₦airaland Forum

mariahAngel:
Ndo.
Maybe you should try to make another batch.

I still dey vex

mariahAngel:
As long as you enjoyed it.

I threw my ogiri away. I totally forgot and it overstayed and I was afraid it may be poisonous.

cococandy:
Which kinda brings us back to putting the blame on men.

There’s a reason why it happens. Through the ages, men strategically placed themselves in positions of financial power so that women will depend on them. Women were owned and sold by fathers for political and financial benefits. A woman would typically have nowhere and no options once she falls out of favor with her financial benefactor. So to survive, we obeyed and did what was expected of us. Those things get passed down. We pass it down. It will take a hot minute before we achieve a level financial playing field.

Until recently, women couldn’t own their own money unless men (fathers and husbands signed off in approval). Until TODAY. (You’re igbo and you know this too). Women aren’t permitted to inherit land from their families. This is beyond women being individually independent. All of us can work and provide for ourselves and it still won’t make as much of a difference in terms of how our society operates at the leadership level. Not when many of us are still misogynistic at heart. I understand that being independent cannot be over-emphasized and I encourage all women try. However, to affect leadership and chart our path as a nation, women would have to have more than money. We would need a society where people don’t inherently hate women. Where we can vote for a woman without assuming that she can’t be a good leader because of her womanhood.

U still don't get me. Women were sold in other countries, they have no say in other countries. Wives are treated less than concubines etc yet look at them now. Why can't we start fighting like them?
All Asian countries are more patriarchal than us. We don't have reasons .

Eg, how many married women among us Co Owen properties with their husbands?
Many have cars bought by their husbands but their husbands name on the particulars.

If something happen tomorrow, the woman will be thrown out like a piece of shit.
My sis, we know what to do but we are too relaxed to do that cos we are afraid or society.

Hathor5:
I agree with many points you have raised here but a few.

However, you and Coco are missing the point in this discussion.

For now men are leaders and as such they should take responsibility for the state of the country.

Could more women be leaders? Sure. Should women fight for a more egalitarian society. Most certainly.

But as long as men are the heads/captains/leaders they have to learn to take responsibility and should be held accountable.

If we go by your line of argument Buhari should be justified to refuse to take any responsibility because other parties have not won the election.

All I'm saying is what is our women doing to rise above this subjugation from men?
Women from other countries suffered more than us but we all look up to them and admire their system forgetting they fought their men to reach where they are today. Remember religion came from them. This is my argument only.
We can keep on blaming the men. Women in the West took the bull by the horn, what's stopping us?

The other day, I read a west African country where a woman was ordained Anglican priest. U need to see pages of insults hauled on her.
Should we stop trying simply because our men are fighting us every step?
That's why I said we are very lax and will settle for crumbs from the men. An average naija babe want gift from her boyfriend and is ready to flaunt it. That's selling her freedom. This continues as a married woman. A woman will rather sell akara and stay with the kids at home than insisting on getting high end job and then share house work with the husband. It's seen as unafrican for many men to work. Who said so. Western men don't enter the kitchen before. Chinese, Korean name them, they don't go near the kitchen, how come they can easily do that now? Why won't our men continue to dictate whatever happens to your life and society when we give them all the opportunities and armoury to use?

We are not ready yet. And we will never be ready.

You and cococandy live in the West, you know the diff. Their women fought and that started from the family. How we raise our kids, how far we can go for independence etc. When we get it right( like 40%), the society will hear our voice.

jnrbayano:
Bros, pay attention to this. Get to the Pharmacy shop and ask for Selsun Shampoo.

That's all you need

I'm surprised to see this.
You are right. Not all selsium shampoo but selsium blue.

His colour will gradually go back to normal though he need medication to stop the growth.
Contaminated water.

Go to the hospital to stop the growth first
Stop all these things you are drinking.
Mostly caused by water.

Any dermatologist will recommend selsium blue to clear this.
Selsium blue is like a medicated shampoo. It will work on your body physically.

