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This is one dream wedding for every prospective husband and wife out there. It happened on February 14, the amazing wedding of Toyosi and Wole that held at the Balmoral Events Centre, Federal Palace Hotel VI which got the whole of Lagos talking.

Yes, February 14 was Valentine’s day and the wedding was perfectly themed for the occasion. A wedding put together by Wed Expo’s and WedDaily will remain in the minds of Nigerians for a long long time to come.

The glamorous wedding as supported by the WedDream team brought together amazing vendors in the Nigerian Wedding Industry. Notable amongst them is the truly respected Jide Odukoya, creative Eclasse Photography, Diko Photography and so many other amazing vendors.

The grand entrance of the couple, the interior decor of the wedding, Eiffel Towel wedding cake made Cakes by Tosan and the indefatigable MC Alex Osho and Comedian the Funny Prince all made the dream wedding memorable.

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You kiss every other day and everywhere yet you do not know about the different types of kisses. This article aptly explains that to you.

1) TYPES OF KISSES: THE EARLOBE KISS

The earlobe kiss is an attempt to get into contact with the erogenous zones of your partner. This is achieved by gently kissing, sucking and nibbling at the earlobe of your partner.

You can decide to bite the outer parts of the ear gently in an erotic way or just stick your tongue inside the ear of your partner.

It is pretty intimate and intense if you want it to be. It could also be one of the ways to light the fire of deep passion and emotions between two lovers.

2) TYPES OF KISSES: THE AIR KISS

This is the type of kiss that one has without making contact. It can be referred to as a playful type of kiss.

This type of kiss can be done between friends and also partners.

It creates a sense of wanting when done between partners. It can be seen as a way of teasing your partner as it stimulates desire.

Air kiss might be seen as childish, but the reaction and emotion it stimulates in the other partner goes a long way.

Trust me, when your partner gets you after you blow an air kiss, it’ll be very steamy.

3) TYPES OF KISSES: THE FOREHEAD KISS

Yes, forehead kiss is giving someone a kiss on their forehead.

Usually, we see this type of kiss between parents/elderly ones and children. Shifting focus to partners, does forehead kiss just imply giving a kiss (peck) to the other partner on their forehead? We feel it goes way longer than that!

This kiss has to be given in a sensual way so it can mean something to the other partner. Else, what will be the difference between giving forehead kiss to your partner and just any other person?

You should be able to deliver this kiss in such a way that your emotions can be conveyed.

Some school of thoughts say ‘forehead kisses are the best kisses. They not only show that you are telling your man/ woman that you love him/ her, but it’s the soul you are actually kissing. Kisses on the forehead travel to all parts of her body.’

Is this true? I would leave that to you to decide.

4) TYPES OF KISSES: THE DRUNKEN WET KISS

This sort of kiss is usually stimulated by the intake of little or a large amount of liquor. This kiss is usually bold and evokes a lot of feelings.

Drunken kiss makes both partners do more towards each other and helps them get into each other physically and erotically.

On the other hand, if caution is not taken, it is prone to get out.

If the relationship is just starting, this type of kiss is not advised. The emotions evoked may be too strong or cause the partner to feel very uncomfortable and might eventually scare the other partner off.

5) TYPES OF KISSES: THE NECK KISS

One cannot deny the fact that neck kisses have a way of stimulating erotic feelings. Trailing kisses down the neck leaves sensual feelings and gives great pleasure.

A lot of lovers feel that guys are the only ones supposed to leave neck kisses, but I assure you that what a guy can do, a lady can do much better.

Ladies! It’s time to start giving neck kisses! Trust me, they’ll love it and really adore you. It’s also a way of distracting him when you want him to get you something or when you want to have your way with something.

(6) TYPES OF KISSES: FINGER KISS

The finger kiss is a very relaxed type of kiss. This kiss can be done anywhere and won’t seem aggressive to strangers.

You and your partner can decide to take a stroll, and you just lace your hands with theirs and give their fingers a kiss. This kiss shows that you care. Little gestures go a long way in a relationship.

In giving a finger kiss, you have to do it in a very meticulous and not sloppy way. This way, it becomes sensual.

7) TYPES OF KISSES: CHRISTMAS KISS

As it also implies, this is a kiss that takes place during the Christmas celebration.

In the spirit of the season, you tend to get lost in the love of your partner, and you guys steal kisses from each other.

This Christmas kiss is the kiss that takes the mistletoe. You guys stay under the mistletoe, lost in each other, blocking everyone and everything out, fully focused on each other and give yourselves a memory that won’t easily die out.

This kiss strengthens bond and helps in understanding one another.

TYPES OF KISSES: THE JAW KISS

This is another kiss that does not involve much effort. All you have to do is get your partner in a comfortable position, and leave small lingering kisses on the jaw line of your partner.

This is another playful type of kiss. This helps in bringing out that playful side of your partner.

It helps to ease to out tension and lighten up the mood if your partner is having a bad day. There’s always a calm feeling that follows jaw kisses.

9) TYPES OF KISSES: THE CHEEK KISS

Giving a cheek kiss can be seen as a friendly gesture. It gives a warm feeling that leaves a sense of being loved. It requires little to zero effort.

The method through which you carry out this kiss determines if it turns out sexual or not. Couples tend to know how to this friendly gesture to something sexual and more meaningful.

10) TYPES OF KISSES: THE ANGEL KISS

To give an angel kiss is simply giving the other person a kiss on their eyelids. Some may find this weird yeah, but it turns out sexy in a way.

