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NaijaTechGuy:
Traffic is what every blogger craves for and you can never really get enough of it. Here are a few things you should understand that'll help you boost your traffic .

1.Size Of Audience- A lot of popular blogs have a total market size of at least 5 million people. While the top 100 blogs usually have a total market size of 200 million or more. That's not how many readers they have, that's how many readers they could have if everyone with an interest in the topic they write about read their blog. So there's always space for a new blog to get some part of the audience.
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2. Age Target - The many readers are usually between the ages of 17 and 50. If you’re targeting an audience younger or older than that window, it’s almost impossible to build a popular blog, simply because the people in this age range hardly like reading blogs.


3. Content Longevity - Many blogs publish posts on an ongoing basis so you'll need an audience that has an ongoing interest. Topics about smartphones or social media changes all the time, so people will want to read about it forever. Some topics only interest people for a few months or even weeks .


4. Language Of The Blog - I like the fact that a few blogs are trying to be in a language other than English but In general, blogging is mostly confined to the English language. Although, it’s totally possible to build a popular blog in German or Portuguese, but the traffic techniques will be totally different, and it will be extremely difficult.


5. Love Your Audience - You need to like the audience. Surprisingly, this is the number one reason a blog fades away following a period of rapid growth. After attracting a small audience, you discover that you can’t stand them, and you stop writing because it’s not fun anymore. The moral of the story: make sure you like the people you are trying to attract because you’ll be hanging out with them for years to come.

I have always liked your posts.

Very insightful.

deedeesblog.com

ednut1:
i need Nanas numb

SMH!

davide470:
..Nice Concept, Man! You actually defined Lagos with or without Nana, but she really added flavor to it sha


Errr.. is Nana a single "Cross River Goddess"?

LOL! Yes she is

(This is classified information Bro)..Hehe

My Muse: beautiful NaNa, A Cross River Goddess I met on Facebook who was excited to jump on this project. I told her about a crazy idea that I have! Something I have never done before. Something to increase my portfolio and versatility as a Photo-Blogger: To shoot style on the streets, leveraging the picture contents to tell a story of what Lagos means to me.

I was grateful that she did not think twice before she eagerly said Yes to this idea.

Location: Sanya, Aguda Surulere
Oshodi/ Apapa ExpressWay
Date: March 1 2016


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dvmnurB3xCs

1 The KekeNapep represents transportation within the Lagos metropolis. Nana’s presence around the Keke attempts to explain that transportation within Lagos is a huge hustle and even the rich also cry when it comes to transportation. Beautiful NaNa on the Keke speaks of certain points in our lives, where we dump our convenience to take the cheapest and fastest routes to our destination. Even the fastest legitimate route sometimes does not represent ‘the fast’ word innit? The Keke comes with its own issues as well!

If you have never jumped a Keke in Lagos, are you really a Lagosian?

2 The Wheel tyre represents our continuous drive to hit the goldmine as the energy and hustle on the streets of Lagos eventually wears us out. Beautiful NaNa sitting on the Keke represents our continuous move whether it is via the white collar process or blue collar process to make our hustle pay.

Does the transport system in Lagos not wear you out sometime? I leave that to you to confirm!

3 See the boy sitting beside the tyre, it displays our selfishness on the streets of Lagos. Our uncaring attitude towards those that lack. While some of us are grateful for the opportunity that life has presented to us due to the available resources at our disposal to deal with the various wear and tear Lagos hustle has caused us. We owe of a duty of care to those that are less privileged as well. Have you helped someone today?

4 The middle of the road signifies the bridge we need to cross to reach our destination of actual fulfillment in this beautiful and eclectic city of Lagos. To make it in life there are so many roads to cross, so many bridges to pass through as well. Have you crossed your road yet?

And the beautiful Naomi Nana speaks volume of the beauty of Lagos; A CITY FOR THE HUSTLERS!

What do you think? How do these pictures speak to you? Do you have a deeper meaning? Let’s share…

Give us your insight and depth!
Lalasticlala are you here?

PS: I am open to collaborations and creative documentary/fashion/street photography. What you need to do? Just hit me up on PM. Let’s discuss!
Cc: davide470, Ednut1, smoothCHN, VictoriousVic

http://deedeesblog.com/focus-street-shoot-with-nana-jay/

bakynes:
Currently out of this stage just last year when I started my Business am 28 by the way will be 29 next month. 24-28 age was not easy for me, it's a very frustrating and depressing years of my life, sitting home all day looking at the ceiling, applying for jobs, no interviews and when you get job test you meet thousands at the venue hoping to land 10 job positions, my gf of many years eventually left me. In fact I thank God I had a good family that was there for me in those trying years. Some time I cry and considered sucide. But I think God am beginning to succeed in my business.

