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optimusprime2:
Financial discipline is also responsibility...
The last time I checked, cigs aren't free
I will breakdown, unless the smoker is not addicted (of which I have never seen before) addiction driven spending is irresponsible period.

Abeg abeg abeg. The people that are not smoking shey they don't buy fast food(it's unhealthy and obviously not a good way to spend your money) and shey the savings from not smoking hope they've used it to buy private jets and mansions in the LA hills.

Mineisgrace:
Knowing he smokes. I never seen a responsible Nigerian man that smoked

We're everywhere. Sometimes you just need to step down and out from life's pressures and stress. Tbh most guys you see daily either smoke or ingest mind altering substances, but outside they're fully functioning members of society and you'd never know unless you're there with them when they're doing it.

Davash222:
I stopped reading when I saw “she started crying. I had to apologize. But she said she won't forgive me because I hurt her”
Women are naturally manipulative. Once she started crying, she’s guilty. An innocent woman would never cry for what she didn’t do!

Una wey dey fall in love with Nigerian women, I comot cap for una.

Broo. If you know how I broke up in some of my relationships you'll call me a boss. If a girl does something and I confront her and she starts crying and trying to turn herself into the victim, she'll just cry her way out of the relationship. I hate that manipulative rubbish with my life. How will I vex with you and then still be the one to apologize for your own wrongdoing?

seanjost:
Sometimes I wonder what the proper way to quit a relationship is without over hurting the next person's emotions?

I'm not talking about testing-the-water relationship.

I'm talking about a proper relationship of about three or more years in which everything, from emotions, through finance, and to time, is invested in.

There is no way. Hurt will definitely be involved even if the break up is mutual.

Nothing will actually turn me off like undressing a girl and seeing a guy's face on her pant and bra, how does that work? Trying to shift pant and enter and your peepee is hitting a man's face on her pant. Abeg o

Kallmerb:
This virus is scary but why are all this dangerous viruses always from China... It seems lab practical gone wrong

I'm not shocked sef cos how will someone be eating life lizard and bats and frogs and all manners of things. Na them nau.

SageMK:
What did I just read?

Bro, you know what to do. Talk to your wife.

Let her know how uncomfortable and “disgusted” you are by her sister's provocative dressing. Your wife will handle her well. Just keep minding your business.

Don't give any hint whatsoever that you are unable to control yourself or you find her sister attractive at all. I am sure your wife trusts you both that's why she's not reacting. Or could this be a stúpid ploy against you?

Anyway if you can't, demand she kindly move out.

I am beginning to doubt the validity of your story self.

But he's not disgusted nau, the big breast is very beautiful and man is just trying not to fall inside.

So na from sky make we begin de write CV? Like how will you write CV without dob nau? Just start from I graduated from unigbon with 2 1 and im a people person that learns on the go. Finish?

IME1:
But how did we get here

Is the lassa fever not bad enough

May God help us and protect us all, amen

Every few centuries nature tries to do population control. Black death, Spanish flu, ebola, now Corona virus. Hopefully we can bring it under control before it wipes off a huge number of people. But that's how nature is, it has to keep population balance in order to allow for redistribution of resources so everyone doesn't die off. Sad but true(look at the 5 great extinctions)

9jaRealist:
Nigerians love to chase diversionary shadows in derogation of substance...smh

Funny how you Nigerians who make such a show of your gay-bashing will give a limb to emigrate to countries like the US, UK or Canada where there's not only a whole Pride Day (or Week) celebrating LGBT 'lifestyle' but LGBT persons stroll around "flaunting" their lifestyles in public.
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Im not going to go out of my way to fight homosexuality cos that's not my business. I'm just stating that it's retarded, but still, not my business, long as they're not coming on to me or trying to push it down my throat. If naija was in a better developed situation I wouldn't bother leaving to anywhere else. Btw homosexuality had nothing to do with development, Europe and America were already going thru development even back when they had strong laws against such things.

Palehair:
So, what do you call hermaphrodites then because they were born that way. Gender and sexuality are not as black and white as they seem

It's black and white. Hermaphrodites are a special case caused by issues when forming the sexual organs of the person and that's obvious. But you have people with clear cut peniz and vachina saying they're not male or female. All these are just mental problems and we shouldn't normalise it just cos they feel offended.

My own issue is not with Christians or Muslim security outfit. Are we not handing out power to people untrained to wield it? We've not even finished dealing with police brutality and how to properly train our existing paramilitary outfits to avoid abuse of power and we're here creating more. Let's think before we do things o.

hausadreturn:
I don't think the girl is older than the guy, i.e, judging from her constant greetings/trying to be respectful.

I'm glad that with the look of things, he's innocent, obedient and not entirely secretive. More like an open book.
There're guys his age that same will be happening, and you won't even know/notice because of so much codedness. For one, he respects you. That's a plus.

