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UnproudLife:
So it happened that at this certain time, I was running a lucrative business that had so much cashflow., to the tune of about 2-4m monthly and I married my long-time girlfriend whom I disvirgined and had been dating for 7 years.

The moment we married and started the family journey, I tried making conversations about having a core family standard that would make harmony stand the test of time. Note that I am a man who is disciplined and goal-oriented. So first I approached my wife with a conversation on how to both make meaningful contributions in getting the family from point A to B at all times, to be more detailed, one of the conversations we had was about our finances because I also mentored her in the same business and she was raking in cash as well and was profitable.

I asked her that we make it a habit of both of us making contributions, having a certain joint account where we drop in cash from a certain amount we make sure we get paid monthly from our businesses. This was because while I was a reasonable spender who knows that if I go broke nobody got my back in the whole wide world. I'm the kinda person who when I spend, let's say for example, 200k just knows I'm worth times 30 of that but even with that I didn't have a concrete structure in business, I just spend money or do things as though my business was an extension of me, which the same was my wife's as well. And this was the reason I wanted us to make the conversation and also do things together. So I told her when we get paid monthly from our businesses we send a certain percentage of it to a joint account to run the family and if I was doing let's say 70k she should do like 30k because, with all honesty, I valued her business at if not half of mine or slightly above it was close at the time. And this was immediately we got married oh.

I was met with strong refusal, as she told me I married her and it was my duty to cater for everything, but as a patient person that I am in not making my judgement rashly I kept trying to convince her. I did till when it dawned on me that we was stern with her objection. And then this created in me a sense of deep selfishness from my wife and also note that I wasn't ever nosey about her income and even though I had a way to access her accounts to monitor Everything I wasn't interested and I was being the sole provider in the family while I watched my wife spend her money how she liked, making decisions that should involve me with her sister and calling some things to surprise me, and I don't mean it negatively.

It happened that i started a project in building a house 3years before we married which I'd credit to her sisters's advice and by the time we married we were already done with the roofing, remaining plastering and the rest. We were living at a very moderate house in town but had this project at a suburb in lagos which we all know that as a lagosian is still Lagos but only that the area would be less expensive. So at a time we were planning moving to a better apartment in town when her sister and her friend advised we pour money in completing our own place to move in. After much convincing I agreed and God blessed the most during this period in business so I had a dream house kind of finishing to the interior and we moved in.

During this time we were managing living at our business place because I was still accommodating her in my business space and we lived there and went home ones or twice in 2 weeks as it was easier with my driving. We then had a certain disagreement that made my wife without my agreement move her business and everything to that house and the area sighting her sister advicing it be done. I winked at it for peace to reign and because I wasn't a fool. Sorry without having to correct what I typed up there, this was the real account of what happened. When we had our first child she moved directly there and I went home weekends while running both businesses with me just directing her staffs and guiding them with discipline. We all know when you leave business for strangers it's OYO but all that doesn't mean I was also having access to her money, the money went to her while I managed the business.

This also was playing out while we dated and got married in how she never likes making any expenditure in even the cost of executing her jobs, and she would rather blackmail which I don't buy and because at those times I stick to mindset in business she'd rebel and take rash decision that would later backfire. So that was how she came one day and moved her everything to the area where we built saying her sister advised it.

I was a faithful man, a born again personality who ever since I gave my life to Christ about 5years to our marriage I stopped having fornication even with her or anyone and till that point in the marriage. So as she had moved, ye little things I knew in her business started diminishing while I was running the family financially. But this lady was always making me feel less than a man because she was so so not submissive even though I married her with the us being both core Christians and born again where she was even more fired up than me so we all knew submissiveness was the watchword but she wouldn't sub to it at this point and when I was home she'd make life miserable for me shouting in an area that the voice travels far, insult my life telling me that she regretted marrying me because I was a person who just wouldn't budge and I used to say I don't "think" as in the thinking that leads to depression and I guess this was why she wasn't having it. I always found ways to channel my thoughts to things positive that gets me going and even forgiving her on time while she sometimes take days to stop keeping malice.

This lady graduated to the aspect of telling me she stooped so low marrying me and I could go out and meet other ladies that she wouldn't even give a damn, and this went on for a long time. Without exaggeration, I myself was someone that in her words she feel for initially because of my looks although I was 5"7 and she like 5"6 in height which isn't that short for a man. I knew how young in thought and look I was when I start taking care of myself and dressing nice again and without a doubt an handsome man, so it got to a point I said to myself I've had enough. At this time I was already lusting at my spec in ladies out there in which I married her like but she refused to remain at. I brushed off and even while being in my early 30s I had several ladies saying I looked 23-26 in age and I started meeting ladies and having affairs with multiple through platforms and it was mind-blowing to me because they were telling me I looked better in person even though the profile pictures I had were compelling themselves. So I had several young ladies wishing we were dating for real but u didn't want that and wouldn't lie to get them laid with promises but the only lie I told was that I wasn't married neither with kids which some weren't even suspecting not to talk of asking such. But something was just not clicking with the way guys if this age behave when I relate with them and this is when we have more deeper relations and then they start sensing the nature of responsibility which makes them ask if I was married.