If some people can give a kiss to the feet, then what’s the issue with giving a kiss to the eyelids?

I know that ladies would majorly consist of those who find this weird but trust me, doing this as a lady signifies how bold and daring you are.

Give an angel kiss today to your partner, and signify that you’re a bold boss lady.

11) TYPES OF KISSES: THE LOVE BITE

These are also referred to as hickeys. It is a result of sucking/biting while kissing.

Love bites are very adorable. Most guys like leaving love bites so others would know that their partners are taken. It also serves as a reminder of your partner when you both are far from each other.

Girls also leave love bites to drive girls away from their guys and announce possession of their partners.

It is also a turn on for guys when they see their mark on their girl.

If you’re the territorial type, remember to leave a love bite next time you kiss your partner!

12) TYPES OF KISSES: PECK

A kiss mustn’t be deep every time. A peck is a closed quick kiss.

It is a sign of care and endearment. It also shows appreciation.

When we talk about kiss, ‘make-out’ is what comes to mind. But, that gets old quickly and your partner might also be tired of making out every time.

Giving a peck doesn’t require tons of energy.

13) TYPES OF KISSES: THE LIZZY KISS

This refers to deep intense make-out. The process whereby the partners use their tongues to explore all corners of each other’s mouth.

This is rather done in private than in public, because it might seem offensive to some people.

Giving this type of kiss means that you’ve reached that point/stage in your relationship where you’re free with your partner, and there’s understanding between you guys.

It’s called lizzy kiss because the tongue goes in and out which is same similarity to the lizard. The tongue sticks out the lover and hits either the lips or inside the mouth of the other lover in quick strokes.

14) TYPES OF KISSES: THE ESKIMO KISS

Who says the lips have to touch when it comes to kissing.

This is aptly demonstrated in the Eskimo kiss which is where couple and lover just rub noses against each other.

I never really knew that this was a type of kiss until I did my online research and found this.


15) TYPES OF KISSES: AUSTRALIAN KISS

This is also another intense type of kiss. It is the act of giving a lady a kiss on her lower area.

This kiss is one way of making her nuts and mad over you. Trust me, once you start, she’ll lose control of herself.

When giving Australian kiss, you should put in all concentration and make sure you do a perfect job. One cannot afford this kiss to be sloppy.

As a guy, you would surely want her to remember your Australian kiss as one that did wonders to her.


16) TYPES OF KISSES: NOSE KISS

This is another adorable type of kiss. Why not wake your partner up with a kiss on the nose? This will give him/her something to remember.

Instead of being creepy and staring at your partner while he/she is asleep, leave trails of kisses on his/her nose.

Leaving a kiss on your partners nose shows that you adore him/her.

17) TYPES OF KISSES: SINGLE LIP KISS

Be it just a peck or sucking on one lip, it is a single lip kiss. Most times, it is done on the lower lip. It is a playful type of kiss, but caution should be taken not to injure the other person.

This kiss is also seen as a teasy type of kiss; you nibble on one lip, and pull away, leaving your partner in need of more.

18) TYPES OF KISSES: FRENCH KISS

Very popular. I am sure a lot of lover can relate to the French kiss – A passionate type that allows lovers to kiss using their tongues.

This is another intense type of kiss. It involves covering most parts of your partners mouth with yours, and kissing all over.

It is a deep kiss that leads to arousal. The french kiss is amorous, passionate and establishes romantic connections between two lovers.

To French kiss, you need to have the strength and dexterity to go on for minutes without stopping. It is believed that there’s a bond formed between people who French kiss. This bond brings them closer and makes them have a better understanding of each other.

19) TYPES OF KISSES: THE BUTTERFLY KISS

This type of kiss does not involve the use of lips.

You stare into the eyes of your partner, and draw closer till your eyelashes are touching. You both flutter your eyelashes against each other in fast motion and enjoy the serenity around. That’s the concept of butterfly kiss.

It isn’t commonly done though it is quite intimate. Majority find it weird, but you’ll never know if you like it till you try.

20) TYPES OF KISSES: OUT TONGUE KISS

This just refers to both partners sticking out their tongues to touch, and playing with their tongues while the tongue is still out, without the lips touching. This is one rare type of kiss.

Did we miss anyone out? Feel free to add yours

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Mynd44, lalasticlala

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This week’s edition of our must watch YouTube Vids. As usual this week, we would be looking at Harjit and Jaz of YoutwoTV’s video on the different types of girlfriends that piss you off. Amazingly this video has over 2 million views on YouTube to show you how much value the content has within the views.

Where are ‘Dem Boys??

You need to grab a seat and see this funny yet valuable video as it reeks of everything about girlfriends that you can relate with.

For some of us, we can not deal with certain types of girlfriends, and this was illustrated in the video below.

THE INVESTIGATORS/ INTERROGATORS

I have dated ‘some’ girl who would just interrogate the life out of me.

‘Dee, where are you going’?

‘Dee, who are you chatting with’?

‘Dee, why this, why that’?

While I appreciate the concern and the love sorta, it could be so ‘pissing’ sometimes and the guy would have no choice than just to scream his head off. Oh Lord, some girls could pass for criminal interrogators; the way they investigate and ask questions like the world will come to an end the following day.

Hey Buds, I am sure you all can relate.

GOLD DIGGERS

LOL! Funny girlfriends these ones are, they just are simply not satisfied with what you have sweated out your life to get for them.

