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My brother told me of the death not long ago. I dont know him too but am familiar with the namme. He gives lectures on Islamic matters. May Allah forgive his sins

^^ I identify with your position. I would have loved to have access to the said QUrán. Scientists should have done some tests to c if it could have been in the womb and c If it had teratogenic properties and the possibility of a fetus holding on to such. the materials it is made of could av been cell particles and the true miracle exposed

olsmade: I tire o. Naija docs are prolly just as good as docs anywhere in d world. Fine, dey make errors of judgement @ tyms, but then, where in d world does dis not happen. Medical litigation, for example, is on d rise in developed countries.

Naija docs write standardized tests (plab, usmle) and more often than not, ace diz tests and do well abroad. Doz dat stay behind work der arses off and get poorly paid for their efforts and to add insult to der injury, der contributions are not being appreciated anymore - sad.

Anyways, @OP, av u found out about the hb in % thingy and how dey come about it. One thing I'm sure of tho z dat, its not used in Naija or US

the problem is with every1 thnkn things av to be done the way they know it.the person who made the first comment should ave said he isnt aware of Hb being presented in percentages and d discussion could av taken a better turn rather than him suggesting i was talking of the hematocrit(Now Imagine that he was treating me for polycythaemia) So, once again, I'd be wary of a nija doc if he was like the majority of the pple who have posted here.

and about my promise of comn bak, I did find out from the lab where I had d test done but guy was too busy to av my time. I'd be able to see him again only after three months from now. But, I took a picture of some table that shows the conversion from mg/dl to percentage. it is attached.

IHNetworks: Deols I recommend you should be sent to compulsory medical school and/or flogged for this.

one of those already, I guess.

good development especially for the islam for muslim

wow! u so speak for me. Bullied through childhood for being so thin. Ironically, working so hard to keep in shape now.

I think a good self esteem does the job for all. whether thin or otherwise.

and to anyone who cares to listen, the pretty girls aint all snobs as said, stop assuming u know what others are thinking

I agree with their positions. At the same time, I believe the incidence is very possible. May Allah guide everyone aright.

Life is never without the downs and your reactions at this time go a long way. May Allah help you out of this situation.(Amin)

At least, u would all have heard and enough witnesses abound to your having known of the true path

Good for her!

At least, u would all have heard and enough witnesses abound to your having known of the true path.

too late

Nene sweery, Islam allows u to put that in ur marriage contract. I have the intention of including a lot in mine sef. Like I would pursue my career to the fullest. I believe many Muslim women are cheated in their marriages because they do not have the proper Islamic knowledge.


May You and me not suffer in the hands of Men. Such a knowledge as this is POWER. thank you for bringing this up o jare.


May I say on a general note that people should learn Islam before discussing it?. I just dislike comments made out of ignorance/supposed wisdom/logic . SOrry, if it sounds offensive, I would have to say it later anyways. It is better to keep quiet than make assertions on what you have no knowledge about. Allah will ask every1 about their statements.

wow! Impressive

Being a politician is very much different from running for the presidency. If he does run, He'd lose all respect I have for him. I dont like people, especially older adults eating their words

App to predict power failure!!! that's more useful to me than any other.

When I met Rashidi Yekini, he told me Sister, Salam alaykum. I didnt even know he was the one. When he left, someone told me, that was Rashidi Yekini. GAwd!!!!!!!

I have been replaying that scene in my head since I heard of his death. may Allah forgive his sins and grant him al jannah(Amin)

That is so so good. At least his new knowledge would help him in dealing better with her. The monetary part is also good, She can do whatever she likes with it.

He must have thought his wife have no say in anything. Others should learn

BahPulo: Nice thread!

@deols well done I see you do your research well. As for men (@leastsome of them )just want to take benefits of 'i am the leader therefore you must do as i said' without the disadvantages that come along. You can't be a leader without some sort of sacrifices. I mean how can you call urself a leader and not care about the well being of ur 'subjects'? you think sitting down while your wife cooks, cleans bathrooms, takes garbage outside, watches the family cloth, and helps kids with their homework is what makes a head of the family? As a human being you should not treat a roommate like this not to talk of your wife whom you are suppose to love and care for according to the rules set by Allah. Any way I have been married for nine years because I married a good muslim man who lead me the right way not by bitting or insult but by patience [/b]I am still here. I mean I hated cooking and anything that deals with house chores I did not do them in my father's house and was not about to start in my husband's. Patience and love for a selfless man and the children changed me. I take pride in setting food on the table now, same with arraging cloth after a day in the laundry, or clean the house(except the bathroom no way I hate cleaning that thing no way ). [b]he lead by example and I followed his good ways. You can't win a thing by force. So muslim sisters look for that man who will tolerate your short coming, and teach you how to be a good wife . He is there you just need to detect the superficial things (like his cloth, job, wealth) so you can see the real him before you say I do.

