bufness:
mayne who knows d name of that dude acting ragnar lothbrok in vikings, hes a perfect candidate

I totally forgot about him..
He'll be great i.m.o.

Major issue's his size tho

onila:
I dont really find non black men attractive

but today i saw a really nice looking ethio guy
but not sexually attracted tho


teamblackmen

Funny, I can say d same about females..
Yes, light skinned one's are pretty n attractive, but dark skinned ladies are, to me, earthy, sensual n sexually attractive

Muafrika2:
It's true the words "strong African woman" is misused. Somebody wins a sport event and the journalists run to her for her story. Her first words...

"Am a strong African woman!"

I sincerely don't get why it's necessary to say that

I don't see other people saying similar things.

LOL..kinda true.
Me thinks it's an attempt to reaffirm their womanhood or something

@ joavid.. I guess the main thrust of the article is in context of usage.
The term 'strong African woman' is now mostly used in d context of 'negativity'... that is more/less resilience not strength unlike back in the days wen her strength (resilience inclusive) was borne out of an assurance of her place in society.

Came across this insightful piece..

The Strong African Woman Myth
Posted by 'Deolu Oniranu Bubble
When you grow up in any part of Black Africa, the meaning of strength surpasses the ability to carry a weighted object. It carries physical, psychological, social and even spiritual connotations. I am a woman, and just like all of my kind who grow up here too, I consider myself a strong woman, in fact, a strong African woman! While this trait has served as the foundation of our upbringing, in this article I wish to highlight the many ways it has proved double-edged to much of womankind.

Let me first emphasize that the African woman has always been strong. However, this strength has seen a positive and a negative use. In the account of history which precedes the coming of our European Lords, African women in both matriarchal and patriarchal systems were revered no matter their status. Matrilineals might have even taken their reverence a bit too far by equating her with the giver of life. For instance, there are reports of so-called primitive societies who for a limit of Enlightenment-inclined science failed to see the connection of heterosexual mating to procreation and so believed that the woman was the sole author of life.

In our own Ashanti kingdom, the land has been feminized into Asase Yaa, the Queen mother is older, wiser and exudes more power and reverence than the king who is male. The sole trait of procreation, nurturing and an assured continuation of the species in the past made her a strong force to reckon with even in patrilineal societies. In Okonkwo’s Umuofia, wives, mothers and women grew and harvested their own crops to establish their economic independence. Simone de Beauvoir’s insightful piece, The Second Sex, actually confirms that even in the animal kingdom, it is the females who rule. This is strength, and I like to associate myself with this kind of strength.



In recent times, when the Strong African Woman term is used, it is in connotation with certain not-so- pleasant causalities: The woman who is disowned by her parents for getting pregnant outside wedlock and ends up on the street to fend for herself and her baby on her own; or, the woman whose parents saw no use for female education and so has to deal with her unschooled, unskilled and her unemployable self in the growing capitalist globalized developing country. Sometimes, it is for the young Lamisi who has to escape from her village to the city to avoid marriage to her grandfather’s bestie, at the same time avoiding being cut by Bongo’s father, the merciless, sharp razor-wielding village Wanzam.

Maybe I am being too cynical so let me talk of Shaniqua, a young black girl who grew up in the projects, raped at age nine and thirteen, and is able to pull through her psychological trauma, poorly developed and dangerous neighborhood, underfunded school and later appears on Oprah at age 30 as a New York Times bestseller for her “very moving memoir on her difficult past.”



My good friend and mentor Joojo Cobbinah, in his recent visit to the motherland, has graced my newsfeed with touching images from his exploits in some slums of Ghana. As a woman, I was gravely affected by the realness of poverty, and the squalid living conditions the pictures convey—young girls out of school, single mothers juggling motherhood and city hustle, and young men left to their fate in a clueless country. While these proved shocking at a point, I realized they were all so familiar.

Postcolonial studies have proven that the African woman comes out as the lowliest of the lowest in the discrimination ladder. The imported Victorian version of patriarchy has stripped her of the most important form of sustenance—economic autonomy—and the love, respect and protection from the men in her society, all in the name of the “superiority” and “inferiority” traits of this version of patriarchy. African women in both patrilineal and matrilineal societies woke up one day and right before their eyes, their men were turned against them, and the sole burden of having to mediate the past and present has put them many light years behind in many ways.