Babes that use bleaching cream use that to get rid of bleaching cream skin discolouration.
A friend has this and went to the best dermatologist in town. This was recommended. Though his wasn't this bad but the growth stopped after medication. Forget the fact that it's shampoo. His was caused by water he used while in school in kano

cococandy:
In my experience Nigerian women are not lazy. If I know 20 women, maybe 2 of them are stay-at “-home moms. And that in itself isn’t an easy or lazy job.
But we still value traditionalism (in theory. Economic reality is very different) as a family concept where the man is the provider and the woman is the care giver. I wouldn’t ascribe it to laziness if women who consider themselves traditional women abide by this format. Personally I don’t encourage it.
But I do agree that if we collectively as women want to enact change, we can do it. We just have to value that more than staying “in our place”.

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I have read a publication on this. Women are compelled to work in naija. This doesn't mean all women anyway. If giving a choice, majority will love to stay at home.

A well known fact. Money is a determinant here. Whoever controls the money controls every other thing. Why is it that from the moment we are of age, we see men as milking machine?
Boyfriend, husband, even guys on friend zone.

What I'm trying yo say is when we srt being independent, we will have some power be it house or society. For now, it's just few. And those that are not to such level will pull you down if you want to fight for them.
We are our problem. Other societies have evolved.

Kini big deal?

He isn't the first so why the publicity?

cococandy:
In our society, Women who fight are vilified.I blame those who take a back seat but at the same time, I don’t blame them. They choose to be non-confrontational. To fit in. To avoid being labeled as feminists and what have you. Honestly It’s easier. they don’t have to deal with the venom that inevitably comes your way when you’re woman who is known to question the status quo. Nobody really likes stress sha

Our society places premium on female docility. That’s what makes a good woman to us. Sometimes other women will drag you down because you’re too vocal. Too opinionated. Too much in general. It will be hard for us to collectively as you said push for our rights when amongst us we have those who value male validation over the best future for the coming girls and women.

That is thr Cross of the matter. Women in other countries were vilified,killed, made outcast but it paid off.

We allowed our society to place that docility on us.
We allowed society to dictate.

It's not even culture but imported religions. Now we mix that with cultur and say that's how it was during the old. Even if it's cultural, culture evolves.
We are just going in circles.
Society shame you if you decide to be a single mum. Decide not to marry. Even a divorced lady is always evil. Our fellow women hail and praise men because they butter their bread. No gift, no boyfriend. We are our own problem cos we are very lazy( sorry to use this). An average naija woman want to sit at home and watch TV while maid do everything for her and oga credits her account.
It's not the man's fault here. We don't want to be independent. If naija women change, our men will adjust. Check history.
No change in this world if women don't fight for it.

I think they rub something on their bodies.

cococandy:
Many men like to talk about how women don’t build civilization. How women are weak. How we can’t handle power and that’s why all our leaders have been majority men. Now you’re being asked to take responsibility for the society you’ve created (and rightly so) and all I hear are deflections. Which one is it?

In ti's very issue, I will very much love to blame the men only but reality is that it takes 2 to tango.
Our when are not better either.

Britain, America, China, Japan, South korea etc has very male dominated society back in the days, worst than what our women have ever experienced. I think in France, men have official concubine. Wives duties is to sew clothes and give birth and just stay in the house while the concubines are highly travelled, respected and influential etc. Courtesans were officially trained. They are women with power and respect. The reason a mere mistress was able to name a country Nigeria and no hell was raised. In China or Korea, women have little or no value. But you know what?
These women fought with everything in them. Read books or watch historical movies( real events that were adapted into movies from books) and see how far these women went to make history.
They fought a male dominated society, fought and fought and look at them now. They are still fighting.
In Nigeria,our parents even fought more than us.
Do we fight at all? (Mothers from childhood has already made his male child superior to her daughter. Its still mother's that train these oya and they turn out this way. After seeing how their husbands treated them, they still trained their sons to take the footsteps of their fathers.)
Why?
Cos our men are using psychological warfare on us through religion. Not that they practice what they preach but because it gives them power to control women hence their popular quote. Submission.
Society and culture has embraced it subconsciously that women see their husbands as mini gods instead of human and partner.