I could remember me going out of my way to buy my girlfriend a bunch of expensive slippers at ‘Oshodi’ Market when I was heading back from work in 2014. Feeling excited that I had at least gone out of my way. I mean, it wasn’t even her birthday and we weren’t celebrating any anniversary. But you know that feeling of happiness that you get after going out of YOUR way to buy an unexpected gift for your woman.

My major undoing was really going out of my way! She wanted something exquisite, special from one of the fancy boutique and stores on Victoria Island. She was not even appreciative one bit! While she collected the gift, her body language was all over me like;

‘Dee, you made a mistake for going out of getting me this, Man’

Those are the typical examples of Gold diggers. Unreasonable girls they are.

Some of you guys would be smiling already just as you are reading this post!

I leave the rest to you….Enjoy the video and see the different types of girlfriends you really would not want or like.

Enjoy:

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SwulP1JwmBg

YoungRichRuler:
Social Media is neutral.


It's use may or may not be abused.

Just like the Internet may be used for productive things, you may also decide to use it for non-productive ventures.


Every innovation has its pros and cons.

Hmmmn....

how productive has social media been on your relationship?

Believe me when I say the effects of social media on our relationships have come in huge and defeated all other conventional means of loving the man/ woman of your dreams.



Remember the days when we write love letters? The anticipation of receiving the letters and excitement of reading and replying.

I am sure this part will be so YOU!!

How about that time where some of us with NITEL landlines in our houses anticipating the calls from the special someone that we love. For those of us without the landlines, I remember having to go to a friend’s house based on schedule to receive “LOVE CALLS”.

Social media: Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp came and changed everything. Our perception, our thought process, our reasoning and our awareness level to nothingness increased. Most times I notice that people find it easy to rant, troll, seduce, and even pass love messages on social media than face to face. I also noticed a lot of exploitation and ‘what not’ on social media.

This post is not to really pass a confirmation of what social media has caused to our relationships and love life, as I have seen amazing love stories on how people meet on social media, fall in love and eventually get married and live happily ever after.

However, after getting a lot of requests latest of which is one of my friends and fellow blogger who told me about how insecure she felt about her boyfriend’s relation with the social media and how it is affecting their relationships. I decided to make about the effects of social media on our romance and relationships.

I spoke with a lot of people; Social media Users, Bloggers and Online Influencers. It is so sad that about 90% percent of those that I interviewed had negative things to say about the impact and effects of social media on their relationships.

This reminded me about the last relationship I had where my ex-girlfriend had to snoop on everything I did on social media, the people I chat with, the friends I talk to. It got to a point I became so addicted to Facebook, Instagram and Twitter and even Nairaland that it became the bone of contention and the bane of our fighting. Which eventually led to a lot of strains in our relationship.

I am sure a lot of people can relate to the above.

Some of us are so addicted to our mobiles and the Internet that social media is our new friend. Can you even blame us? Some of us live off social media. That is where our business is, online digital marketing, blogging, small time businesses.

The impact of social media on our everyday lives can not be over emphasized and the effects has sure been amazing,but bringing it to our relationships and romance, a lot of people have loads of things to say about this.

One of you had this to write:

My self and Bobo dated for 5 years and before I could say Jack Robinson, I noticed his interest in me started going down the drain. I mean, how can he find it so difficult to string up meaningful convo with me and then when I check his profile on Instagram and Facebook, I see new posts every other minutes and he wouldn’t even find time to hang out with his girlfriend. Who does that?

The week before we broke up, I had an accident on my way to Lagos from Benin and was admitted into the Hospital for a week. Guess what happened? He was busy liking pictures on Facebook and Instagram yet I was in the hospital receiving treatment.

Men! I called the relationship off.

In this case, What do you call the above? Is it a case of the social media apps or the my friend’s boyfriend ? I quite empathize with her on this one, because a lot of guys have been carried away with the different things and people they see on social media that they allow it affect their relationships negatively. A very sensitive and mature boyfriend should know and understand that the girlfriend comes first because all sorts of social media razzmatazz.

I also got this one from another friend:

She keeps uploading pictures of herself and guys on social media. I felt so concerned about this and usually I talk to her about it. I am a little jealous though and I know it, but then do you need to fuel it by being together with guys? Not that she does one or two guys though, Week in, Week out I see her hang out with different guys. Come on! I may be a little over the top with this, but then I am human and extremely sensitive which makes me a little bit insecure!

She is my girlfriend for God’s sake. My feelings have to matter to her.

This message from my friend really hit me on the spot, because I used to do this a lot until I stopped. I mean jealousy is part of our relationships and it is quite understandable if my friend is jealous as this is an okay thing. Occasional jealousy deepens the romance in a relationship. Yes!

If your lover discovers that his/her social media attitude and affiliations affects or hurts you, then there is the need to do things that will end the hurt. Hey Guys, if your girlfriend is doing the above, there is a need for heart to heart discussion. You better know where you both are headed before she cheats on you!

You know what happened eventually?

She cheated on my friend! We both saw it coming anyway!

So use this post as a leverage and have a tete-a-tete with her.

This also came from one of you:

Social media causes a lot of distractions. People pay unnecessary attention what they do not posses instead of really being thankful for the gifts they have. It is really saddening. A lot of people forget that time is money and it is the most valuable ingredient in romance and relationships, and it is time we go back to investing time in our relationships.

It baffles me when people worry and bother so much about others think and not on their own selves and relationships. Why not focus on your relationships? Why make life and love so hard?

