useni1: You are undergoing the highest stage of brainwashing. Western education in form of University is the downfall of man. It makes someone stupid and easily manipulated.
bewov: Please guys, I have something bothering me so much, I will really appreciate it if I can get a matured response.
These might be long, but please bare with me
There is this girl have been dating since March 2021. Although, we met in University days and we have been dating since 2017, but because I was graduating and she has 1 more year to spend in the school, I left her and travelled to Lagos to work, because I got a job in a company in Lagos, immediately I graduated. I needed to concentrate on my future so I told her I want to pause the relationship to focus, but I will definitely be back for her, I promised her this. She was a virgin then!
After working in the company for 2years, I also learnt some IT skills online while I was working in the company, and I was earning cool money from it, so I decided to quit the job and focus more on the online business.
My business have been doing well and I have about 2 other virtual assistant helping me out, anyway I was kind of comfortable, so I thought of fulfilling my promise to my girlfriend. I called her one morning, and she was shocked! We chatted a bit and I told her I want us to see urgently, we schedule a date for her to meet me in the hotel, because I was staying in Lekki and he stays around Surulere, I wanted an hotel close to her house, so she can return early.
We met at the hotel and I can see she missed me so much, around 3pm I told her I'm back and I want us to continue dating and I'm ready to settle down, she agreed and we have been dating, all this happened around March 2021. Around April, I travelled out for about 2months, but I was very communicating with her, and when I got back around June, I discovered she had sex with another guy in May. Now, I wouldn't say she did it because of money, because I pay her 20k every month for upkeep, sometimes I just pay her 30k! She is not a wayward girl though, and she is not a type that sleeps around with guys back then in school, but once i came back into her life, I see a different girl entirely, when I came back she wasn't a virgin anymore, it's not my problem anyway, because the truth is I never forgot her during all those years I left her behind.
I didn't tell her I knew she cheated on me, but all I do tell her was that she did something bad to me and I want her to open up to me about it, but my girl kept on denying it, she sworn with her life, that she didn't cheat on me, that night I was shocked. Then, I didn't talk about it again till September, I gave her those months to regret her actions and confess to me, but she never did, also I didn't stop helping her financially, I still pay her monthly for upkeep. I know you will be wondering why I give her money, right? This girl was with me and loyal to me when I had nothing, like nothing at all! She was raised by a single mother and she is struggling a lot, after graduating she decided to go for Hair Stylist training, that is where she is currently. So I just give her money monthly just to stay strong.
So around September I decided to tell her she cheated on me, although it was that once, she begged, cried and told me she was drunk and regretted it, she told me she doesn't want to tell me because she knows I will end the relationship, well to be candid I love her so much, so I decided to forgive her, but since that day, trusting her was very very difficult for me. Although, I do watch her and since then I have never seen anything of such from her.
January 2022, her mother stopped her from coming to my place, she wants me to come see her first before she can allow her daughter to come visit me again. So, I went to see her mom last month and I made my intentions known to her, I told her I will want to marry her daughter and she said she is okay with it, if her daughter is okay with me.
This girl is my type of girl but, she has some behaviours that sincerely I don't think I can deal with.
She has this mindset of "A woman should be equal to a man".
She doesn't respect me, she chats with random guys and if they invite her for outing, she goes with them, even if I tell her not to go! When she visits me, she says I must join her in doing the house chores, she will say "It's either you clean the house and I will wash the plates and cook, or she wash the plates and cook, while I clean the house". And sometimes if she wants to cook for me, she will want me to come to the kitchen with her and do some works, maybe Grind pepper with blender or slice onion, if I dont, she gets annoyed, saying will she be the one to be doing all?
She did something that annoyed me this morning, around 6am today I went to the filling station to get petrol, well she knows I eat early always, maybe 6am or 7am, I would have taken breakfast, but she has never dished me food at that time, I always do it myself whenever she is around. When I got back from the filling station, I still met my girlfriend on the bed pressing her phone, I told her I'm hungry and I will want to eat Spaghetti with tomato sauce, and she replied "Baby, please cook it yourself, you said I'm your queen, pamper me na" Really? What does that have to do with you cooking for your fiance?
Well, I was annoyed, I went to the kitchen and prepared the food myself, the truth is when the food was ready, I only dished my own and ate, she said "What about her? Won't she eat?" I didn't answer her!
Aside from this, sincerely sometimes she talks to me rudely, and one thing she and I knows is that she is very very stubborn and not ready to submit to any man. Sincerely, this attitude is making me scared of settling down with her, I want to propose her this year and do the marriage rights but with all this behaviours I'm thinking the marriage will be hell for me.