When women collectively push for their rights, heaven will not fall.
Men will have no choice either but to succumb. But, have we ever done that in our various families not to talk of society?
Hmm.

Copy copy kantry

Without risk taking, we will still be primitive world

Last Friday, school children went to school wearing sports wears to support team England. Most Windows have English flags flying.
This is pure patriotism.
Not this bullock we see in naija.

mariahAngel:
I love cakes.

I know
Cake, fried plantain, fried egg......in that order

cococandy:
Martha Stewart’s Coffee cake. Served with iced coffee

Cake people, I throwey salute o

Join me

Who told you that?
You guys think that this world started and ended in Nigeria, right?

The same way people in Latin America answers Jesus like you answer Chris and emeka or bola.

Ofe Ogbono

zeezaa:
Plantain and vegetables garnish with Ukpaka to the rescue

See better healthy food.
Wish we can live together

Nobody will touch this in my house
Should I sell them on ebay?

Made yam p........
This house sef, they prefer fried, then boiled white......

Arrrrrg!

kangminhyuksho:
We are fine. JJM was awesome but I personally attribute my love for that drama to the younger actors, both teenage and young adult years. All the actors in that drama did well but the younger actors made me invested in that drama. I don't think I would have loved it as much if they didn't hook me.

I loved the young girl but she didn't look or act like somebody suffering in the drama. Her hair is constantly stretched, dressed and walk like a cinderella yet she acts very poor girl that church and neighbours feed. Then PJY, as a 17yrs old high school boy, I didn't expect to see thick moustache lines. Made his age unbelievable. He looked 25-26 and seeing a 25- like old man acting along a girl that looked 12yrs old was very uncomfortable to me. He no doubt is good but I cringed at the combo.
Just as I couldn't bring myself to like goblin main casts. That's me though.
I loved the 27 yrs old acting though but what hooked me was JJM. His facial expressions was second to non and that was what kept me till the end. The last lady(sarang) was very lukewarm. The small girl was even better than her. I will watch the series later just because of that JJM. There are actors he reminded me of when watching him. He took me back to frozen flowers.
That guy can kiss
Not all those dead fish kinda kiss. Few does it real good. He is one of them

Like freeze, like GOs like tbjoshua.

This is for those that pay attention to them.

Just finished my love eun-dong.
JJm was an enigma. He singlehandedly controlled the pace of that drama. All these new generation actors should watch dramas from seasoned actors like him. Have met him twice on drama and he didn't disappoint.
Koreans don't talk much when acting but facial expressions is everything. The West is still a learner.

How are you guys?

BlueRayDick:
I guess we share the same taste then. I so much love this meal too. In fact, I can say it's my best meal along with rice and beans cooked together from a very young age.

I really don't like maize on the cob, but anytime it's corn season I must eat this beans and corn before it goes out of season.

This is a meal I have never cooked yet I enjoy it anytime it comes my way.
So sweet
Don't even know how it's prepared

YorubaKinging:
The end is near

The children of Israel are the most dispersed out of all the tribes of the world

There's not a country you'll not find them

Yoruba, Igbo, etc,.

Hardly will you find any hausa-fulani in most countries because they are not one of us

But verily I say unto you

All the scattered tribes and remnants will come back to Zion

And will worship the Lord, thier God

Why not die and let others be or do you want to drad others join for your space?

Are you afraid of death?

Social media nuisances

Innoson exist from that bank hit home.
It has been from one problem to another.

First half abi quarter of this Yr, they ran negative.

Serious embezzlement going on in that bank

Get clipper, learn how to cut hair with your friend.
Do me I do you.

Women do that a lot.

Or, practice with your hair.

owobokiri:
Hmmmm
Zero post yet already at the front page!
Why the media support for this inconsequential faction?
Another Uzodinmma in the making?
Are you guys pursuing an agenda in Anambra State?

Traffic.

Remove igbo related topics and this forum will die a natural death.

Very stupid kweshion

Very soon we will read" MET ON NAIRALAND BUT SHE IS A MAN; HE/ SHE SCAMMED ME......"

Country hard. Nairaland is anonymous, thread with caution.