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posakosa:
amebo no1. sounds like a playa, his words maybe harsh but he's telling the truth.


I say you Cut the lad off!

btw, is ur bf's last name Bassey, sounds just like the way my ex treated mee and I said those exact words, what a loser!

though u suggest that he rots in jail, I hope my ex dies a bastardly death! buahahaha!

Not @ all, and why would u suggest I cut him off at this point? when this part was something wrong from my part.

I don't know your reasons but I can also feel your pain if he did hurt you so bad because I have been in such situation and even now with the difference that mine wasn't an ex also.

[quote author=ugo_2u link=topic=264071.msg3758904#msg3758904 date=1240296332]@Diva


Since he didn't lash back at you then he will be more than willing to forgive you. First of all call him and apologize, he may not respond but that's ok.second send him a text also apologizing four hours after the call. Then call him six hours later and apologize again. He should forgive you. Take care ok.[/quote]well i guess he was oo shocked or something to lash back. I did call him after hours of the rampage bu I wasn't expecting him to pick up, even the text message, I don't even know how to write or what that would really show my shame and how much I feel for such words, I wish I could just see him in person,

izeek:
this is so new to me,
making appointments and not meeting up with them has suddenly become some taboo?

what i need to know is, how long have you been dating this guy?
if you just met, i dont think he will stand you up like that 4 times,
but if its been for a while, then hey maybe something was wrong somewhere.

either ways dear, you had no right, absolutely no right to go off like that.
call him and say you are sorry, and just try to take whatever he does for now.
somehow i know things will defiantely work out.

I absolutely agree i had no right, i guess there was nothing so wrong for me to react this way. I did call though the same yesterday but of cause which normal human being would pick up after such rampage of words? I dont how successful my calling him would be now. I have been dating him for 3years.

pinky lady:
a relationship of three years and you could still reign insult on him like this.
i still find it hard to believe that you love this guy and yet u could still insult him like this

_{people with their different definition of love. na wahh ohh}

I know I didn't have to insult him, this way, but it wasn't something that just came up, i have been talking to him, about somehings but he did not really pay attention and I guess because of history, bad memories that also came up from him being this way, that's why i just overreacted one day and poured out a lot of things.

dean2725:
i am sorry but that was a bad thing to do especially whan you also confirmed his busy schedule made him failed in those the dates.

well there is no need telling you what should have been done, the damage is done already so i will advise you first try and seek his attention because i sure he will be really mad at you right now.

go to his place, explain why you did all those things even though it was not worth it. let him know how ashamed and sad  you were afterward. not only you will tell him how you felt, he needs to feel and see it in you that you feel bad about it and that it was out of aggression. it is important not to put emphasis on what he did wrong, talk about your own wrong doings and not his, atleast for now.

if truly you want him and really love him, be prepare to do anything he will never imagine/xpect you doing to apologise to him. not all this present or gift or sort of. i mean be real, be persistent, submissive and anything he would never expect you to do.

also you need to be prepared as i dont see him giving you any serious attention in sometimes. prepare to be embarassed, insulted it is normal considering the  magnitude of your outburst (wishing him and threating him with jail; you do that to your enemy not those you love).

remember he has a scores to settle with his friend  for telling you the stuffs about him and likewise you have scores too with his friends for making then look like bad friend or something.

and the essential thing is to be prayerful because even though you aided the devil in achieving his aim, it is  still the devil on duty.

i hope this is useful and helpful.

Thank you so much for this though I'm not justifying my action but he pushed me to this, plus the bad memories I remembered. He is busy like he said, I did not see him but he should not have promised a day and time and still fail, not once but 3ce  but I know I went far with my words. I think I would not text him any apology or such till i see him in person.

[quote author=amebo no1. link=topic=264071.msg3758762#msg3758762 date=1240288326]ARE my words harsh? oh really

well sorry i have no advice for some dude who im so sure might be having sex with one of his numerous lovers right now or for you,whos forcing urself to stay with a man that does not want you

i wish you all the best[/quote]I came on here to talk about my words not about wanting him or not now, and of cause i can't stay with a man that doesn't want me. I know u r saying the real truth, cos even when he came to apologise to me even with sista woman's advice and all, i thought about it and at the end after a long period, i decided and he has been the one really humbled to me bu that's not the case here. My words were too bad, even God wouldn't be clapping for me.

[quote author=amebo no1. link=topic=264071.msg3758759#msg3758759 date=1240287977]yes im sure he will keep apologising as long as the sex continues atleast until a better subsitute shows up

which man that respects or loves his girl will keep standing her up almost all the time

love ko,love ni

you better go for a test cos the guy must have contacted HIV,SINCE HES KNOWN FOR SLEEPING AROUND[/quote]Haba, take it easy with your words. I'm the one in the situation and I'm down not because of any other thing but my words. They were harsh and horrible.

