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It's a turn on sometimes when a lady is angry. Sometimes it has to do with the fact you will not be getting 'any' when she is angry and as humans you want what you can't have.

A lot of civilized mature people (sometimes those who r fed up of drama from previous relationships) usually settle their quarrells / disagreements amicably. However, no matter what, you are bound to show your anger at one time or the other or just have a rare minor crazy fight. Else there is just no emotional investment into the relationship. If your relationship is not in the honeymoon stages, then it's just a relationship based on certain needs. Don't fool yourself abt the love portion.

It's none of my business. I will advise the friend to stop. The sad part is as much as I don't want to be involved in anyway (I don't condone cheating), I will still cover up for him if need be. I will hate doing it but I will. Just cos my allegiance is to the friend.

What a waste of my precious time!

eddy1977:
the last thing you need at 29 is to hook up with a broke fat uneducated unemployed baffoon who cant even cook.

smart move, the second time around . Partly mugu the first tho. You know how it is, if you refused her the money the first time, she will say you are cheap and you aren't getting any. I'm assuming you still have a strong case for hving sex with her.

Next time she comes to you to pay like that, give her two choices:
1. Ask "are we hving sex tonite or are u paying yourself?" ( works for restaurant dates too).
2. Ask her to pay herself but let her know you will refund her if you hv sex with her . That way it is a win win situation.

@ poster
you should know your kind gf by now. If you didn't know she is the blunt type, you hv your answer. Don't let it bother u too much, its a wake up call for your lack of performance in sexual matters. My first sexual relationship was with a girl that had been around the block and we were quite honest with each other on performance. At that time, I did not measure up. She even told me about one  chucks guy that made her shake her crazy! That was a good turning point in my relationhip with women in matters of sex. I did my own personal research (aka google and experiments) on how to satisfy a woman in bed. The things I learnt, I put into practice till I was the one who took the girl to places she had never been too. She even became boring and inadequate to me eventually. Today, I can easily beat my chest and say no man can do it better than I can, and that I can take any woman to the promised land! It's good for my current relationship, and I don't fear my lady will go looking for sex anywhere else due to my lack of good performance in that area.
So bros, the ball is in your court on how you want to react to your gf's blunt and hurtful remarks. You can decide to wallow in your lack of confidence or you can take it as a challenge and make yourself a sex god.

How poster know say na exactly 9 mouths suck am? The girl must like guys going downtown lots.

@poster
Do you know if any other human parts (esp 3rd legs) did anything to her?

How poster take know say na exactly 9 mouths suck am? Does he know if any other human parts did anything too? That girl must like guys going downtown lots!

Ujujoan:
*roooooooolz eyez*

karl ken:
akuko Mike Ejeagha! .(Cock n bull story)

LMAO

@poster
I am so tempted to tell you to go to your paster and let him help you decide. Hopefully you tell him all the details you are telling us right now. Seriously did you need your pastor to tell you to avoid that lady? Just reading your post, one can deduce a lot of things about the girl that a smart person may not even want to consider marriage abt. But then, you yourself, u get wahala urself so maybe you are quite compatible. I think her relationship with your brother is the least of your worries now. Go find better girl.

sandrapaul:
Thank you all for all your contributions. But there is a new development now, my boyfriend asked her to terminate the pregnancy, which i guessed she did and according to him, he has broken up with her, but he is still coming back to me with full force. I am actually confused because i dont know the repacaution of all these in the future.

It doesn't matter if the pregnancy is termitted or if he kills that friend of yours. That guy is just not worth it. If it had been a stranger or a one night stand, it might hv been taken lightly ( tho with the same consequences). But a friend ( and I assume you are close to)? you introduced him to Geez! What will happen if you decide to take him to a family meeting? I take it your cousins and sisters and other extended family will be fair game. Or to your place of work? your female colleagues will share him with you? How will you like to know that someday in the future, he will not just come home with a 13yr old boy and say that is my son. As a guy that has been in his shoes, I will tell you, he can not change (not with you anyways). Move on, you can do better.

@poster
Forgive them both but move on. There is nothing but pain and disappointment left in that relationship if you choose to go ahead with it. He might be repentant right now but nothing says he is not going to do it again (most likely with the same girl or with others). Forget him.

@Ujujoan and others (esp Onchedu)
I don't care who seduces who or what 'accident' happens. If you are man enough to impregnant a woman (if she decides to have the child), you should be man enough to live up to your responsibilities as a father to that child. No excuses!

jarkbauer:
i wont smile at a woman who neglects the care of my children or disrespect my mother or even refuses my bleeping advances .i would beat the hell out of her

Na wao. That is some loving relationship

adamse:
dosent stil give you a right to raise your hands at them.that is so unmanly.only an animal will do that

so wetin the guy suppose do? Abi u no see say the woman violent? Me I will run from her but maybe adamse might hv a better option (and there better be no double standards there)

cold, all the same u no suppose beat ur woman. Relationship no be by force.

