₦airaland Forum

obyrich:
You don't want to reply my PM?

...Are you hitting on her?

GoldenJAT:
my friend... some things baffles me alot.. some people don't use their senses... and this is also 1 of d reason.. our country is d way it is 2day.

LOL!...No need to be confrontational bro, Like i say in most of the comments, it's just the way we are wired and our culture plays a huge part. I'm doing an article on this soon. I hope to quote you! Bless Bro

GoldenJAT:
I see most of the guys here really objecting to it... but I beg 2 differ... so many things will have to be taken in2 consideration, and not just because she is my friend's ex... so if I see a good girl,my type of woman, that will make me happy when I eventually marry her, then I should not go on and create that special relationship with her, cos she is a friend's ex?? that's myopic of those saying otherwise.what if despite all her good qualities and d frnd in question was just playing with her? and the heart been as it is..falls in love with her? there is nothing morally wrong with it.. the Bible ain't against it... so ladies and gentlemen.. I will.. date and even eventually marry her if my heart chooses her...my friend won't stay with me in my house, that they dated... doesn't mean they end up together.

Please GoldenJAT, can I just give you a kiss for this post. I mean why is that an issue really! Only that Nigerians that we are, we have this stereotypical thinking to situations.

I mean why can't I date my friend's ex if I truly love her? Why will loving her be a no no and a sense of betrayal.

CaroLyner:
it should be the girl crying,not the guy

Who says emotions has a gender that it tunes to! Both were emotional, only that the guy was more!

obyrich:
We relive our past.

Thank you very much for your post obyrich. Sure, we relive our past and then use it to determine our future.

For foolsinlove, I wanna say that respect begets respect. A guy may decide to ghost you for two reasons:

1. He may have had his fair share of sex and then want to move to the next one, or

2. His feelings of love are not being reciprocated.

Either ways, the heart that truly loves you and connects with you physically, spiritually and emotional will wander back just as it has wandered off. I guess you only need to check for certain drivers in the guy. It's as easy as it is complicated, trust me.

The only issue I have with females is the fact that they look out for trivialities in a man and not the major drivers.

mzhorlah:
I was once in ur shoe but am over him now

Can you be more elaborate? I will love to learn from you please.

foolinlove:
I'm just bitter coz no a$$ miss me.

Maybe they do!

slyIsaac:
Lots of it..

Where can she get it?

foolinlove:
So get back together. Why u need our advice?

Foolinlove, calm down nah! Some other people might need this! I'm sure there some Nairalanders who still miss, like me. hehehe

halfricanadian:
i dont miss my ex dont kno if im normal like dat once i break up with everything ends dat moment

Do i need help?

It's not a psycho case halfricanadian, it just means that you never really loved your Exes, maybe 'twas just mutual attraction that you envisaged taking to the next level.

foolinlove:
Your fault. Leave the girl in peace.

Our fault, not mine.

Yes, we both miss each other!

talk2alabama:
of course, what will there ever be again dat will make a man miss a woman?



Women sef do miss men who give dem bomb sex, especially those who are women beaters, they are just hard to let go


They be like



He beats me but I still love him?


What makes her to love him?


Answer: goooooooooooooooooooood sex

Hahahahahahah..... It may not be about the sex bro. Sometimes it's just the way we are wired of late and that is why we yhink and believe girls stay only because of good sex.

Hmmn.....There are some good girls anyway, sex or not. You miss them because you made that mistake of leaving them. Got that?

ednut1:
make ur current gf catch u sogbo

Hehehe......Baddest, I know you miss her too! Oya Come holla for BBM!

talk2alabama:
Mchew, just tell us u miss the awesome sex she gives u.. instead of typing all these hogwash

LMAO, is it about the sex to you bro?

slyIsaac:
Too long


No video?

Lazy bone

Florblu:
*walks outta thread*Those cutlass(men) aren't loyal.

Lo!....some are!

We broke up over a reason so unreasonable, and I have not been able to get over her. She was the best thing that happened to me back then when I was still growing up in this relationship thingy. She was as energetic as I was, always pushing me, always criticizing, very objective, beautiful and classy, very friendly at the same time. She gets so moody sometimes and it makes her so adorable and lovable. Yet we still broke up.

I met her after she broke up with her former boyfriend. She was extremely difficult at first, making sure she did not fail in passing the message as to how much she disliked guys. However, there was something about her I really liked, her beauty, the flash of her eyes, the laughter, her deep throated voice. I just fell in love with everything.

