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Ebonygeek:
Awwn. Who will go out with slim girls like us

You bake?

dgagar:
Good day Nairalanders.
I am Igbekele Taiwo by name, married with a kid.
Am a builder(bricklayer) and my wife is teaching in a nursery school
Am just tired of this life, tired of everything.
If not for my little kid and wife, i would have just opt for Suicide.
Just finished my this year savings on my kid last month when he sick at the hospital. (Close to 100k i spent)

No 1 naira from anybody, no friends or families to run to when i need help.
Now that we are in a raining season, no work, no money
We hardly eat this days.
Even our house rent is due and have been avoiding the landlord for a while now.
As am typing this message now, i don't know what this my two family will eat(my wife&kid) am with only #60 right now.

Am just tired of this lonely life with no helper at all.
Am loosing my mind.
Am loosing control.

I need someone to talk
Somebody should advice or motivate me please ��
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Sir if I had money I would give you , but its a bad time for me as well , my bestfriend needed my help this month and I can't do more than myself , but for the sake of your child God will not abandon you , if you are fed up with your brick layer job , I can give you some ideas , I recently signed up to learn how to export good to foreign countries if you're interested , I can forward whatever I learn from there to you , for free , me too I am a student I am on my own , I only have my father and he can barely cover my feeding , apart from him no other person can help me when I need help which is why I am always on my toes , trying to keep up , please don't harm yourself , be strong everything is a season , if you want me to reach out to you on WhatsApp for the export stuff drop your WhatsApp number I'll chat you up

redcliff:
you are fedup with life but a buhari supporter? your darling daddy would help you.

Why don't you have sense , why are you this heartless , what does politics have to do with this , its just a human in need

LilMissFavvy:
The late man Ataga was dumped by his wife, and he died a shameful death, who lose? Tell me who losed? Ataga is the one who losed, the shame follows him everlastingly to his grave. I rather chose my peace of mind/my children and to hell with a cheating husband. This write up can only work for lazy women who can't work to earn a living. Rather than use the man's shameful death to advice men, the stupiddd writer is pointing at women, is the man not supposed to honour his marital vows? We are waiting to see his widow in a flashy wedding to a new man soonest

He's dead already , the men that want to be smart will be smart , if everyone is smart then problem for no dey like this , its always the woman's fault , that's how one person lost some one he liked coz he was cheating on her he said its coz his ex cheated on him , so he can never trust , like if you can't trust why did you date her in the first place ? And why are you sad that she left ? , this writeup was either a man or a teenage naive girl coz I used to think like this as a teenager

HotPoundedYam:
No one lives this life alive. We will all die, we just don't know how or the circumstances yet.
Men are not hunters and adventure-crazing animals so they can stick to one hole for the rest of their lives. Knoww this and know peace

Referring to women as holes is very disrespectful , to your mother , wife , daughter or female friends

Klass99:
Dem use marriage swear for us in Africa? - Will forever remain my favourite question, phrase and take away from Nairaland!

I can't stop Lol and smh at what I just read. Hathor you will do well to let me be your hubby's side chic, when I'm done with him, please hook me up with one of your brothers.

I hope hubby and brothers are good looking like Idris Elba, Mel Gibson, Richard Gere or our very own RMD. Dick size doesn't matter one bit so long as they've got game in other ways.

Leave RMD oh I've booked him that man is fiiiiiiiiiiiiiine , the age gap doesn't even matter if person like him come my lane I don enter highway no breaks : >:

Ambeed:
I'm in my mid thirties, not ugly, a health worker. From the southern part of Nigeria.

Will prefer men not boys from South south or south east. Lives in Lagos.

AS genotype, not much of a talker but cool.

If you are within 38 to 45 dm me, jokers and boys and red pillers stay away.

If there are white men on nairaland you can do me as well.

I need a friend that can become a confidant and husband tomorrow.

