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horny4u:
Obviously he like to keep you away from other men but doesnot want to marry you.
I will give him a 3 months ultimatum and change my facebook profile to single and begin to change my profile pic everyday. When a man wants you he is more desperate than mario and I think this guy wants you but knows you are not going anywhere. Give him some hassle and don't back down until you sign those dotted lines he has commitment phobia.

VERY BAD IDEA

She's a ho and very dishonorable. Now I understand she's your friend and you have done all you can to dissuade her. However I would advice to watch out what kind of friends you keep.

No it isn't abnormal. Yeah you probably haven't experienced that before but I have couple of times. There are times when you screw some girls to the point they start crying. The first time it happened to me, I got scared really badly that I stopped and started panicking that there was something wrong, or she was dying or something.
It was later that I realised that when you screw her to a point, she cries when she can't hold it anymore.

Another situation I have experienced is a lady crying cos she is feeling guilty. But you said you have been dating this girl for a year, so I don't believe that isn't the case. Except if she is a religious nut that keeps having sex and crying about it later cos she just sinned etc.

Consider it that you are doing a good job is my opinion.

if its been a year she's like that, consider it tears of joy.

different reactions from diff girls. if she says its normal, take her word for it. Take your time to monitor it.

define single

Just find, date and marry the right person. It does not matter if the person is older, younger, fatter, thinner or anything of the kind.

Post pictures of yourself, covering every angle.
Write an essay about yourself, and let us know why anyone should consider you in the first place. You say you are a virgin, is that your only trait?


Your post tells us why your parents consider you a kid still. You act like one. Do you honestly think marriage makes your mature, or will garner more respect for you? Do you think you have what it takes to maintain a relationship not to talk of marriage? You are much better losing your virginity to nobody than be stuck in a crappy marriage?
What can you contribute to a marriage? You are 19, are you done high sch / secondary sch? Do you have a post secondary or do you plan working at Tim Hortons for the rest of your life?

OP either does not make sense or is ignorant. As long as she doesn't change the name of the business, everything is cool.

serves u right

people never learn

My dear, that's life and love. Sometimes you win, other times you lose badly. No need for the curse, if everyone starts cursing for losing a relationship, I wonder what will happen. Not that your curse will have any effect anyways.

You have to learn to move on and love again. You got no choice. But learn this, because you do everything for a man, take care of his needs etc does not mean he would marry you. Neither does the fact that a guy spends on you mean you have to marry him. It all depends on who both of you really want.

Take heart.

In life, its not everyone you have feelings of love for that will reciprocate it. You have to learn to move on to other people who you can love and will reciprocate your feelings.
Move on, she is not into you.

Its been known to happen where one partner is HIV positive and the other negative even after unprotected sex over a long period. There are no conclusive or scientific reasons why it happens like that but some are believed to be immune to the disease.

Yeah thats mean. If you did all you could do while dating him, then leave the rest to God and karma.

There is also the flip side that when you were dating, you felt he had no where to go, or he couldnt do better than you etc. A lot of western based naija girls act that way and dont value the guys. Sometimes they treat their guys like trash and disrespect them a lot. Meanwhile there are women round the world that see the guy as a diamond. You mentioned things had been rough for some time. Maybe it got too rough that he couldn't handle it anymore and he wanted a way out while humiliating you at the same time.

Even if that was the case, he should have broken it off with you before starting a new relationship. Don't worry, your own guy is round the corner.

its her choice to marry or not. nothing you or her parents can really do.

SA Goddess:
LOL, I guess you have quite a variety to choose from, given your location. . . . . .

Not many big yanshes around me

Most abortions are done using the abortion pill, which is as good as taking a late plan B pill. The surgical option only happens if that doesn't work or isn't available. If she had a surgical abortion, why don't you take her to a doctor and see if she is ok.
Don't you forget you guys had high emotions one night and had sex. Will you think differently if that sexual act had resulted in a pregnancy? Since you were not ready to marry her in the second yr you were dating, wouldn't you have considered an abortion? Or will you prefer her to raise the baby by herself, since you won't be marrying her, while you are free to move on without any attachment? Don't act like an hypocrite.

What's the big deal? Does having an abortion make her less a woman? You knew she dated someone b4 you and that's all that matters. In relationships, these things happen, but you don't expect the lady to go telling you everything single detail esp if you react like this.

it means mama gee has come again

who cares?

size of her yansh

^^^^^^^^^^^^ this one pass shrew? you think say this lady na mumu wey no know difference btw sun and moon?

A leopard will not change its spots. Your fiance will not change, she is who she is. You are not over your ex.
Call off your engagement with your fiancee since she will never be your no 1. Then go for your ex.

Remember tho, its been a while since you dated your ex. A lot of water (and diks) will have passed under that bridge.

seunlayi:
hmmm, so there is nothing like "unlimited access" in love?

no but there is unlimited trouble

ask her to choose btw u and her entire family and friends

DNA fire!!! I will not even get to the point of doing a DNA

I can't tell you if she is a good girl, good wife material or not. Not enough info about her in your post.
However, what I can tell you is the fact that she doesn't like you as much as you like her.

She was right the first time on the txt. It is annoying to disturb people's sleep cos you are too cheap to call during the day. For you to barrage someone with calls, be sure the person is ok with it, and expecting it or looking forward to it. And yes, she is right, girls lose respect for you over it esp if you are not already dating.

Yes she is after you now cos your prospects have improved. You are a meal ticket to a better life or just a more attractive suitor. Will she be a for better or worse gf/fiancee/wife I can't say.

If it is true your prospects have improved, why don't you look for people you can start with on a fresh note. Cos you will always question her true motives if you date her. Goodluck buddy, and dont be too cheap again.

Jerri:
I sincerely thank you for this response, that was my same thought when he told me, I wish he told me on phone before I went home, I guess things will have been a lot different. But truth be told, I appreciate him for coming out to tell me. My sister was mad @ him for saying anything at all. 2007 was the first time they met after we all left to different locations in 1996. She met him at a wedding, walked up to him, they exchanged #s and it so happened that they made out one nite few days after their meeting. Last year was the first time they met after the incidence,

They only made out . I don't believe that. With all the fuss your sister is making, and your guy feeling the need to mention a relationship with your sister, I think there are half truths. Either way, it doesnt even matter.

Your gf is the person you need to convince. Let the rest to her after that.


whats up with the like button on this website

I disagree with a lot of opinions in here. Your story does not indicate in anyway that the dude does not love you. Yes he had some kind of brief relationship with your sister and as a result your sis doesn't approve of your relationship. But that isn't a big deal. Your sister is married, and is living her life. This is your own life, yours to live and enjoy. If you love this guy and he loves you, go ahead with it. Forget your sister's misgivings. She did not seek your approval to date her husband or to marry him. She made her choice and supposedly forsook all others, including your current.

You should be matured enough to handle a relationship by now. You should know that there should be some seperation btw your relationship and your family. You should tell your sister to mind her business and her marriage. It is your life. You will be the one to live with whoever you choose not your family. You will also be the one to suffer loneliness or pain if you made the wrong choice.

So my dear, choose based on whether the guy is the one for you, not what your family feels or who has slept with who. We all have pasts. Thats why its called a past. Focus on the present and the future.