The effects on social media on relationships is really huge. It takes a chunk of time off us. Valuable time that we should spend on meaningful and constructive things. It is so evident in the post above as the lady in question was clamoring for more attention from her boyfriend, yet Boo is busy getting busy with other people’s affairs online. Time is very key in a relationship and time lost can not be recovered. Life is crazy short! Spending more time on social media than on your relationship is just a NO NO!

Don’t carry another person’s load on your head to simply carry yours like an handbag. Prioritize!!

A friend also had this to write:

[b]It has its good side and bad side. Yes!

For those in a long distance relationship, it’s a way of keeping tabs on happenings around your partner. That’s for those who are active online.

By keeping tab I don’t mean snooping for wrong doing. Just getting a feel of events that you would have probably been present for; pictures, videos and all.

However on the nay nay side…

There are those who can’t even let go of their phone to have a meaningful one on one conversation with their partner.

They are sitting right there with you and at every beep (not a phone call) you pick up your phone to check the latest comment/post.

Some don’t even have anything reasonable to discuss anymore except posts that has been making wave. Indirectly, it’s amebo talk that makes up your conversation. Cos those posts are happening in other people’s lives and you are sitting there discussing about it with your partner.

The point is, people love to be online more than they love been in company of the significant other. Well, except in the other room where there’s no space to be online and offline same time

See eh, I hung out with a group of people yesterday… Out of 7 of us… 3 were on the phone, checking comments,posts, discussing comments from people at interval… Meanwhile we are supposed to be gisting oh

I tire…

People no longer discuss sensible things aside who said what and why what was said

I mean, there is nothing wrong about discussing a post say about issues of domestic violence… But why will you be discussing, how this your friend now made this comment, than you replied to out them in line or call them to other and how a clap back happened and then it resulted in a sub by John Doe… Huh[/b]

While relationships helps you with keeping tabs on your partner, you shouldn’t over do things. Spending time unnecessary over what not does not make you a good lover!

As mentioned earlier, time is very key in bringing together valuable togetherness and fostering better relationships.Why spend time trolling on the internet and social media when you can dedicate such amount of energy on your loved ones! You will lose more than you gain eventually anyway!

A friend finally had this to write:

[b]Social Media has been helpful for people in relationship to communicate faster, frequently and better…

The chats. Instagram Video Calls.. Snap chat

The duo in the relationship may be far from each other, but yet they can still share current moments together.

I have been able to share live moments because of social media with my friends

However, this should not take the place of seeing one on one as the case may be

Also, In Social media, some folks live fake life… Someone who’s not contented with His boo or bae may be tempted to be swayed by another interest who looks tapping only on Social media. People should not decide based on fine posts on social media but what they see and hear in real life..

People `live fake lives on social media, and the moment they get you to key into their fake lives, you get sucked in and obsessed, and that’s it. Every other thing becomes less important to you to the point of getting carried away. Leaving to lose focus of more important things, focusing on the less.This is not to say that social media does not help in deepening existing long distance relationships and does not have his positives as mentioned by my friend above. It is really key to use social media to enhance positivity in your relationship and not destroy your relationships.[/b]

What do you think about the above comments? Are they on point? Do you have comments to make as well? We need to give this topic more depth as it is!

What are the effects of social media on relationships. How has it affected your relationship? I can’t wait to have your thoughts on this!

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Cc: lalasticlala, mynd44

olasmith10:
No 1: two of una no get work to do

No 2; why u carry Fone go fetch water!!!

Hmmmn....

Talk2Bella:
There’s nothing like a Mr. Right or a perfect man, have you ever wondered why all the type of people you seem to love or feel they will be right for you end up disappointing you? The bad boy personae? The banker personae? The professor personae? The yahoo boy personae? Etc.

Growing up, you have envisioned the type of man you want to spend the rest of your life with, you have set up certain criteria of how your dream man should be, look and act like; when the time comes for you to date you reject every responsible person who comes your way because you have a picture of what your Mr. Right is supposed to be like, SISTER WAKE UP!

Have y’all ladies ever wondered why you envy other people’s relationships? Mostly celebrities or people of influence; some of y’all have daydreams and wet dreams of another person’s partner because you wish him to be yours, because you feel he is your dream man, you feel he is the exact replica of what your Mr. Right should be like, you begin to plot how you even want your present partner to emulate another man because you have been deceived by the media and other women who live fake lives that there’s such a thing as Mr. Right, SISTER WAKE UP!

So many single independent ladies out there who have been in the single market for long are confused! Even before a man asks them out they have concocted in their heads how they will rebrand him and turn him into their dream man or Mr. Right, dear men this is what we call a MR RIGHT NOW! In economic terms {if the preferable isn’t available, the available becomes the preferable} while there’s nothing bad with this most times it doesn’t work because we’re trying to change you into who you’re not just to fit the Mr. Right criterion.

Someone once asked me, what do you look for in a man? It’s not bad to have certain standards or criteria of what a future partner should possess, but it is stupid to meet someone who possesses 50/60 percent of these criteria and you deem him unworthy, no one I repeat one one on earth is a 100% complete, never was, never will be and that’s the mistake we ladies make because we focus more on other people’s facade of a relationship instead of trying to build ours, SISTER WAKE UP!

Have you ever entered into any relationship without goals? Expectations? Criteria? I know something must attract you at first but after that physical attraction, do you dump all your expectations at the door and say to yourself {let me see how this goes, let me go along with the ride, let me not expect anything and surprise myself, maybe something is wrong with my criteria, let me allow this man love me his own way, let me take the risk of not wanting anything and maybe just maybe in my want for nothing I might be contented} have you? And that my sister is what creates the avenue for a forever after.

