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So when you feel comfortable with someone you yell at them?

Interesting

Maybe your husband too would tell you, when he feels comfortable with someone he punches them, thats why he cant punch his boss, Policeman, but he can punch his own wife.

Yelling is an abusive behavious just like beating

You still believe that paedophile you call a bf loves you? if he does why has he not called you back to find out whats going on with you

You were used period

semid4lyfe: Yes she did. . .na Bonfrere Jo carry Falcons go that competition

Why you dey ask?

I dey try imagine what her age would be cos China 1991 was 21yrs ago and she wasnt a teenager in 1991 cos only Florence Omagbemi was a teenager then

Kobojunkie: What is the cultural connotation of a wife kneeling to apologize to her husband, and that of a man kneeling to propose?

Note: I asked you of cultural connotation and not YOUR idea of what either of them should mean.

To me both shows that you humble yourself before the other person

Kobojunkie: Like I said earlier, not everyone kneels while proposing, especially given that that culture is foreign to Africa. So yes, it is quite possible that they will never kneel to anyone.

And like its known, not everyone kneels to apologize even in Yorubaland never mind Africa

Kobojunkie: Again, keep culture in mind. The culture of getting down on one knee when proposing is foreign to Africa, and is usually done by males. It is not really of cultural significance but is seen more as symbolic. In the same west, if a man does not get down on one knee, he is faulted for it so it is a choice that individuals make depending on how dramatic they want the occassion to seem.

So it is with wives kneeling, If a wife doesnt kneel, Its not like she would be beheaded, Its still a choice while some women do it others dont just like some men kneel to propose in the West and some dont

Kobojunkie: Again, you are pursuing a flawed argument here. Kneeling to propose is nothing to be compared with kneeling to apologize in our culture which, again, has cultural roots, is linked to gender of the person doing the apologizing, and is seen as a sign of respect if done well.

This is really a simple thing? Is a woman kneeling to apologize bad? If yes or No, Is a man kneeling to propose bad Yes or No

I would expect the answer to both to be similar since its the same action done by a specific gender and as a symbolism in both cases

Enugu really? Is it not the same Enugu we know

Let someone try this with Jonathan and see your family indicted for treason

At least half of our population must be award winner now

Kobojunkie: You are trying to start a flawed argument. Those who kneel to propose do it probably only once in their lifetimes and it has nothing to do with apologizing. The same people do not have cultures that link their knees with subordination.

Those who kneel to apologize however, do so because it is culturally accepted method of apologizing when one has erred. Only it seems that one gender is required in many cases to do it even when no real harm has been caused.

It doesnt have to do with apologizing, A lot of ppl on here have said they would never kneel to any human only God. So I am interested in their views to kneeling to propose. And it doesnt matter if one is done once or done a million times. Its the principle behind it that matters

If a woman kneeling debases her, Dont you think a man kneeling to propose also debases him.

In the white culture, what does kneeling depict if its not subordination and humility?

In one culture kneeling to apologize, In the other kneeling to propose. And I think in proposal only one gender is required to kneel.

if kneeling is bad in one instance, It should be bad in all instance. Since its the same action. At least not to shift the goalpost

Series22: But i think say she suppose don reach Menopause by nw.. She was almost 30 in 1996, and we r nw in 2012. I see d hand of T.B Joshua in dis delivery... Anyways, kongratz, u r an icon

Didnt Chioma Ajunwa represent Nigeria in Female football in China 1991 with uche Uecharia, Florence Omagbemi, Omo love branch, Ann Agunmannu etc

Old Wizard: Hmnn whatever happens to SS/SE one people one destiny mantra that dominate other threads?

Abeg follow me ask them ooo.

Are they not joined at the hip again or have they been used and dumped like sanitary pads once again

wellmax: Igbo people at their best. Always interested in tribal wars. OP only made a reference and here they go running their mouth. I hate your attitudes.

Well said

I dey laff.

Ijaw vs Igbos.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]That's one grown azz man wanting to be young again.

Like EzeUche's 40 yrs old sef claiming to be 22.[/quote]Just like you at 22 claiming to be 50

BlackPikiN: One thing I have noticed from the Ijaw recently is that you all are a bunch of ingrates. Tuahh!

Please can you enlighten us on Ijaws should be grateful for? The gift of life or what?

Kobojunkie: Not all men kneel to propose. And that culture is foreign to Africa where this culture of kneeling to apologize is found.

Also good to note that the men(of foreign culture) who kneel to propose do not expect their wives to kneel when apologizing to them and they certainly don't do it either.

So whats your position on kneeling to apologize and kneeling to propose?

