1. In Lagos, a date to go see a movie will cost you more than 15k. That's if she's modest and willing to move around by public transportation. Note that 15k is 30 (very valuable) litres of petrol.
2. Unfortunately, a vast majority of our girls are not modest. Why? Because a date is seen as an escape from their real life.
For example, listen to the expectations of the fat girl in this video and ask yourself why would any young man want to date someone with such entitlement. For those wondering why men don't take Nigerian women seriously, this is why.
This is why even after you've spent 30k on a date with a Nigerian girl who has gone around a lot, she can still end up tagging you a stingy man. And most girls share her beliefs.
3. A lot of women now measure a man by his material success. It's become worse in Nigeria because today, people who brandish monies from illegal means are being celebrated online and offline. They are positioning themselves as influencers and role models. They are also standards set by unsuspecting women as their ideal partner.
4. Dating in the actual sense in Nigeria in 2023 should be ignored for those that haven't found their feet first.Imagine not owning a property or a vehicle and spending 20-30k per date at least 10 times a year.
what are your thoughts on the article and the video?
But left Nigeria some yrs back. Igbo, grew up in pH, schooled in East, served in Abuja, wedded in maiduguri, while schooling did biz in kano, lived in abj, got transfered to lagos, moved back to abj and out of the country. There are other states in between. Have met great people, some of these thieves( sorry to say that) were present at my wedding, while some were regular visitors at my house. Have entered some places and circles that well...., at my age...... let me just leave there so when I share stuff, it's from experience or what I learnt from seniors.
I was roommate during my first Yr with a daughter of one time deputy governor of your state and whenever he visits, it's bountiful. He usually pay surprised visit and I was around two times. The money I got was enough to last me for a whole semester not to talk of foodstuff. Man just dey share roommates money anyhow cos we are his daughters roomies
Wuse is like ikoyi of old.
I multi cook and freeze so I don't cook always especially soup. I also buy all ingredients in bulk. Hate shopping. Even pepper. I buy that in carton
If you have steady electricity, get 2 freezers and buy things in bulk during their seasons. Very economical. And will reduce high BP
Can you please give a breakdown of how you go about stocking your freezers, how much do you spend? which markets you buy from? and how long does it last for? I'm very interested.
Acidosis: That's quite a longgg journey you've had. The environment one lives in really plays a huge role sha. That's one thing I have come to realise. It's almost impossible to meet certain people if you live or attend some "kain schools"
It's great that you've found ways to be resourceful and save money. The convenience that comes with bulk purchases is something I have come to embrace too. Going through your store, fridge, etc. and seeing things leaves a very lasting satisfaction. In fact, I don't like to be known as "customer daada" (like a regular customer)
I see your point. But this is a luxury afforded to folks who probably earn 200K upwards.
Jman06: The so called women empowerment is one reason fraud and corruption have persisted in Nigeria because men now resort to cutting corners in order to meet up with the demands of their supposedly empowered women.