My 18month old loves the "Twinkle Twinkle little Star," her version is "ingle ingle lidl star hownya wonya wanchou ah" but my favorite thing is when we hug and she gives me kisses and she says "I yan nyou"-- I love you. Can't wait to get home to my baby.

My question is for Kobojunkie. You concured the structures are "illegal," in your opinion, what do suggest be done to those buildings? It sounds like you take offence at the buildings being demolished. What's the alternative? With all due respect, I will like to get your point of view on this.

It's a complicated matter.

If there are no ex-spouses et al to interfere, sure; you can and make a better life for the child/children. If all parties are amicable and there is open communication, sure. BUT if there appears to be interference i.e. baby mama drama, run! if you think you can handle it- all the best to you. Knowing what I know now, my answer is a huge, fat NO!

Mr. Otakpor: (FEGO) some guardian he was! he robbed me of my pocket money.

Prince J.O. Kobiowu or something (FEGO), a CRS teacher for that matter!!! (Christian Religious Studies) the bloody man was a pervert! He asked me out! dude I was in JS3!! I refused to date this ugly, ancient man, and afterwards became the object of his anger! Every opportunity he could get he'd flog me, send me out of his class, send me to the staff office for more flogging, I ran into him in Ife, and idiot still asked me out--why'd I want to date you after all that abuse! and I was darn good at CRS.

Mr. Olajide (Sagamu): Granted I wasn't good at physics, but trying to handle me wasn't going to help me learn physics either! I would love to slap this man for that, how dare you! I could have been better at physics if this man was worth the paper his title was written on!  

Whatever the case is, I think the man should still be allowed some degree of privacy- it's very unprofessional of the writer to put his SSN and address on full blast, that's very reckless of whoever dug it up!

I don't know if calling all single mothers "heroes" is wise. Before saying it's the western ladies that have babies for child support et al, I HAVE SEEN AND MET NIGERIANS who have had babies in order to either trap a man into marriage, or for child support. While I applaud SOME single mothers for sticking to their conviction(s), not every single mother should be swept under the blanket of heroines.

IMO the circumstances surronding the conception and birth of that child is what should determine who is a hero. While we're patting every single mother (I totally do not agree with it)[sup][/sup] we're not celebrating the real heroes who happen to be "single mothers-" women who have been abandoned by their spouses, widows,women who adopt to help save a life (probably abandoned by another single mother) selfless women raising children who are not biologicall theirs, women who hold down the fort while the men/ baby daddies are"working," women who escape abusive realtionships and take their children with them-toiling to improve their lives, I can go on. These are the real heroes, in my book!

When you decide to have sex, willingly, you should be willing to pay for the consequences. So in my book, single mothers fall into different categories:
Responsible--Rising to the occassion to have and raise their kids, and not repeating history!
Opportunistic-- hoping if you get pregnant he will put a ring on it! come on honey, be wise! they don't always put a ring on it! if you tried it the first, second and then third time- there is clearly something wrong with you!
Brave/ Hero etc,  rising above all odds to do what's in the best interest of self and the children, whether you had the baby or not-  people need to know that for some women having an abortion is not easy and stays with them for the rest of their lives!

So if the shoe fits, then wear it!

This is such a hot topic, can make a girl riled up!

I sympathise with the family of the bereaved. Such violence should not be taken out on the Nigerian youth, no matter the cause. The gesture is a good one, but how well thought out and its execution remain to be seen. My question is: where is this money coming from? does Nigeria now have an account or something for such causes? I will just like to know. Is this coming from GEJ's personal funds? Will this become the new norm?

I read some posts and my heart breaks. Has anyone taken time to read the posts on yahoo and see how vitriolic the comments are? I marvel at such language--hate, anger etc,
I come to NL and see the same thing. I choose not to take sides, but at the same time, can we be big and use our words to heal, build and encourage, as opposed to tearing, cursing and the likes!

I met my father-in-law a week before the wedding, as that was when Baba showed up. Before then we'd been talking, and he was already calling me "my daughter." The face to face was uncomfortable, I was ready to crawl in the name of greeting like a yoruba girl (since I'm not) and Baba is a traditional chief! Never met mumsie, as she's late.

My husband's meeting with my parents was much easier; he'd previously met my mum on one of her trips, way before we even thought of dating, so they were cool on the spot.  Once the relationship got serious, he called my dad and my dad claimed the connection was poor, he couldn't hear him, he should call back, he was busy he didn't know him etc,(story!) today, they're tight at thieves!
My husband's very first meeting with my mum he asked her if I could make ogbono, I guess her answer made him decide to ask me out. After we'd been married a while she asked him--"can she make ogbono?"(of course the answer is yes).

