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FamilyRe: Marriage: Women Decry Lack Of Financially Eligible Suitors by Dimaya: 8:04am On Jul 10, 2023
MrBrownJay1:
whether a man has money or not is IRRELEVANT to who has control in a r/ship... African society/culture and religion is very adamant about it. if you are a man, then you are the head of the family, whether you earn more than your wife and/or you are unemployed.



nobody, and i repeat, NOBODY should ever date/marry a woman who is A) disrespectful and or B) abusive physicaly/verbally to her man.... whether you are rich or broke. if that woman has a problem with you being the head of the family, tell her to go argue her case with Nigerian culture/society/religion.



you look for women who are respectful, caring, understanding etc and stop dating/marrying these liability women who value men upon how much money they have. if your woman's respect for you and your family is down to how much money you can bring, then that woman is a liability and should be discarded asap!
How can you tell whether a woman will disrespect you before you marry her?
RomanceRe: If U Are Unmarried In Your 30s And 40s, You Are Not A Failure by Dimaya: 6:28am On Jul 10, 2023
Set priorities and realize that no one will check all the ridiculous boxes that we create to assess marital partners.

Also realize that women want financial stability and men want youthful wives. So if you're a man who keeps chasing women instead of building economiy wealth, you'll be disadvantaged. Same is a woman above 25 who keeps pursuing career goals to the exclusion of marriage.

And finally: you can want whatever it is that you want (seven packs, seven figures, seven inches) but can you get it?

Does who you want, want you?
FamilyRe: Marriage: Women Decry Lack Of Financially Eligible Suitors by Dimaya: 4:25pm On Jul 09, 2023
Zigzagman:
fixed. check your browser
Can you summarise the video
FamilyRe: Marriage: Women Decry Lack Of Financially Eligible Suitors by Dimaya: 2:41pm On Jul 09, 2023
Link still isn't working
RomanceRe: Love, Money And Control by Dimaya:
The two women complaining of abuse are single mothers.
FamilyRe: Marriage: Women Decry Lack Of Financially Eligible Suitors by Dimaya: 1:33pm On Jul 09, 2023
Zigzagman:
In Nigeria and across Africa today, women today are struggling to find men who earn as much as they do.

According to the young women in the trending video below, a good man is hard to find, especially in this economy. There is a shortage of economically attractive men and this has contributed to battles for control in relationships in which the women outearn their men.

Although we like to think marriage is based on love, they say, it “also is fundamentally an economic transaction,” and women want partners whom they can call their equals.

Two of the women on the panel confessed they'd fought with their partners, exchanging blows over money and control.

So, here are the questions for discussion within this thread:

1. Does a “lack of good jobs” for men contribute to loss of male control in a relationship?

2. Have you been in a romantic relationship in which a partner who had economic power over you, was tempted to control you or abuse you physically or verbally?

3. How do you go about handling it?

Please watch the video and share your opinion.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdgb4cIcgec
Link isn't working. Please move to romance section
RomanceRe: Love, Money And Control by Dimaya: 1:27pm On Jul 09, 2023
All relationships are built on the man having a source of income that can meet obligations.

Unfortunately, in today's world, there's an inflation of expectations with regards to earnings. That's why these topics have become an issue
RomanceRe: Career Women And Their Dating Problems by Dimaya(op): 10:30am On Jul 09, 2023
Jman06:
Don't mind those career ladies. They'll continue getting used and dumped by men because they are fvcked up mentally regarding marriage.

Women should understand that the price they have to pay for seeking and gaining equal opportunities with men in education and employment is that they've got to give up hypergamy, otherwise, they'll continue to remain unmarried even in their 40s.
Some of this problems can never be solved. Every generation will forget some of the lessons advocated by that video and the clock starts all over again.

I just pity those who end up with the so called 'rejects' because you'll realize it's not love but fear that drives their decision
RomanceRe: I Need A Wife But Seeing Only HookUp Girls & Single Moms I What Would YOU Do? by Dimaya: 10:23am On Jul 09, 2023
Nazgul:
Lol, I'm surprised that this is coming from you.

Those guys you see in clubs are your regular average salary earners, average business men, bet9ja lucky winners, drug pushers, and Yahoo boys.

If that's your definition of rich, I'm truly disappointed.
No mind am
RomanceRe: Single and frustrated women everywhere!!!! 35+ by Dimaya: 10:20am On Jul 09, 2023
emmancipated:
It's really hard to fathom, honestly.
Maybe, we lack things to discuss, that's why some of these threads keep springing up.
Other topics are posted, but these are the only ones we engage with.