We met, talked for sometime, and then after about three months of getting to know each other, she agreed to go out with me. After service year and into the real world, I got my first job with a bank. She supported me all through the process, wanting to be with me, pray with me, love me too. We had our issues, yes and we thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. 6 months into the relationship, we started getting uncomfortable with each other. She wanted more, I wanted more.

She craved more loving and attention; I wanted to move to Lagos. It got so bad that I was simply carried away and over ambitious that I forgot I had a girlfriend, and she in turn found solace in the arms of another boy. Life! We allowed it to degenerate so bad that we broke up exactly a year to the dated we started dating.

Till today, I still ask myself, why did we even break up? It sounded foolish on our path and I couldn’t muster enough courage to ask her why. We had huge dreams and wanted to be better. She was everything I wanted but then, she messed up! I did too anyway!

I am sure I’m not the only one who gets to miss his ex, a lot of guys/ ladies would be experiencing this as well. You will begin to ask yourself: why the break, what went wrong, do I need re-evaluation going forward, do I miss him/her, Am I happy leaving him/her. Well, considering the fact that all that glitters are not gold, and the need to check if obviously you have outgrown that feeling over the years or the feeling of missing your ex keeps coming back, then you need toascertain some basic facts for you to truly understand that having her back might not be a bad idea.

1. Dating someone else and you always think about him/ her:

You started out your relationship with another person, yet you think about your ex and still want to be with him/ her. The fun you had, the whirlwind romance, the emotions is something you can’t just deal with. There is something missing in your present relationship and you had with that particular relationship. Missing your ex is very normal anyway and does not mean you want to get back, but when these emotions do not go away, you really need to hook up again.

2. You think they are with someone else and you can’t just think of it

Men, this part is crazy though. You can’t just think of it. You realize how awesome he/she was and then you can’t bring yourself into believing that someone else will enjoy that awesomeness. Something you have always reveled in.
You have given it enough time.

Time, they say heals all wounds. After so many years of being apart, have you tried reaching out to him/her. Maybe you even needed the time to grow up and then get back to talking, who knows? Maybe you needed the space to handle issues more maturely. The funny thing about relationships like this is the fact that you most times even forget what you two fought about. When you both realize that you may want to give it another try. Why waste time?

3. The issue can be fixed

You need to consider the reason why you broke up, and see if it is no longer a problem. If it isn’t, go ahead and make a call, and try to reach out. You may have ended things because he was a workaholic, she was too flashy, he was very possessive and she was difficult. Once you realize the issues are gone and no longer there anymore. Give it a shot!

4. You both want same thing

In your subsequent relationships, you may have realized that you don’t want what your partners want. I know this could be deflating when you realize that both of you don’t share the same ideals. Instead of hoping to the next guy/babe on the line. Do a drawback and check up on the ex you truly miss. See if what he/she wants to completely aligns with your thoughts and convictions and make a go for it.

5. The Grass wasn’t really greener on the other side

Now you have broken up, tried different guys and girls, yet you realized the grass isn’t greener on the other side. You might even been a goner when the grass is dead. LOL

In the event that you both realized this, then why not attempt to head back to the grass you once planted and attempt to water it.

6.You both believe in second chances

This is the most important part. There is no particular rule in relationships which says there shouldn’t be second chances. The point is, both of you should be wise and mature enough to want to give it your best shot. Both of you should be able to learn, forgive and re-ignite the passion. If you both are ready to work on your relationship. Do not hesitate to go for it. It could be the best thing to ever happen to you.

For more exciting stories, visit www.deedeesblog.com

NekkyCee:
Hello guys. Trust y'all are doing great. I applied for gsk future leaders program 2016 and am yet to receive a mail from them regarding the online tests. Please I would appreciate some important tips. Number of questions per test, time frame and any other useful tip. God bless you.

Hi NekkyCee, sorry I just got your email. Yes, GsK was an exciting experience. I got to the assessment Centre but did not land the job.

Can you share your number? Or you can call me too! You could learn a little bit a lot from my experience. Cheers!

I never believed the story of girls' unfaithfulness until recently.

A Unilag babe that was in a serious relationship was sleeping with my flat mate!..It's that terrible.

My question is why? This guy calls like all the time and showers her with a lot of gifts and care, but it's always my flat mate's arms that she finds solace.

Later, when a babe claims she loves me and i run away. They will say I'm a coward, LOL!

The truth of the matter is something is missing in that kind of relationship, or the fact that the babe is psychologically deranged. She needs to be evaluated, because her situation is no longer physical. Wallahi.

Be that as it may, there are excellent relationships everywhere. Believe Me.