[quote author=amebo no1. link=topic=264071.msg3758751#msg3758751 date=1240287585]isnt this d same guy u opened up some thread in the past "where did i go wrong. . . . . . . ."

when i called you a desperado i know very much wat i am saying, a man that  gives you no respect does not want you

seriously i wonder why some of you girls are just too blind to see wats written on the wall[/quote]Yes it is, I know it was easy to say at that point but we have been through a lot for 3yrs and yes he did apologise and changed, even today when I reacted this way, he didn't even say anything to hurt me, he was trying to calm me down, but i took none of tha and blasted him, even God wouldn't be happy I did a good job. The words were said in anger but way too far.

OgidiBoy:
@ poster,


You freaking out because your man didn't show up I wonder what you'll do if you find out his cheating on you with your best friend

Firstly he has cheated on me before and it was handled much more better than this and secondly not because he didn't show up. He set times and date and never showed up. I didn't freak out, I just was tired of being calm about it and let my anger get the worst out of me plus I was feeling frustrated with other stuffs.

platinumnk:
mannn, man, man, , I had that happen to me before. there was this guy that i was going to date, but we were too busy for us to actually set a date; but we kept in touch. We used to study together and one day he borrowed my notes, and he promised to give them back to me. Now my exam was the next morning and I kept textin him telling him I need my notes back, Finally I got sooo frustrated that I sent him a hellish text message and pushed getting my papers back out of my mind.

Ten mins later he called soooo mad, and he told me that he promised to give me my papers and he was going t do that, but he doesnt want us to be friends anymore , so I went to his house got my notes and that was the end. I told him I was sorry, and that I was anxious because I was taking the final tommorow, but he didnt want to hear it. So that was it. <sub>And im not gonna beg to be with some guy, hahahaaha

I'm kinda glad we didnt hook up, I met my bf soon after</sub>

But diva try apologizing to him, thats all you can do at this point, did he say anything back?

Well yours is much different cos this was my man, my bf,

Yes he was like shocked, saying thank you and also asking me wha he has done to me for all this. That God bless me n all. And hat he can;t believe this is coming from me. That was all. He actually tried calming me down at the beginning and apologised but i didn't want to listen and before i knew it, I exploded with such words.

[quote author=Negro_Ntns link=topic=264071.msg3758731#msg3758731 date=1240286729]Men do not understand love.  We understand and respond to show of respect.  When you respect a man he will respond to you with love and affection.  You have acted impulsively to disrespect your man.  You have hurt him tremendously and he will respond to you.  When he does, bite your tongue and suck it up.  If you need to take him back and keep him in your arms, then you must subdue your pride and allow him to vent and calm.  Don't talk to him about love, just keep emphasizing to him that you respect him.  He will open up again with love and embrace you.  [/quote]Thanks a lot but right now, where do I go from here? I really don't like the words I used and said to him no matter what, do I just text him, an apology msg and forget or what? Even when I was texting him, he even called me to aoplogise and calm me down but hey i guess i was blinded with anger and finished him off with horrible words.

Haba amebo no1.

Which one is desperado?? I'm so down right now, I can't even take this personal. U do not really understand the situation.

dean2725:
umhh!!!

Please what does this mean. I am feeling very down at this moment.

Please for real, you all should help and talk to me. What do I do? I cannot even pray about my situation because no matter how much he hurt me, I cannot hold my head high, that i cursed out and said such horrible words though I was very angry at that point.

Please people help me and don't criticise me. I just had a terrible and horrible misunderstanding with my love, the person I truly love because though he has failed me horribly, everything was good. We were meant to see each other, three times, he failed because he was so busy, and he didn't really apologise for that. 4th time, he set the day and time and still failed to show up so I was annoyed.

I went up to his place, unfortunately he wasn't home and that was what got me mad. I started texting him all sorts of curses. There's nothing I didn't say to him. Over 100, even telling him how he would be impotent, die and so many horrible words. When I say horrible, i mean horrible. I even threw it to his face about the fraud his friends were telling me about  him, telling I'll call the cops and he'll rot in jail and so many harsh words, which is unlike me. I'm even ashamed to write all of them. I even brought up the past where he hurt me. I called him cheap, just because he wasn't around?? This is actually the first time, such is happening.

Please people what do I do or where do I go from here now? I know I should apologise but how?? I cannot even text I'm sorry because I went too far. What options can I try or did he really deserve it?

Do you all think that I could go to his place tomorrow to apologise or wait weeks, days to apologise to him?? God forgive me for my words.

Why don't you see your self marrying her if she has all those qualities and u love her?

@Sisi Jinx

I know it's not about age @ all, I gave further details, which between the two with the little you've read, ?

An older guy(maybe 10-18yrs age gap) you love so much and used to with a bad past and not so much going in his present like you know, being a medical doctor or so or a guy who doesn't have that much age gap, aspiring to be a top medical doctor, got so much going for him and all, like everything seems so right but no much love maybe on the friendship level compared to the first? You as the girl got so much going too so not lacking anything.

Girls which would you choose or which will be right? Guys you are also welcome.

They are not going out o, Timaya has said so that there's nothing between him and Empress.

An older guy(maybe 10-18yrs age gap) you love so much and used to with a bad past and not so much going in his present like you know, being a medical doctor or so or a guy who doesn't have that much age gap, aspiring to be a top medical doctor, got so much going for him and all,  like everything seems so right but no much love maybe on the friendship level compared to the first? You as the girl got so much going too so not lacking anything.

