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Romance › Re: Why Do Guys Run From Commitments? by deturla(op): 7:58am On Jul 01, 2016

bentlywills:
Hu commitment dn epp?

Your life span starts reducing the moment you enter a relationship

So you ain't gonn marry or be in a relationship?.....

Romance › Re: Why Do Guys Run From Commitments? by deturla(op): 7:57am On Jul 01, 2016

ednut1:
100% correct. My last babe wan kill me with nagging naso i run abeg. Imagine i had a stressful day at work. From 8am-9pm as we wan meet deadline o. Had lunch nd diner at my desk. I con dey traffic by 10.30. Naso she call dey para i haven't called her today bla bla bla she wants to sleep and need to hear my voice (u be baby ni) . U wey i even chat up for phone small explain as he dey go o. Mtcheeeew. Make i dey enjoy dey go till i wan marry abeg

Till when you are ready to marry?....won't there be any sort of commitment on your part before you do that? Or you will just see a babe today and marry her tomorrow?

My brother, commitment go soon epp you....

Romance › Re: Why Do Guys Run From Commitments? by deturla(op): 7:31am On Jul 01, 2016

PushPlay:
Cuz the economy ain't smiling.

The Fish and Chicken i cooked last night isn't enough for me how much more for two of us.

Why give her all the signs that you are serious and ready, when you know you can barely feed yourself...LOL

Romance › Re: Why Do Guys Run From Commitments? by deturla(op): 7:31am On Jul 01, 2016

Folanky:
commitment for this buharism!!!,don't play wit fire ooo economy is nt smilling.

LOL.....Funny grin

Romance › Why Do Guys Run From Commitments? by deturla(op): 6:49am On Jul 01, 2016*

I am an inquisitive somebody when it comes to relationships. The relationship between man and woman(I have to spell that out in full). For the next couple of months, I will be writing about my views, opinions, objectives and the regular questions on my mind about relationship. Big thanks to Deedeesblog.

I have a lot on my mind actually when it comes to relationship and I will share some with you on this journey. At first I had trouble picking the first topic to write about but this topic is the most confusing one I have.

So, I have this friend of mine named TAYO. Tayo was just a casual friend until recently. I really can’t say how we left the niche of just been casual friends to close knitted friends but everything changed within the past few months. From the late night chats to the early morning sweet calls. We looked forward to sharing moments.

Everything was looking sweet and perfect. Tayo was an interesting person, we both enjoy each other’s company (at least so he said so too). I can’t deny the fact that I know he truly cares about me.

But after a while, I discovered that I was feeling the extra for him,wanting more from our friendship, don’t blame me, I really like him. Tayo got a wind of my feelings (we all can tell when someone is feeling the extra for us except if you are emotionally blind. Receive sight!) and then he changed.

He reduced the number of calls and our messages went down the drain. I confronted him and he said ” errrm, he is not ready for a relationship” then I asked him” Biko,why were you acting like you were ready for one? What do you think you are doing by going the extra mile with me? Why get that close without defining anything”? Why tickle my emotions until they came flooding in?”. “Why get ideas into my head, going all mushy on me?” Talking about our first kiss and going all romantic om me? Really,don’t tell me that was “just” friendship (that’s pre-relationship) LOL.

I went on and on and after which we discussed extensively. Summarily, dear TAYO wants almost all the benefit of a relationship and yet doesn’t want to commit.

It brought out the inquisitiveness in me and went on a research as to why “some” guys are guilty of this with the help of some of my male friends. I will just list few, please feel free to add yours and enlighten me.

1: Some guys can’t actually deal with the emotional catastrophe associated with maybe heartbreaks and too much loving, so they prefer to just be on the friends with benefit angle(like seriously?)

2: There is also the popular saying “We are wired differently”. Some guys prefer to stay without emotions and just have their fun with no strings. We call them the ‘Fun Guys’. They just want to keep having fun regardless of their age and all. Issokay!

4: Some of the guys want to keep adding the numbers of ‘knacked’ babes to their CV. You know for some people, sleeping with as much girls as possible is a feat that deserved to be celebrated, so instead of being in an emotional tied relationship, they prefer frolicking around. God is watching you!

And after all these answers though, I’m more than clueless and confused. Is God not love? Why run away from it? Why prefer to stay uncommitted? You are expected to be emotionally stronger, why the emotional weakness?

Tayo is not just the guilty one here,same with Deji, Tola, Mayowa, Biodun, Chuks, Ibrahim and YOU, yes YOU!