Now me and Baba on the other hand--it is a prayer point  but he'll be fine, the boy's been mine several years, and we're very happy

I will never advocate for anyone to marry as a teenager, because teenagers are still trying to discover themselves, NONETHELESS, that doesn't stop them from planning for their tomorrow! Not to shoot all teenagers down, some are more mature than others! In these parts of the world, at 18 you already have a job, and are at least paying your phone bill, may even be paying for rent--depending on the situation.
Now between 23 and 25, if one doesn't have a set plan for their life, and how to achieve them, then there is a problem.
Personally, I have seen a 22yr old marry (she got married younger than I was, and several years before I did) and she's still very happy in her husband's house, while her counterpart who got married at 29 got seperated from her husband after 3 months.
So on this matter, I think several factors come into play, not necessarily age, but experience, maturity and maybe more importantly--mindset.

As a woman, I’m totally offended to read about exchanging/ trading sex for favors and gifts in a relationship. I wish to God that women/ ladies/ girls (all things female) will have more sense of worth than that.

As for the poster, he’s allowed to feel how he feels. There’s nothing wrong with making an investment in the life of the one you plan on spending your future with; as with all plans, if it goes awry it’ll hurt, so the man is entitled to his feelings.

@ Meldrick: You’re entitled to your feelings, but you need to thank God for showing you who you’re just about to making future commitments with! Marriage is not easy, now imagine having a flaky wife and an equally flaky mother-in-law, trust me, you don’t want that. My advice, look for an independent woman, one who fears God, knows herself, and very importantly, is making some small money on the side! All the best

Hmmm, I haven't posted in several years, but this may just be the therapy I need, lol

Of course in the journey of life a girl meets a nice guy or two,
The first one that got away, he had a wild temper, but we could talk about everything. He was the kind of take charge guy. We had a lot in common--our parents travelled in the same circles, we both love the arts with a passion, but beyond that I couldn't get passed that temper--I didn't want to risk it.
I think about him every now and then, we both love Shania Twain's "You've got a way with me," so when the thoughts come I smile--he was there for me emotionally when I needed a friend, for that I'll always love him.

For the big fish that got away! "Bulldog," don't know how he earned that name, as he's such a gentle person. My older brother's friend, known him nothing less than 20 years. Grew up saying I would marry him. I had a crush on him from primary school till,  Once when I was old enough to speak my feelings I went to look for him, but he'd moved! I left the country, but somehow he found me through an email my brother had sent. We reconnected, before long we started dating--my dreams were coming true. Bull and I were perfect together, finish each other's sentence, know what the other is thinking, in all honesty we were soul mates--if such a thing does exist. He was the yin to my yang, we got engaged. Something went wrong somewhere, we couldn't be together.
It's been 5yrs since, we still talk, thankfully we're on different ends of the planet!  I'm married now with a family, and I wish him all the best with his life. But I still wonder what could have been

Tayo
I have not told you to sing his praise, your singing his praise won't add a day to his length of days, but when you have nothing good to say, but negativity, i'll take it personal. It's in the same vain, knowing you, someone should say something contrary to my perception of you, i'll not keep quiet. He's my pastor, i've been blessed by his teachings, so i'll not sit quietly and let you insult him. Then again, na your mouth you kuku dey take talk!

Backslider

In addition to needing several bible translations, you might be needing English lessons. Getting several bible translations would not take away from you, it'll only help you get a clearer picture of what the bible means/ the language. You seem not to understand your bible that's why i recommended other translations.

There's no need to start growing teeth, i'm eating solid food, you might need to take your own advice.

KDK
You lost me o! what has legalism and license got to do with anything that i was saying? no be fight o! i'm just wondering how it fit into this picture.

Ok! i'm outta this conversation.

Weda we vote or not, she can't win, she's not fine. Last time i heard from Donald Trump, he was really into beauty and bla, but maybe intelligence will help her, or talent.
Where did all our Naija babes go? we really have chics, but these ones that represent us don't represent us well at all! wowo gone on severe rampage.

Backslider

Oh!! About Christianity being hard--once again, please go and study to show yourself approved unto God RIGHTLY dividing His word, and not coming here to scare people. We're to fight the good fight of faith. Yes, we face challenges like the rest of the world, but guess what, "in all of these things, we are more than conquerors." i don't know of you, but i am born of God, and i have overcome already, i have the victory, already, in this hard life of Christianity. Maybe if you knew that, you won't see Christianity as a labor. There's so much to say, but now, i understand Paul when he said when he said he couldn't speak unto his followers in Corinth (i think) as spiritual, but as babes.