The first thing you should do is write grammar that is nicer to the eyes

Back to your story, guy you sabi collect nos o . Your story get as e bi. I don't know what to tell you to do that u r not already doing.

googles:


pele o mr hope

googles you should be worried too. We are both in it. What if Odunnu doesn't perform. That will mean more work for you. After all I am just trying to help you both

cold:
This argument is lopsided,has anyone eva met witha violent woman,has a woman eva poured dangerous liquids on your prized suits,slashed your shoes,or smashed the windscreen of your 2008 Infiniti SL4WD? Or even stood in the door way whilst u were running late for work not minding if u get sacked & insisting u xplain certain issues inspite of incessant pleas to exercise a lil patience & wait for your returrn? Oh puliz,som women just bring out the beast in a man.

I'm taking it all this happened to you   

ogzille:
@Odunnu, I know your type, na mouth be your power, when stuff sets, na u go run with your slipper in your hand.

You this ogzille sef, you just spoil my fantasies on the impending 3som with Odunnu and googles. Now I'm feeling with all her aggression she will tire too soon. Sha I just hope googles is ready to pick up the slack. tsk tsk

ITGurlie
I will just say face your current relationship and ignore the other guy. You already said you don't see him the way he sees you or a long term relationship with him. In life we always wonder what could hv been. What makes you think if you date the second guy, one yr into the relationship he will still treat you right. Now he is still trying to get you and convince you. That's when we men are at our best.

You can just do like an average guy. Except it is totally bad, why bother moving on to another woman when you know you will hv to go thru the same sh*t all over with the next one.

Work out whatever issues you have with your current guy. If you move on to the next 'mr right' and you have issues again ( esp with ur compatibility issues) wetin go happen?

It depends on your moral stance on abortion. Pro-life or Pro-choice. Either ways, think long and hard b4 u do it

It has to do with your upbringing in most cases. For some it's the little insecure man in them that needs to have control and dominate the woman. Society does not help when you see a female senator been beaten in the NASS and nothing is done about it.

As for me, I can not raise my hand against my woman. But I am not your usual 'I will never raise my hand against a woman' kinda guy. For all other women. I have one and only one rule. Do not raise your hand on me. Cos you will never know what hit you. I will give it to you back in full plus interest for good measure.

As for my woman hitting me, she is allowed only on one occassion only. I sleep with her sister. Otherwise I'm moving out of the house.

Note: I do not advocate violence

funkybaby:
you've just confirmed what i thought when i first saw this thread.

ori e o pe rara !

carry your two inches pric.k elsewhere.
na your kind frog we dey find?

ode oshi !

LWKMD Make una stop to dey make me laugh o b4 my oga fire me for work.

@poster
just following your post and comments here explains it all. No wonder the yoruba families hide their daughters from you. They hv assessed you an irre (irresponsible). Lol. Take it easy on the attitude, it won't get you anywhere. But you know  funkybaby has a point. The yorubas say if a person must chop frog, he will eat one with eggs.

MRbrownJAY:
i would drop her like she's hot faster than a bad rash!!
her mentality is fukced up and can never be fixed. . . . . .lets say she stops whoring now that i am financially secure, if we ever get into hard times, she will go and sell herself to the highest bidder to keep the lifestyle that she is so accustomed to.
imagine the stress of knowing that you always have to be on top (financially) because the day you aint, the w h o r e that you tried to turn into a wifey will have to hang her wifey costume and be herself again.

That's right. I will appreciate the effort and let her go easy. Either ways she is gone for good. I don't share what is mine with the dogs, even the rich ones. No compromise.

Poster I think you have it all wrong. You should be concentrating in church and not studying the poor girl's body language and responses. No wonder the church is something else today!

No

Okay

lareine:
ok crucify her all you want but which of us haven't been guilty of lying? Let me see your hand up.

Believe it or not, I don't tell lies. Have I told a lie b4? Of course, thousands - I used to be an expert liar . But I don't tell lies anymore. To me, it's an act of cowardice. Have I ever told my lady a lie? Nope, and it's been a yr and a half. Lying is a choice and a relationship based on lies will not last. But I won't crucify her for lying. It's totally up to the guy to accept her with her lies or not.

She is fair game.

This has nothing to do with connnection or shyness. Don't quit it yet, instead let him do the chasing. Stop going to his house as much as u do ( for the time being anyways) and let him do some more chasing. His problem is he doesn't know how to treat women yet and probably still has the macho mentality that he can toy with you anyhow and so on. Although you are his gf and I'm never an advocate of 'hard to get' mentality, this is one of those times it will work for you better. Let him do some work, he'll appreciate you more.