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topoftheworld:
Ur location is very important..
If u are in Abuja let me know.

Rivers state

Dicksonnet:
You are not on WhatsApp, why did you drop the number?

Did you even read what I typed? That number is only for calls if I end up trusting you I can give you my WhatsApp or Facebook details but I'm not going to drop it here

Dicksonnet:
Are you a man or woman?

Respond if you are serious

Lady

Beebah2000:
You don't trust people that much and you want to make friends on a faceless forum.
Lol

Thank God it's faceless sef no link to anything unless you decide to put it yourself

goodmorning40:
20s!
Looking for friend online
Where are you rushing to?

I did not say marriage oh , I'm not rushing anywhere sha , I just feel like talking to someone new

......

June 22 where's march 28 ?

Benki003:
As for now I don't have any
So share ur experience

Lala
Segun promise land biko

His name is Emmanuel oh
We never dated oh , he's been asking me out for the past 5years , at first I wanted to give it a try that was 2 years ago but we didn't click , he's very attractive , you see spec , he's a spec , but I'm more attracted to older or smarter guys , he's just 5 years my senior we can't have normal convos , he never knows what to say back then when he first got my number he'll call more than 5 times a day , I'll see 10 or 15 missed calls , but now he'll call at least once a week at most twice a day , we're still not dating oh , he dated ppl before meeting me I don't know why he doesn't want to just move on , apart from him no one else , in fact when I broke up with my two exes , they did not even budge he's finer than both exes combined but still

dannyrhymes600:
Brain full your head.
real men eat meat, others eat bone

I am triggered its okay let me carry my bones and sit down

Dizzyish:
These are some possible red flags I've noticed in certain women for a while now. If you're looking for a good partner for a stable, healthy relationship filled with peace of mind or just curious, this could be worth a read:

1. Long nails
2. Fake hair (~long, bright colored)
3. Makeup (mostly heavy makeup)
4. Provocative clothing
5. Big earrings
6. Very active on social media (attention seeking content; thirst trap antics, etc.)
7. Questionable.. questions (e.g. "Babe, would you date me if I were a worm", "babe do you think I'm pretty"..)
8. Tattoos/piercings (especially in weird places)
9. Most/all of her friends are male.
10. Promiscuous or Using se>< as a proxy for feeling loved and adored (this can be especially true for people who struggle with attachment issues/daddy issues)
11. S.I.G.N language (Shaming, Insult, Guilting & Never being wrong)
12. Herd mentality/No sign of individualism (follows beauty standards, fashion trends, body ideals, bad friends or other trends without questioning or reflecting on their reason[s] for doing so) [often correlates with No. 2, 3 & 4]
13. Spoilt brat-like/elitist behaviour (e.g. people who refer to themselves as "bad b*tches", claim to have "very high standards" or are "high maintenance" ) [often correlates with No. 1, 2, 3, 4 & 5]
14. Materialistic [often correlates with No. 12 & 13]
15. Their actions don't follow their words (cognitive dissonance)
16. No sense of boundaries
17. Uses past events or personal information you gave when you 'opened up' to them, as ammunition against you during fights or quarrels.
18. Clingy, jealous or possessive (e.g. not being allowed to have any female friends)
19. Frequent quarrels over trivial things--it seems some people think toxicity makes relationships more 'fun or exciting' (or even straight up admit they enjoy toxicity in relationships)
20. Habit of lying (shouldn't be ignored [along with No. 7, 14 & 16] as it could escalate over time [snowball effect] )
21. Has a tiny, little girl/baby-like voice (possibly due to trauma or abuse at a young age [Reference: Dr. Drew Pinsky - Loveline] )
22. Expects you to 'mind-read' their thoughts and/or 'hints'-- "Some women absolutely do this. In fact, some believe that men should be able to read their minds and then use the fact that men can't read their minds as an excuse to accuse the men of not loving them enough.
Not very many women do this, however. If you are in a relationship with a woman who does this, and you don't like it, break it off. Be sure, however, that you are not contributing to her bad behavior by attempting to anticipate her needs and doing things for her to prove your love. In other words, don't attempt to appear as if you can read her mind." - Alison Bennett (Quora; Do women expect men to be mind-readers?)
*Their mentality of dependence and expectations is so high they use emotions to smoke screen this shameful behaviour. [Shouldn't be ignored. Could correlate with No. 19]
23. Sh*t Tests-- "used to 'determine your frame. Frame is a concept which essentially means 'composure and self-control.” (shouldn't be ignored; usually continues indefinitely, may escalate over time [Often correlates with No. 11, 16 & 19. Possibly with No. 7 & 17] )
24. Ultimatums (could correlate with No. 13, 16 & 18)
25. Can't/doesn't take 'No' for an answer (Strongly correlates with No. 16, possibly with No. 11 & 18 [Shouldn't be ignored; possible sign of an abusive person, may lead to tantrums, physical assault or other 'crazy' behaviours] )
26. Comes from a broken/toxic/abusive home and/or lacks (proper) parental figure(s). (Often correlates with No. 4, 6, 8, 10, 16, 19, 20 [compulsive or pathological lying] & 21)
27. They're often passive aggressive (Could correlate with No. 22. Possibly with No. 7, 11, 19 & 25)
28. Bisexual ("They have a propensity to get bored with whichever gender they're dating and move on to the next.", "People with loose sexual boundaries like bisexuality, polyamory & pansexuality- sexualities where they can't really declare a major or stick to a specific type tend to be trauma survivors*." [*May correlate with No. 26] )
29. Exhibits 'infantile/neotenic' behaviours when in need of aid (e.g. using a childlike voice* and speech pattern, acting "cute", naive; sometimes with a 'sensual' undertone - often used to avoid accountability, responsibility or get their way) [*Not to be confused with No. 21; this one (29) is intentional while No. 21 is 'involuntary'] [Could correlate with No. 10 & 25] )
30. Frequent mood swings-- could be 'preemptively' identified with certain comments e.g. "Having someone who can handle your mood swings is such a blessing", "Need a man that can handle me (when I'm mad, act crazy..)" [Correlates with No. 19. Possibly with No. 13, 17, 18, 22, 23 & 25]
31. Really into astrology (has their personality, behaviours or actions based on zodiac signs) 32. Being "Free-spirited"; 'Hippie' or 'Gypsy-like'. (Could correlate with No. 8, 10 & 26. Possibly with No. 28)
33. Often/always play the victim-- "When you're so used to playing the victim you don't realise when you're being the villain." (Often correlates with No. 15, 20 & 29. Possibly with No. 6, 10, 11, 16 & 17)

34. Comments like "A real man would(n't).." (Often used as a shaming tactic** to get their way or what they want. e.g. "A real man would get his woman a [insert desirables here]" / "A real woman wouldn't let his woman walk around without a [insert desirables here]"--also referred to as the "No True Scotsman" fallacy [Strongly correlates with No. 11 & 13] )
B.) "My body my choice" (While true, is often used to justify or rationalise immoral or ignominious actions, sometimes under the guise of "Body positivity" e.g. promiscuity, being scantily clad, etc. [May correlate with No. 4, 6, 8 & 10. Possibly with No. 12] )
C.) "So you're gay"/ "Just say you're gay.." (Often used as a shaming tactic**, more often than not, as a "retort" or "parting shot" when faced with criticism or when their 'advances/overture' gets turned down* i.e. Saying "no" to their proposal of a date, hookup, etc. [Strongly correlates with No. 11 & No. 25. Possibly No. 17.] Interestingly, it seems some women use this as an 'insult' in spite of being supporters of gay rights.
* "When a woman is so used to getting her way, especially a beautiful woman.. it is such a huge blow to her ego and self esteem when a man says no. They refused to just accept that he just wasn't interested. That would be too painful to accept. Instead they have to convince themselves that he likes d#ck."
** "Shaming tactics are emotional devices meant to play on a man's insecurities and shut down debate. They are meant to elicit sympathy for women and to demonize men who ask hard questions."