When she came over yesterday, I prepared food for her before her arrival, and I served her, all she could say was "What is this? The food taste bad! Is this food or poison?" She never gave a good compliments about the meal, yet she finished the food and went for second round.
Last night before we went to bed, I told her to warm the rice and the stew, she said it won't get spoilt that she will do it in the morning, I asked her if she is sure, she said Yes. And I went to the kitchen before preparing my Spaghetti, I saw the rice is already bad and can't be eaten, I showed it to her and she was like "haaa she doesn't know it will spoil"
Also, the chicken I bought yesterday to cook her the meal, I couldn't use all, I left some in the pot, and I forgot to warm it last night, my girl saw it while washing the plates this morning, and she was like "What is this?" I told her chicken and she said "And you didn't warm it" she left it there in the pot like that without doing anything to revive it. Before I went to the kitchen to do it myself!
She only washed the plates, bath and went to church this morning, she didn't arrange the bed, nor sweep the room littered with all we ate last night. I'm sure of the message she is passing to me... "Have washed the plates, you clean the house".
Please guys, I want to propose her around August and settle down with her in November, but this behaviours are the things turning me off.
Will she changed and act normal when we get married, or this will continue? The guys she chat with, which I told her I don't like it, she replied that "She will never and ever leave them". All these types of attitudes and not showing me respect, do you think she will change after we get married or she will continue?
Please guys, I'm very confused here
Do not Marry The Girl. You are the Head not Tail. She not respecting you means to her that she does not love you nor see you as someone that deserve to be her Husband.
Yes some ladies are stubborn but when matrimony come calling A MAN/GUY MUST ONLY MARRY A LADY THAT GENUINELY SUBMITS TO HIM DURING COURTSHIP.
If happiness matters to you, do not marry the lady at all!!!
Why would you let her being a cheat get in the way of what you share?
I can not pay 20k monthly subscription on kpekus since March 2021 till date and let it go down the drain just because I know the woman is no good to my future.
It doesn't matter if she cheats on you, talks back at you, demands equality or isn't homely, what matters is love. As long as you love her, the least you can do for a lady who stood by you when you had nothing is to stand by her and be supportive of all her dreams.
As she's gone to church, surprise her. Watch some YouTube videos on how to cook the perfect Sunday stew or read up some of Pocohantas 's cooking topics so you can serve her the best possible meal with an apology letter for being irresponsible enough not to warm the chicken this morning.
That's how to pamper a woman.
If she wants to go hang out with other men, just beg her not to sleep over with them. If she insists she wants to sleep over with them, beg her not to have sex with them. If she insists she wants to have sex with them, then beg her to tell them not to cum inside her.
But if they do and she brings back a bastard baby home, allow the Christian in you love her and the baby just like Christ has loved the church.
If you really love a woman, you shouldn't be scared of anything. Just be reassured that no matter how many preeks she fvcks outside, she'd be back to you. All you need is love.
My Bible tells me in 1st John 4:18 that "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear,"
Work on yourself, throw away your insecurities, spend more time in the kitchen, learn to treat that woman like a queen and don't stop loving her for the peril she is.
You have 5months to prepare a mind-blowing public proposal and 8months to happily walk into your unhappy future, now is the time to hire the best event planners so you create a lasting impression.
The good part is that if you marry her, you won't need to be paying that 20k monthly subscription. You can then channel it to buying Valium 5 for the sleepless nights she's going to torment you with.
Sheyimann: Russia US UK France China India Pakistan Israel Canada ,maybe
But these are the countries country listed to have active nuclear warheads ,active as in ,it can be prepped and ready to go in minutes , nuclear warfare is about who is able to quickly use his first ,it doesn't matter if a country has it...is it active, ready to go be released in minutes, if a nuclear war were to break, only Russia and America maybe be capable enough to take on each other , some of the countries I listed have outdated nuclear warheads easily detected by radar and destroyed in the air...but America and Russia are on par in this aspect...so yes only America and Russia should be talked about when it comes to nuclear warheads...also Russia has the advantage of being a massive country that spans almost the size of three to five European countries combined...same as America to an extent...the losers in this war are every other European countries.
Africa might be the safest place to be in the world right now if Nigeria leaders or handlers doesn't bites more than it can chew in a bid to give off "African big brother" vibes
Let's hope for no war ooo....and maybe start buying more food and saving some money maybe...
Nigeria is already a "problem" to Anglo America going by your:
1. Your Massive Population 2. Human Resources 3. Unending Natural Resources
Which you used to show you a Regional Global Power expecially during the days of ECOMOG.
The terrorists organizations you see in Africa are all codedly created by Britain and USA using France to finance them so as to destabilize noted strategic countries of which Nigeria is one.
One of the strategic countries is also Syria whom Russia another strategic country saved from the claws of Queen of England.
