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good for you.

PS. I am in no way condemning any one who cheats. Who am i? i am not a saint. Call a spade a spade

It dont matter what i am. man or woman. Just trying to say that if you choose to marry then you have work to do. The man has to work on it and so does the woman.

Also trying to say that contrary to what men feel n say that marriage is an achievement for the woman it is the men who God says he will favour.

I do not agree with people saying they are in bad marriages so they began to see somewhere else. Then they blame it on their wives for pushing them to it. Its just a way to justify their wrong acts. Life is all about choices. God gave us the freedom to make choices. So if you cheat dont say its a woman or a bad marriage. You had a choice to make.

Will you be happy if someone is having an affair with your husband when you marry? Do you know the law of sowing and reaping? AS LONG AS THE EARTH REMAINS SEED TIME AND HARVEST TIME WILL NEVER CEASE.

Please leave the married man alone. Those feelings you have are put there by the enemy to destroy you and destroy the man. You deserve better.

The man wont leave his wife and marry you and even if he does he will never trust you.

What do you want? Be wise my dear

unfortunately men think marriage is an achievement for the woman. Biblically, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God". "Woman submit yoyrself to your husband as is pleasing to the Lord. Husbands love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. Love your wife as you love your own body".

Marriage was instituted by God to show His divine love for the church of Christ on earth. Unfortunately we humans have polluted it.

People do not want to work on their relationships. Rather they go out and start cheating forgetting that AS LONG AS THE EARTH REMAINS SEED TIME AND HARVEST TIME WILL NEVER CEASE. Sow bad seeds you reap bad. Life is a journey and they will be obstacles so i wonder why people expect marriage to be a bed of roses.


THE GRASS IS NOT GREENER ON THE OUTSIDE. IT IS GREENER WHERE YOU WATER IT.

Water your marriage and you will see how happy you will be!

tough one! Better not to be in that situation

I think he should give it to his wife though

sincerely, i kinda laughed inside me also when i read d part about 360 degrees. you made a mistake by laughing but dont worry. like has been said he is in grief and hopefully and prayerfully he will come through. give him some space, dont try begging him again, just leave him alone. if u can go for the burial. you will be fine.

Take care

O Lord open the eyes of their understanding.

I used to be a "Catholic" and i heard all the talk about catholicism not true, bla bla and will just smile and say i like it like that. Praise God now i am a christian. i left the catholic church not cos i felt catholicism was wrong or bad but because i got a deeper revelation of God in the pentecostal. Its pathetic that we are all into denominations and all that. if you ask me i will say I am a christian. Christianity is about serving God and being Christ like.

Perharps someone somewhere said the above prayer and God spoke to me but above all its His grace.

@pilgrim1

What will Jesus do?

What does it mean to be a christian? to be Christ like and walk in His ways. However as humans we are broken and not perfect so we will always err but my bible tells me that this is a journey and i should be striving to get there (been Christ like).

Jesus will pray to God for help and love the Catholics. Is it for you to take matters into your hands? then you are in for a long long unsuccessful battle. Also realise that some of these people were born Catholics and that is what they know and have grown to believe so do not say they deliberately blinded their eyes to the truth.

As Christians what are our spiritual weapons? Is it the condemning words we say? No. Its prayer, fasting and the word. Do you believe in the power of these? if you do you wont say there are mere.

@ pilgrim. he who is without sin cast the first stone.

what good does smoking do to you body? smokers are liable to die young. na God get that your body o. its his temple so guard it. smoking, drinking, eating too much, whatever it is

prayer. God loves the muslims and the suicide bombers remember?

there is nothing wrong just that at some point there will be disagreements and misunderstandings cos of religion.

the bible wey you get you don read am finish? you dey ask for extra. use what you have as your manual. dont ask questions you cant get answers to or perharps you will get different answers and get confused. God knows your heart and he is merciful. if you dont get the complete one as you wish he knows. Afterall some people lived in this life b4 the bible was written abi?

christians,

dont you know the scripture that says we battle not against flesh and blood? please no condemning catholics. if you believe what they do is wrong use your spiritual weapons to fight it. prayer, fasting, the word. you can never convince a catholic to change on this forum by all this talk and also i can read some muslims saying they will never be christians.

ask yourselves one question, What will Jesus do?

@ zandra1

thank you for your post. i agree with you totally. i have been cheated on in all my relationships but i have never one day cheated. pple say they were pushed to the wall thats why they cheated. well i have been pushed to the wall but i havent cheated. the word is self discipline. oh yes, the thots come to do some cheating as well as revenge but what for? it'll do more harm than good. we all have the thoughts but have to discipline ourselves to say no to it cos when you give in thats when there is trouble.

I am no saint but i will say that the fact that alot of people cheat doesnt mean everyone does. we all need help and we are the ones who can help ourselves.

@mazaje

nice one. now i get you but check it. when u start a relationship the guy wants you to trust him and you do. he cheats on you and kills the trust. later he expects you to trust him. if you behave otherwise he will say " why dont you trust me? why will i lie to you?" meanwhile he had been telling you lies and killed the trust you had for him.

so question, what does the guy want?

@blueband and mazaje.

good talk you hear. u guys are just talking. when it happens i hope you are not devastated. some guys dont cheat. if you are the cheating ones then your tough luck. We all sin but its about discipline and if you cant discipline yourself others can so dont generalize.

blueband,

so how will you feel if your wife cheats on you no matter the reason? also realise that women can cheat also maybe that way you will see things. so which will u prefer. a wife you can trust and are comfortable with or one who gives u hypertension when u leave her? put your self in the womans shoe.

beat your husband? for what reason? thats a ridiculous advise o. best way to deal with a cheating husband is to leave him let his conscience kill him;unfortunately some try to deaden their conscience. believe me, they never have peace. how good is fun when you dont have peace?

yeah, another man in d picture so u decide what to do n if u can live with it

u want to get married to him and live with this? think abeg

women forgive cos they have sense. its hard to forgive though but a better option

i know where u got this 5 questions from. good anyway

@ blueband

This is no condenmnation. We are all human and have each done terrible things. Its just calling it what it is. Murder is murder no matter what way it is done. You have a right to steal but you know deep down in you even if you are not caught that you have stolen and at that point you are a thief. It doesnt matter if you were dead broke and needed money for medical treatment. The fact that you are in a tight situation is no excuse cause when you are caught then,

I have never heard that postinor is used after fertilization o. I hope next you wont say using condom is murder as well. What is murder by the way? Perharps our opinions differ on this

Do you want the man to leave his wife and marry you? then he will leave you later for someone else. Do you want someone to start loving your husband? Go for a guy who will appreciate you. A married man will just keep you for his selfish needs.

But my guy, you said you have cheated so what do you expect? what goes around comes around but it don't always work that way anyway. I have dated and all the guys have cheated on me yet i have never cheated on them. Why? Greed, lust and bad choices.

Stop the cheating and feel good about yourself.

Tongue ring, don't like it. If you are comfortable with it then that's fine. But imagine she didnt have it when you started dating and later went to put it there. hmmmm tough one. will you leave her cos of a tongue ring? na u go decide sha

@blueband
What is wrong with having an abortion?A woman has the right to decide if she wants to keep a child or not.Abeg oooo,I am not religious so keep your religious views to yourselves.

will you then go and tell the world if your girl has an abortion? the fact that we can make choices doesn't make things right. personally i think it is murder. i respect your religious views but this forum is for discussions and if you don't like the topic you don't need to reply to it.

Hello people, trust should be 100% but unfortunately we are all human and we err so it never works that way. Don't we all wish it could be like that?