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Ohamzee:
na una type go grow bear bear. u better give ur life to Christ and ask him to lead u. Him alone knows the way.

That's why someone should see a great danger and run into it.
Overbearing men are terrible.
I have a relation married to an overbearing man.
If she was not the cool type, the marriage would have broken apart since.

For the lady to be already complaining
She is the type that will not overlook or forbear. Then it's better she goes for an easy going, cool man.

Smile4mee01:
Expect more of these. As the world moves closer to ending, more women will do these kinda things.
Rather than be a help mate to a man struggling, they would rather be an extra tyre to an established man.


Its women like these that take women back 100 yrs while some are trying to be an example.

Was monogamy ever meant for Men? Was it a white mans idea ? Should women begin to accept that they cant have a financially stable man all to themselves? Are side chics uncelebreated 2nd wives ? Do side chics really mean well for men?

I dont understand.

#kunuboy

See average African man has polygamy running in his genes.
Many of us are 2nd generation monogamists.
Our progenitors were polygamists.

I still believe the Europeans changed our way of life.
The present life we are living are just borrowed life.

My two grand fathers were polygamists.
My maternal grandfather married 3 wives
While my paternal grandfather married 2 wives.
It was from my father's generation that they started marrying 1 wife.


Most of these stories we are hearing is just a pointer to that. Many married men some secretly some openly keep mistresses.
It is very common.

A man keeping sane requires serious control. Even big pastors, reverends, priests are not exempted from these battles we fight to remain sane and not commit blunder.

chiol:
I am sorry for the southerners. This is not about Tinubu or Oshomole. The northerners are far above us politically.

The bitter part is that the fellow southerners that suppose to stand in solidarity with their brothers are being used by the northerners for their agenda. Power suppose to shift to the south in 2023, but the northerners have now positioned themselves to be in control of the two major parties, so by then the south will not have a say and the two parties would field only northerners as candidates.

The southerners that could challenge this agenda are being sidelined and we are foolishly rejoicing.

Abeg make we hear word.
Did you people remember south in 2015?
Una never see anything
The North is solely in driving seat

In 2011 entire south gave there mandate
To GEJ with the one that came from the north.
The power of north was broken for the first time because the entire south voted as a block

In 2015 we were crying begging
Let the whole south come together

But some part said no
Now the north are in full control
And they will never relinquish that
Even when they want to give it to south
They will look for there stooge down south.


Southerners claim to be smart
But Northern Nigeria plays them like a puppet on a string.
I really respect and like there intelligence and togetherness
We have so much to learn from them
So much

okoroemeka:
All white people are hardwired to view black vpeople as inferior and more related to monkeys and apes than human beings,the few that shows tolerance don't have any option but deep in their hearts they loath black people,we don't need any apologies from them,after all what respect did you expect from a race the captured,raped,killed and sold us like Christmas goats,as long as the black man lives he will always be hated by the white man

And the blacks are they really helping themselves?
Take a look at this topic
It has degenerated to the first black person to attend this school or that college.

And they are cursing each other out over something irrelevant and very meaningless. Wasting energy on stupid things.

Go to oyibo forums
Can you see such things?

To be honest
The black man has a very long way to go
Very very long way indeed.

ImaIma1:
Well...that has helped me for the past 5yrs. It's not all about me. If there's one meat left in the pot, I will make sure he has it...lol

Love that
Whatever you give same thing you get back in multiple times!!
At least you want your union to work
It's a plus and positive reinforcement for your union

Keep it up!!!!

ImaIma1:
People get tired when one person is being irresponsible and not working on the marriage.

More people should realize that it's not a must to get married especially if they are not selfless enough to put their own wants behind.

Selfless to put there own wants behind?

In this our selfish and self centered generation. Anyone with that outlook is taken as a mugu/simp/weakling.
The person will end up eating all manner of shi.ts

ImaIma1:
I think it's plain common sense. Most people here are busy shifting blame and citing a million and one reasons why marriage is a scam.

But the truth is that none of them is ready to take responsibility. They don't want to adjust their ways to accommodate their spouses. They still want to carry their excess baggage around and expect the spouse to live with it.

Marriage takes work from both parties.

Marriage takes work
But how many are even willing to do the work?
People are tired, giving up
No strength to do it
it's not even easy again
Plenty wahala everywhere.

You feel you want to do the work
But your partner is not willing

Like Timaya said I no go kill myself

Kobicove:
From where I'm standing you're the only fool I see for miles around!