Ever heard that joke? If your Mr. Right is going left please bring him to the right, you laugh at this but yet you don’t understand the heavy message this joke carries, someone might possess all the qualifications of what your Mr. Right should be but because of his physical appearance, financial capability or family background you tend to waive them aside, he’s handsome but short, he’s rich but disabled, he’s intelligent but not motivated, he’s shy but cold, he’s eloquent but foul, and so we complain about all creatures on earth, SISTER WAKE UP!

Do not let your peers deceive you, once they get hooked they know there’s nothing like a Mr. Right, they came to that conclusion before they got hooked and tried to live with it, it’s because they made peace with it that’s why you now envy them and want to emulate them, once you get a man who possesses a wee bit of those qualities you want in a man, make do with it as time goes on you would love him for the other part of those qualifications he’s not, no one can be right or perfect for another, it’s in our imperfections that’s where the true test of love lies.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rnyJncLK2_U


Isabella Ibeji

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/12/ladies-theres-no-such-thing-as-mr-right.html

This video should be on Deedeesblog too.

Nice Video Isabella

EfemenaXY:
Nice write-up. Apart from a couple of repetitions, that is.

This (blog) really should be in the Literature Section. That aside, the lady in question should accept her fate as her religion permits the man to marry up to 4 wives. At least she'll be the first and most senior wife, so that should count for something.

In the meantime she should seek to improve herself either by completing her education and getting a job / starting up a business. With her husband's permission though.

Cc: Ishilove

Thanks a lot for the advice, I am sure she is reading as well.

cc: lalasticlala, mynd44

The pregnancy was 2 weeks old so we thought it was going to be easy to terminate it but we were very wrong because we tried everything to flush it out, it just didn't work.

I thought of abortion pills and D&C but I was afraid of the consequence so eventually, we left the baby.

I couldn't tell my parents until the pregnancy was 3 months old, so I told my brother who was responsible for my education on WhatsApp because I couldn't face him.

He later contacted the families to break the news.

After all said and done, we fixed a date for introduction but it was later canceled due to a misunderstanding between a member of both families.

He changed afterwards, he doesn't spend time with me like before, and when I confronted him about his lack of time. His only excuse would be that he was trying to get a good job so that he can take up his responsibility.

As the pregnancy continued to grow, I became uncomfortable living with my parents so I discussed with him on the marriage issue. He went livid and berserk, shouted at me that can't I be considerate? He doesn't have the money for the lists from my parents.

I concluded that I was not having the discussion with him again. I felt bad because I was not the one that created the baby in my tummy. We both did it together and we should both accept that.

However, he grew cold to me until my delivery day.

Despite his attitude at that time, he was in the labour room with me on delivery day as I delivered a beautiful baby girl.

After my delivery, he came back to his senses and decided to beg my family for his cold treatment when I was pregnant.

Eventually, we had our introduction after the delivery of the baby!

I moved in with him and we started living as husband and wife.

I trusted him completely as I figured that he was in love with me and appreciated me as his woman.

Until that fateful day.

Whenever our daughter cries, he gives her one of his phones to play with. That day I came into the room and found my daughter struggling to put the phone in her mouth. In my bid to collect the phone from her, I checked the screen to confirm whether it was damaged only to see the message he sent to a girl about some recharge card and some other fairly naughty convos.

I noticed from the tone of the conversation that he usually chats with me that way back then. Something told me to check the chat but because I trusted him and I had no right to his privacy. I just ignored the chat.

Exactly 3 days later, I was awakened by the cry of my baby so I picked her up and was breastfeeding her when I noticed his Blackberry phone beeped.

I took the phone with the intention of giving it him only to find a message from the same lady that he chatted with earlier, so I opened it and saw all the previous chats.

How they have been having sex

How he intends to bring him into his house as a second wife.

I was shocked and devastated!

I loved him, I trusted him.

We had plans that it was going to be just me and me alone!

He promised me, He swore to me.

How could he have cheated on me all this while.

I couldn't eat for days so I became lean and unkempt but I really didn't care or notice it.

All I felt was hatred, betrayal, used and foolish.

I reported to all the families since everyone noticed I was looking unkempt and starved. The feeling was something I could not deal with.

The family has apologized, he has apologized as well and it took me months before I could be myself again, to forgive him.

Yes, I have forgiven him, but trusting him is the issue I have at the moment.

How can I live with someone I do not trust? Should I move to my parents house?

How do I even deal

I still love him, I know but the pain still hurts till today!

What should I do?

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Hi Family, This story I am about to share was a one week WhatsApp discussion between myself and a Nairalander. She decided to share this heartbreaking story with me. This story is a bit long and mature responses are what we pray for. Hear her story.

I am a broken young woman who has loved and left reeling in hurt and disappointment. I am having a lot of difficulty in trusting my husband again, so I decided to share this story with DeeDee.

This is my story:

I fell in love with him when I was 17. We are from the same area but he wasn’t brought up there just like me.

I came back home from Port Harcourt in 2009 after my WAEC examination. We moved to our own house in 2010, still the same town but different area. Some months later, he moved down to their own house with his family, their house is adjacent to ours. I am

I am a very private person; shy and always love to spend time indoor – the type Yorubas will call OMO GET INSIDE, so I didn’t care when I heard we had a new neighbour, not knowing that the new neighbour would be the one to transform my life forever.

The following day I saw his sisters, I was still looking at his sisters when he came out of the house with his friends.

Immediately I saw him I was lost in thought and couldn’t take my eyes off him.