So guys, Biko always define your relationships, if you know at the end your default ringtone will be “baby, I like you but I’m not just ready for a relationship”. Hian!!!!

Check our our blog and like what we are doing @ www.deedeesblog.com ..... We are building your kind of life in style

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Future Leaders Programme Graduate (2016) With GSK by deturla: 7:09pm On Jun 30, 2016

wroskian:
Egbon

To those that are sceptical about inclusion of referee details on their resumes; at this stage, it doesn't affect your candidature, this might not be the case for other openings. HR officials are more preoccupied with hiring the best hands now and you'll definitely provide references if you land the job. Including one's referee details on resumes is relative and discretional. Read more about that on this thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/2852481/referee-details-available-upon-request

NOTE: I am neither an HR professional nor a GSK employee yet.

CHEERS!!!

Wroskian Baba Nla.... I sight you boss! How the hustle?....Kilonshele?

Art, Graphics & Video › Re: LIFE LENS: My Amazing SLUM Journey! by deturla(op): 6:25pm On Jun 28, 2016*

Keep following this thread as I upload more breathtaking pictures.....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yt3SKRxCl_Y

Art, Graphics & Video › Re: LIFE LENS: My Amazing SLUM Journey! by deturla(op): 6:24pm On Jun 28, 2016

One of the communities living on the Badagry Island where we have the popular point of. O return is the Ilaje Community.

Community occupied majorly by fishermen. They complained of obvious neglect by the government despite coming to seek their votes durin election.

These guys live in tattered apartments and live with no care in the world. They only have a community center built by the government and just one generator in the whole of the community.

.....See the timelines as we move into the interior of the community....

Art, Graphics & Video › Re: LIFE LENS: My Amazing SLUM Journey! by deturla(op): 6:21pm On Jun 28, 2016

Sorry I took quite some time in uploading pictures. It's a massive project. I'm still working on the Ilaje community pictures. However I have a couple of Badagry pictures on my phone...

I will just share a couple of them...whilst i continue working on the other pictures and video.

It will blow your minds out when you see the collections and what we actually went to do

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Art, Graphics & Video › Re: LIFE LENS: My Amazing SLUM Journey! by deturla(op): 6:16pm On Jun 28, 2016

We went to the Badagry community as part of our Life Lens project where we had a brief chat with one of the high Chiefs of Oba Akran.

They in turn gave us the go ahead to move into the communities and capture pictures....

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Romance › Re: Why Will You Befriend Your Ex On Social Media When You Have Me? by deturla(op): 7:15pm On Jun 27, 2016

PunkyV:
I saw it.

I find it HILARIOUS

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Future Leaders Programme Graduate (2016) With GSK by deturla: 5:44pm On Jun 27, 2016

azz19:
what should those that have passed the online assessment be expecting next?

Did you read my last post before this? I stated it there categorically Sir.

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Future Leaders Programme Graduate (2016) With GSK by deturla: 1:56pm On Jun 27, 2016

It happens like that! I remember last year too! Was quite sceptical when I did not see my application status. Only for me to receive a telephone interview invite.

For those that have written the test and passed. Chill, okay?

They said in the email that they would review your application. Keep calm, that's what they are doing.

At least that was what they did last year.

Cheers.

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Romance › Re: I Think I Miss My Ex by deturla(op): 9:36pm On Jun 26, 2016

halfricanadian:

Halfricanadian?

Romance › Re: TRUE LOVE: You Will Cry When You Watch This Amazing Wedding Entrance Video Blowi by deturla(op): 9:34pm On Jun 26, 2016

jashar:
what's wrong with him?

Hahahahaha

Romance › Re: Why Will You Befriend Your Ex On Social Media When You Have Me? by deturla(op): 11:27am On Jun 26, 2016

KingCheezyPuff:

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Shortlisted Candidates For EFCC Graduate Cadre by deturla: 4:02am On Jun 26, 2016

zicoraads:
I have never in my life written a job test by 1:00 am, until now.

Please what's happening. I've not heard from my brother since yesterday. He isn't even picking his calls till now.

Are you guys not done with the papers yet or what exactly?

Romance › Re: Why Will You Befriend Your Ex On Social Media When You Have Me? by deturla(op): 7:44pm On Jun 25, 2016

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#cc66ff]•This post better not be fer yer blog in ANY way
[/color]

LOL...Bhet why?