So at this point I said to myself, I was separated from my wife and I told her in several occasions because I wasn't going home as often as before she noticed all the changes in my looks but cared less. I was so far gone in having other ladies that I didn't even know what could ever make me wanna get back with her again. But in all these I was still a man who doesn't believe in divorce, which is what I always tell her made her misbehave. Then lemme note this. I was so far gone playing churchy Al these years I never knew the age had turned around and ladies were now so much for sale, I could remember hearing the word hookup for the first time 2 years ago when I had started contemplating cheating and I turned so many girls down on those platforms when I understood what hookup meant. I mostly kept them friends online for whining and all and I went off without meeting anyone until last year, that same last year by almost the middle of the year I had my first encounter with a lady who was almost begging I had s*X with her right in my car as the car was tinted at the back, and this was while being friends. I refused and explained I had never done it before. But a month later I started getting in the act until miraculously this year at mid year I had been longing for a change in lifestyle when I got the gift of repentance right in church and I just at this moment didn't care what my wife had ever done to me, I just forgave her in my heart, asked for forgiveness from God. Then it has been happening lately by then that she had been begging me and her sister was saying she in the person of my wife was already fed up and wanted to beg back in good terms with me but you know basking in the love of flesh I wasn't into it and knowing she was the kind that goes back to her vomit. But at this point I determined to make her come where I was and then we reconcile. But shortly after I did restitution with her and told her all I had done and what she made be go into but to my surprise she was so disappointed crying and telling me all sorts which was surprising to me because I expected this woman should have already seen the writing on the wall because I don't know how to pretend at all but she said she never suspected that she knew I was a Christian. Although I played a clean game but was was obvious was the fact that I changed in looks and all and shouldn't that be glaring. And now she only sober occasionally when the thoughts kicks in

My main problem now is that, while my first child is a copy of me, I started seeing the looks of my sister in law's last born in my last kid, which my mum has vaguely noted and I seconded. We can't even nurture the thought as we just said it. But personally each day I now stay with the kid I keep looking the semblance and thinking what if my bro in law which is my sister in law's hobby fathered this child. You see that would have out the child conception at about 3 months before I ever started having affairs outside marriage. I just wish to know what you guys think because I haven't even been able to ask any question relating to that as my wife just seem to off to ever fall into such.

Please ignore any typo as it was long and I'm trying to get by with a new course and it'll be hard to go through what I've written again. Pardon me

I've to back out, brief next time please.

pstemma1990:
I dey Abuja sir

Relocate nah

inoki247:
Lol the demolition man don even go silent lately be like say the Judgement tie him hand he don stop to dey du demolition.....

NNPP should forget about Kano, because APC can't play with Kano vote coming 2027.

Judejibs:
You go use am las las. 9.3m for camry 013. Weldone

we dey observe.

officialwdhtv:
Nigerian lady cries out over being unmarried at 39 and battling a spirit husband.

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ggz7q0lZNg

She didn't need husband, just she can't cope with her personal bills.

illicit:
E no go better for Emefiele


✌️

He do Nigerians strong thing.

Family matter/issues this days plenty, I just dey observe either to join the league or not.

slimjohn2k5:
15k monthly?
For children, not child?
In this economy?
You are the problem in the marriage not ur wife.
You either increase the money or hustle more

He should hustle more and kill himself because he has children abi. If that he can afford let the woman contribute also.

This one never ready

Okay

YouandiAllofus:
The main fact that tinubu's criminal documents exist with the CIA, FBI, and IRS is enough to tell us the true character undercover in the person of the president.
I challenge the US and her agencies including the CIA, FBI, and IRS to release every documents of me in their possession.
I have just said this, I challenge tinubu to say thesame if he was truly clean

Who are you, you're unknown in your village.

Saviourplease:
I am not beefing him. He tried. Just that i was planning on leaving in January.

. Planning to leaving by January, Baba if your host didn't asked you to give him space, you wouldn't vacate by 2025. You're too comfortable in someone apartment.

kozmokaz:
the SS# certain fola A tinubu with another Bola "tinlibu" (this is tricky I must say )



oluremi tinubu actually is the spouse of the person who bears the above social security

Is like you've scores to settle with president

frankpro27:
SE nd XLE combo. Interior is SE, exterior Front SE back XLE

No b everything you go dey talk for social media.......we know but we dey observe.

This's not 2000 model pencil light end in 1999.

Morphinne:
Most of the comments here are sickening. Why should his girlfriend take over the properties he left behind? Were they legally married?
So she should take over everything only to start getting serviced by another boy in the next couple of weeks, abi?
Let’s leave sentiments out of things at times and judge critically, Mohbad was only 27, it’s very wrong for a baby mama (I’m assuming they were never married) to take everything he worked for just because she had a child with him-common, the poor boy had families; a father and mother.