I guessed my Mom must have noticed the attraction then she shouted angrily at me;

“You better continue what you are doing and stop this nonsense”

That was the saving grace that day I first saw him. I couldn’t just take my off Dekunle (not real name)

That was it for me! Love at first sight!

As days flew by, I felt more attracted to him. I always think about the face, the beautiful features, but the problem was I couldn’t talk to him because I was always with my parents and they were strict.

As luck would have it, my mom sent me to fetch water one day from the well that was beside their house. I was so excited, I picked up a bucket with the hope of seeing him closely. Then, I saw him in front of their house just on a trouser.

I was so excited, I picked up a bucket with the hope of seeing him closely. Then, I saw him in front of their house just on a trouser.

His body was beautiful and well structured, six packs, smooth skin, curly hair, I just couldn’t stop staring at him until he looked up and caught me staring.

His eyes were beautiful, I would not lie.

Embarrassed that he caught me staring, I quickly walked away but I was happy he noticed me. The next day my parents were out to work, I was told to fetch water before they return.

In a bid to get to see him again, I quickly tidied up the house and went to the well to fetch water. On my way there, I heard a whistle and I looked in the direction.

He was looking through his window and caught me staring at him again. Embarrassed the second time that he may have noticed that I have a thing for him, I took out my phone and played ” E no easy oh” by Psquare, to calm my already fast beating heart and anxious mind, I concentrated on fetching the water.

In order to get my attention fully, he also came out with buckets to fetch water. My heart started beating fast and I couldn’t focus on fetching water. He came closer and said;

“E no easy but they are making money”

I didn’t say anything I just smiled. He then helped me with the water. I was however too shy and lovestruck to talk to him.

The next day, I saw him by his window again and this time, it was like he was actually waiting for me to come around, he signaled at me to come closer to his window. I moved closer anxious to hear his voice again and look into his eyes. We got properly acquainted and I felt immense happiness talking to him.

That moment I knew I was in love with him.

That spot became our rendezvous spot; His window.

We later extended it to going to the beach together in order to avoid the prying eyes of my parents since they have started to notice how close we were.

Remember I was 17 years old, very young!

After discovering our lovey-dovey affair, my parents decided to lock me in the house and seize my phone to deny me from all sort of communication with Dekunle. However as fate would have it, I heard him passing by one day, so I quickly opened my window, he was happy when he saw me and asked why my phone has been off.

We later agreed that he would be sneaking to my house at night so we could get to know each other more and water the flower of our newly planted love seed.

After sometime, my parents became suspicious of the late night frolicking and he decided to man up. He started coming to my parent’s house to buy groceries, since my mom sells. He also decided to start assisting my mom with little chores around the area and soon enough, my

He also decided to start assisting my mom with little chores around the area and soon enough, my parents’ heart warmed towards him.

Naturally, he did not ask me out, we just started dating from the first day. He knew what I felt for him was so strong and decided to roll with the tide. I was happy, excited to be in love with such a handsome young man and our love developed from there.

I was happy, excited to be in love with such a handsome young man and our love developed from there.

After we got really close, I discovered that he was studying accounting at the University, he encouraged me to further my studies but I felt insecure.

I thought the distance will cause havoc so when my mom obtained d jamb form for me then, I blew up the exam because I didn’t want to go to school yet. I wanted to get closer to him.

I wanted to get closer to him. later on, I started seeing him with female folks, I got so jealous so I decided to go to school like he wanted so I got admitted into a college.

I was in my second year in the College in 2014 when he proposed to me and I said YES! The feeling was out of this world really, a man I loved with all my heart finally asking me to be his wife. The feeling was just out of this world.

Then he gave me a condition that I must be able to read in Arabic before I could be his wife. there’s no way I could go back to Arabic school because it will be embarrassing to be with the children learning there so I told him I will try. I tried learning online but I wasn’t as good as he wanted so I felt inferior. I felt I wasn’t good enough so I decided to pause our relationship and have campus

No WAY! How can I go back to Arabic school because it will be embarrassing to be with the children learning there, so I told him I will try because I love him and wouldn’t want anything to

How can I go back to Arabic school because it will be embarrassing to be with the children learning there, so I told him I will try because I love him and wouldn’t want anything to jeopardize our new level of relationship.

I tried learning online but I wasn’t as good as he wanted so I felt inferior. I felt I wasn’t good enough so I decided to pause our relationship and have campus flings.

I felt inferior; like I wasn’t good enough so I decided to pause our relationship and have campus fling because I felt really bad that I so much loved him and he shouldn’t have given me conditions in our relationship.

He noticed I changed so he lifted the condition with the promise that when we get married, he will teach me Arabic.

That settled, we then planned to inform our parents about our intended Union.

He told his parents and later told mine. His parents refused because they wanted him to marry someone that’s from their town.

My parents, on the other hand, thought that I still needed time to plan my future and learn a lot about life so they said NO as well.

Then the pressure started.

It got so high to the point that we decided that when we were done with school, I will get pregnant for him and we will now announce my pregnancy so that we can have their blessings and then properly get married.

Then Pregnancy happened!

We were shocked, I was in my final year; a few months to my exams. He was done with school and job hunting, and I could not even think about the idea of nursing a baby without him having a job. I was scared stiff that I would have to depend on him for everything. We were both not ready for the baby.

The thought of things not going according to plans bothered me so much that it almost affected my final exams.


We then decided that I won’t have the BABY.............................................................................

The pregnancy was 2 weeks old so we thought it was going to be easy to terminate it but we were very wrong because we tried everything to flush it out, it just didn't work.