35. Habit of gossip or stirring up drama (These two may not be mutually exclusive. [May correlate to No. 11, 13, 17, 19 & 33] )
36. Very active in the 'clubbing' scene, (wild) late night parties.
37. Only interested when they're ignored (This could be due to 'indecisiveness' or 'attention-seeking' [The latter could correlate with No. 6, 10 & 13--when they've gotten the attention, interest will likely dissipate] ) OR when you're preoccupied with a female (Strongly correlates with No. 12 [Preselection]. Possibly with No. 13 & 18)
38. (Often) accuses you of cheating/ Continually or actively criticizes cheaters (The former may be a defence mechanism often used by cheating partners; projecting their feelings of guilt or shame on you. [Oftens correlates with No. 11 & 18. Possibly with No. 16 & 19]. The latter may be a defence mechanism for "covering their tracks" or to make themselves feel "better" or look "better" (feel superior) after infidelity. [May correlate with No. 15]. Both the former and latter may not be mutually exclusive)
39. Controlling behaviour ("A controlling person isn't always overtly threatening or aggressive. Sometimes they are emotionally manipulative and acting out of insecurity."- Psychology Today [Correlates with No. 18 & 24. Strongly with 16 & 25. Possibly with No. 11, 17 & 38] )

40. Blame shifting--"People who ruin their lives have a tendency to blame other people when things go wrong." - Daniel G. Amen, MD.
e.g. "I never thought I’d be the type to cheat, but you made me feel so unappreciated.", "If you didn't always make me angry then I wouldn't hit you.”, "You and Dad never modeled a healthy relationship for me. No wonder my marriage fell apart.”
*As a last resort, usually when they’ve been blatantly caught or called out for something they know they did wrong, they use a "Stink bomb" (they throw a completely unfounded, terrible accusation at you e.g. " Well, you abused me.
– You hit me
– You raped me
– You cheated on me
– You never loved me
– You’re mentally ill
– You’re stalking me, etc.)
By sucking you into these arguments, they are consuming your energy and watching you be progressively self-destructive, so they can use your reactions to prove their own points. (“Wow, look how bitter and angry you are!”) and that’s the whole point. The blame is now off of them, and now you’re the one in hot water. Now you readily find yourself fighting to win your case.
J.A.D.E stands for Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain. When it comes to people with Cluster-B personality disorders, don’t do those things.

You will feel compelled to but don’t. When you try to defend yourself against a false accusation, you legitimize it by even acknowledging it. The only way to respond to these tactics is to stand up and walk away. Just walk away. Silently.
[*Source: themindsjournal.com]
(Shouldn't be ignored; possible sign of an abusive person. [Strongly correlates with No. 11, 17, 19 & 33. Possibly with No. 20 & 26] )

41. Currently or formerly* a se>< worker (Pr#stitutes, stripp#rs**, onlyf#ns "models/content creators", video vixens**, etc.)--while obvious to many, may be unobvious/subtle to some; "No one goes into se>< work because they're well adjusted" in spite of whatever 'rationale' may be used to deem this 'normal', 'healthy', 'empowering' or 'necessary due to circumstances'.
The traumatic and degrading nature of this line of work is (well) known for having adverse effects on mental, emotional and possibly physical health, leading to a slew of psychological problems and toxic (destructive) behaviours.
*A myriad of former workers don't discover, acknowledge and correctly fix their traumas/unresolved issues sustained (before and) after se>< work which damages their ability to form & maintain healthy relationships, though, the few who do genuinely work on themselves are not always exempt from certain consequences e.g. impaired (or lost) ability to 'pair bond'.
"Sex workers are adults who receive money or goods in exchange for consensual sexual services or erotic performances**, either regularly or occasionally."
** "The profession places a high demand on vixen's accessibility to men which gives such men an upper hand to manipulate these ladies into various exploits, notwithstanding the fact that most vixens are willing to be exploited to get more jobs and more favour." e.g. Amber Rose, Blac Chyna, Karrine 'Superhead' Steffans, etc.
(Strongly correlates with No. 10. Very often with No. 26. Possibly with No. 6 & 13**)