While I definitely admire the strong modern African woman, her strength is not innate; it is defined not in natural causes like in the primitive sense but in humanly-created conditions. The strength of the modern African woman is a result of oppressive systems. It is dressed in unrealistic goals of a universalized patriarchal system that is demeaning, inconsiderate, and life-draining. The new strength comes from her tears, her losses and her unrequited sacrifices, not from her joys, her gains nor her satisfaction from performing her well-appreciated role to the species and society. The main difference I am pointing out here is the fact that whereas the primitive strength appeared natural and was drawn from due recognition and appreciation of her social constituents, the new strength is orchestrated and is produced by man-made conditions which can easily be scrapped by a few actions. It is important, that we do not confuse “resilience” with “strength.”

The real danger with this strength is its resonance with one racial propaganda, the ill-conceived notion that the African woman is imbued with special qualities to endure pain and hardships. For long, this has been the basis for the oppression of the African woman. This propaganda, for instance, informed the use of African women in experimental surgeries without anesthesia, and has continued in the modern day association of the black woman’s identity with pain and torture. There is a saying that “do not call a poor man humble until you have seen him rich”, to wit, certain conditions produce certain reactions, and as human beings we succumb to our ultimate call to adapt. Failure to identify this propaganda normalizes our suffering and makes it difficult for the causal factors to be eliminated. By all means, let’s acknowledge the African woman’s resilience, but let’s not correlate this with strength, as it fosters persisting injustices that continue to subjugate the African woman.

Can we identify some of the causes of the modern African woman’s plight? Can we develop strategies to alleviate the snag on her way to genuine progress? And most importantly, can we see to it that the African woman regains her strength in positivity and in life? These cannot be too much to ask, for after all, THE AFRICAN WOMAN WAS NOT BORN TO SUFFER!

Efe Plange is founder and editor of Sankofa Reviews. She is a Graduate Teaching Instructor, and is pursuing a Master’s degree in Rhetoric and Technical Communication at Michigan Technological University. She is passionate about the Arts and Cultural industry and her background in the field is fuelled by a longstanding dream of seeing theory work together with practice. Connect with Efe on social media: efplange_gh on both Instagram and Twitter, and Efe Plange on Facebook.

Hagm0nd:
One is plantain and the other is banana
anyways banana always sweeter than plantain

Plantain is healthier

armadeo:



Karl Drago was really cool. But the Conan reboot sucked so hard squids made way for it.

Yet to see him in another epic role. Though aqua man is in the works.

I'll like to see how that goes.

LOL @ sucked so hard..

That may probably be 'cos he had to play the cool good guy
Kratos is an antihero...n he won't really have to do much beside scowl, grunt a few words n kick ass

cao:

That's Jason Mamoa.

The man f d job..

Hope they don't Bleep it up like the Invasion1897 movie.
These producers/directors need to realize that f historical movies such as these, it isn't always about the $$$..but pride of heritage.

Keeping fingers crossed.
Let's know wen it's finally released

armadeo:
seems some folks here are reall wrestling fans. lol


anyway the guy who acted as drax in GOTG may also pull it off. he is huge enough

Lawd...
Once I saw d thread, one person came to mind and one person only..
DRAGO of GOT..(don't remember his name)
He ticks ALL the boxes

Chris Hemsworth is a terrible choice
Vin diesel is a NO f me..too wannabe agbero

Drago is just RAW

Nice one @ ibnsultan.
Y not make it in form of a diary for those interested in following up.
The post on d ops of d sbs wasn't 'visual' enough. It's always nice to hear details of d exploits of our soldiers.
Kudos n be safe

Barely 18 n already drinking stout??

Hmmm...
The force is strong in dis one..

The level of Horrible advices here is mind boggling
Esp from some of the regulars of the family section (mostly the unmarried ones).
Even the so called married ones giving advices as if this is a bf-gf relationship forgetting that in marriage the dynamics is different.
The same ppl that'll hide under an alias t cry about their marital problems.
I feel sorry f d o.p, and pray she makes d right choice

A Chinese proverb says 'take advices but make Ur own decision'

Thank God f ppl like @ atlantian etc else......