Find out who Mia is, her background, what she does, where she comes from, etc. Let the boy be open about the relationship. If possible, make him invite her and do your own coded observations.


I'm just a little worried about one thing.
If the guy is 16, how old can the girl possibly be to be begging for money. 15? 14? 16?
So weird.

Exactly my pov. I think the boy is still kinda innocent and he definitely has respect for his mom. And I think she has built an environment where he can trust her. At 16 I knew if my mom heard anything about relationships from me what would follow would be a beating so I was very coded and secretive, and tbh I could've done better had I been able to open up and get advice from her. Later down the line things happened in my life(she got to find out about my depression, struggles with life and struggles in school) and my mom was crying like have I been such a bad mom that you kept this a secret from me for years(I just had to dodge that question cos yes mom, the way you raised me its either keep my secrets or face the rod for being open and that just led to me being secretive about every and anything)

It's normal for kids his age to start experimenting with dating and sex. Guess it's time to have "the talk" with him cos I doubt there's anything you can do to actually stop him. Just make sure he understands the consequences and how to protect himself cos if he's prepping for utme then by September or later he'll be out of your sight and care when he leaves for school. And maybe try to meet the girl too and make sure you give them both the talk(embarrassing as it might be for both of them, they need it. And you at least need to meet who he's dating so you can follow up if need be).

What I advice against is anger and shouting and trying to use scare tactics, trust me it won't work, it will just build resentment and he'll start actively keeping secrets from you. What you need is to make sure he understands that he can trust you and be open to you cos you'll give him the best advice he can get. Good luck.

eni4real:
Anti-gay law is existing in Nigeria na..

Punishment: 14 years imprisonment of found guilty!!!

Homosexuality is illegal in Nigeria!!!

The jungle justice tho!!

Homosexuality disgusts me to the core and I'm so against it (especially since one guy tried to chyke me like 7 years ago when I was about 15). But as days go by I just realise the energy the masses put into beating and lynching gay people is just misplaced priorities. We have more pressing issues in this country. But on the other hand if we give these people an inch they'll want to take a meter and next thing we'll have people trying to tell us that male and female are not the only genders on earth(like people are doing in the "saner and more civilized" climes.

kilojoDesigns:
Someone should help Op, I couldn't finish reading because of the length, man got his own problems but e never reach to write epistle so na testimony.

Op I would answer your topic question, yes she is still cheating.
sexual messages wite people other than you? Chasing someone else husband?. Wonder how you contained all of this sorry but she belongs to the streets.

And Back to the streets must she return- gospel according to our lord future

whatdowomenwant:
Confirmed.

I've been a fool all these years. New confessions shows that she did not only sleep with two men, but four at different times.

It is well.

Man stop focusing on the numbers. One or 20 doesn't make a difference. Your wife does not love you and she's only using and manipulating you in front of you. If you press further you'll only find out more cheating is involved. No amount of prayer and counselling will solve things. Better do the needful, DNA test for the children, divorce papers(with proof so she doesn't get anything from the divorce proceedings). Sometimes we have to use our human brain, our common sense, not everything pastors and prayers.

I can't even believe I took time to read this shit. Be like na jazz dem usw cos wozzoldis

I just created a jamb profile with my email and phone number, there are 3 methods and I used the one that requires registering directly on the jamb site, I also inputted my phone number on the site too. I got my confirmation code via email. Now I'm trying to buy Epin and it's showing that the confirmation code is not valid, this is the same confirmation code I used to open the account on the jamb site. What do I do? Is it that jamb has not found a way to sync the email registration and the phone number registration?
Please mods help me push this to front page I need help with this right now.

Mainmanpadi:
Took tramadol to impress my girl, during pre-intimacy dude was nodding like agama lizard. But when it's time for action it went flat and refused to stand. Na so dis babe waka camot with serious anger asking whether I'm a real man. The embarrassment no be here.

It's usually a double edge sword. One day you're going for hours and another you're not able to stand

I'm in university looking to write jamb and switch to another faculty, but jamb site says matriculated students are bit allowed to write. I want to know if anyone has tried (or plans to try) this and whatare the consequences.

uninspired07:
Being Muslim has a lot to do ooo.

Which sensible Christian will allow his daughter marry a Muslim?

A real "sensible Christian" loves everyone and accepts them regardless their background or religion. Btw let your sister make her own decision for herself. From what you said she's in her early 20s and is old enough to know who she wants to have sex with and what she wants to do with her baby.

donstan18:
What an achievement after graduating from the university.

Your people must be proud of you.

Fam stop putting people down to feel good about yourself for a few measly likes. Dude has just got a girl that means a lot to him and obviously he's serving and making something out of his life.

kweensheba:
Yes, a real man eats meat not bones.

this is what girls tell themselves whenever they look down and their stomach won't let them see their p and they have to lift it with their hands to get comfortable. Lets them sleep at night.