We all need to watch and be prayerful. Some girls are dangerous.

My name is Deturla, and i run a Relationship, Events and Photoblog at www.deedeesblog.com

maximunimpact:
Well great you wanna stand out, but then your blog domain is not standing out, your template is not standing out, your platform is not standing out, the idea of using personal as domain is a cliche' and it's not standing out, i also think your supposed original content may not stand out as well, needless to say your niche? same old story. If you wanna stand out think about these facts. To earn a dime online you have to think of one thing and and one only, and that is: what problem can you solve for your readers through your content? if you can't solve any problem for them am afraid they will not earn you anything. My humble opinion about blogging.

Cut her a little slack, now??

Na wa oh...This could be done in PM or in a more subtle way. LOL

IMO though.

Splufic Bro...We will all get there!!

Archmage:
my heart broke the day i entered makoko but there is a beauty there few people can see. more pictures please. respek

Working on it Sir...

This is the Ilaje/ Iwaya Community!...Not exactly Makoko!

richiejaggs:
Cool

Thank you Richie. Join me on the thread as i start a life journey!

Like I said, I will wet your apetite a little with these pictures and enable you come in touch with present day realities. People live beyond the poverty line in this country.

It is even crazy that they live within their means in love and peace.

I have decided to create this thread to officially welcome you guys into a new project, which will kickstart my career as a lifestyle photo-blogger.

First off, I am Deedee and I manage an Events and Lifestyle photo-blog which is fast growing.

My love and passion for photography has enabled me look beyond the wedding photography part to go into lifestyle/street and documentary photography.

The intention is to visit the slums with my camera, both in Nigeria and beyond and inspire people to look above their conditions.

Some people are actually looking beyond PMS and Tomato to hustle hard and survive.

I will share a lot of pictures on this thread which will inspire you. Just book a space and be ready to be inspired!

My first ever trip was in March which was a journey into Makoko, you can read that [url][/url]http://deedeesblog.com/2016/04/16/my-amazing-makoko-story-life-in-lagos-slum/

I intend to create that 'life in style'

abimic:
Yes, the other ladies out there are someone else's left over but at least, who left them over aren't my friends and I won't be nurturing the feeling of my friend having slept with my lady.... Still bro, don't be surprised when they meet in the corner to settle their scores, some love don't die easily... So I prefer away and fresh never tasted by any of my friends. Well, my friend dating my sis... Left to me and it's personal though, my friend can't date my sister, I won't allow that and my sis can't disobey me... It's not as if my friends aren't good, but I can't just allow that, most rarely works out leading to something tangible, maybe 10 in 100 have got success stories.

Sorry, Im just seeing this interesting post.

You are funny sha? Are you the one that will make decisions for your sis, maybe you will be the one to marry her eventually!..OK

Florblu:
I wasted my mb
Name today groom dey cry?

simtosul:
Some guys sha.... Just saying though

Na emotions nah?

His name is Gabriel Deku and he just broke down in tears when he saw his wife to be (now wife) Annabelle gliding down the aisle. He got so emotional and the tears ran down his face.



He just could not bring himself to stare at Annabelle as she made an amazing gliding entrance into the hall.

The guests started cheering, bridesmaids struggled with tears as well. It was such an emotional sight to behold.

The only person who seemed to keep his composure in the hall was the best man. While consoling the groom, he was heard saying,

“Stand up. This is your moment, man. You look at your wife now.”


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02TNxy4a2sE

Read more amazing stories at http://deedeesblog.com/2016/06/14/true-love-you-will-cry-when-you-watch-this-amazing-wedding-entrance-video-blowing-the-internet-right-now/#OfF4O23mBFrpRwwI.99

You guys seriously got no chills!!!....Haba!

Aww....... This is extremely splufic!

I think the major issue with most of us bloggers (even me) is the fact that we focus more on the traffic and Adsense than the real deal. I can imagine what it will be like now for you to get major brand sponsorship and endorsement based on this feat!

Amazing story as a blogger. When i grow up, would love to be like you!!

abimic:
What the hell? My friend's ex? Ridiculous, wen babes are still in excess outside begging for dates and guys forming uninterested.... For me to eat my friend's left over, I'd rather go hungry. Again, not dating my friend's ex is a sign of respect to my friend. My brother's, friend's exes are no no for me...... Too many girls in the world please!

What exactly do you mean by leftover!? The other ladies out there that are available. Are they not someone's left over as well? You can't date your friend's ex but your friend can date your sis?

I don't still get your point.