It's because Nigerians don't like minding their own business
RomanceRe: Career Women And Their Dating Problems by Dimaya(op): 8:50pm On Jul 08, 2023
Cromagnon:
what are their ages? Women only look for men when their eggs have dried up
This isnt always true
CareerRe: If You're Between 20 To 29yr Old, This Advice Is For You. by Dimaya: 8:41pm On Jul 08, 2023
Most organisations don't even offer internships anymore
FamilyRe: Fuel Subsidy Removal: Men With Rich Wives Complain About Control by Dimaya: 8:37pm On Jul 08, 2023
Zigzagman:
A man isn't loved unless he provides something to his family
cool
RomanceRe: I Need A Wife But Seeing Only HookUp Girls & Single Moms I What Would YOU Do? by Dimaya: 8:36pm On Jul 08, 2023
Today, you should definitely do due diligence on people you're dating to avoid stories that touch.
FamilyRe: They All Mocked Her, Until FG Removed Fuel Subsidy. by Dimaya: 8:34pm On Jul 08, 2023
NoToPile:
It's like people don't know how expensive food is nowadays.

Except she want to be tearing bread all day that one sef you will by 1000-1200 loaf daily.
Things have become more expensive
RomanceRe: Men Stressed By Their High Earning Wives by Dimaya: 8:32pm On Jul 08, 2023
Quality20:
Are they not supposed to be happy that their wives are not asking them for every penny they need?
The problem is, the more money a woman makes over her man, the more she begins to think she doesn't need her husband. That was included in the research they referenced.
RomanceRe: He Can’t Marry Me Because Of My Tribe After Dating For 5years. People Are Evil by Dimaya: 7:05pm On Jul 08, 2023
Did he just find out she's from that tribe?
RomanceRe: I Need A Wife But Seeing Only HookUp Girls & Single Moms I What Would YOU Do? by Dimaya: 7:03pm On Jul 08, 2023
Zigzagman:
just leave students alone
Social media just amplified it.
RomanceRe: Marrying Women Older Than 25 Is Risky~ A Brutal Truth For Men Who Want Children by Dimaya(op): 7:01pm On Jul 08, 2023
Quality20:
How can u be saying this even u refused advising men in the past to marry those ladies when they were 25 n younger? Abeg no pour sand for the garri of those ladies who are 30 and older
huh
RomanceRe: Career Women And Their Dating Problems by Dimaya(op): 6:52pm On Jul 08, 2023
dealslip:
Some of you are just really bitter people who think women are piece of wood with no direction for their life. If I told you to see women as fellow human being don't you think that is my mindset already. I believe you are not even married, yet you know people's type immediately. That's what we are telling you to stop seeing everyone through the prism of their body - see you talking about short, ugly, broke, rich. Stop seeing people by their looks and pocket.
I wish everyone could follow your advice. Unfortunately, we live in a world where people are judged by their utility. Young, pretty, slim women have an advantage in the dating pool.. so do accomplished, good looking men.

The summary of the video in this post is that people should take a hard long look at the point in life where they are, and make decisions that will hold up for years to come.

If you're young and pretty with tons of suitors, get the best deal you can, because the suitor pool will start to dry up as you get older.

Same for men. Young, unaccomplished men can't compete with wealthy older men in the marriage marketplace. Let each person tell him/herself the truth and live with the consequences of his actions/inactions.
RomanceRe: Career Women And Their Dating Problems by Dimaya(op): 3:51pm On Jul 08, 2023
bukatyne:
Thanks, God bless you also.
Me too. I am interested in your take on the video particularly because you must be a very insightful person.

I wish I could take your post up there and convert into a cell broadcast. There's so many of my siblings who would have benefited from talking to someone like you years ago
RomanceRe: Lady In Dilemma, Whether Her Nigerian Or Canada Boyfriend by Dimaya: 3:43pm On Jul 08, 2023
just leave those men alone
RomanceRe: What Do You Think by Dimaya: 3:37pm On Jul 08, 2023
Samantha124:
Lol...🤣🤣🤣
grin grin grin
RomanceRe: He Can’t Marry Me Because Of My Tribe After Dating For 5years. People Are Evil by Dimaya: 3:36pm On Jul 08, 2023
Quality20:
Maybe he was told that women from ur tribe ate too wise or easily prone to hookup. For instance, we from our side hardly marry from Benue or southern Kaduna because of their free prodtitution culture
hmmn
RomanceRe: Please Where Can I Find Brothels Around Yaba, Sabo Or Bariga In Lagos State? by Dimaya: 2:41pm On Jul 08, 2023
Famousmoni111:
Nor go find money dey find olosho quarter ozwor
no mind the guy. for this fuel crisis where everyones looking for food to eat

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