But of the tribe in Africa hated most by both France and Britain is the Oduduwans. The record they have about us are there in the archives.
This is why you all need to learn or educate yourself about the Underworld Organizations and how they are operating to control us all globally.
With this move, sanction maybe laid on us and more terribly, Asset seizing in Europe just as it happens to Abrahamovic who fail to act smart seeing the handwriting on the wall going by Putins Smart moves overtime against these Killers in Washington and London about there Human Murderous Acts Geard Towards One World Government they want to achieve by fire by force.
If you as black man, whether you belong or not still have asset(s) in Europe, be prepared for any possible outcome as this ongoing war could turn to global one (God forbid). And you know, when it does, Nations would take sides.
You need to calmly read and re-read yourself or call on a friend to explain it to you or better still Google what axial Wind controlled generator is to get better understanding of what you wrongfully called "inverter".
sasview: I am just curious with the disco tariff on energy consumption, if one is not careful the cost of buying energy will be competing with rent. I have seen apartments that share prepaid meter and all parties involved agreed to only use energy /light during the night or weekend, so they disconnect from disco during day. I was like there could be a better way to manage energy consumption. If you have an alternative way pls. share and let's benefit from it.
Long time ago, I diversified into Split Solar Electric Power Generation System.
It pays to be independent.
The Sunshine Is Free.
Heaven helps those who think and ack properly at the right time always.
To Hell With Kanji Dam, And All Other Gas Powered High Volatage Alternator.
Infact, to Hell With Government or Private Families Generated Electricity.
There are tons of videos on YouTube you all can watch to learn how to Build Powerful Solar Panels not to talk of Neodymium Magnet Actuated Axial Wind Mills.
Chinese, Haa, May God Bless them and Yes Baba Obasanjo and His Co leaders during his tenure (a sensibly "corrupt" politician unlike the foolishly foolish ones we have now) for diverting our importation source to them. Yes to asia where you can easily source for materials and components those arrogant Europeans would charge you dry to send to you if ever they choose at all.
Again and again, May God Bless Baba Ebora Owu and yes Those Asians.
Learn to build Asial Permanent Magnet Generator watching YouTube videos.
Buy the Neodymium Magnets from Aliexpress or Alibaba if you would need many.
You can get pure insulated copper wire locally in Lagos, Aba, Onitsha, Ibadan(ogunpa, Labaowo etc.)
Learn to wind your coils using winding jigs which is simple to make.
You need resin and adner too.
A former.
Plywood which you can make with water base gum and sawdust expecially during dry season as it would dry faster. But you can buy the ready made ones of 2cm thickness. To know the thickness, you need a caliper which you can get on Aliexpress.com too.
If you have the money, you can leave plywood and use resin alltru to cast the coil holder or totally submerged the coils in resin. You need heavy duty or High Amperage, High Voltage Diodes or connect smaller ones in Parallel.
You need metal plates too to cover you magnets so as to prevent power stray and uniform circulation of magnetic power from the magnet over the coils as you would arrange your magnets in NSNSNS fashion. Though there are other ways to get super power from your wound coils.
See, the possibilities of generating your own electricity is just Endlessly Endless and the materials needed are Insurmountable Available thanks to the Chinese.
You need a galvanized pipes onto which your newly constructed Cogless Axial Wind Powered Generator would be locked in.
Do more research and you will get total solutions to your energy needs.
But I'd you wanna avoid stress, go for Split Solar Electric Power Generator.
HINT: SOLAR PANELS IS THE BACK AND HEARTBEAT OF SOLAR POWER GENERATION SYSTEM
So you need to buy first Monocrystaline Solar Panel before any other parts which are Mppt Controller, Pure Sine Wave Inverter and lastly Battery.
There are some inverters that do not require battery to generate electricity and they are called Gridtie Inverter. To make your Battery last longer, you can build a battery output pulser which would pulse discharge your battery or array of batteries into a Capacitor Bank or Super capacitor bank which you can build yourself using Aliexpress bought aluminum foil roll, paper or tissue paper, multi strand rubber insulated copper wire, plastic tape and salt solution. You will roll the whole thin into a pvc pipe.
Ease watch YouTube videos on this too.
See if you can all forgo negative taugths about Solar and free energy in general, you will sooner or later render all these people making lives difficult for us all in Nigeria useless positively.
GodHatesBigots: At best, Russia is a second world nation. Without nuclear weapons and oil and gas they are crap and you know it.
Their poor performance in Ukraine has turned their army into a global laughing stock. They will be annihilated if they fight a more modern and technologically superior army.
That Hilter and His Army got defeated down to Berlin mainly By Russia and in other part of Europe by allied forces do not mean only Germans suffer.