Your response is a breath of fresh air I must say. And btw, I read your post on 'the first year of marriage' in the family section. Yours is a very beautiful marriage and whatever position you take on this is valued because You've been there.

I love the highlighted parts. they speak my thoughts.

tbaba1234: The Solution is this::


Men: Know the rights of your wife well:: FORGET about your own rights.....


Women: Know the rights of your husband well:: FORGET your own rights.....

Remember your own job is to fulfill the rights of the other the best way you can::

SO so it. The happiness of the other should be sought for a perfect UNIOn.

I cant continue to answer to every post. Got to go now. But I have to say that--->

Islam is all about knowledge. If left to what we think as individuals, we will continue to argue without the other person agreeing. So, I will bring forth the words of scholars on this. I had heard lectures before my convictions over my stance. I try as much as possible not to say things based on whims or because they favor me. Excerpts from a webpage below. You can read more - http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/strwife.htm

You have no claim upon them

Thereafter the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has spoken a very serious sentence of far-reaching consequences. When the meaning of this sentence is explained to men they get annoyed. That sentence is:

"This means that according to the laws of the Shari'ah the only demand you can make of them is that they should live with you in your house".

You have no other claim upon them. Cooking is not the duty of a wife

From this Tradition the Jurists have deduced a ruling of delicate nature and which makes men annoyed. The ruling lays down that according to the Shari'ah it is not the responsibility of a woman to cook food for the household. For this purpose the Jurists have divided women into two classes. Women of one class are those who do household work, including cooking food in their parent’s houses. The other class consists of women who do not cook food in their father’s house where cooks are employed for this work. If after marriage a woman of the latter class goes to her husband’s house she is not at all responsible to cook food, religiously, legally, morally or otherwise. On the other hand, that wife may ask her husband to hire a cook for her as man is obliged to provide her with food along with other necessaries of life. The Jurists write:

"It is the responsibility of the husband to provide his wife with cooked food."

The wife cannot be forced to cook food neither by force, nor by the law, because the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has said in clear words:

"This means: You have a right to keep them in your house which it is not lawful for them to leave without your permission."

With this exception the laws of the Shari'ah have imposed no responsibility on them.

However, If she belongs to the first category the one who used to cook food in her parents’ house she too is not legally responsible to cook food i.e. she cannot be compelled by law to cook food. However, the responsibility falls on her only morally. In such a case the husband is responsible only to provide the food materials. Even then it is not her responsibility to cook food for the husband and the children. A wife in this class cannot ask her husband to provide her with cooked food. However, if she refuses to cook food for her husband and the children, the court cannot force her to do it. The respected Jurists have explained these problems at great length.
Serving the In-laws is not obligatory




as to the words in red. i want u to note that my point is d legal aspects of it. what constitutes a sin and what doesnt. And I made it clear in the muslim men and their women thread that many Nigerian women even pride themselves on their ability to do these things and many others are brought up with the thought that the only way to keep their men is by slaving. So i am not against women doing it. I am just saying, not doing so, isnt a sin.

Some men dont even care about who cooks their food. All they want is to eat. What do u say in that regard, that their wives will enter hell??

what happened to freedom of association??


Tb Joshua is a fraud, of course. The government can start doing the right things for their people. with that in place, they'll be less likely in need of 'miracles'

sino: if not doing leads to causing major problem for the couples, disobedience to the husband, leads to the man going to another womans house to eat, thus leading to other immoralities etc. Then, it becomes a sin on her.

lai lai. If a man sins, it is his to bear. Are you saying that when men leave their households to commit zina, the sin is on the wife? I have heard such fallacies as this in the past and I'll need you t prove it to me. Every blame is supposed to be on the woman? Even if a woman is denying her husband sex, it is a test on him. he can marry another woman, he can divorce her but going out to carry out zina with the thought of the sins being on her is so so false. Abeg, desist from such tales.

I have been trying to make known the difference between duty and what a husband asks his wife to do. She is to carry out her duty without being told. But with regards obeying him, she can ask for explanations. she can challenge him. She is not a robot. so, if a husband asks his wife to do something and she has the capacity to do it, she goes ahead to do it but if she cannot, it is subject to reasoning and I want to believe that the man has feelings too.

lemme give you two examples as regards that.

1. A woman is to seek permission before leaving her home. A scenario comes up where her child becomes sick. he runs into coma or convulses. Are you saying she must wait for the man before she takes her child to the hospital?

2. a woman cannot pound yam or she is sick and her husband wants to eat pounded yam. She makes it known to him but he isnt in a good mood and insists. if she died pounding that yam, Allah would punish her because no one is to harm themselves.

In Islam, if you find yourself in scenarios that only give options between two sins, you choose the lesser one. taking her son to the hospital is much more a better act than keeping to the rule that asks her to seek his permission.