I thought of abortion pills and D&C but I was afraid of the consequence so eventually, we left the baby.

I couldn't tell my parents until the pregnancy was 3 months old, so I told my brother who was responsible for my education on WhatsApp because I couldn't face him.

He later contacted the families to break the news.

After all said and done, we fixed a date for introduction but it was later canceled due to a misunderstanding between a member of both families.

He changed afterwards, he doesn't spend time with me like before, and when I confronted him about his lack of time. His only excuse would be that he was trying to get a good job so that he can take up his responsibility.

As the pregnancy continued to grow, I became uncomfortable living with my parents so I discussed with him on the marriage issue. He went livid and berserk, shouted at me that can't I be considerate? He doesn't have the money for the lists from my parents.

I concluded that I was not having the discussion with him again. I felt bad because I was not the one that created the baby in my tummy. We both did it together and we should both accept that.

However, he grew cold to me until my delivery day.

Despite his attitude at that time, he was in the labour room with me on delivery day as I delivered a beautiful baby girl.

After my delivery, he came back to his senses and decided to beg my family for his cold treatment when I was pregnant.

Eventually, we had our introduction after the delivery of the baby!

I moved in with him and we started living as husband and wife.

I trusted him completely as I figured that he was in love with me and appreciated me as his woman.

Until that fateful day.

Whenever our daughter cries, he gives her one of his phones to play with. That day I came into the room and found my daughter struggling to put the phone in her mouth. In my bid to collect the phone from her, I checked the screen to confirm whether it was damaged only to see the message he sent to a girl about some recharge card and some other fairly naughty convos.

I noticed from the tone of the conversation that he usually chats with me that way back then. Something told me to check the chat but because I trusted him and I had no right to his privacy. I just ignored the chat.

Exactly 3 days later, I was awakened by the cry of my baby so I picked her up and was breastfeeding her when I noticed his Blackberry phone beeped.

I took the phone with the intention of giving it him only to find a message from the same lady that he chatted with earlier, so I opened it and saw all the previous chats.

How they have been having sex

How he intends to bring him into his house as a second wife.

I was shocked and devastated!

I loved him, I trusted him.

We had plans that it was going to be just me and me alone!

He promised me, He swore to me.

How could he have cheated on me all this while.

I couldn't eat for days so I became lean and unkempt but I really didn't care or notice it.

All I felt was hatred, betrayal, used and foolish.

I reported to all the families since everyone noticed I was looking unkempt and starved. The feeling was something I could not deal with.

The family has apologized, he has apologized as well and it took me months before I could be myself again, to forgive him.

Yes, I have forgiven him, but trusting him is the issue I have at the moment.

How can I live with someone I do not trust? Should I move to my parents house?

How do I even deal

I still love him, I know but the pain still hurts till today!

What should I do?

http://deedeesblog.com/agony-young-married-woman-can-i-ever-love-and-trust-him-again/

Hi Family, This story I am about to share was a one week WhatsApp discussion between myself and a Nairalander. She decided to share this heartbreaking story with me. Lalasticlala, this is your turf bro! This story is a bit long and mature responses is what we pray for. Hear her story.

I am a broken young woman who has loved and left reeling in hurt and disappointment. I am having a lot of difficulty in trusting my husband again, so I decided to share this story with DeeDee.

This is my story:

I fell in love with him when I was 17. We are from the same area but he wasn’t brought up there just like me.

I came back home from Port Harcourt in 2009 after my WAEC examination. We moved to our own house in 2010, still the same town but different area. Some months later, he moved down to their own house with his family, their house is adjacent to ours.

I am a very private person; shy and always love to spend time indoor – the type Yorubas will call OMO GET INSIDE, so I didn’t care when I heard we had a new neighbour, not knowing that the new neighbour would be the one to transform my life forever.

The following day I saw his sisters, I was still looking at his sisters when he came out of the house with his friends.

Immediately I saw him I was lost in thought and couldn’t take my eyes off him.

I guessed my Mom must have noticed the attraction then she shouted angrily at me;

“You better continue what you are doing and stop this nonsense”

That was the saving grace that day I first saw him. I couldn’t just take my off Dekunle (not real name)

That was it for me! Love at first sight!

As days flew by, I felt more attracted to him. I always think about the face, the beautiful features, but the problem was I couldn’t talk to him because I was always with my parents and they were strict.

As luck would have it, my mom sent me to fetch water one day from the well that was beside their house. I was so excited, I picked up a bucket with the hope of seeing him closely. Then, I saw him in front of their house just on a trouser.

I was so excited, I picked up a bucket with the hope of seeing him closely. Then, I saw him in front of their house just on a trouser.

His body was beautiful and well structured, six packs, smooth skin, curly hair, I just couldn’t stop staring at him until he looked up and caught me staring.

His eyes were beautiful, I would not lie.

Embarrassed that he caught me staring, I quickly walked away but I was happy he noticed me. The next day my parents were out to work, I was told to fetch water before they return.

In a bid to get to see him again, I quickly tidied up the house and went to the well to fetch water. On my way there, I heard a whistle and I looked in the direction.

He was looking through his window and caught me staring at him again. Embarrassed the second time that he may have noticed that I have a thing for him, I took out my phone and played ” E no easy oh” by Psquare, to calm my already fast beating heart and anxious mind, I concentrated on fetching the water.

In order to get my attention fully, he also came out with buckets to fetch water. My heart started beating fast and I couldn’t focus on fetching water. He came closer and said;

“E no easy but they are making money”

I didn’t say anything I just smiled. He then helped me with the water. I was however too shy and lovestruck to talk to him.