I will like to chat with you!

Do you mind?

frugal:
It's also the stage you find true love.

Very correct!

Lunagirl:
True.

To all the men out there struggling to create an identity, know that we, the women in your life appreciate you.

We see you, we know the pressure on you. Most importantly, we have your back all the way.

Especially to my father, brothers and my future husband, I see you and I will be true all the way there.

#hustlersmindset

God bless you Luna.

I am in love with you already!

deedeesblog.com

marshalcarter:
lyk seriously??



only jobless ones need this kind of novel

...and you are not jobless right? SMH!

Kyllahmc:
Thank you Op I needed this... When you build your whole life around someone and things didn't work out as thought... U won't just know who you are anymore. The world and everything in it would seem new and strange to you.
Though your first point is funny to me, cos i don't even remember how to cry

Thanks for taking your time to read through, and I am happy you have moved on!

ednut1:
Private and confidential. Its not for public consumption. D day dem go sue all dis bloggers dey come

LOL...I know I will find you here~

***goes back to hibernation mode***

McBrooklyn:

Queenserah26:
Nice piece, It ain't easy though...

LOL.... Thanks Queenserah

yemsai:
Too long...only read d points tho...cool

Thanks!

dacblogger:
Too long...A summary will do the trick.

Thanks dacblogger

davide470:
Boss,

No info on 7Up though but the pay should be quite reasonable for an Experienced Hire.

Looking at coming back to the industry?

LOL... Davide470,

It's for an older colleague though!

How have you been? You still dey this Lagos?

It ended badly, yet you can’t seem to get your ex out of your mind. Trust me, you can know how to get over an ex in simple and effective ways as will be shared in this post.

When you love someone so much, it is not far fetched that you may have decided to trust the person and share most of your secrets with him/her. You do things together, spend time together, you are now accustomed to such person; you can feel the smell, the laughter, the cuddle and all the other things that comes with falling in love!

Then, the person decides after various irreconcilable differences to break up with you….Whooosh!

For some people, they find it easy dealing with heartbreak, I mean their hearts can handle the breakaway that they don’t feel anything. So, no fret But for Emotional freaks like me, it feels like something has been taken away. Like your heart has been ripped out of its cage; that empty and very hollow feeling that comes with the breakup rut is overwhelming, and for most people, it leaves them emotionally shattered and empty.

Some people I have discussed with, told me things like:

I can’t get him/ her off my mind

I have stomach issues, I keep running to the loo whenever I think of him/her

I can’t seem to eat

I can’t even focus because it hurts so much

It is finished, I can’t even love anyone again

While some of us may not be able to come to terms with the feelings of losing someone we have become so attached to, we make frantic efforts to see if we can still get our partners back. However in some cases, there are certain relationships that you know it is the end already, no amount of fixing could bring it back. Then, it is suffice to say that the relationship is over!

So, what next?

For some of us, we do things to take our minds off thinking about that one person we love; reading, jogging, going to the movies, but does it really solve the heartbreak from the breakup? Don’t we still miss that one person we loved and trusted so much?

I have a personal story to share:

My friend, Tosan, went through a break up in 2012 that took her four years to get over!

WoW, you say?

She loved her boyfriend because he was smart, savvy, lovable and a hunk of a guy. She had relayed to me severally how she gpoing to get married to the guy and how they would live happily ever after.

She even confided in me about the number of kids they would have and how they would spread child bearing over the years.

Then one day everything came tumbling down and the relationship was over!She was heartbroken for years and could still nopt come to terms to what caused the breakup.

I felt for her though, but there was nothing I could do, BoBo was long gone before we could say Jack Robinson.

She had to move one, which was the most difficult thing to do when you just had a break with an ex.

What I learned from Tosan’s Break Up.

Tosan showed me what love means, that you may not be in touch with someone for a long time, but then you still yearn for them. She confided in me even after two years of breakup that she misses him and that she thinks she cannot get over him!

Do you feel the same way too? I will explain what you are going through to you.

