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tommy20:
Your story isn't explicit enough.

He is not financially stable?

His he working presently?

Has he for once gift you something without you asking?

If yes, did you appreciate the little gift he gave? Guys are.

Are you the type that brag in his presence that you have enough money to take care of yourself before the scam issue?

What exactly is the guy doing for you to still love despite his stinginess (base on your story)

I've never received a gift
No I never even told him I was doing anything, I only told him after it went bad, he assumed maybe my family were doing it, and he had a good job before now but even then he was the same as he is now , but it was early I felt he was trying to Make sure that he could trust me , so it didn't bother me , you know , now its almost a year and still wondering
He told me from beginning that he loved women who are more like assets than liabilities , so I felt like maybe we could work together , told him about my plans , the listened to all of them and that's what made me start liking, he has his way with words too but now everything is just "words"
Presently I can say he's okay , coz my friend that works with him informed me of the business they've been doing , but he said that he's only paying debts

Hamiltonii:
A woman could only talk like this when she's confused cos of the pleasure in a man's hot rod!

Funny how wrong you are

SweetCunt97:
Bia I hope you not giving him ur honeypot sha. You can't be suffering and b giving one selfish idiot kini to fvck and satisfy his lust. Kindly free the guy, him no get sense. Don't be with people who don't care about ur welfare.

No sex involved yet

jaxxy:
There is no excuse for an uncaring frnd or partner. No he’s not ur daddy bt that doesn’t mean he shudnt know how to act. Also what value do u add to him b4 demanding what value he adds to u??

Well he confided in me sometime that his business wasn't going so well, And it was bothering him , I was able to get some of my friends to help out , and they did , he appreciated it of course, during this time I was okay at my own side , I was trying to refer him around too, so now I got quite unlucky and I literally fell out of balance, I exhausted everyone on my emergency help list before I swallowed my pride and revealed my unpleasant situation to him, we talked about it , but after the talk he left me to my fate , I didn't bother asking him about it , I still managed but something serious happened and I needed whatever it was I could get , after disturbing ppl as usual I came to him and told him what happened , I can't give details here , he did not even budge , he just asked this and that and then avoided it , which is why I felt like maybe now that I'm weak I should stay away and fix myself, I find it hard because I really love him a lot but it seems so....wrong

DaInferno:
ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE- I Lost a lot of money this year too on the quest to make it; never faulted her or wondered about her usefulness in my life because it isn't her fault though, still sent her a little money when she needed some. Not planning to move on yet, but am still focused on myself. so ask him first,if he has and doesn't give you,you can move on. you get the point now?

If she could do something and she didn't do it, you would feel bad, if I could do something I definitely would

Shortyy:
First of all, why are you with him? Is it love? Infatuation? Lust? His personality? The sex? or the money?

Answer this question and I'll tell you what to do.

His personality , that's what attracted me to him

Christiano25:
You can discuss this about him dear. He shouldn’t be looking at you this way without giving a assistance in your needy situation.

Thank you , I'll make out time , its better than keeping it to myself

Both good and bad response are welcome , I'm taking points from the ones that make sense

femi4:
You have poverty mentality on what a relationship is all about. Please get a job to get out of poverty. If you think relationship will do that for you, that's a very big lie

For your information I contribute more to my relationship than my partner , I said I want to work on myself ciz I'm not yet stable , is that what you call poverty mentality? So its wrong that my partner lends a hand when I fall , do you really have to expose yourself ?

frozen70:
If there is love existing between both of you then keep watching him

If you know that you are not having any feelings

Just go your ways

He couldn't give you any financial help because am sure he doesn't have either

I do have feelings for him, but sometimes you feel its one sided, I'll talk to him and find out if he's sincere about everything, if he is I don't mind staying and working together

Jersuiyjoe:
well the best thing now is to confront him and talk to him about it before deciding what he might not be.

Thank you I think I'll do that

shagasha:
Sis no one can answer this question for you o

You know what to do but u just want to tell ur self that others helped u make the decision

Difficult to come to terms with

shagasha:
Sis no one can answer this question for you o

You know what to do but u just want to tell ur self that others helped u make the decision

You're actually right

So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

Drabrah:

Adonblivit!
Even 9ja girls see, dem dey highly experienced @18, not to talk of "whitie"

Buh, on a more srs note, parents (esp mothers) are failing in their responsibilities everyday. Stuffs as this are fall-outs of failed family upbringing.
I'll always maintain that u can never place gender equality above gender role cos d result is poor child training. It's good to train d female child, buh it's also good to remind her not to let go of her pry role of raising her kids morally upright (dat's assuming she herself is sha! )

I will trade my virginity if I can get that much too, darling, but I fear ritualists in my country so I won't try such

Dpsychologist:
I do not give advice that is not from experience.