Peace

josite:


na wa o,dis one na striler,i still dey laugh.

...n this to him is 'good' advice
S.m.h

doskie:
you are frightening me boss. as in fear is catching up with my heart as I dey read watin you type.

LOL... naaa
No need to fear
..but truth is, sometimes,so many tins can happen all close together while you're yet to recover from wedding expenses n dat can be added pressure.

U just gats man up n take it all in stride..

Reading the comments n s.m.h.v..

The kind of advice u see here can turn a bad situation terrible..
Everyone advising u to withdraw/give him space...ok.
Try it n let us see how that goes, but lemme be a 'prophet' n tell u, 'It Won't Go Well'.

Withdrawal is one end of a vicious cycle that doesn't have a good outcome.

Cheers n all d best..

Cavenchy:
X240 you are indeed very right. OP listen to this user, he probably has the best scenario here.

I myself took quite some time trying to understand why the husband could have suddenly locked himself up in a shell if he wasn't this way before now. But it's increasingly obvious he is in a very tight situation. Different men have different ways and levels of handling stress. Some turn into demons in the house, some withdraw and a lot of others in between. The Ideal man should be able to maturely control his emotions when it comes to his better half, but we need to understand your husband isn't perfect, he might be trying to control his emotions in an unconventional manner you aren't used to. Now, he may be acting this way because the ship is sinking, he is confused and doesn't know what to do about the office rent issue, and when he sees you and mentions it, he is hoping you would be resourceful and industrious in your thinking by helping to chip in a few words or two either to encourage or suggest a way out, but like most very young women, you may be oblivious to the issues and just only interested in him playing around expecting him to ignore the issue at hand. On the other hand, ignoring the issue would not resolve the problem and he feels it's useless talking to you about it if all you would do is change the subject to talk about something else that is more fun, so he withdraws to himself to think and now only has to depend on himself to think it through alone. Additionally like X240 said, it might be as a result of the fact that you might have contributed to his extravagant expenses and now he is left to go through the aftermath of funding the necessary alone, he might silently be blaming you for this, and it even gets worse if you the wife does not seem to want to understand that the economy of the family (Like oil price) has changed and still remain vocal about your financial expectation(like APC/PDP followers).

In my opinion, it is totally wrong for a man to take out his frustrations on his wife, He is supposed to be the head of the home and is responsible for every event and decision the family takes no matter the outcome, however, I do understand human beings aren't perfect and the scenario above can happen if the man can not control his emotions, but its rare for someone at his age to still have this sort of inclination, therefore I will suggest the OP should try as much as possible to focus more on resolving the issues that led to his mood rather than complain to him about it. If you can make intelligent suggestions, please do, if nothing else - If he is prayerful, encourage him to go to God in prayer cos nothing is impossible for God, go on your knees and pray too, if he sees you praying about the financial issues threatening the family he is more likely to come out of his shell, cos he would see he didn't marry a ceremonial wife. He probably doesn't need you to do anything physically, but he would likely be withdrawn if you act nonchalant and expect him to be all smiles when he is almost finished.

Well said...
Broken down better than I could have

Tekevwe:


I'm not the clingy type, if anything I used to be the exact opposite and decided to work on it when I got a few complaints. We both go to work and I get back home by 6pm. He gets in by 9 and just wants to eat, bath, and sleep.

His office is just five minutes from the house and he works for himself so I know its not Lagos traffic. I just feel we should share how both our days went sometimes. He also does the same on weekends when he's home and keeps to himself. I let him be for a few hours and when I try to go to him he's cold still, like he wants to be alone.

I'm beginning to feel lonely.

A lot of u don't understand how much pressure comes with being married. Not a diss but the truth. Ur married now, n while Ur still in d euphoria of building a family, he suddenly has bills, responsibilities (esp familial) n work/career pressures to deal with and sometimes,it ain't easy to accommodate all that ...problem is, typical of we men, we don't communicate/cry as y'all would as such times n even appear withdrawn n that may leave u feeling 'unloved'.
U need to look outside yourself n reach out to him, through the walls YOU HAVE ALLOWED him build around himself...allowed 'cos, like it/not, u 2 r 1 now n each other's responsibility.
It's usually sexual, financial/another woman....take Ur pick, but it's obviously financial I.m.o... be as understanding as a mother here n you'll probably get a breakthrough.
I've been there, I know..
Cheers

You just gave him the excuse he needed to be rid of you while smelling like an expensive bottle of Chritian Dior parfum.