For those who are perplexed about No. 1-5, google search for images of Saweetie or blac chyna or sumn idk

These flags could be a result of insecurities, emotional and/or mental immaturity, childhood emotional neglect, attention/validation seeking, attachment issues, etc.

I think observing people's personalities, character and behaviours rather than focusing on their 'looks' or 'physical attractiveness' is a good way to overcome the halo effect.
Also, like attracts like, so make sure to be self-aware and reflect on your actions/behaviour to grow and mature as a person. And be compassionate to others as you'd be to yourself.
These are just my observations & opinions and should be held up to scrutiny.

Just date a dude , coz evrygirl has at least 10 of ur redcoats ( flags , sorry) I'm little red riding hood to you , coz its like you were writing my biography , I just don't do trends or herds or club , but nails depends on my mood , natural baby voice got it , I act like a baby when I have something to say or ask ( whether Its man or woman or parents) as does very girl I know

gregyboy:
Nope we go ask for love

Taah mecheonu iffa hear

Ayo2004:
This confidence na badt guy with better confidence o

Our fellow feminists will soon be here to drag him but were quick to defense Aunty Chidinma
If chidinma is innocent,they should release this guy abeg because konji fit kill a man if he no take time

But this police mumu,how can they only believe the words of a woman knowning how cunning,manipulative and devilish they can be

I was about to say something nasty to you then I saw 2004 , I don't like being harsh on children but are you not supposed to be doing your homework by this time

Bluepasture:
You can get HD movies in a 500gb,1tb external hard drives Preloaded with different genres of movies.
Location: PH but can be sent to any location
Call or Whatsapp: ∅.8.1.5.3.7.8.3.1.∅.6

I dey ph how much is it?

OlawaleBammie:
guy

Guy enof

Please enof



Dont let me see my gf as sex object please.








Seems majority of Nairaland guys were birthed by same parent

I had to check ur gender when I read this stray bullet

TheLordofHost:
Madam I am sure you are a billionaire. The amount I sent for upkeep was a huge sacrifice compared to my income. Think before you blab

I am not but I think you could've done better than that , your job , you could've done better than that , there are so many opportunities out there but many of my brothers choose fast money or no money , even zobo that I was selling one time I did not use more than 1k to start , and I know how much i made in a day , all that 11k talk be like play for my ear , one month oh , come first which work is that ? Even security and cleaners in my school get paid 20k and we're even fighting for them that it's too small, I'm honestly not trying to insult you , I'm just angry at you for the sake of your baby , if you were my brother you might end of thinking I hate you coz I will talk my mind , no one is going to just pamper you without pouring their own lectures ,
But sincerely you need to work smarter , its hard but in the end , you'll reap the benefits , there are more good ppl in the world than you think , look for Someone or a school , just swallow your pride first and beg them to look after your child but let the child grow With you , this world is a small world , God loves children and he punishes ppl who cause pain to children

Bennysam:
What do you have to offer apart from sex?