Don't mind him.
They use depression to cover up demonic oppression.
Spirit of depression is a demonic spirit.
And it leads people it oppresses to commit suicide.
They see no meaning to life.
They may have all the money in this world, but are completely miserable.

In fact there are many poor, wretched people that enjoy there life so much than so called rich, wealthy people.

That's where God is greater than man
People purse mundane things of this life but neglect God.
In the end evil forces of darkness will feast over there lives.

Observer1:
Do you mind defining family,due to its ambiguity?

Close Blood relatives.
I am talking from my own personal experience.
They are the only one that's got your back when your entire world crashes.

Although some may think otherwise from there own experience.
But for me, family over everything.

Nooil:
I don't think you'll get anyone that will genuinely love you like your family. And the truth is, whatever you give, you'll get. When you give love, you'll get love. When you give hate, you'll get hate. When you give self-centeredness, you'll get self-centeredness. That's the lesson I've learned from life.

True you can never get anyone that could genuinely love you like your family.
And also true that whatever you give same thing you will get back in return.

Ausrichie:
Number 3 and number 6 to me are not true. If I'm with you and your family doesn't like me then you choose one me or them. Social skills are not completely necessary and looking for connections will only make you an asslicker.

Family not liking you is true.
Choosing you or them, who will leave his or her family to just chose you?
When all fails
For me Family will always be there.


Social skills are extremely necessary
You so much need it in your life, relationships, business, work.
It's very important

mdchikezie:
LEAVE THEM, UNEMPLOYED COACHES THAT HAVENT EVEN CONTROLLED THEIR SIBLINGS PROPERLY, BUT ALWAYS COACHING AND ANALYZING FOOTBALL PLAYERS AS IF THEY kNOW SHIT

Lampard plays a very entertaining football.
He's done wonders with a very young team
Even me was surprised
He will turn out to be a successful coach with time
His fundamentals are sound

mdchikezie:
another meaningless load of bullcrap, where is your almighty manu, and the rest while we are top 4 now are they not playing the same teams we are playing?
yeye people would always bring up rubbish conclusions to seem grounded, and that is to mediocre people not me.
what team do you support or do you just join the bandwagon of unemployed sports pundits
CHELSEA has done the very best this season notwithstanding their season predicament,
yeye people everywhere.
is lampard> zidane?, and guardiola has won trophys at worldclass barca before coming to mancity. so what bullshit are you taling about?
and even kLoop who is like a God in the premier league now, how did he fare in his first season at liverpool
or you just make up a rubbish article to seem literate
i bet you will tell me that you are supporting liverpool just because they are winning now. BANDWAGONERS everywhere.
OGA IF YOU CANNOT REALISE THAT LAMPARD HAS DONE A GREAT JOB AT CHELSEA SINCE TAkING OVER, THEN YOU ARE JUST HAVE A NEGATIVE MINDSET PERIOD.

AND YOUR TYPE ARE PEOPLE WHO SAY THAT PREMIER LEAGUE IS A MEDIOCRE, YET IT STILL PULLS THE HIGHEST REVENUES AND HAS THE LARGEST BASES AROUND THE WORLD.

TELL, ME ANOTHER THING IS DO NOT kNOW

For Abramovich and the board to be buying up players mean they are satisfied with what Lampard have done.

They have done very well this season with a very young squad
Don't mind all those haters

Kobojunkie:
nowhere in all of scripture is even a ceremony claimed necessary.

What we practice today is a result of more doctrines and traditions of men, not God.

True
I realized that long time ago
More of doctrines and traditions of men.

There is not much difference between the Pharisees and saducees of Jesus time and present they religious practices.
If the Lord was around today in the flesh
They would not have accepted Him

Saint99:
Behold, Rebekah is before thee, take her, and go, and let her be thy master's son's wife, as the LORD hath spoken.
Genesis 24:51

Here there was no elaborate ceremony, just Abraham's servant representing Isaac, his master's Son and Rebekah's family, even Isaac the groom or the husband to be didn't need to be there.

This was one scriptural reference that made me realize the church had no say in a persons marriage.

Righteousness89:
If you have Godly parents ! You say that!

The pastor/ priest is an office Ordained by GOD just like the levites of old.

That's that official duty!

Oga stop saying things you can't back up.
Bible tells us to honour our father and mother, that our days may be long.

Godly or no godly parents
You must honour them

That's why you see professed Christians die untimely. Because they failed to honor there parents. Dishonoring them comes with a great price.


Secondly there is no where in the scriptures priests or pastors were coducting wedding.

plasgidy:
Engagement na marriage? The guy said they were banging before the engagement and what if the presumed engagement no work nko?