WaAllahu a'lam.

Better. At least the sob stories can end now.

He moved on, you moved on.

You were co-owners, that's d reason for the change of name.

I hope the charity organisation did get the money. If not, u would have lied to us

sino: Yes i get your drift deols, but still would not agree completely if not totally.
The prophet (saw) encouraged his own daughter to take care of her household cos its her duty and Allah will reward her abundantly, if it wasnt, what stops the prophet(saw) from granting her wish?
Marriage is about responsibilities and privileges, Islam need not state specifically that a wife must cook for her household(i prefer this than only the husband), cos even at war, women are the ones cooking, tending to the injured and giving water to the mujahids.
The roles of a wife in her husbands house according to Islam encompasses her being a good homemaker/manager and this is compulsory on her to do with the aim of pleasing Allah(swt).

SO, if a woman cannot cook, gets a maid who does the cooking . would she be sinning against Allah?

a similar thing. A woman wouldnt allow her husband have sex with her. Is she sinning against Allah?

This should help you get what I am saying, I think.

davidylan: how rich of you. How immensely rich of our residential hypocritenew word??[color=#990000][/color] . I highlighted the use of the word "order" as being the wrong word to use when it comes to a wife and that morphed into me being a pseudo-scientist? Bro, remove the log in your eyes before complaining about the mote in mine.



trust me, i bring it up only to expose how foolish you sound with your "pseudo-scientist" jab. If you know nothing about others then dont project. I hold a position you and others like you can only dream about. Because we both post on a board does not make us equals.



While that is true, it is impossible for you to discuss the role of a wife sans the role/expectations of a husband. Its like discussing the role of dough in bread making and saying we should not talk about yeast.



A REAL man does not order his wife around. She is your equal not your slave. I am not a woman and yet i know how offensive that word can sound to a woman. You married her as a helpmeet not as a househelp to push around as you wish.

like I said earlier, many of them assume being the head gives them all liberty whereas the prophet of Allah accepted challenges from his wives. They are a perfect example of the 'nature of women' But he ddnt deal wv them in forceful manners. he was patient and persevered in many circumstances. many of these Muslim men wont see such ahadith as guides to life but will continually quote themselves as being heads of the family.

Even Umar(r.a) who is well known to be a tough man took a lot from his wives. These nija men would then turn themselves to military men/ dictators in their homes. I pity our women sha.

Being non-muslim should not preclude us from commenting on a general family issue.

I agree and especially if you have something beneficial to share.

I for one i'm sick of the eternal muslim double standard. Free to post wherever you like while inhibiting others from posting on your secluded board. Then you turn around and talk about tolerance? Nigger pls

I dont think You would be inhibited if you follow the rules. You can argue without heaping insults on the things/people we hold in esteem.

davidylan: hmm you alright?
You have used the word "order" twice in this thread so chuck out the "hypothesis" meme. Husbands do not "order" their wives about no matter the circumstances.
Secondly, deols is right; a husband who truly loves his wife will be willing to work around some of her defficiencies. No woman is perfect... and there is no set rule that states a wife MUST cook for her husband. My aunt hates to clean bathrooms or do laundry, she's been happily married for over 10 yrs to a husband who understands his wife and loves her enough to not force her to do what she dislikes simply because there is some cultural "rule" that states a woman shld do all the cleaning.

Lastly, with regard to me being a scientist... i laugh in swahili. Even if you had 20 yrs you can NEVER be in the position or command the wages i get in the labor market.

You too buzz off!

thank you o. I assume some peeps are taking my words so literally. The wife doesnt have to cook as a duty unlike how satisfying her husband's sexual needs are a duty. what is wrong with couples working out what suits them best rather than keeping to a status quo under the disguise of culture.

davidylan: @ deols, do you agree that a wife must walk a few steps behind her husband?

from which culture is that one.

this was meant for muslims only. WHy the trade of words? If you are intersted, join. If not, move on abeg.

ZUBY77: Please use this medium to also tell us when and where you plan to bomb in Northern Nigeria. Let blackberry help GEJ in fighting terrorism. Thank you.

very immature post. After a while, people like you would come and talk of intolerant Muslims? Are you showing tolerance by the above??

felifeli: Good riddance to the short bastard. Next to go is the White House nigger . Then the fool in UK after which Nemesis can have some rest. Idiots.

Nemesis can get no rest until it finds its way to Nija

Deep Sight: I heard it was about someone threatening the admin, but I guess you could brief me better?



Please dont mis-understand me or make assumptions - I am not a Christian.



Do you think it is proper to ban people from preaching about their beliefs in this age?

Thanks.

apologies. I did exactly what I told u not to.

were they on sales the day you took this picture??



When is one going to open inIbadan

I remember the little girl who used to be on peak adverts. and she came back after she was quite grown up. would love to c her again.

Papilo is a good one too

the above??