Romance › Re: Why Will You Befriend Your Ex On Social Media When You Have Me? by deturla(op): 6:39pm On Jun 25, 2016

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#cc66ff]•I've said my piece.
But if you end up with a failed relationship,its your own unwillingness to compromise that caused it[/color]

A well structured, planned and thought out relationship with specific directions is not bound to fail!

I believe when one continues to grow in love. It gets to a point, and you and your partner would have reached a specific height that you know where the togetherness is headed.

Not to worry bro! My relationship won't do that because I kept an ex as a friend! I love your feedback.

Have you checked my blog?

Romance › Re: Why Will You Befriend Your Ex On Social Media When You Have Me? by deturla(op): 6:22pm On Jun 25, 2016

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#cc66ff]•Dude!! Your woman doesn't like it,you should consider her.
Your not a single guy that's free to decide anything he pleases,you've a partner.
Is the relationship very serious?
If yes,you need to cut ties with the exes.
..... [/color]

Bro! I don't think so, what does friendship mean to you? The fact that it did not work out between us doesn't mean we shouldn't/ couldn't be friends?

Romance › Re: Why Will You Befriend Your Ex On Social Media When You Have Me? by deturla(op): 5:08pm On Jun 25, 2016

mrPero:
For the fact tat u guys av broken up does not mak u enemies. .. forgive . Become friends. . Check on each oda once a while. . Ders nofin in this life worth holding on to. . Tins Happen.. no one knows tomoro. .. how will u feel waking up to find out tat ur ex is no more but u had opportunities to Atleast mak peace. .. plsss Let's let go of pride n ego... e no de epp.

LOL @Pride.

Romance › Re: Why Will You Befriend Your Ex On Social Media When You Have Me? by deturla(op): 4:54pm On Jun 25, 2016

PunkyV:
Yes, they're humans, humans you have history with, so it's totally unacceptable.

We're obviously on different ends of the spectrum here. So please tell me, why are you still friends with yours? Because for me, once the relationship part is over, I see no other reason to be keeping them around. I didn't know them before we started a relationship & I don't wanna know them after the relationship is done. It's that simple. Partly because I don't like reminders & also because I'm a minimalist. Having an ex in your life is comparable to carrying old dusty baggage along with you wherever you go. At least that's how it feels to me. So by dropping them, the load lessens on all levels.

I'm not friends with exes, not even one. The reasons of the break-up don't even matter, I just want them out!

Hmmmn...Now i get!

I can imagine putting your all in a relationship and then before you know it 'It is done!'

The reasons of the break-up don't even matter, I just want them out - This part is the most interesting.

I like you already! wink

Romance › Re: Why Will You Befriend Your Ex On Social Media When You Have Me? by deturla(op): 4:23pm On Jun 25, 2016

PunkyV:
I'm not gonna lie, I do not like exes in the picture. I don't get why some people just can't cut people off & move on. So a partner that's still friends with exes would grate on me big time. I'd want them completely wiped-out or the relationship won't feel right for me. I think I'd even end a relationship over that because it is a big deal to me. Past & present just don't go together in my book.

Na wa oh...Hmmmn...

Exes are humans, ain't they? There might be reasons why he is your ex. Badt ass terrible relationship or mutual agreement.

If the latter is the case. Do you delete them off your social media handles completely too?

Romance › Re: Why Will You Befriend Your Ex On Social Media When You Have Me? by deturla(op): 3:51pm On Jun 25, 2016

donbenedict:
Shey ur babe don warn u, u no gree hear.

Na wen u see am dey fvck her ex, ur head go burst.

CuteHector, Na you be this?

Funny Guy. I know you have your experience. Share with us nah?

Romance › Why Will You Befriend Your Ex On Social Media When You Have Me? by deturla(op): 3:35pm On Jun 25, 2016

My girlfriend is always having this argument with me; asking me why I still keep connected to my exes, why are they on my Facebook, Twitter and Instagram handles. I told her that I do not think there is nothing wrong with being connected with former girlfriends and acquaintances.

She is one babe that is very particular about who I connect with both online and offline; Especially ladies. I laugh it off anyway. She never know anything, in this line of work/business, you need to be patient with your man when it balls down to ladies and women, anyway this is gist for another day. LOL

Social media is changing our attitude to life. The way we connect with people, how we build our romance, Social media has really impacted on our relationships, either positively or negatively. One noticeable thing about social media is that it has facilitated the inter-connection of our past relationships with the current one.