The lady has been bethroted to the guy.
Op knows that already
He didn't want to recuse himself from it.
He already told us in the post.

He should continue
But payday is coming
Even if it doesn't work
The deed has been done
That's way someone else will screw
The woman that he loves
He has already set the deed in motion

Opeke2020:
Hello everyone. Please bear with me because this might be lengthy. I have being dating a Jehovah witness lady for about two years now.

She is such a wonderful and caring lady. The type that would make sure I am happy at all times.

Around November last year, she found out that I cheat. She even found out that I cheated that same week she came to my house. After much apologies and all, she forgave me and we continued. We kept having issues and reconciling. We finally broke up in February because they don't marry outside their church (I am not even thinking about marriage now) and someone in her church has approached her for marriage.

They are planning the wedding but she still comes to my house and we Bleep each time she comes. Today she came and her husband to be was calling her she refused taking the call. I asked her why is she doing this to the guy, she said even if she gets married tomorrow she will still be fuc...king me. Although I don't know the guy but I feel pity for him




@ OP A CHILD LOOKED BACK AND PLACED A CURSE ON SANGO(god of thunder) AND HE RAN AWAY THINKING THE god WILL KILL HIM THAT SAME DAY BUT HE WAS MISTAKEN. MAY GOD KEEP U ALIVE THEN U WILL UNDERSTAND THE INTERPRETATION. EVEN THE WORD OF GOD IN PROVERBS SAYS

Do not desire her beauty in your heartOr allow her to captivate you with her alluring eyes, 26 For because of a prostitute, a man is reduced to a loaf of bread,But the wife of another man preys on a precious life. 27 Can a man rake fire to his chest and not burn his garments? 28 Or can a man walk on hot coals without scorching his feet? 29 It is the same with anyone having relations with his neighbor’s wife;No one who touches her will go unpunished.


SIR YOUR LIFE MAY NEVER REMAIN THE SAME AGAIN.YOU HAVE DOOMED YOURSELF BECAUSE YOURE SOUNDING UNREPENTANT. WE ARE VERY SORRY FOR YOU....LUSTFUL GENERATION. EEYAHH. HAVE U FORGOTTEN THAT SUCH A WOMAN AND YOUR LUST ARE EXACTLY AS GRAVE? YOU WILL NEVER GET ENOUGH OF SUCH ILLICIT RELATIONS UNTIL YOU LOOSE UR BLESSINGS NOW AND IN THE FUTURE. MATURED AND RESPONSIBLE
MARRIED NAIRALANDERS HERE UNDERSTAND THE GRAVITY OF THE SIN(S) YOURE "ENJOYING". A SQUAIREL IS EATING BANANA AND HE'S SHAKING HIS BUTTOCKS.....ASK RESPONSIBLE EKDERS TO FINISH THE ADAGE FOR U......Pele SHey u hear

Don't mind him.
He doesn't understand the gravity of what he is doing.
And he is unrepentant
When the repercussions come
He will remember all these warnings.

People play and toil with there life.

That's how one I know
Was committing evil and abomination
Thinking God was not seeing everything.

He later died a very miserable death

People don't fear God
They think they can get Away with things.

The only thing that will save him is genuine repentance. But presently, he is not even remorseful.

Iamundisputed:
And Warri, Calabar, Uyo et al are part of the South East?

Go to the Niger Delta and see how quick they are to dissociate themselves from Igbos. You are living in a mental contraption...

They are not South East, but they will gain a lot economically from having there seaports opened and in use because they are proximity very close to the East distance wise.

Akwa Ibom state government is already taking advantage of the proximity.
The road between Abia and there state was constructed recently by governor udom. Ibom sea port works have started.

Oil is going it's last cause and Niger Delta will gain a lot to its economy by opening her sea ports.

Manufacturing hub in South East can use Niger Delta sea ports to export there goods across the African region and entire globe.

Lagos ports are far distance from these manufacturing Hubs in the East.

So nature has blessed the proximity of the two regions of East and Niger Delta.
It's a great blessing from God.