I'm here on behalf of women and these are a list of things I know that some women whom I'm close to have done in their relationship apart from sex , I will not talk my own because e still dey pain me we learn sha my own still better

*women can offer you connections ( someone I know dated a shoe and bag maker , she advertised for him and it actually went well , oga had a babe abroad sha

* they can offer you home cooked meals ( men prefer fast food because of lack of time and laziness ) if a girl really likes you and she can cook , she will use her money to cook for you that's in the honeymoone phase sha but it can continue if you're not just eating but also buying ingredients for the meal ( speaking from experience please don't cook for boyfriend unless he comes to your house , if not is your soup that they will warm and give Jennifer when she drops by from abk

*my friend recommended her ex for a job through someone she knew and it went well , I would've said he's stupid but he's not they were just not compatible but both of them are good ppl

*they can invest in your business , if it is promising and they trust you , but aunty don't go and thief oh , one girl almost entered prison , lost her job and ruined her reputation because she thief for man , the man was cheating back then and he's already replaced her now , we the gist association of my town we're doing as if we forgot but we remember and we learnt from it ( she be original mumu sha)

*they can be very supportive , emotionally , a good one will pray for your success after she prays for her success , love your neighbor as you love yourself sha , don't go and pray for him more than you pray for yourself , make another person no use breast carry your prayer point go house , if you go shilo write ur name bold and put his name next to it if you wantu, like this ADA & emeka , so that Angel Gabriel will see your name first

I still have a lot to gist you about what else women have and can offer but my hand dey pain me , I love love , I really do but please be smart with it , don't let it make you dumb , I prefer being called a sex object and a hold digger than being called a good girl ( good girl dey suffer oh , every time they will be asking goodie goodie to understand , while baddie is hiding in his back eating what he said he doesn't have) , you men will ask " what else can she offer ?" After you'll log out and head to ur sugar mummies DM to ask for money to buy biscuit ,
If you get a woman that offers only sex , you're not happy
If you get a woman that offers more than sex , you're not happy
Nobody should argue with them again oh , we accept , sex object , pleasure providers , we gree oh
Trying to prove anything is pointless , this is their way of brainwashing you , if every woman in this world decides to close legs , i mean everyone oh ( i know some will still sly sha but let's just imagine ) depression will kill the male gender ,because sex is their little escape from reality , don't argue again oh , just leave them when they talk finish they'll rush to pornhub and continue from there

Imustnottalk:
I can offer you alot dear

You ppl should be dropping full gist na , please write the a lot that you can offer , I'm reading �

Beebah2000:
You are saying this because u are a man and you are supporting your fellow men. You are not looking at what is right instead you looking at what you want.
You don't want to be called sex objects but u want women to be called sex objects.
Lol foolishness.
I think we women should start calling u guys USELESS and SEX OBJECTS. So that Una go know how painful e dey.

I know about 2 male sex objects ,their d*cks are their biggest asset , they expect respect coz they think they can f*ck , they expect loyalty coz they think they can f*ck , they expect worship coz they think they can f*ck , money nonexistent, pocket locked , attention non existence , character nonexistent , they just look good finish , I think sex objects can be used for both gender , its just that women are shy and we don't want to hurt some ppls ego but they know themselves

Thermodynamics:
For this Buhari economy oh, that money sef no go reach buy baby pampas for one month.

One month Abi the Pampers is fairly used ? Kai it can't even buy akamu that will reach the baby for one week , akamu oh not custard or regular baby food

FORWARDEVERLY:


I have this feeling that the child is a female gender.. if na me be Op I go dump am for motherless home.. cos if you suffer train am finish she go still turn bitter Feminist.. but if na Male.. I go zero mind train my son from my loins..


Op your insults dey off me.. leemao

This one has forgotten that he came out of a v*Gina and not a p*nis , you also forgotten that someone breastfed you so that you could grow up , funny how my dad prefers female children over male children , his dad also abandoned his mom and my grandma raised my dad on her own , maybe that's why he has more respect for females , I'm very happy I didn't end up with fathers like you and here's something " your child is a reflection of you , your values , your beliefs and your happiness and sorrow " if your baby girl grows up to be a toxic feminist , you were probably a shitty dad from scratch

TheLordofHost:
@zexy2030 you are reasonable.