Which is good and which is bad?

I thought Odumchi was an elderly person cos he posts more in culture section

[quote author=Mynd_44]I think I would prefer you apologizing and letting that apology reflect in what you do in future that kneeling, bowing ot dancing azonto while saying you're sorry[/quote]Do you support a man kneeling to propose to a woman Isnt that an unreasonable culture too? Or what value does the kneeling add to the proposal?

madu97: . das y my bf is sensitive n mature n das one of the reason i love him. my aunt says she wont let my parents beat me or kick me out but if they persist then i can come n live wit her. i am so happy dat i talked to her, thank u all 4 persuadin me to talk 2 someone. now im just goin 2 wait 4 her 2 talk 2 my parents but i just pray dat deyleave my bf out of this. u guys shud help me pray.

You said your bf is sensible and matured, yet he called you worthless when you didnt reply his text?

I guess the guy might have already skipped town cos he knows his asss is rotting in jail

dominique: abeg free OAM4J. politics is not an easy section to moderate. DK, you can apply for the post if you fink you can do a better job .

ENOUGH with the DERAILING ALREADY!!!

I am sure I can do a better job on you than in Politics, Give me a try

Jarus: DK, are you serious or being sarcastic as usual? On OAMJ, I mean. I have far contrary opinion on OAMJ and I do think it is clear to everyone that he's doing an excellent job. Or am I taking DK too seriously?

I am being serious here. I have never seen a worse mod than OAMJ. He has been a huge disappointment ever since he became a mod, Even Kosovo wasnt this bad

Pataki: What could be more disgraceful than getting into the German league final and losing it. Getting into the Champions league final and being beaten right inside your own field. Far more ridiculous than 7 years of trophylesness. Who do we hold responsible?? Must be a frog brain managing your team.

Those who live in glass house don't throw stone.

Our coach was able to play a final, WHen was the last time your coach played any final?

Its either he is losing to Sunderland, Birmingham

edoyad: Fish Brain that has repeatedly refused coaching Bayern inspite of their Continued begging.

Bayern only approach coaches with a good record like Van Gaal and Heyckenes who have won CL not a coach who has never won ANY European trophy in his whole life

norrisman: That "bird brain" is one of the most successful Arsenal managers. We all know he worked his way to the top and not through any dubious means. If that man is a bird brain, you need to br asking yourself serious questions about where you are in life. Because it is one of 2 things. Either your human brain is dead weight or u have an insect brain.

The bird brain is also responsible for 7yrs of trophylessness

[quote author=A-40]Don't mean to open an old sore but shey una see shekpe-keeper for Spain over the weekend?[/quote]The Spanish midfielders dont understand him, they are limited technically to understand his movements You knw no one in football understand him

Odunnu: Hahahahahahahaha thank God i'm not the worst if I have to take you two serious.
Seriously DK, you are becoming very naughty

Don't you love me being naughty? Imagine the kinda things I can do to you in my naughty ways.

OAMJ is actually the worst by a margin. Jarus the worst? Never. Jarus was an excellent mod during his time

[quote author=c.fours]I would feel terribly sorry for a spouse who sees her husband as a boss or client. that is very messed up relationship.

My mother has shouted at my dad many times and my dad has shouted at her many times. They shout at each other, laugh at each other, gossip with each other, eat together, pray together and have been married for decades. no biggie. as long as it doesn't affect their relationship negatively. It's ok for spouses to raise their voices at some point. In fact, it is almost impossible for it not to happen.

comparing husband and wife relationship to boss and subordinate relationship is very crazy.[/quote]She wasnt comparing a husband to a boss, Cos I have seen her ask men the same thing especially men that claim their wives make them angry

So the question is if your boss, a policeman, your colleague, your professor, etc make you angry do you yell, kick, punch at them?

So if you can keep your temper with those people why not do same to a person you are married to?

Because our parents did it does not make it right. My Grandfather probably had many wifes, probably just crossed his leg and dished out orders in the household That doesnt make it right. My parents flogged us as kids I wont go and use that as a justification to flog children

OAM4J is actually one of the worst moderators we ever had on this forum. Whoever nominated him owes everyone a big apology

What benefit can Retardeen give except extreme cluelessness

OP If he is so traditional how did he toast you? Did he just say "A furungi nnanya"

Do you go on dates or just play hide and seek in the farm?

Does he eat rice with spoon or prefers his bare hand.

Does he use fan and AC or prefers sitting under the tree to enjoy fresh air?

Does he have electricity or he uses lantern

Girls next time beware of guys whose names are AFAM4EVA, AGBABIAKA, or OKIJA JUJU