IyaTola:
What's that misconception that people have about you?

1. Men find it difficult to believe it when I say am not in a relationship . They will be like "fine girl like you ".
2. Most of my friends think am so rich and comfortable. When I say I don't have money to give them, am tagged wicked.
3. Alot of people see me as cold, rigid and stubborn maybe because of how I Express myself or how I look. But the few close people in my life will always attest to how soft I can get.

I can relate to all 3. My guys, relatives, random people and few girls I talk to always assume I'm in a relationship. One man asked me some days back if Im in a relationship in front of my mom and I said no and they guy said I'm lying cos my mom is here.

2. Cos of the estate I live and how healthy I look people always assume I'm flowing in dohhh but I really be broke most times like last 5k in aza.

3. I honestly don't know how to approach girls or how to talk to them so I'm always on my own or minding my own business even when a girl sits beside me in the lecture hall. This makes them think I'm proud and arrogant. They're alway asking my guys what's up with me that I'm so proud and I don't talk to anyone. They just don't know I'm shy and timid. The one or two girls that talk to me know I'm soft, kind and all the good stuff.

AkandeJoseph99:
There is this girl that I love and we've been talking and texting, I've been telling her I love her and she tells me I am special too, most times she doesn't sleep at night and even when my phone is off her call comes in almost immediate even by midnight, until recently I noticed she's losing interest and doesn't get excited talking to me again like she uses to be before. I asked her but she always said it's because she is busy, so I continued texting her because she seldom picks my call I begged her a lot and kept on calling and texting until recently I asked her what's up or she should tell me if she has another boyfriend she now said that a boy asked her to be his girlfriend and she told him yes November last year, I went ahead to ask her that what about me she said she didn't know I love her, that she thought we're just friends that I should have told her, so I got heart broken and kept on texting her but it seems the texts don't even make sense to her and when she manages to pick my call or call me she avoids many talks. Please what should I do, I've been drinking and started drugs but still. I've been having sleepless nights and can't concentrate with my life. Admin please push to front page I need help.

Bruh she said you're special as per mourinho. I've been down this road and I fell in love we told each other everything. Told her I loved her and she'd say I meant a lot to her. I didn't ask or clarify and just assumed via our closeness that we were together. Girl told me she was going to date this guy and I was shocked. She told m she doesn't see me that way. Led me into drugs and I wasn't feeling okay for years. Now we're friends and I'm good.

Bro move on, meet more girls and forget about her, as for the drugs, don't do them or at least try and reduce it cos your liver will take the blow.

Dude was about to make some sense till he brought up the fact that dude is a Muslim. What does that have to do with anything. Plus your sister is in her 20s, let her decide what she wants.

Irijosa777:
I fine it difficult to trust ladies after reading articles about relationship in this forum.


I am a strong fun of this forum and I read a lot of stories in nairaland in fact I have be so addicted to reading articles in nairaland, though I don't believe all stories.

My issue is this, I have read a lot about relationship issues in this forum as a result of that I fine it difficult to trust ladies especially the ones that has to with ex.
Sometime, I just feel it is better to remain a single, I don't want anybody to break my heart.
But to be frank and sincere after reading those stories I just feel relationship is a big scam but man can't remaining a single forever... Am just tire of the whole thing maybe I should just stop reading stories about relationship in this forum


Please don't get me wrong, I am not in any way saying ladies can't be trusted.

What are you even saying. You sef if you dey relationship the girl go fit trust you?

This is difficult cos everyday I see my sisters and I see beautiful young women and I'm just scared of all the predators walking around out there. How do I begin to talk to them so they can protect themselves as best as they can. But first and foremost you have evidence of the chat and evidence that the guy is planning to solicit sex and pornographic content from a minor, hopefully you can chase this with help from some child rights groups and the guy can be put away for a long time. I'm 22 and whenever I talk to my guys I find out a lot of them are having sex with 16 and 17yo and when I talk to them about it they'll come with the reasoning that they have big breast and are physically mature, and that after all if you don't do it they'll still do it with another person so they're just collecting their share. Very flawed reasoning as I can't date or have sex with a girl under 18. I just wish more people were like me in action and in thinking especially when it comes to things like age and consent.

Shugavee:
lol he’s right, chubby girls got natural tight vG , it’s clinically proven. So I can believe gurls with big ass got tight vG

So what if they start working out and lose weight, the VG go slack bah. Sometimes sense nor just free follow fam.

lefulefu2:
biko dat type of fat no good on a man.it could mean the oestrogen level is too much and greater than the testoterone level in his system.except if the fat is mixed with hard muscle like that of body builders own ..but say the azz just soft and fat like woman own dat is abnormal .such a man need exercise to get his body back in shape.how im go dey carry fat about like woman .

Lmao. After 20 sets of heavy barbell squats per week now your nyash hard big