dubious deductions from their accounts

Nigerians have taken to Twitter to raise alarm over multiple dubious deductions from their accounts with one of Nigeria’s foremost banks, Guaranty Trust Bank (GTB).

The customers scattered all over the country have similar complaints of questionable debits they received overnight.


Many of the debits are purported to have been for SMS charges, Transfer Charges and the like.


The debit alerts to many of the customers are for transactions done since 2019, and many of the customers swear they have been debited for the charges at the time.

Find below some of the comments:

@OnuohaNneoma wrote: “I woke up to over 20 debit messages from Gtbank. @gtbank @gtbank_help Clarify why there are multiple debits … I can’t be the only one suffering this..”

Damilola Muyideen OLAJIRE tweeting with @SmilingPen wrote: “Who else woke up to being incessantly debited by GTB this morning? @gtbank. This is an act of fraud. SMS alerts on my account as far back (as) 2019 to 2022, after the usual ones that you’ve always made. Dear public, if you have money in GTB, please just transfer to another bank ASAP!”


@Mhiz_QeeZ: “Guys pls help me. It’s like it’s my turn today with @gtbank. So, I woke up to multiple debit alerts for SMS charges from as far back as 2019 for about #4000. I don’t know what’s happening but I know I need my money back. @gtbank_help This is not the way to start a new month. @cenbank”

@Wolexz_: “Once you see Gtbank trending if it’s for a good thing make I disappear! Always for charges and bad network! Very greedy people! If you leave 1 naira for them na you sabi”

@McPhils__: “While the whole nation was sleeping, @gtbank was busy stealing from my account. Cos what are these charges ffs, I don’t even receive SMS alert�.@cenbank you no go talk?”

@Femi_MartinsOG: “I woke up to 17 debits from GTB for SMS charges for the past 12 months, summing to 2 thousand plus, I could swear they debited me back then for some of the months, this is a case of double charging. @gtbank_help @gtbank

@FutureF49255263: “#gtbank what are you guys doing

@itswhitendblack: “Why am I being charged for an account I didn’t even open

@gtbank. I’m only running a current account with you guys, where did savings account come from and how come I’m being charged SMS for an account I didn’t open or know about? @gtbank @gtbank_help

@AchieverIsBack: “Gtbank will rob you without pointing a gun at you

@I_am_Neeyee: “Why did @gtbank remove 18,628 from my account as SMS alert charge? Who did I offend?.. Please who else is being extorted like this.. @gtbank what’s the problem?”
https://microsecondnews.com/index.php/2022/04/02/customers-accuse-gtb-of-dubious-deductions-from-their-accounts/

They promised to refund my money in 3 working days , 8k we're waiting

Kingpin1000:
Na over niceness naim dey do my mama that year.
Instead of her to leave those Children at the window where they are quite comfortable, she will open the door for them to enter our palour, na so she tell me to go take nap that day, at exactly the time Nepa brought light. She just slot the cassette for the VHS player and told me to go to my room and sleep. I wake up for evening to go collect my game boy only to find out it wasn't in the sitting room where I left it

I looked for, that game boy for weeks, weeks turned months and after years, I will just remember where I hadn't searched yet,but still did not see it.
That was the last toy My Dad got me, He never talked about my game boy, likewise my Mum who caused it. As a grown up now, I feel it was a conspiracy between My Dad and Mum to take my game boy off me..
On day I will confront them about this.
Very sad memories men.
So sad.
Rumour has it that we were the first to buy coloured TV in our street, but I doubt it sha, because the biggest TV in my street was owned by a TV repairer, don't ask me how I got this info because back in the days, we can enter anyones house so far as the TV is on, our position was the floor, we go first put our, head then little by little our body, from corner of door you will achieve the dream of being right in front of the TV within seconds.

I think when it's time you need to sit both of them down and discuss it like adults I'm sure the game boy was invaluable to you , don't let them off the hook

My dad would never allow me to go and watch TV in other ppls houses ,even when our house was incomplete he bought the box television for me in my own room to be watching miss Bobo , big boy , Mr bin , I was doing shakara ehn I'm still the first among all my friends to have my own tv and the only child in the house with tv in her room that doesn't need to go and fight for remote ( as per Ada) , my sis does all the bullying

I miss when I didn't care about anything , I was the first to wake up and last to sleep I will wake up , dress up and wear koikoi shoe to dance along my children show at freaking 5am omo eh I was a crazy child

Even in our one bedroom first house , we still had tv because my dad didn't like me playing with compound children ( zero social life , zero childhood friends just ppl I know) , I slept in the parlor, my parents slept in the room , my aunt slept in the kitchen corridor and sometimes when my dad wants to look for my trouble he will blast on some traditional song in the speaker and be dancing waist dance to taunt me , while I was watching my show in peace and I won't hear nothing ( i was even watching Mr bean when he tried it one day , MR BEAN )
I think I'll need to confront him about that because I can't keep it in my chest forever

Benwallt:
Is Ghana UK? Put her on the next available bus n put some money in her pocket. She will find her way with little instructions.

No na

valnino:
I have done my part. I have fed her for two days now.

God will bless you , please don't let her enter the wrong hands , it's not easy to fed another mouth but please don't let bad ppl see her ,