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Czarskit:
~ I dunno coz I don't hide mine ~

Lol so u r now a celebrity a what?

C2H5OH:
Why not? They don't want the damned parapaparapaparaazi to screw up their home.

I know this mostly happens to the Americans, British and so on, but I'm also referring to the Nigerians. It rarely happens to the Nigerians.

Why is it that celebrities or very popular people tend to hide their partners or rarely go out to public places with them? I've noticed mostly the men, they usually don't bring out their wives/girlfriends to the public eye. Most of the time, attending big occasions and all but rarely bring their partners. I know cheating is completely out of this.
And also being very popular, meeting rich and big people still fall in love with simple people, that may not even be celebrities?

afam4eva:
Na wife be that, nna dem pikins don suffer in advance.

kayc33:
i now knw y he married in secret

LOL!!!

Is from 15 yr age difference and above maybe 20 yrs age difference between couples ok aside the normally cliche "if you both love each other"? We know women tend to age faster than men, so if the man is 15-20yrs older than the woman, but still looks young physically, emotionally and all?

Is from 15 yr age difference and above maybe 20 yrs age difference between couples ok aside the normally cliche "if you both love each other"? We know women tend to age faster than men, so if the man is 15-20yrs older than the woman, but still looks young physically, emotionally and all?

C2H5OH:
Depends on where you put the guy. I could never understand these games people way. Whatever happened to being open and honest with one another. Why even bother to attempt to love at all if you have predetermined that you will only half-ass it?

My brother thank u! I think it's the lack of honesty and not being open enough that makes a break up very painful, cos u would feel deceived,

Czarskit:
I tot as much. . . The money ain't d problem. Either way, u mite want 2 colect sumfin in exchange 4 ur cash, his eyes perhaps since u don't want 2 undastand d fact that he's broke. . .

Newayz as blue spice has already said being the matured one is just to let him be. The money is n has been the problem even before we had the misunderstanding. I know his lifestyle. I've known him since. I put him before myself n that's why i gave him my last cash for him to use to be happy while i was unhappy and now, when i reminded him of the rent, end of the month, that wouldnt he have money to pay the landlord? His reply was "i'm sorry"

bluespice:
gurl ur not being honest with urself
do u really want the money or u asking him cos he's hurt u n u need to see him and now that u know he's broke u wanna pressure him to make him know a bit of the pain u feel?

look, this is all natural reactions to the issue
but if u really wanna move on, play the matured one
he says he's broke if u know u dont really need the money, just let him be
obsessing over the money might make u feel justified- hey its urs yeah?
but u'lld end up looking petty irrespective of the fact that he's caused u unbearable pain n sadness


talk to him sternly if need be about the money if ur certain he doesnt have it now
ask him when he will after which u just dont call him or nothing until the appointed time
(if he then doesnt wanna give u the money back even at this time all hell can break loose u need ur nomey not his damn apologies)

U got me here but in as much as i really need the money, it's something I would have waited n take the pain of waiting but the whole truth i kept talking of the money too was yea because of how much he has hurt me n the remorse does not look as serious especially when he didn't show up for the appointment.

Czarskit:
Wot exactly do u want?

I want my money so I can move on from here. I dont want to leave this money with him for any reason especially for what he has put me thru, but now he's saying he doesn't have.

C2H5OH:
Wow . You give this cockroach an inch and it lunges forward to take a mile.
I think you need to start making bold decisions for yourself. Do not base your decisions on these intense feelings being thrown out by your heart. Look at the facts and consult your head. It is over. You come first, not him. Those double personalities are not cool. One second you think he's being original, by apologizing, caring about your feelings. the next minute he's breaking appointments and blowing you off. You need to cut him off until you are strong enough to deal with all of this bs.

So I should not ask for the money again? I should just shut him off whether he's with my money or not?

I need my money and want all means to get it back or do I just ignore till when he has it to give me despite how he has treated me?

He is telling me things like "don't be mad, pls, he's sorry" he does not have the money.

I recently gave an update on my boyfriend situation about him coming back to beg me and all. Calling on the phone. But my main concern was to collect my money back and if possible talk to him in person and tell him my mind. The day we set, he didn't show up apologising he had an appointment. I was so pissed as to why he didn't say so earlier and the annoying was that he texted. I have now texted him i want to move on and need my money. He seems to be doing his thing out there and he wouldn't tell me he does not have money.

Pls people How do I go about all these. This situation and also my money?

He's still being sorry, but i didn't pay much attention. So after some days, I asked him about the money, I loaned him and he said he was sorry he doesn't have it and I should not be mad, then Next day, I texted him about us seeing that I wanted to talk to him in person and he said, Ok, he would come. I texted him about what time he was available and he then replied that he was somewhere else, that he had an appointment, he was sorry, that he will let me know.

I'm mad, that he didn't tell me earlier on and now the money issue is coming back to my head. I don't know if i should bring up the money issue again, then move on or what?

Thanks a lot guys  . You really helped me move forward with the advices I got. Yeah like some presumed, He's been calling me, weeping on the phone, 'bout how much he still loves me and wants to be with me and wants to see me to talk but I'm taking my time so I don't rush into mistakes.

Thanks Ya'll once again!

tnk24:
Deeply in love is when you love someone who loves and appreciates you . Desperation is when you throw away your dignity trying to love someone who doesn't care .

I think this is true.

Tstark:
Una still dey respond to this girl?

Please don't derail this thread.


Thanks ya'll for your help and replies. Much love and For those that still want to give their opinions, Feel free.

Well I think private would be better. If u want to chat or whichever? I sent a request.

God

I guess till I get there right?!

This is the type of thing that scares me, that if ever I get married, would I be able to love the person as much as I love my ex(boyfriend), also being that he is my first true love but not first relationship.

I'm not talking spiritual husband/wife cos I don't believe in that.

johnnygan:
True, it is

What sort of bond is that? Wat effect does it have on one? Just wanna know.

Treetop20:
sorry lady i cannot help you on that
all i know is that sex of any kind is considered
a sort of bond and one should pray and deliver
themselves all the same

Lol, I wasn't asking for help for me, just asking a general question but if that's really true    hmm

Treetop20:
it is advised to pray and deliver
yourself from the "bond" you shared with an
ex you were sexually intimate with to free yourself
of anything they might have. i am just saying!

I'm not really referring to spiritual husband though but how bout while having sex, during one's period or there is contact with blood, could that still be referred to as a bond?

Treetop20:
i believe it to some extent
also the fact that people you sleep with
before marriage their spiritual problems can
somehow be transferred to you

Could it be true 'cos the one I heard is there would still be a bond between the two of you.

I read it and it was so deep. Much love.Thank you for that and yes I would still like to talk more with you and still have some other questions.

@Sistawoman,
Thanks a lot for your advice. It was really deep and touching. I hope to use this to help myself heal faster. You are really a wonderful person.

praxx:
I feel that your 3year old relationship is too long to let go cause of such a trivial issue. you stated in your post that he has cheated on you before and you guys worked it out. i will suggest that you also work this out.
all those girls telling you to move on will run head over heels at your guy if he smiles at them, believe me.
so if you feel that the guy is yours then go get him.

Did he or is he thinking about that too? Isn;t meant to be a two way thing? What about him also trying to make it workif he is interested despite the fact i apologised?

Ok would be waiting.

Sistawoman, Please read my post on the Boy friend situation and give me your advice. I have gotten a lot of others' advice and it makes sense but different opinions. I would like to also hear from you. Thanks.

Sistawoman, could you please read my post and also give me your advice from your own point of view? Thanks