Backslider

When my daughter's of the age, i'm sure she won't go that crazy. I have nothing against looking good, but because i'll raise my kids in the way they ought, by the word of God, i'm sure such madness will be far from them.

I'll only advise you to go and study your bible again, and this time, don't read it like a theologian. Get several translations, cuz you sound like you have only KJV. You really should not use deodorant oh! it wasn't given to us from the garden of Eden, and hence it is taking away from God's original plan.

Come! TayoD, you that your mouth, and hands are so quick to critic my pastor, and know when the devil is taking a foot hold on him, the so called man of God that's your mentor has nothing to show for his works as a man of God--NOTHING! but big grammer.

I just ran into a friend last week, in the course of discussion, he told me he left household for the hogwash that was being taught there. Like you, he's a very brilliant person, but he was wise to step when he did, but you, NOOOO! you're still going about preaching the gospel according the MC Okotie! dude! don't disrespect my pastor again, it's not your place to do so, and i mean it! you'd better start praying for your household family, that all of you will have your eyes of understanding enlightened.

Backslider

You strike me as a person that will force his daughter not to have pierced ears, have natural hair, and go around without make up. If you want to be natural, you'd better stop using deodorant/ perfumes, so you can emanate your God given odor!

Dude, you need knowledge. You read the bible, i hope you know all you're quoting is just letter, and mind you, the letter killeth, and it seems to be holding you down! open your heart to the Spirit of the word, so that you won't look suppressed.

I knew you were going to quote all them Timothy! if you didn't, you won't have had a point, but guess what, the bible says we shouldn't act as those abiding to the law "touch not, taste not, wear not!" Sha! what you say doesn't make a difference to me, looking good is God's business! do you know the women of the bible wore jewellry? they wore cologne. To englighten you, go back to your bible women, Rebecca, Esther and co. They were beauties in their times, and their husbands didn't hesitate to splurge on them. Wo! una matter dey tire me! all these extremes make Christianity appear hard, whereas it's a life of faith and victory.

_{I'm angry now.} Where in the world did you hear "out of 2 or more Holy men a truth is established??"

I don't know why we're still bothering with this dude! he can't do the job! so even IF he gets there, by some means, na English and apocalypso we go chop?

We're talking about muslims here! what "comments" don't annoy muslims! as long you mention islam and you're not a muslim--you must have blasphemed against the religion, so therefore it is time to burn churches!

I will pray that the Pope doesn't go to Turkey, before they roast him, or get a suicide bomber to finish him off, or even a sniper--do they even have snipers or only suicide bombers ?

Personally, i don't see anything wrong with the Pope's statement! he wasn't lieing was he? if he was so wrong about them, they won't have reacted in the way they've reacted so far! see them protesting, little girls all covered up, carrying placades! very sad to just watch.

@Backslider
Gosh! it's been incredibly hard to follow your reading, and it's been so easy so see your school of thought, and know where to place you.
You have gotten it all wrong! salvation is a personal thing, and we've been given EVERYTHING THAT PERTAINS TO LIFE AND GODLINESS through the KNOWLEDGE we have of Him (2 Pet 1:3). When you know who you are in Christ, you know what matters and what doesn't! you will know what expects and the works! you will know what He's interested in and otherwise. You will know that Holiness is part of the nature we've been given, it's unattainable by works. You perm your or not, you wear pants or not, wear blings or not, DOES NOT make you holy.

I'm born again, sold out to the gospel. i wake up in the morning with a passion for the gospel, i walk around knowing who God has called me, and i know the ability for right living and holiness is in me! i don't have to struggle to acheive these things, it's already who i am. I wear pants, as a matter of fact that's what i'm wearing right now! i have red, short hair, i have several piercings, and i can look in the mirror and know that my holiness isn't based on any of those things! it's based on the nature of God that is at work in me!

Know that, and you'll quit struggling. It's people that believe what you believe that make Christianity appear harder than it really is! it's a sweet life of victory! a life of ZOE, and not struggle! if you go around with thick, bushy, unkempt, natural hair, and you look scruffy, in the name of Christ, i advice you to open your bible and get teachings that teach you who you are, because Christianity is not a struggle. It's a life of faith and works, not works and faith (James 2:20).

