Richpet85: Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.
My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.
Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.
She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.
My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.
I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.
I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.
I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.
Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.
I need a mature advice and no insult please.
I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.
Check your down below to know if anything is dangling. Once you confirm it, you need to talk to her and be serious.
GIdiata: I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
The big question is .. [s]WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?
COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?[/s]
IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?
WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?
Selfish, wicked and manipulative gender. It's obvious the innocent man doesn't know what's coming for him. SMH I pity him If he doesn't stop calling you and jakpa. Cos I'm 100% sure u will cut his penis(automatic vasectomy) if u guys end up together
Women are wicked and manipulative. Know this and know peace
When u brought the option of vasectomy he didn't feel all alone. He recommends family planning on you, you are feeling all alone. What a selfish creature u are
Prettiepearlz: In my opinion, this is how marital problems start oooo. That man did not agree wholeheartedly with your one child policy, he reluctantly agreed after much conviction from you and no one knows how much energy you put into convincing him to agree to your one child rule. Personally, I am not a fan of plenty kids in this our not so friendly economy however it has to be an agreement that from both parties willingly and not reluctantly. That being said, the NO clearly means NO and it is an indication that they guy is not on board with your plans and probably plans to sort himself out in the future perhaps it could ego or ignorance about the vasectomy procedure. Besides you are the one who wants one child, the responsibility is on you to prevent yourself from having another. He clearly doesn't agree with your suggestions and you know it. Let him go and you can find someone who agrees with what you want. If you eventually coerce him into doing your bidding, he will resent you later on in your marriage and trust me you don't want to live with that. Find someone else who agrees with you and your wants and please let him also get someone else to give him the number of kids he wants. You two are clearly not on the same page. Finally your reasons for not wanting to be the one to do the child control is very selfish. You come off selfish with your assertions. I wish you both the best in your endeavours.
MufasaLion: Vasectomy needs more awareness. Most men don't understand how it is and most people don't even know it exist. You just gotta talk to him and explain things to him. Most people believes family planning is only done to the females.
Moreover, ego is among the reasons he kicks against vasectomy. An average African man wouldn't want to live his life knowing his semen is useless.
If you were the man would you agree to that yeye demand?
Have only one child for the rest of your life and get sterilised thereafter. All for what? To what end?
Will op agree to female circumcision?
Isn't use of condom enough? Why involve a process that could even be life threatening in this part of the world?
DjBigMoni: Thank God for safe delivery, even though it was CS everything went successful.
So my mum came around for Omugwo first and ever since my wife had been having issues with her. it got to the extent my wife pulled a knife on my mum and I, she even fought my mum before she left.
So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and I have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. But I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.
What gave your wife the moral abi liver to threaten your mum including you with a knife?
She lacks zero respect for you. She's the husband and you are the wife.
kingphilip: Gather here with likes if you know just like me, you'd do worse than the op
It's not even the point. We should be careful this season. I dobt I would have stayed there whether or not I know the song.
Days are evil. People especially in the north should be careful of night outing whether tarry night or new year eve. Because I still remember a story where gunmen opened fire on those coming back from vigil unannounced and massacred them.
AAA593: After long consultantion among the zones ASUU has hereby declared an indefinite strike Nationwide Till all demands are fulfilled, this Time ASUU made it clear that no amount of pressure will resist them from resuming untill all the demands Are fulfilled ���
Official details coming soon.....
If you don't have official details or link, why post this spurious news.
If hand touch you now, you will begin to shout "Ah!!!".
Dozie32: Always happening in the North, so happy about that. Make una kill una selves finish.
Your statement is insensitive. You forget you have relatives and friends travelling to those regions and aside that, they are spreading their tentacles and might soon get to you.
Zandena: You are a disgrace to humanity! The operative arrested could be your brother or an acquaintance or even an IPOB sympathizer! This abduction is an act of IPOB Terrorists. I sympathize with the DSS and pray the Almighty God to bring him back home to his family unhurt and hearty!
It might not be ipob. It should be those northern bandits abi terrorists.
Gone are the days one would just board a bus and sleep off during the travel. Now you could doze off and find yourself in the forest.
Land is not safe, air travel is equally not safe. Which way Naija? Yet we have the most travelled President as head of state. Is he not seeing the progress in other countries, if those countries he is visiting were like his own, would he wish to travel?
AnambraHeraldTV: James Brown Gets Involved in a Fight Between Bobrisky and Tonto Dikeh Says Bobrisky is spoiling cross-dressers name.
Tonto Dikeh had earlier today expressed regrets at being friends with Bobrisky, referring to the crossdresser as an ungrateful hoodlum.
She addressed Bobrisky’s claim that she owes him N5 million According to Tonto, the money Bobrisky loaned her was N2 million and that it was when she was in Dubai that she asked him to send it to her family to sort out some things.
Cross-dresser, James Brown claims that Bobrisky’s action has a negative effect on all cross-dressers as people now see them as “backstabbers.”
He stated this while adding that there is a need to stop the fighting between the duo.
Describing Bobrisky as a “God of war/ daughter of war”, he also asked if the cross-dresser must fight with everyone.
Claiming that most of the things said about Bobrisky is true, James further stated that he needs deliverance.
He also asked people to stop tagging him to Bobrisky’s fights as all he wants is love, happiness and protection.
gypsey: He said they soldiers were at risk as they don't know they guy, is that it? I don't agree with him, my problem is you said his turn will come. So when will the killings stop? After his turn?
Evil will continue unless we all speak against it. Those that support evil, evil befalls them. It's karma.
ChiefSosa: Madam ahnie, so you mean if a girl creates a thread here, where she says she had sex with a guy, then the next day, the guy called her and told her to stop talking to him, that she should forget any intimacy they had and that he has a serious girlfriend. Would you say everything you just said above? Let's even assume the said girl is your close friend or relative!
Family › Re: My Wife Behaviour Towards My Family Members/Siblings Is Driving Me Crazy by deltateam: 5:11pm On Dec 19, 2021
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contradictions or what?