To win a War, there would likely be casualties.
So Russians loosing there lives on the battle ground of Ukraine do not mean weakness and potentially soon a collapse of Ukraine is imminent.
Kingsnairaland: Forget that... You really don't know how powerful Russia is just try to Google it then you will calm down...
Does a reasonable fellow even needs to Google? Is Russia's activities in Africa and more recently Syria not enough to tell all these African USA fans that Russia is at least the The SECOND WORLD POWER THAT IS EXTREMELY Advanced IN AIR SCIENCE etc. THAN ANY OTHER NATION IN THE WORLD AND usa and britain can't dare fight face to face??
No this is not about I liking Russia nor you giving a nod to Anglo America.
If it were to be a nation not upto the Task, would The Syria President Invite Russia to save His Government from this Merciless Muderers in London and Washington?
Would a smaller nation not get directly confronted or warned by USA and Britain not to come to Syria or if already there, get ordered out immediately?
Can't all these boys and girls alike think?
There is nothing like Indomie generation here at least year 2000 to 2022 makes you an Adult old enough to be a Mother and Yes Father.
If there are 3 Arms Of Government Structured To Chemate One Another For Progressive Positive Governance In Any Nation, Why Then Must All Nation Submit To Anglo-America namely Britain and USA or the Clay and Iron
I repeat, AND THERE SHALL BE THE END TO NATO!!
HAIIIIIL PUTIN!!!
Deaths To Enemies Of Our Collective Freedom pretending to be friends.
If Russia is A Bully, Yes I Prefer A Sensible BULLY not The Merciless Murderous Bullies In Washington and London.
PrinceMajestic: Putin the master of the Earth has been saying it and I will still continue to help him say it. "Drop your weapons and go home" he just isn't attacking the Ukrainian civilian population but a special operation to bring down the evil Neo-nazi expansion to Mother Russia's Territory. What a kind master Putin is, he still has a soft spot for them despite all the provoking sanctions, what a kind Leader you are Putin. Victory for Mother Russia, Victory for the Donbass Region, Victory For Independent Republics of Donetsk and Luhanks, victory for Nigeria and all Myrtyrs of liberation worldwide
Victory to you PRINCE!!! Yes, Victory To PUTIN!!!
Victory to the Man Blocking The Murderous One World Government Global Unification Plans.
nomenclature: So says a black man in third world countrythat his country cannot produce even toothpick not to talk of a gun powder.youall are cowards.russia never invaded africa , the west which you are praising colonised you that is why you are typing in english which is not your language ....black monkey
Hammyaladin: Similar to Kanu's situation. When he was fighting he was warrior and when he was caught he became a blameless citizen!
People need to understand that they need to be balance of power btwn the east n the west if not.
the real war Mongers would overrun every nation and then stupid and foolish people who is condemning PUTIN who know the HARDEST WAYS who truly is the TYRANT between PUTIN and Queen Elizabeth Of England
safarigirl: Women are not forcing themselves to do anything
The problem is that men have become ineffective in their roles of provider and protector, thereby forcing women to pitch in to provide especially.
In today's reality, most men can no longer afford to take care of the family with one means of income, so, unless you want the kids to starve, women have to work.
If more men were effective in their roles, less women would have to work. Working is an act of survival
And is it only the Men that must bring food to the table in the family?
What if the "effective" husband dies suddenly?
What would the wife resort to if not prostitution coded or open most times...
seanwilliam: mumu , coming from someone whose life depends solely on west products
Are you now high for the insult Ba? For you replying this way, it is evident you lack proper protein your brain needs to make you know your left from rigth.
shogsman: The amount of ignorance on this platform as to how international relations work is almost comical,ban Dollars for someone that has dumped Dollar
Ignorance or ACUTE STUPIDITY AND FOOLISHNESS ?
If we all Unite in Africa and back our currencies with Gold instead of dubious good for nothing paper called "dollar", will they in Europe not suddenly become irreversible poor?
Igbofam: U.S. President Joe Biden has signed an order banning the sale or delivery by any other means of dollar bills to Russia, the White House said in a statement.
In particular, the order prohibits "the exportation, reexportation, sale, or supply, directly or indirectly, from the United States, or by a United States person, wherever located, of U.S. dollar-denominated banknotes to the Government of the Russian Federation or any person located in the Russian Federation."
Kaiser20: The war will start when NATO mistakenly send soldiers and aircraft directly to help Ukraine, some of you will probably not have Data again to comment , just watch!!!
Must you reply all those ordinary beings who know not how the seen and underground world is organized?
Foreign Affairs › Re: Captured Russian Soldiers Told "You'll Be Shot Back Home If You Come Back" by darediamond(m): 2:07pm On Mar 14, 2022