Are you confused as to what I mean? Hold on!

Social media has given the opportunity for us to connect with our Exes either we like it or not. Imagine when you have your Exes on all your social media handles, in terms of being friends with your EX even when you are in a new relationship, is this a good idea? Even if we say it isn’t, social media in one way or the other connects us all being like a global village. Now tell me, is this actually bad too?

For me, staying connected to my Ex isn’t a bad idea, provided the intention is a good one. I am sure a lot of us now understand and can actually relate to this topic.

A lot of things should be considered if you want to be connected to your former alliances. It will be very important to determine if he/she is over you or not. You want to know why? Connection on social media enable your Ex to know virtually everything about you. On a good day,you may not want him or her to know everything about you, however social media does that to you and your relationship which may lead your boyfriend or girlfriend being uncomfortable about this situation.

You also need to consider what actually happened that led to the breakup. Did it end so bad? Or it was a mutual agreement between both of you. These will determine whether he/she should remain in your life or not. I mean, why ghost your former babe or man when you actually decided to leave your relationship mutually.

A lot of our partners are not comfortable with this, ask your boyfriend or girlfriend, I’m sure the fact that they haven’t spoken about it doesn’t mean they are cool with it. It is pertinent that you discuss this with your partner.

If you are not comfortable with your boyfriend or girlfriend having his/ her ex on her social media handles, then you need to discuss with him/her to understand the reasons behind the decision.You need to understand ‘why’? You can begin to confirm certain things like ‘why the break up in the first place’, this will reveal the particular motive behind the acceptability of that decision. You need to also determine whether he/ she is completely over that ex?

You know the funny thing as men is that we don’t really care whether our ex remains on our handles or not, 'masculinity things'. However most ladies are quite skeptical when it comes to their partners having their Exes on the social media handles. They begin to feel so very insecure and concerned. Therefore it is important to discuss this and put behind all situations that could lead to distrust.

I do not see any reason why I shouldn’t keep my partner on my handles anyway. But as you know, relationship is not just your thing. You need to consider your partner as well. She needs to be secure in the hope that you are doing the right thing and ensuring that she continues to trust you and respect your decisions.

Discuss, discuss, dialogue and discuss. It is very key!

Having said that, I am sure there are some of us with such situations in our current relationship. Do you have your EX on your list on Facebook, Twitter, IG or other handles? Was your partner concerned? How did you deal with it?

Drop your experience below, let’s discuss together.

Yours in Love….Deedee

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Art, Graphics & Video › Re: Nairaland Weekly Photo Challenge by deturla: 9:40am On Jun 25, 2016

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Romance › Re: I Think I Miss My Ex by deturla(op): 8:00am On Jun 25, 2016

halfricanadian:
Tank u

LOL.....This babe though!

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Celebrities › Re: Have You Seen Temmie Ovwasa's New Video? by deturla(op): 3:19pm On Jun 24, 2016

crazymommy:
Rihanna and Beyonce will not sing in Yoruba,Igbo or Hausa because they are proud of their English language and they are comfortable with it.......so there is nothing bad if artistes like phyno,olamide sing their songs with Igbo or Yoruba.....all this low self esteem Nigerians sef...

Celebrities › Re: Have You Seen Temmie Ovwasa's New Video? by deturla(op): 12:41pm On Jun 24, 2016

smallJagaban:
WHY IS IT THAT THEY ALWAYS SING WITH YORUBA LANGUAGE? AT LEAST 85-90%

Yeepa! Bros, why you vex like this?.....

Romance › Re: I Think I Miss My Ex by deturla(op): 12:39pm On Jun 24, 2016

obyrich:
I think it's irrelevant. I sent her a PM for an entirely different issue. Nothing in my posts so far suggests I intend hitting on her. If anything, now is the worst time any guy should try such with her.

I just wanted to make a joke bro, Come on! Enjoy it!...

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Romance › Re: I Think I Miss My Ex by deturla(op): 7:36am On Jun 24, 2016

obyrich:
Is it a crime?

It's just an harmless question that requires a Yes or No answer.

Nigerians...! undecided

Celebrities › Have You Seen Temmie Ovwasa's New Video? by deturla(op): 7:07am On Jun 24, 2016

The YBNL Princess has dropped the widely anticipated video of her hit single 'JABOLE'

I really like the creativity of this babe and I know she will go a long way in the Industry...

Watch and drop your comments...N'Landers

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A9ofkKw7SJU

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