Girls which would you choose or which will be right? Guys you are also welcome.

Does any one know how those in the US may get to watch it?

[quote author=i_laugh link=topic=263024.msg3748307#msg3748307 date=1240076554]Poster

Tell me how many boyfriends you have had in your life, did you marry the one that first poke your pussy? How come you are not answering? Why is it that women always give men a bad name just to hang us? Who doesnt have a bad past? Tell it to my face or show me he/she who doesnt have a bad past? So, each one of us, man or woman, with bad pasts does not now have a bright future or what? Look, your past is past, God doesnt ask for your CV b4 determining your future, so poster, better keep sticking that di ck inside your pussy - know that there is always a reward.[/quote]What reward??

@ ladybam

What would you consider an over complicated past sin?

ow11:
If he's got AIDS. . .Life would be a little bit more expensive. So for that reason,YES but the possibilities you mentioned are random and can affect anyone regardless of their sexual history.

I wasn't just referring to sexual history, it was more like breaking of hearts and all, and as Kriticul mentioned earlier, what if someone during the course cursed him or something or karma, u know.
Also bad past like fraud etc


[quote author=i_laugh link=topic=263024.msg3748307#msg3748307 date=1240076554]Poster

Tell me how many boyfriends you have had in your life, did you marry the one that first poke your pussy? How come you are not answering? Why is it that women always give men a bad name just to hang us? Who doesnt have a bad past? Tell it to my face or show me he/she who doesnt have a bad past? So, each one of us, man or woman, with bad pasts does not now have a bright future or what? Look, your past is past, God doesnt ask for your CV b4 determining your future, so poster, better keep sticking that di ck inside your pussy - know that there is always a reward.[/quote]First of all lol, let me laugh, Did u read the ending where I said and "vice versa". I wasn't just generalising only men, I only used an example and of cause it's mostly men, How many boyfriends I've had has nothing to do with this, I may have had 1 million boyfriends but no one might have got hurt in the process and the other might have had only one girlfriend that may have had a very horrible and bad ending, And also there are differen types of "bad" pasts, breaking hearts and someone that maybe used to smoke are on different levels so hope u understand better.

I believe definitely God forgives all but my thoughts are even after praying for forgiveness, how about those he/she has hurt that could have warranted curses or something, maybe the person never apologised, ?

Would a man's bad past always affect the future, For example, the bad boy's life style, games, breaking hearts and hurting a lot of people, having sex multiple partners that are not your girlfriends, and so on and then the guy wants to settle down with a nice girl that hasn't had a bad past and all, Would his past hunt their future like maybe not having children, or kids dying early or something bad even as the girl is innocent and the man would have changed? and vice versa.

[quote author=ugo_2u link=topic=263024.msg3746288#msg3746288 date=1240039639]I understand, ok let me ask you some questions.
Who gives children? If you are not a sinner and God says he will satisfy anyone who is his with long life why will he allow the kids to die young? If you are the lords own and he is for you who can be against you? I repeat it won't affect you[/quote]True talk, Thanks a lot dear.!!!

[quote author=ugo_2u link=topic=263024.msg3746273#msg3746273 date=1240038665]Ok first of all as a true christian we are not sinners though we may sin. about affecting the girl, in what way exactly?[/quote]Ok let me use myself for example- I'm no saint though but i happen to fall in love with someone that has a very bad past. I could want to be with this person but how about our future. I mean affecting the girl. his past? like i mentioned earlier, getting pregnant, kids dying early, or some sort of, u know?

[quote author=ugo_2u link=topic=263024.msg3746256#msg3746256 date=1240037890]With God all things are possible but remember the key is the man being saved, if he doesn't know Jesus as his lord and saviour trust me it is risky to fall in love with such.[/quote]Thanks, but we know we still call on God's name even though we are sinners, not judging anyone but the person might still be calling on God's name and believe in him but still doing unbelievable things at the same time so when would change come? so it doesn't affect the innocent one that truly loves him/her?

I know it is possible to fall in love wih someone that has had a bad past but what I don't know is if to the extent of getting married to the person but like you said with God all things are possible.

[quote author=ugo_2u link=topic=263024.msg3746226#msg3746226 date=1240036491]Well yes and no. If the guy doesn't know God and hasn't accepted Jesus into his life it will affect him due to he still has the natural mans nature but If he has Jesus then his sins are forgiven and his mindset changed and also he will feel sorry of his past,ask the lord for forgiveness and forgive himself then it'll not.[/quote]I feel that having multiple sex partners, Is he not wasting his sperm for the future? So when the future is there, all he needs is to ask for forgiveness from God? I'm just curious

Would a man's past always affect the future, For example, the bad boy's life style, games, breaking hearts and hurting a lot of people, having sex multiple partners that are not your girlfriends, and so on and then the guy wants to settle down with a nice girl that hasn't had a bad past and all,   Would his past hunt their future like maybe not having children, or kids dying early or something bad even as the girl is innocent and the man would have changed? and vice versa.