Let me join you
I'm in my early 20s
Still in school
AA Genotype
I talk a lot when I'm close to you , like I'm a talkative
I'm from ph
I'm interested in men early 30s and late 20s (not looking for marriage , I'm just bored )
I'm petite , dark skinned , I'm beautiful but not photogenic
08109986611 for calls only , if I end up trusting you , might give you my WhatsApp and Facebook details

Ambeed:
I'm in my mid thirties, not ugly, a health worker. From the southern part of Nigeria.

Will prefer men not boys from South south or south east. Lives in Lagos.

AS genotype, not much of a talker but cool.

If you are within 38 to 45 dm me, jokers and boys and red pillers stay away.

If there are white men on nairaland you can do me as well.

I need a friend that can become a confidant and husband tomorrow.

I wish you good luck sis, I pray you don't meet a bad person

Edyice:
My take on this is :


[/color]GOIN BACK TO YOUR EX IS LIKE READING A BOOK YOU HAVE READ BEFORE , YOU ALREADY KNOW HOW IT WILL END[color=#990000]

I love this

Or11:
Who your mocking affect?



Lol I'm married with kids but I love everyone. Beastiality cannot be compared to homosexuality. Humans can give consent to having sex, animals cannot. Don't be stupid, use your head

You don't need to responded to them , they are not worth it , as much as I don't understand anything about homosexuality , I know that everyone should do what they want with their life , they should have been careful if they knew the type of people they have

Jman06:
That's the reason many men see women as commodities who don't deserve their respect and fidelity. Imagine how a married man would feel when he thinks about the fact that his wife wouldn't have married him if not for his wealth.
Me I have said it, if I can't find a lady who accepts me in my present condition of not being wealthy due to school, it will be very difficult for me to accord full respect and fidelity to whoever I later marry when I eventually make it. Such a lady can never be a priority to me!

Suit yourself

entadaplace1:
How many times have young women been told that hot sex is the key to developing a long term relationship? How many times have they heard that they will need to dole out steaming hot sex in copious quantities, or else he will look elsewhere?

This is not entirely untrue, but it is slightly misleading.

If a woman comes into a relationship with world class skills at hot sex, if she is the hottest of the hotties, then, the average man is going to decide, immediately, that she is not relationship material!

Friends with benefits: Yes! Hooking up: Yes! Bring her home to Mom: No way!

However much he will thrill in her superior sexual skills, he will always, in the back of his mind, be asking himself: Where did she learn that?

If anyone suggests to young women that they can best prepare for long term relationships by developing their sexual skills, or that they are going to be rejected if they are not highly proficient at this or that kink, he is leading them astray.

The better she is, the more in demand she will be, and less she will be considered relationship material.

This does not mean that hot sex does not matter. If it is hot sex that grows with the relationship, that is optimal.

If a woman enters a relationship with seriously deficient sexual skills, if she is slightly awkward performing certain sexual acts, that will immediately count as an asset.

If, as the relationship develops, she acquires greater and greater proficiency at acts sexual, well then, that will surely redound to her credit.

If the sex is theirs, it is a good thing. If it is just hers, that is not such a good thing.

More than a few women will now be thinking that they cannot turn the clock back to their virginal youth. Should they fake naivete and modesty and even awkwardness?

If they want long term relationships, the answer is: Yes, they should.

If a woman knows that it is best not to divulge details of her sexual past, does it make any sense for her to advertise what she has learned from said sexual past?

The truth is, many people, both men and women, will tolerate less than optimal sex for quite some time in a relationship. This, in itself, suggests that sex is not quite the deal maker or deal breaker that it is knocked up to be.

Loyalty is. People will tolerate bad sex a lot longer than they will tolerate disloyalty.

Here’s one discussion, offered by one SIwerner, via HookingUpSmart.

In his words: “The way they most show their lack of … loyalty is the way many women will ‘disengage’ from their own man when another (of higher alphaness, typically) man approaches….