Thank bro, most of those comments you're seeing are coming from gold digger olosho.

PrinceOfLagos:
Lazy people . Where were they when the boy was struggling to blow in the music industry?

They've killed him so that they can collect his properties from his wife .

So, it his wife that blowed him.

MAKAPOLY:
Less than two weeks in office and the first step this man could think of is demolition. What sort of crass mindset is that?

Abuja Development Control has been demolishing unapproved building before wike became minister. They monitor design and approval also make sure no one build on water way and others. So wike may not even carrier along on this.

shogotermies:
I just wanted to ask this short quick question.
What do you think of Christians who goes to work or open their shops on Sunday?

My personal opinions are;
Except you’re a 7th Day Adventist Christian, a university student (probably needing to attend a tutorial) and a government worker e.g Health workers and Security outfits.
I believe God made Sunday for rest and he commanded it.

What is your own opinion?
And if I’m wrong, tell me why with scriptural references. Thanks in advance

A pastor friend of my, relocated to Canada last year, my guy hasn't step his foot at church since last year. Work work work even on Sunday. Nigeria situation make you believed without attending church you can't make progress.

Natbrowny:
Oh my God. Nassarawa stil dey exist for naija.

States like this never make headlines for anything.

Now dem manage enter news. Na d KING dem move. Chai..

That shows you're far from 9ja Capital.

Roger3D:
You see the kind of people Tinubu is choosing to work with? Why didn't the DSS point this out to the government during the securitx screening process?

Show me one person that's corrupt free in Nigeria.

Even you may worst more than Sani Danladi.

BoldBrainz:
You use your number to apply for the loan and that's where you receive the OTP.

Then you're asked to provide two security numbers, just so the loan company can know who to reach in case you default or they're unable to reach you directly.

Na the security numbers na im Nigerians dey carry Nigerian Police numbers put inside so..

No issues....they asked for security number, and security number was giving.

citygarden:
Nobody to represent lagos? Lagos people are not shouting marginalization

This; s first batch list.

garfield1:
Second batch

Tell them

DSS1335:

It's a pity that some people are a walking-time doom.
During my NYSC orientation years at Nonwa-gbam in Tai LGA in 2010, I find it difficult to understand why such a government organization can not carry out a simple routine blood pressure check up at the point of registration to ascertain suitability of youths for camp activities. Many today have the wrong impression that Hypertension is only prevalent and limited amongst the older people. Research have shown that a growing number of adults in their early 30's have same burden of chronic disease which are often asymptomatic



You won't believe that this guy is bubbling lively without obvious signs and symptoms of any health issue. He is 36 years old!

What's 36 years old doing in nysc camp?

Zulum:
I am always thinking of that, infact I have divorced her once before our parents interfere and brought her back....u know as Muslims you are entitled to three divorce...so remain two now

But my fear is my 3yrs old son....fear of missing him

Do the needful.....if she kill you, your 3yrs old will enjoy his life without you.

If you're proposed to take good care of your son, then take good care of yourself for you to satisfy your son.

pstemma1990:
Good afternoon to u all, pls my fellow Nairalanders I seriously need a job...

I can cook very well and I can as well drive very well..

Apart from these 2 things, anything else that u can offer me that will put food on my table I'm willing to do it...

My current location is Nasarawa state... Thanks and God bless.

Your location in Nasarawa State?

Kiddinpoh:
If him like, make him appoint Obama, he'd return that mandate

You can't decide for Mr president...he will appoint him and heaven will not fall.

dahmie2013:
OP, seems you have hit rock bottom. Why not go to God in prayers? People seem to underestimate God with cases like this.
If you are a Christian, I'll advise you get this book by Bishop David Oyedepo, Conquering Controlling Powers. It will give you insight into the root cause of the problem.
Suicide isn't an option.

You wan finished the guy patapata with those army robbers.

GanagiBitrus:
You can only give what you have.
If she is happy donating her allowance & staying hungry, so be it. Unless she complained that she is being extorted by pastors. The important thing is her happiness.

Did you sense any happiness in her, with what his son wrote there? From experience that's what most pastors are.

taylor89:
How many people can even afford to fuel cars this period

Tinubu is the most useless president the entire world will ever witness

Una go blindly vote in Zacchaeus the tax collector as a president

Thank God Port Harcourt never voted to Tinubu

Even Tinubu himself know say we no vote for him

So he should keep thanking Wike bcuz Wike did what no Yoruba man alive or dead can do for Tinubu

Wike is greater than Awolowo

No respect for Mr. President? Is that how you talk to your family head?

dre11:
Osun Police arrest teenager, two others for robbing victim met on WhatsApp




https://dailypost.ng/2023/07/13/osun-police-arrest-teenager-two-others-for-robbing-victim-met-on-whatsapp/

The man sha..... Lagos to Osun because of 17year old girl? With #550 per liter. It's well.