I understood this phase in Tosan’s post breakup life that this is a chemical process as explained by the goodmen project that when we are in love with someone, our brain is surged with dopamine, which is a stimulus that our minds follow similar patterns when influenced.

When you break up with your partner, there is a rejector stimulus in our minds that goes on overdrive. Then we will start feeling deserted and unwanted. We begin to crave for a sudden ‘solution’ when we realize that the regular spams of dopamine is nowhere to be found.

Immediately after a breakup happens, dopamine will be replaced with a stress hormone termed to be cortisol and a rush of adrenaline. Adrenaline is that energy that comes with the statement;

Okay, it is time to get up and pick myself and either sort out issues with my ex or go on the lookout for another lover.

When we experience hurt, rejection and disappointment after a breakup, our mental state is usually similar to that of a drug addict who is currently undergoing rehabilitation. We feel lost deserted abandoned, incoherent and incomplete.

You have to move on, you just have to! I know it isn’t easy, but you cannpt allow yourself to continue to wallow in abject misery and sulk over spilt milk okay?

1 How to get over an ex: Open the floodgates of tears

Cry your heart Out

You need to let it all out, the pent up emotions, the reality of what is on ground. Your adrenaline is pumping hot. You are filled to the brim, you feel some sense of sadness, just allow the tears flow!

Cry!

You need to do this to release the emotions, you can’t continue to deny yourself from the truth. All is not simply well. You want to move on but you can’t do this with the emotions and all that comes with it.

The grief, disappointment, bitterness and rage will all make you mushy. Allow it to flow through you and let out the pains.You need to be relieved of the thoughts and what is boiling in you.

Just Cry! Just let it out!

2 How to Get Over an Ex: The Cut off Cleansing


Get him out of your life

Cut your EX off completely, Stop going to where you hang out together. Discard all things that are around you and makes you remember him/ her.

Your pictures together, gifts you have received, personal properties hanging around your house. Discard them all! Disconnect all form of communications.

Shut out things that link you guys together, his friends, family, colleagues: Shut them all out. It is difficult and you may feel it is totally unnecessary, but then it will make you feel better on the long run!

Cleanse yourself, you need to!

While in the middle of all these process do not do unhealthy things that will harm your health. Because of the psychology surrounding emotional trauma, you may resort to eating too much, drinking alcohol, or sleeping around to relieve yourself of the heartache. These are very unhealthy ways to heal and it does not portray hoe to get over an ex.

You may even make matters worse by causing more complications to your personality and your health.

3 How to get over an ex: Accept it

Self-acceptance is difficult but the moment to stop all the ‘what I should have done’ ‘What have I not done’. Stop looking for who/ what to blame and accept that break up has happened finally.

There is simply no point looking for what and what, when it won’t bring your book back. Accept the reality and face it!

4 How to Get Over an Ex: Process your thoughts

How do you feel, what do you want?

Write it down, and process it! How has the relationship made you feel. What are the things you feel you could have done better? Do you feel like you want to pass a message across to your Ex? Not an apology message obviously but a message. Do you feel mad at your ex for the breakup?

Process and analyze your position in a journal. Write everything down and read from time to time. It allows you to evaluate your present situation and appraise yourself considering what you should do to better your emotional life going into the future.

Writing increases your self-analysis, and by doing leveraging this, you will be able to identify with your self-worth and move on with life.

5 How to get over an EX: Leverage your adrenaline positively

As discussed earlier, you will feel a sudden burst of adrenaline and cortisol that wants to propel you into doing things subconsciously,. You can deaden the pain and controls the energy to try new things.I have friends who followed their passion based on the rush of adrenaline they experienced from their breakup.

They are doing excellently well as we speak and you can also take advantage of your situation to try new things and follow new trends.

6 How to get over an ex: Give it time

You have tried all the above, and still feel the nudge to go hug EX. Give it time, you will be fine.

There will always be days when the feelings set in, the need to love and be loved, and then you feel bad for losing someone so important to you. You will feel like crying again. Just get into a corner and let it all out. You need to give yourself time to heal, it won’t just happen at the snap of your fingers. Getting over an ex does not happen immediately.

You need the healing to be gradual and slow. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t push yourself too much.

7 How to get over an ex: Do not jump into the next quickly

Some people feel the best way to quickly forget an ex is to jump into another relationship ASAP. This is so wrong and you may end up passing all the resentment and bitterness of your former relationship to the innocent individual.