Olabowale

With all due respect, i was a muslim, so I KNOW what i'm talking about. I still have a Quaran, that i still read, not in hopes of discovering some truths, but in understanding what motivates the religion. Your mum and wife converted--that's really their business, but a part of me isn't convinced that they changed out of a conviction that the religion is "the way," but hey! to each his own.
God's criteria isn't the same as man's--true. BUT, what i know, from RELATIONSHIP with God, that He seeks beyond our lip recitals, but the contents of our heart. When a man hears from God, as of a relationship, he won't jump up and do things like burn stuff. The God i KNOW isn't into that sort of thing.

@Kenshin
What are you talking, they've started already!

In 1993, after the death of my grandpa, one hot sunny day, i was roasting in my mother's car--mind you there was no A/C in the car, so i was literally roasting. And somewhere between sleep and wakefulness, i saw my late grandpa, and even now, the image is still with me. Now, back then, i seriously believed in ghosts, but now that i'm older and wiser, and i know God's truths, plus a minor in pyschology, i know what i saw was no ghost, it was my brain re-acting to the heat! and my desire to just have a glimpse of the old man one last time. I miss him though . But by the wisdom of God, i know that there are no such things as ghosts, but demons or familiar spirits.

Pastor Chris Oyahkilome.

@Havila
I hear you o! and support sef.

Just for the Pope's statement, several churches have been burnt already--don't these acts just prove the Pope right? he didn't say anything to warrant the kind of hate coming his way, or the burning of innocent churches! people have said worse, hmmmm now i wonder whether they're still alive!

I don't see anything wrong with what the Pope said, it's not like the man was lieing!

@Donnie

Why are you answering TayoD? the guy is my friend, but i don't take everything about him seriously, otherwise i will die! so don't!

TayoD

You're here again? there's no mention of Okotie here! shei i'm among the memebers you've talked to? it is well. I've marked you and i'm worried for you, and maybe i should begin to keep away from you too, based on some of your beliefs, that i believe are out of this world.

Let each man run his race, as for me, i'm following the course that i must run! the teachings i've learnt in this ministry, i've learnt no where else! Christ Embassy is more than a church, it a vision--God's vision, so whether y'all try to slander the ministry, it's not going to change anything. You can see it's still standing after all this time.

Hey, No need to insult muslims. Ok! muslims, help us out here! i just saw muslims burning churches and dolls representing the pope! simply because the man made a simple statement! and i don't think he was wrong! if he was, y'all are not disproving his statement.

Olabowale

Please, there's nothing new we want to know about Mohammed! we've read, seen, heard most of it, if not all of it.

People would refer to the violent nature of the church at one point in time, but that was then, and this is now! the concept of Christianity has no violence at all, we don't preach any form of Jihad, nothing.

Mohammed brought a way of mercy and true forgiveness? true worship?? you're joking right? what is true worship? please educate me on that. If by reciting some arabic words 5 times a day it becomes true worship, then God is really not out to have a relationship with us, He is simply seeking morons. Now, this is not to say muslims are morons, before you guys will come and declare Jihad on me, abeg i no fit fight! the God i know seeks to have a relationship with man, He seeks to know what you're truly thinking and feeling. He's not interested in your recitals, He's interested in who you are and what makes you tick. That's the God i know, and that's why i won't buy the story of true worship.

Ehm! what civilization did Mohmammed bring o? i don't think Islam understands the concept of love at all, please, don't come and give us doctrine here. Mohammed is not here, but his followers are! why can't they practise what he was about or believed? they can't because it wasn't who he was. "The fruit never falls far from the tree."

Ignorance gone on rampage! where in the Bible was a bleeding statue mentioned among the signs of the end time? we know those that read their bibles, or even own one!

Dude, you need to go and get a bible and study it. Jesus' blood has been shed once and for all, and it's abnormal for a statue to bleed--that's demonic!!!! we should pray for all that believe this nonsense.

What a pity; that was one relationship she should never have gone into, in the first place. Sadly, it's the children that get affected, who knows, in this case, they might have just done them and their kid(s) a favor!

Lauryn
All i can add to this is : don't let your emotions get the best of you. When it comes to issues of the heart, take it one step at a time. Look, well well, before you leap--so you don't fall and realise what you thought was real, was a mirage. When your heart starts racing madly, pause and commune with your head. While you wait for the right guy, work on making yourself a better woman--add value to yourself. Work on the areas of your life you want to be proud of. Have a goal for yourself as a woman, not just a student/ worker/ whatever, but as a woman a man can be proud of, and work on building a solid relationship with God. I tell you, as you're doing all this, the right guy(s) will be drawn to you, and you'll be wise enough to know who to settle for. In the mean time, be strong, you can handle!