The next day, I saw him by his window again and this time, it was like he was actually waiting for me to come around, he signaled at me to come closer to his window. I moved closer anxious to hear his voice again and look into his eyes. We got properly acquainted and I felt immense happiness talking to him.

That moment I knew I was in love with him.

That spot became our rendezvous spot; His window.

We later extended it to going to the beach together in order to avoid the prying eyes of my parents since they have started to notice how close we were.

Remember I was 17 years old, very young!

After discovering our lovey-dovey affair, my parents decided to lock me in the house and seize my phone to deny me from all sort of communication with Dekunle. However as fate would have it, I heard him passing by one day, so I quickly opened my window, he was happy when he saw me and asked why my phone has been off.

We later agreed that he would be sneaking to my house at night so we could get to know each other more and water the flower of our newly planted love seed.

After sometime, my parents became suspicious of the late night frolicking and he decided to man up. He started coming to my parent’s house to buy groceries, since my mom sells. He also decided to start assisting my mom with little chores around the area and soon enough, my

He also decided to start assisting my mom with little chores around the area and soon enough, my parents’ heart warmed towards him.

Naturally, he did not ask me out, we just started dating from the first day. He knew what I felt for him was so strong and decided to roll with the tide. I was happy, excited to be in love with such a handsome young man and our love developed from there.

I was happy, excited to be in love with such a handsome young man and our love developed from there.

After we got really close, I discovered that he was studying accounting at the University, he encouraged me to further my studies but I felt insecure.

I thought the distance will cause havoc so when my mom obtained d jamb form for me then, I blew up the exam because I didn’t want to go to school yet. I wanted to get closer to him.

I wanted to get closer to him. later on, I started seeing him with female folks, I got so jealous so I decided to go to school like he wanted so I got admitted into a college.

I was in my second year in the College in 2014 when he proposed to me and I said YES! The feeling was out of this world really, a man I loved with all my heart finally asking me to be his wife. The feeling was just out of this world.

Then he gave me a condition that I must be able to read in Arabic before I could be his wife. there’s no way I could go back to Arabic school because it will be embarrassing to be with the children learning there so I told him I will try. I tried learning online but I wasn’t as good as he wanted so I felt inferior. I felt I wasn’t good enough so I decided to pause our relationship and have campus

No WAY! How can I go back to Arabic school because it will be embarrassing to be with the children learning there, so I told him I will try because I love him and wouldn’t want anything to

How can I go back to Arabic school because it will be embarrassing to be with the children learning there, so I told him I will try because I love him and wouldn’t want anything to jeopardize our new level of relationship.

I tried learning online but I wasn’t as good as he wanted so I felt inferior. I felt I wasn’t good enough so I decided to pause our relationship and have campus flings.

I felt inferior; like I wasn’t good enough so I decided to pause our relationship and have campus fling because I felt really bad that I so much loved him and he shouldn’t have given me conditions in our relationship.

He noticed I changed so he lifted the condition with the promise that when we get married, he will teach me Arabic.

That settled, we then planned to inform our parents about our intended Union.

He told his parents and later told mine. His parents refused because they wanted him to marry someone that’s from their town.

My parents, on the other hand, thought that I still needed time to plan my future and learn a lot about life so they said NO as well.

Then the pressure started.

It got so high to the point that we decided that when we were done with school, I will get pregnant for him and we will now announce my pregnancy so that we can have their blessings and then properly get married.

Then Pregnancy happened!

We were shocked, I was in my final year; a few months to my exams. He was done with school and job hunting, and I could not even think about the idea of nursing a baby without him having a job. I was scared stiff that I would have to depend on him for everything. We were both not ready for the baby.

The thought of things not going according to plans bothered me so much that it almost affected my final exams.


We then decided that I won’t have the BABY.............................................................................

Divay22:
I hope no probs

You not showing up because of the pains you may feel is one smart move on your end.

Reason for the wink!

No problem Diva!

My own ex-girlfriend starting dating another guy 3 weeks after we broke up!

Biko, what do you call that?

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chibuzor05:
The blog is cool, and you already have Adsense too... But I may say you have more ads on your pages, do you think that is really cool?

I only have like 2 ads on my page. Is it more than that?

Hello chibuzor05

Please help review www.deedeesblog.com

Thanks.

OBALORLA:
first thing is I'd warn against taking the commendations from friends and family seriously. most of them are just to encourage you. Hence, if your feedbacks are coming from them, I want u to assume u aren't getting any feedback at all.

to your blog.
almost (if not all your pictures) aren't credited. did u design them all?

the layout of your home page too isn't that well structured. too many colours and shades to deal with.

lastly: though your scope is interesting but try going from basic to complex. why? you have too many sections And what dis did was to make some sections suffer from lack of content.

try working on them all

Many thanks for your feedback. They were constructive.

To answer question 1) 70% of my pictures are shot,edited, created by me. The remaining 30% are gotten from a graphics site where you can get pictures and graphic designs for "FREE". Reference or not.

2.) I want you to please clarify. How do you mean too colours and shades. Is it the background? the header part or the homepage interface. Clarifications will allow me make effective corrections.

Your number 3 feedback is the most confusing of all. Please explain more so I can work around it. For the other categories that are without content though. I am working on creating more contents for the categories. The new year holds great things, but what would you advise me do?

Remove the categories with insufficient content? or merge together with some other categories?

Your response would be invaluable.

Thanks a lot