“I see it occurring all the time in social settings, a woman is obviously with one man (holding hands, his arm around her, or hers around his waist, etc.). But then the other man comes near, and not only does the woman move away from her man, she will often step between her man and the approaching man, facing that incoming man, with her back to her man…. Could it be any more obvious a signal that she’s willing to consider other offers.”

Even if she is not willing to consider other offers, she must consider the message she is sending to her man, the other man, and the rest of the assembled guests.

She is saying that her allegiance, her loyalty, is, dare I say, up for grabs.

Of course, there are other ways that loyalty is at play in a relationship. For the record, most of them are gender neutral.

If one partner has a problem at work, the other partner should show loyalty first, and wonder about who is right or wrong, second.

If a couple is having dinner with another couple and one partner gets into an argument, the other partner should always take sides with his or her partner.

It is not a moment where it matters whether he or she is right or wrong. What matters is solidarity, thus, loyalty.

Members of couples are always being called upon to attend functions that matter more to one than the other partner. Whether it is a business function, a dinner with clients or staff, a weekend with family… these occasions are not necessarily what the other partner wants to be doing.

And yet, you are obliged to attend, and if you don’t you will be taxed with disloyalty, for letting your partner down. More than that, your job at these functions is to make your partner look good.

If you look or sound like a fool, that will reflect on your partner and will be considered a betrayal. If you look like you do not want to be there, everyone assembled will assume that your partner does not inspire very much loyalty in you or that he chose someone with bad character.

These are only some of the ways that loyalty plays itself out in a relationship. I have rarely if ever seen disloyalty trumped by hot sex.


read more here

2013 is a long time, I like your writeup

Jman06:
The reason why marriages among modern day Nigerian couples don't last is that we have not learnt to change with civilization. We want to still hold on to some archaic cultural mindsets about marriage while at the same time we also want to enjoy the benefits of modernization.

Simply put, we train our female children and empower them economically without training their minds to accept the fact that it won't be a taboo to make financial contributions in their homes nor marry a good man who is not financially well off.

Also, we fail to train the minds of our sons to accept the fact that things have to change as regards what was traditionally considered as roles of the two gender in marriages. So, our men want working class ladies who will at the same time be subservient to them and also do all the house chores even after exhausting herself at her work place. It won't work that way!

The above reasons contribute largely to why people don't derive satisfaction in their marriages beyond the few weeks of honeymoon when the love is still 'shacking' them.

In summary, let's learn to change our mindsets about what was initially considered gender roles prior to modernization and girl-child empowerment. That way, we'll derive satisfaction from our marriages.

I agree with everything you said except one" marry a good man who is not financially well off " if a man is good , either wait for him or help him to grow before marrying him , money is that one thing that should never be ignored , and when someone is not financially stable they manage whatever they get so me I don't trust you until I see how you handle money , when men hit jackpot that's when you know what they value

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Hi
I think the problem is not him. Firstly its your friends relationship, she entered it she should decide when she wants to come out , some girls are just too slow for their own good , this is the disadvantage of not knowing yourself or being confident in yourself , from what I read I'm guessing that your friend is some one that just agrees to date anyone who shows up when there's no one there , she will learn eventually , if she doesn't learn now , she would end up in more relationships like this till she decides to learn .
Secondly if both you and her are one of those girls who are simply searching or hoping for a stable man to magically fall on your laps when you are not stable yourself then that's a big big problem, its better if you have it and you want someone who has more , than to not have anything to offer at all just texts, calls and sex , i might be wrong but I know I'm at least 50% right , petty things like pad and few stuffs , get them yourself for yourself , spend on yourself ,work hard , make your own , or at least put in the effort , its not like money grows on trees , when you put that much time and effort to your self , you will not have time to think about what a man is doing or what he's not doing, you won't have time for anything like this , if he's someone that really wants your time , he would try to impress you to borrow your attention occasionally , so yeah I think its really all your faults right now ( both you and your friend)
Lastly I never interfere in my friends personal relationships , I listen when they have something and I give advice if they permit me , but ehn saying that I'm here or anywhere asking for advice for how someone else would break up , Darling , ur friend is lying to you , you'll just be wasting your time , she's not done with him , I know coz I'm a lady, I've made excuses to stay at a place that I shouldn't have stayed. I've lied to everyone about something they already knew the truth about , we do it all the time , and it is best for us to decide to let go ON AWA OWN if you try to force or pursue someone to do something they're not ready for , you'll just make it worse , its like expecting a alcoholic or drug addict to just give it up overnight , there will be extreme withdrawal symptoms , it applies to everything , so the summary of everything I just said in simple language is