I always gave that stupid girl money for contraceptive, the pathological liar claims she took them but they didn’t work for her.

The demon did it on purpose, now I am the one feeling the brunt. I only blame myself for trusting her and letting my guards down.

The last thing I planned to do was bringing a child to suffer.

Lol the pathological liar could be telling the truth , the stupid girl's body is different from every other women , nowadays contraceptive pills are not as effective or they can develop tolerance after multiple usage , some women even see their periods while pregnant , every one is different , the drug she took may not work for her
The demon at least has conscience , I mean many selfish ppl ( e.g you) prefer to terminate thousands of pregnancy because of " I'm not ready yet" , I'm so against abortion , if I get pregnant I'm keeping it , no matter what
The child is alive thank God , instead of coming here to insult the woman that carried that baby for 9 months alone and catered for the baby till when she handed it to you , you should go out there , there are good ppl out there who could look after your baby for free without having to give her away , at least be sober , you just sound so arrogant , sure ppl make mistakes but using that to justify your severe case of irresponsibility is what is making ppl insult you
I'm not happy that she dumped the child with you , especially with how careless you already are ( judging by ur 4k , 3k monthly upkeep that you're so confident about ) but at least you'll know how it feels like to feel lost , like she probably did , you'll know how it feels like to have sleepless nights from ur baby crying at 3am till 8am , if you like give her up for adoption , it's ur business

Freestainworld:
If you have female siblings, try and let them help you why you provide for the upkeep of the baby.

Provide which upkeep , someone that is sending 4k monthly is the person that will provide upkeep , I hope those men that say women like money can see this sha , you ppl will be shouting women and money , I don't know if you expect your Sisters or daughters to chase after broke men , I just feel bad for the baby

This is a school drama from 5 years ago ,false news , this is why I don't believe anything a blog says unless its fashion or the time , even weather forecast dey unstable for this kwantry

Ishilove:
What's with the atrocious make up?

I wanted to talk

IbrahimSkiba:


Different varieties of pussycat to choose from

Like he can even satisfy one

overdrive:
Biblical prophecy being fulfilled.

E go dey like play until two men wed one woman , that's when you ppl will come outside like ants that smell sugar

Kingsuave:
I bet when he was humping the hoe, he didn't see that cumming

Banger!!! I stan

Misstearious:
So I decided to try nairaland to see if I would get lucky.

I am in my early twenties , I am an introvert and plus size( let's be clear on this). I have a well paying job and I can take care of myself so you don't have to worry about my financial needs.

*I'm hoping to find a man who's within the age range of 28_40 , should be at least 6ft tall and with a good source of income.
*It's better if you live in Lagos, Osun or Ibadan.
*Please know how to express your emotions. I also don't want boring men, know how to converse and Be patient.
*He should be straight and not Bi-sexual
*Be over your Ex. I am not willing to be a rebound.
*Be a sincere plus size lover, not the one who tries to transform me into a slimmer girl.


PS: we need to have some sort of understanding before planing to meet up. It'll take a while to meetup.

If this is you , please send a Pm. I cannot wait to get to know you .

Good luck , if you find tell me so I can try my own , I too dey fear online ppl ,they can be wonderful ,let my ppl not use my fine pishur and do "she was last see...." Mba it fitn't happen

richmanrichard:
pipul with their selfishness .you are fat and dont want any man to disturb your gluttony but you want a tall-at-least 6feet man.Y not also accept short men too? abi your mama dey mould men? mtsheew!

But why is your own Are you short ? Coz its like you took it to heart

samsononyilo:
they wanted to kill us today, I really didn't know what to write..

Pele oh , chidinma entered my exam too good luck dear ,

sexymonkey:
Even an average student should be able to answer that question conveniently.

Oga I'm a psychology student,even for a 400 level student that question is not easy , is like you don't know what psychological analysis is , you think is to write stories

Its those shoes for me , comman dash me , happy belated birthday