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too much pressure!!!

Tell her off in the most annoyed way possible. She won't even think of it next time. wtf

Nope she aint changing!!! Even if she changes, she's misused her second chance _{which she shouldn't hv gotten in the first place}

Even you should know that crazy things happen during service yr! Its not proper and there is no way to know anyone's intentions during the night. So either way you r screwed cos in your mind, you'll never know what really happened that night or anyother nights she's been sleeping 'with' him. Srry buddy, she should be more responsible.

The heart wants what the heart wants! There's nothing you can do abt it. Your friend will have to understand. The real question is do you like the girl yourself? If you do and you want to have anything to do with her, find a way of letting your friend understand first whats going on. If you don't like the girl, case solved. All you have to do is tell her you are not interested.

NO I will not.
Not because she did anything with my friend. Just because she should hv told me while we r dating. No need for going as far as divorce tho.

@poster
you really got some issues you need working out in your relationship personally. To your first post I was going to ask you to tell him how much you love snoop dogg and make him dress and possibly act like snoop dogg all the time, just to underline what it means to make someone you care abt become someone else unintentionally. Funny thing is most people do it one way or the other.
However, with your second post, you confirmed what u accused ur bf of doing to you. I know what you intended was an apology but you also showed a deep self esteem issue there. It is normal for us to do whatever it takes to make your relationship work, at least I know I would. But as I always tell people, don't expect people to love you if you can't love yourself cos no one will. You r scared, if you don't conform yourself to his mental image of what his gf should be, he would go cheat outside. That just means he doesn't like you for who you r. Cos if he does, he would accept you just the way you are. What happens if you get tired of playing someone else later in life, I guess he will go find outside satisfaction.
I understand what you r going thru. You have to redefine yourself to be who you really are( without his influence while doing so). If he doesn't like it, good for you, u get to lose someone who doesn't care abt who u r and then hv time and energy to look for another who will.

It's ok to want to do whatever it takes to make your relationship work, but would u lose ur very soul?

I want, I want, why the sexual discrimination?

stop complaining, u know u r going to do the court wedding as she wants anyways,

dont worry abt it. its just talk

there is always a reason. she just might not feel comfortable enough to tell you

as tough as it might be to accept it, she's right, its her life and she can take any nos that she pleases. Same goes for u poster. However its just disrepectful to do it in front of you. Let her be, don't act so insecure or make issues out of it, it belittles you. Instead know that she can be trusted or hv any number of reasons for her to hv taken the guy's no. Comfort yourself that u r her guy, the one she has chosen already. Shine ya eyes tho and feel free to take nos in her presence too. Might be an eye opener for her. Its cool as long as she can set boundaries. Moreover You had rather be with a lady who has the chance to cheat or leave you and doesn't as against one who stays true to you cos you close mark her. Remember, she is an adult and a lady who wants to cheat will cheat no matter how much u monitor her.

ps , forget abt the whole submissive thing, for now atleast, also learn to trust

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Yes! Yes! Yes!!!!!!!

She has to tell the truth and the earlier the better. She should tell the guy she is dating now ASAP. If the other guys finds out before the present brother knows, it might turn out badly.

ur best friend is right - ur gf is too cheap. Don't forget to get rid of the bestfriend also. They r playing a fast one on u and you don't need them to deny what u saw, Get rid of them fast, People don't change

You've done all you can with ur ex. He is aware of it, its his decision if he wants to be a part of the child's life or not. However, Its your decision to keep the baby or not. At this stage I'll advise you keep the child. No matter what, children are a gift from the Lord. The child will be a blessing to you in the future, and now. If you decide not to keep the child, you can either abort the pregnancy (pls go to a quality care doctor and not some backroom abortionist) or you can give the baby up for adoption ( less likely for a lot of reasons) or in the care of parents or family where available.
Good luck and God bless

Two Hot xtians. I think its time to go pay him a wknd visit.

hahaha, maybe she believes in no sex b4 marriage. My broda, start preparing for a relationship of celibacy,

She's lucky he's experimenting with his wife. He could always go outside for the adventure.

How does a man despoil his wife? What does despoil even mean?

u can't tell and you can't do her. He may not believe you if you tell or think u r the one chasing after her. Doing her is out of the question. so avoid her or tell her off! Either way u r screwed.

Be a man and dump her! she dey do u and another person at the same time and you no fit do anything abt it. That's weak,

Move On.

Doesn't matter his reasons.

Why fight if she is cheating in anyway, not worth it. But if some guy is harrassing her without her consent, then its ok.

That's a tough call for you either way. Most people don't go back to their 'former' loved ones once they get to the western world. The odds r better when there's a specific tie back home like 'married' or possibly 'engaged'. Kip in mind the long distance stress will definitely kick in especially when the bills start reeking in. For the first couple of months things will be ok. Question is what will happen after that?

@kpolli
you very right, dem don disvirgin am!!!

a plenty of fish forum topic. That one na oyinbo.

Of course no parent would want that to happen to their kid. As for me I didn't tell no one. Not out of fear but didn't want it to stop. Geez i saw boobies for the first time on a young 17yr girl.
Tho for the next  6 yrs after that  I became a peeping tom. At least I still turned out good eventually. I'm not into all that shrink stuff. If you need to pay for someone to talk to, grab a few true friends, go out drinking and spill your guts when u r all drunk. Case Closed.

Haha, Yeah when I was abt 8 yrs or so, with the housegirl, One of the best early experiences, Hell I'm not complaining, Couple of yrs ago I wished I still kept info to finish off the innocent job she started then

@ paulira and mutee
This has nothing to do with love. It has more to do with ridiculous demands. In my player days, if I wanted to sleep with a lady badly enough and its the only way to get there, I might hv considered it. Will I feel disgusted? very much so. Will I bleep her to kingdom come? Hell yea. But I'll never hv anything to do with her again. She's a trophy on my wall and that's it. Would you prefer the guy to do it and feel very disgusted in the name of love. What happened to being yourself in a relationship.

@honey247
His mouth odor is no excuse to ask him to chew your remnant mouth particles. If you hv an issue with the mouth odor, make him take care of him b4 u kiss him. You do know most people hv odors in the morning when they wake up, so if you happen to be kissing him, keep it in mind you might hv that too ( who knws).
Hey for all I know, most ladies don't particularly hv the best smells downtown, but we men go down on them and pretend its the best tasting thing ever (hopefully I hvn't shattered any perception). However, we'll do that but NEVER think of chewing whats in your mouth. That's just plain disgusting. Would you lick his vomit off the ground if he asks you?