" drink water and mind your business , and God will bless you"

luminouz:
No wonder you are pained,yelling on the thread

I, and we men, still don't want you.
Byeeeeeee

I'm not even interested in playing beauty and the beast

I don't have any regrets , except that I made the first move twice and I grabbed a perfect man who just chose not to make an effort with me , coz he may have been hurt in the past , I ignored his red signals the fact that saying I love you is like punishment for him ,the fact that he always says sorry and makes absolutely no corrections , the fact that he barely communicated with me , no vision , no ambition , no goals , no future plans , only knew three ppl and one was a child , hid me like palliative, he was good looking , spoke like an actor , dark and handsome , its like he was trying to say "you should be lucky to have me" but I'm also very pretty so I know I had chances outside , I just kept wanting the wrong one but I'm glad its over, I'm going to enjoy my single lifestyle and breath fresh air till I spot a lovey dovey that deserves me. no more batman relationships

Melst:
I just had to talk. I honestly don't know what you are trying to defend or the point you are trying to make by defending that act or comparing it to what you described up there. A woman pins a pregnancy on a man is usually done out of love. Either a selfish love for herself, or love for the child since she didn't consider abortion or love for the said man. This doesn't justify such deceit yes, but comparing it to what that guy did is plain unreasonable. That you'd intentionally impregnate a girl because you want to punish her that she insulted you. How low can one go? Then he is defending himself that he claimed responsibility. Imagine! See what the girl passed through. Do you know what abortion does to a lady mentally and emotionally? Do you know the rigors of carrying a pregnancy to term? Because either consequences would have been too brutal if he had thought it through. Even in the western world where abortion is legal, women go for counseling pre and post the abortion schedule. You young guys will think everything revolves around your penis and money.

Talking about cheating gfs, are there no cheating bfs all over? Or is it because these days, we have more of boys whining all over the place than actual real men. Gosh!

If you're a man , I pray that I find someone that thinks like you one day, coz the wisdom smoke is all over my screen
if you're a woman , I hail you sis , you have sense plenty
everything you said is on point , I wish some of these men could have vaginas for a month. you don't need to abort or have a child before you start to get exhausted , I'm literally hurting for her and other girls that might be going through this and worse , even miscarriage sef hurts like mad , well I'm actually happy that I read stuff like this , it'll just make me more careful

Mustiboy:
As long as I took responsibility, I'm not a bad person.

Thank you. Bye.

your babe really loves you, but you're scary or you were , the fact that you even said it here is like you're happy that you did that , I'm just sad for her , I would have kept it without you ,but she obviously had her reasons, omo better hold her well if you don't want God to punish you after you punished the loff of ur life

Mustiboy:
Intentionally impregnating a girl so that I'd leave her and she'd suffer.
Ọmọ, my eyes couldn't take it when she was crying. I knew she was loyal and there's no way I could tell her to go find the person who impregnated her. My mouth just couldn't open to say such. I knew it was my handwork.

In the end, I took responsibility, and we went through an excruciating abortion process. I was drained financially, mentally, and emotionally.