That same advice was what i used to Overcome depression some times ago.

You realize that every human , men and women react differently to certain things , the same way some ppl can use paracetamol to cure headache while others need heavy drip, if it worked for you great but doesn't mean it'll work for others , 90% of depression need extra help, if depression was as easy as ABC celebrities wouldn't commit suicide because their life should be perfect right? But they do kill themselves and so do others, let's take it very serious the more we ignore the more ppl die, she's depressed and needs real help, if I were her guardian I would take that serious

Younglect:
Tell them all

I don't know why they're so ignorant, just started abusing the mom , I read about them years ago , both are biological twins , this forum is filled with a lot of ignorant and angry ppl, but especially depressed men

GayPontiff:
Nope, u are the pathetic one .
Sad to see unwell fellows like u who think their seriousness will change d world.

Do you realize you insulted the mother of the children for no reason at all, yet I'm the one who's unwell, many ppl are fascinated by the two sisters , but you guys being different decided to rain insults when you have not done any research about them, you sound very depressed

Spray:
Please what do you guys know about inknation? I want to invest with them

Yes they are , I'm a member

Mide3367:
Flee my Brother flee.

Why did they scam you?

Brandonx:
This is the parents negligence why would you leave such a little child to roam about in a public function? The mother has failed woefully.

Only the mother right?

GayPontiff:
Very stupid woman.

Collecting two peniises and producing multi colored children.....Looks like something zzor would do.

What about the doctors that said they were biologically from the same parents , I hope you think they're stupid too, both you and the person you quoted are pathetic

Dpsychologist:
Olympus has fallen. Lol

As far the depression. Its all in the mind.
No one can hurt you without your permission.

I hope you listen to that advice when depression falls on you

The only thing I didn't giveaway was my virginity , I almost did but I didn't , very close call, and some men will now be shouting only prostitutes take money for sex , I'd rather be a prostitute than give it out for free, I deserve better

synanza1:
I checked the ladies profile and they are all above 28yrs old so i believed they all did that because of looking for husbands� if u know many guys they sent to early poverty when they were slaying in between 18 and 25 of age u will say more fall on them

My guy I just clocked 20 and I have gone through the same , I've not milked any one dry , your stupid mentality should not lead you astray one day, for me
I regularly got my stupid ex airtime not less than 1k , I sent him nudes too, I paid for his photography skilled acquisition class , 15k which is too much since I was just a student I starved to do that the idiot still accused me of being stingy that I can't steal money from my ppl for him, I bought him a phone second hand but it was in good shape,he borrowed money from me to do online business and said they scammed him , I was such a naive little girl, I was crying when we broke up, I still sent him 5k for his recharge and get paid business , when he succeeded in registration the unfortunate bastard sent me #100 naira credit, my mumu no clear dia , I still used 17k for one shoe for Valentine day , he asked for the one of 37k that's where I woke up , I gave the shoe to my brother and sulked for ages , he posted his current girl a day after I broke up with him, when we spoke last, while doing all of this , he made sure to kill my self esteem , the last thing that broke me was " even if you're fine in your face, do you think my friends would be happy that I'm dating a girl that's not my style, its not about face , I like girls with big butt" omo if you know yourself , I hope you know that God will punish you wherever you are , you will smoke till you suffocate bastard

My own ex was from abia state , I mumu that time

Beverlyjean:
This is why rich guys treat girls like u as furniture and ud still end up begging him not to leave u , even if he treats u like shit... y dont u make ur money and look for someone that genuinely likes u whether rich or broke...grow up

Making our money is the more reason why we won't settle for less, rich women are smarter

apatheticme:
Don't mind confused Broke ass wimps like him.

Can his own sister be sleeping with a guy for free and he won't raise eyebrows, or his father just grabbed his mom and started sleeping with her free with no commitment whatsoever.

Always coming here to run their mouth and guilt trip girls to the point where they practically turn to robots for their selfish lusts! Will women leave this planet for you?? Mtchewwww

Today; just get money and girls will be running after you

Tomorrow ; only a foolish man pays for sex or takes care of women's bills

Confused Red Broke pilllers!

Like "its a mutual pleasure" ,so just coz jellof rice is sweet ,it should be everyone's favorite food right? Leave them let them ment

odinson1:
So you know Every woman is Either a hoe or a potential one

As long as you ladies keep seeing yourselves as Sex objects,we will keep calling you hoes

Odeson1

Petyprincess:
Ladies that open their legs for free to broke boys are more foolish!!!

Exactly

obamartins:
As far as i know, there is a Federal government ban on charcoal export.

https://m.guardian.ng/property/fg-to-ban-charcoal-export-reviews-adaptation-plans/#:~:text=In%20Nigeria%2C%20there%20is%20a,the%20causes%20of%20climate%20change.

Thanks I appreciate the info