You need to allow the bad feelings of breakup ebb away before deciding on entering into another relationship. When you are optimistic and filled with renewed strength and positive energy, then you can decide to give love another chance.

If not, you can decide to remain single for as long as it takes. The impact of jumping into another relationship while still hurting is something that may lead to you also damaging another person’s emotions while still trying to heal the wounds of the past. Be careful; Do not jump in too quickly.

8 How to get over an ex: Appreciate the YOU that has been abandoned

Whilst you were in your erstwhile relationship, there are some of your personality that you have abandoned because you love your EX and because you EX struggled with that part of you.

There must have been thing he/she frowned at. May not necessarily be bad habits but just his/her perspective to certain parts of you might not be likable that you had to change.

You need to re-visit those parts of you again and see if you can find joy in in those habits. While I would not advise that you take up bad habits, I would just advise that you take those habits that helps you around your path of self-fulfillment before your EX came into your life and you had to adjust those habits.

Check the habits out again and gradually let it dictate the pace of your emotional return for you. You Love movies a lot, hang out with friends a lot, spend much time cooking, or you love to window shop. You can check out those habits again and just wallow in them for the meantime, to find yourself.

9 How to get over an ex: When all is said and done

You have done everything mentioned above but still lack the emotional return. Then you will need to do one more thing.

What were the most beautiful moments you have created with your partner and a deep probing question:

How have I benefited emotionally and psychologically from these moments?

It is not just about making you happy and smile. Sure you must have benefited something from him/ her during those moments.

It is possible that the one reason for emotional dis-attachment is because you have left all your reasons for happiness to your ex. You have become addicted psychologically and expressively to your EX.

You are usually a shy person and you ex made you overcome your shyness

You are not really confident but your ex helped boost your confidence

You have not been organized your whole life but your ex helped you with being structured and responsible

Take Note, the only way you can get over this is to begin to take control of those parts your EX were in control of! You need to begin to see yourself in the light that you have failed to believe in.

You need to look beyond your ex and try to envision your capabilities.

Remember your EX came into your life to teach you an important lesson of life and love. It is now time for you to let off and let go. OK?

Let me have your thoughts on this post, if any of the How-tos have helped you along the way in moving on.

http://deedeesblog.com/how-to-get-over-an-ex/

cc: lalasticlala mynd44

Hello Mooshalb please helo me review this new blog

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chibuzor05:
Thumbs up bro.. I must confess you are the boss. Your niche is quite unique because I have never come across a tax blog before, guess they are rare.

My little advice is for you to increase the words in each of your post. Since it is unique, express your points more with more text

I roger that. Thanks!

Hello chibuzor05, many thanks for your review of Deedeesblog.com. Please can you help review taxprof.com.ng!?

It's just a week old. Thanks

Oooops:
As the D'day gradually draws near, when I'll say "I DO" to this beautiful princess God blessed me with.

Below is our prewedding pictures. She is a nairalander too...

Lalasticlala help celebrate us...

Oooops, I'll need to chat you up in PM.

It's quite important. Can you do whatsapp??

Hello Guys

Please I want to make enquiry regarding employment with 7UP bottling Company.

Does anyone know how much they pay their experienced Hire and also the employment grade steps in the company.

I will appreciate your responses as usual.

Thanks

cc: Davide470

Shygirl1989:
Nice photos,well taken,........thumbs up......hope you'd do mine someday........

We will be ready ma'am.

Thanks for the feedback!

UjSizzle:
Wow. This is beautiful

Thanks Uj

What's your blog? Wanna go check it out.

Xoxo

[quote author=Michellla post=53849057][/quote]So I have stopped

head over to the blog will you? Epp the Photo-Blogging Ministry!!

Bumbae1:
Their future is bright
Wonder how much it cost to have a wedding like that

Myndd44 or lalasticlala move is before derailment start

I was overwhelmed truly!

I just gotta do what I gotta do. take pictures for the PhotoBlog.

Hehe!!!!

Bumbae1:
Wow! So beautiful they both look so happy
Is that a Porsche niceee
Venue is well put together magical the bride would remember this day

Yes please.....Porsche toh Badt!!

Should I stop now? LOL!

http://deedeesblog.com/dream-wedding-held-federal-palace-hotel-lagos/

There is still More.

Lalasticlala's wedding must be better than this!

http://deedeesblog.com/dream-wedding-held-federal-palace-hotel-lagos/

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