I still regret that foolish act. I wanted to punish her, but i ended up punishing the both of us.

that was selfish , foolish and extreme wickedness. do you even know how painful abortion is , you're talking about financial , emotional and mental drain , omo you ppl are fucking scary

it's not like we even want to be here, if I can relocate I would, I'm pained , we never wanted to be a part of this , me that is always travelling. I'm only surviving on grace , God please keep me safe it's not like we even want to be here, if I can relocate I would, I'm pained , we never wanted to be a part of this , me that is always travelling. I'm only surviving on grace , God please keep me safe

eedimo:
Maybe I presented it wrongly. I retract my earlier position which was way too harsh. Much love

we're good then , I also take back my silly question, much love back to you

Pastorjohn2:
A woman is nothing in the eyes of her husband
God has given us authority over our wifes as the men of the house, if her husband deems it fit to burn her credentials.
Who are we to speak?

wow when did ppl start teaching apes how to use phones , coz this one thinks like an one

eedimo:
I'm married with two kids.
A beautiful woman inside out with amazing kids, no one sees them here in St John(Newfoundland) and doesn't touch them.

I don't blame the way you react to little stuffs over there; it's because you live in a hostile environment.

that's very good , congrats , really ! but the way you think is so close minded , you would send her to her father's house if she does a maternity shoot ? I don't like ppl who think that way but I guess your wife doesn't mind
I'm not the one with a reaction problem , if my husband and I had a disagreement on something as tiny as a maternity shoot , we can settle it like adults , no one is sending anyone to anywhere , no word is going out there unless its a big issue
saying you'll send her away just means she's like some sort of property to you that you can return if it has any defects ,
anyways I am happy you have two kids and a wife. I love children

eedimo:
when has it become a norm to "rock baby bump" in our culture?
I'm really behind the latest trends.

If my wife try this sh!t, she's gonna give birth in her father's house.

lol who wants to marry you ni?

eedimo:
when has it become a norm to "rock baby bump" in our culture?
I'm really behind the latest trends.

If my wife try this sh!t, she's gonna give birth in her father's house.

lol who wants to marry you ni?

itsme01:




wetin you sef find go Olosho personal page (Olosho shouldnt say this, olosho shouldnt do that, Olosho shouldnt spend on this, Olosho shouldnt post that, na for you Instagram Page them post am abi them violate any Mark Zuckerberg IG rules?)

If olosho is easy make this Joro sef go line for admiralty way or go dubai.. atleast hin sef get yansh like bobrisky

lets face fact, the upclass Olosho have alot to thank God for, inside this same lagos some women charge 500 naira for sex some 2k some 5k and they are not safe or rich, but the same Olosho with the same Vagina and few packaging earns millions per pop, drives benz, owns businesses and own a house that many Civil Servants would only dream of

First sign of witchcraft is you getting angry about what people do with their personal life, checking people's progress and comparing it to yours, or complaining about peoples personal life decission, personal post, and post that gives them joy

Mia Khalifa US former Olosho and Pornnstar posts motivational qoutes she find motivating, posts prayers and many more on her personal page yet she gets positive comments with people picking her message and not her past, but Nigerians would always have a negative angle to things, and display all manner of acrimony


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you have sense please , you need a medal

I'm just hoping to attends cooking school this year, if you know a good one please comment and add the location, if you know the fees too please leave that as well , thank you

Herdeyholuwa:
I did few days ago..dey are just very stubborn

I can relate

Madibahisback:
Some how

You too

I'm someone easily motivated to work when I have like a partner , it pushes me more than I push myself, but when you meet a potential date and explain this side , they pretend you're a gold digger ( even tho they don't have gold and honestly know that you're not )
I'm an addicted goal setter , I set goals and try to achieve them, luckily I gave few friends who motivate me and keep me going ( most of them will go on and on about how they love women who know this and that but they become deaf when its time to gist them about your plans and later come to sites to say blah blah blah)
If you're not going to give me money , give me attention , you won't give me attention then give me brain , give me something I don't have , not " have you eaten " or " when are yoy coming over?" But " so how much have you made so far? " " how's the business my love " " I have a friend that supplies so and so " "I recommended you for so and so " .
2021 is here oh