Reality check...you aren't married to him and one 'mistake' shouldn't define Ur life, especially as u don't even sound happy.
Choice is yours

Just heard, Andoni's election has been cancelled.
Irregularities in inec materials

The nonsense in Rivers State has gotten way beyond politics.
Politicians that should know better have been all over the airwaves unnecessarily heating up the polity.
The electorate have become so polarized and riled up that it's now more or less a personalized do or die affair...and for simple legislative elections
The 2 elephants instigating all these are birds of the same feather..The killings going on in the state are being sponsored by both parties.
Not one of them is clean!
The enormous resources that are being expended in this election would have been better served elsewhere especially at a time wen most are complaining of the economy.
I think I should stop here But those of you that'll come on Nairaland to be fanning the embers of an already blazing fire that'll mostly consume the lives of every day citizens trying to make ends meet should RECEIVE SENSE

#nuff said

Before this degenerates into another Yoruba/Ibo fisticuffs, I think we should consider one important point.. is she still married to the Lebanese guy
Am no lawyer, but I think, dissolution of marriage is a process that takes time, especially under the Nigerian law.
Aside that, my personal thought on d matter isn't necessary..HML to them

caprini1:
Its more annoying,that after 5 days of total blackout,they flash the light for just 10 seconds....is it to spite us or torture us or what?

Lol...

Telling u 'all hope is not lost'..

Sycophancy is a bitch..

Watching d APC back 4 @ their defensive best

tubouncen:
Ok

Bro they summoned him because it didnt favour them, if it'd favorur them, they would have kept mute...

Don't let ur hatred for buhari consume ur entire system cos u still have atleast 3more years to have him as YOUR president... Learn to read and decipher posts before commenting

He has been summoned because the action taken borders on a constitutional breach and d Senate is rightly doing wat it's meant to do, checkmating Executive excesses.
If those simple democratic principles are lost on u, then.....
Peace

Onilaiscool:


I read somewhere thats y some pple in rivers dont want an Ogoni person to be governor

arent other niger delta communities suffering from environmental degradation

pple cant fish any longer.the beautiful Niger delta communities are losing their wild life

why is ogoni so special

Read d report

Bye

Every administration has had saboteurs, some more than others..go figure

True governance is rising above all those to deliver.

lorbah001:
'Rule of law' now d excuse sire

Rule of law is the standard not the excuse sir
The earlier EFCC stops playing politics and starts doing their homework the better.

TRADELYN:
Why not since it is usually controlled by the ruling party?

Simple fact..
Anti-graft should be devoid of as much government interference as possible. This interference makes d body lose credibility and ultimately undermines d war against corruption.
Secondly, we shouldn't expect d courts to bend over backwards to jail someone charged if the case isn't well prosecuted.
Even some notorious criminals in the States have walked or bin jailed on less heinous crimes cos of d strength of their judges.
The EFCC needs more proficient, higher ranked judges to push their cases
The law is blind and should remain so

If EFCC is toothless , they should get prosthetics

Onilaiscool:
thats why they will never be an ogoni governor in Rivers state

they want to use other pples resources but dont want others to use theirs

What on earth are u on about??
How did their lands get devastated if not from misuse of the resources you're on about
Have u bothered to read d UNEP report.

Stop talking about stuff u don't know/aren't bothered to know about

YourMain:


I don't agree. I feel like to become a timeless artist or a legend in the music industry you cannot be wishy washy. You cannot start off strong and die out with a fickle flame. You come out strong and go out with a bang. That's real talent in my opinion when you can remain consistent in your talent.

With respect to your opinion, I don't totally agree..
A true artist is like an explorer..he/she kéeps redefining wat d 'boundaries' of music are and in doing so him/herself.
College dropout was great but don't forget,@ dat time, that album was quite a standout from d norm.
Haven't heard this album, but from d reviews..n with wat MrsPhyno has said , it must've something.
Granted Kanyes a tad too eccentric n may need someone to rein him in/moderate his sound like great artists usually have BUT he should be counted amongst d greats..i.m.o ..n am not even a fan