SATANNIST:
yes i never said all naija women are whores. i said 90% meaning we still have 10% that are decen , virtuous and not wayward and the possibility of an average naija guy to get them is so slim. try marrying girls from other affrican countries if you cant marry oyinbo

If you keep your hands clean
There is no way you will ever end up with a wayward woman in marriage
I am talking from experience
The forces behind the universe will never allow you do it
Somehow they will scatter the relationship

But the key is having a clean hands

You can't be screwing up other peoples women and expect to get a clean one

Never
It doesn't go that way

osazsky:
U should feel sorry for yourself not the husband...ones she gets married change ur line..if possible change location .it carries a severe curse even in the afterlife..if u continue u can nervee prosper and after u marriage another Marlian will be shining the pussy of the mother if it children..later as ur children grow they will never prosper.while some will fall into depression.its a generational curse

Many of them think it's a laughing matter, but they don't know they are bringing transgeneeational curse on there lineage, seed and childrens children.

It's a very scary scenario

TruthinAction:
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul - Proverbs 6:32.

You are on an escort to hell.

Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death Proverbs 7:27.

Word
May God bless you really good for this truth

joyandfaith:
Send down the rain

Send down the rain

Send down the rain

Send down the rain

Everything in Life has got it's time and season

So you don't have to ask me why

You don't expect to sow cassava

And reap up cocoyam

You don't expect to sow rice

And reap up cassava

Whatever a man sows in this world

They must surely reap


majek fashek

You can say that again
Someone plants Casava and wants to reap rice
It's not possible under the sun.

When the results start coming
The op have nowhere to hide
And sure it will come.

SATANNIST:
NAIJA GUYS CAN CONVERT OLOSHO TO WIFE. MTCHEEEEEEWWW.
90% percent of naija useless b=girls are whores. u are better off marrying a girl from another country

It all depends on who you associate and hang around with.
There are many women out there who are decent, virtuous, not Wayward.

But it all depends on who you are exposed to.

kmaster007:
how will you feel if sum1 else doing d same to ur woman Wen you got married... vice versa wat goes around comes around... you better stop...

People don't understand the gravity of what they do.
The major principle guiding this life is the law of sowing and reaping.

For whatever the op has sown, he will reap it in many folds.

Likewise the lady in question.

People play with fire.

Bimpe29:
See how useless APC has become?
Governors in opposition are not joining her train rather it's her members (sitting Governors) that are leaving her for opposition, PDP...

That was exactly how PDP imploded In 2014. The exact scenario is playing out.
There house is so much divided.

Impostor:
The problem is that women like vanity, hence, you must spend that money on white wedding in order to make them happy.


Another reason, colonialism and the love for white people makes us believe less in our tradition. This general belief that if it's not foreign, it's not good, is a major reason for white weddings.

Lol @ your refund comment. Return of bride price is a symbolic gesture.

Traditional weddings are usually more colorful.

In addition Christianity plays a role too.
If they don't have white wedding done in church by a priest. They believe that before God they are not married.

That's why churches like catholic encourage couples to come and do wedding even on ordinary Earling morning prayers day.
You don't need to spend a dime

But many women though won't agree. They must have an elaborate white wedding. Infact it's the average girls dream.

Knocknock:
Only a God sent lady can endure with a man in this bad condition.

Yes,  there are women everywhere  but out of many few of them are called virtuous woman.

It is only a God sent woman that can manage to live and endure with a man  in such situation as you see on the photo above.

Many ladies love an already made man,  a man that has it all,  a man loaded with cash and ready to spend it on her.

We stumbled on a situation where we visited a man who has no better way of description than a wretched man.

He  was very poor and had nothing doing for a living. They feed from hand to mouth .

While discussing with him,  he revealed that he's happily married with 3 kids yet living in a one room  face me I face you apartment .

His wife is very beautiful and young , when we tried to force words out of his mouth on how he managed to get such an enduring lady,  he said..

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" It is only a God's sent woman that can live with a man like me under this my wretched condition .

"I know this is not the end of my life because I still see a very bright and glittering future ahead of us,  she has been there for me and our children despite what people say to us.

The face remains that,  it is only a woman with understanding that  is qualified for marriage base on our discovery.

Source... https://yawabase.com/2020/06/only-gods-sent-ladies-can-endure-with-a-man-in-this-condition.html

Why are people just running down this people?

The funny thing is that this couple may be poor but are happy together and there is joy in there home. While there are many rich wealthy families but have never known what happiness or joy for one day.

Money actually can't be equated to happiness. And many rich folks with all there money have never experienced happiness even for one day.

Everyone should just face his own lane in this life. And stop poknosing into others lane of life.
You are not God the maker and giver of life.

NaijadrivaCars:
Any church that hands over leadership to the family of the founder is going to fizzle out, well except God reveals that that do so.

True fact
That's one of the secrets of Redeemed Church
PA Akindayomi the founder handed over to E A Adeboye who was not even among his top pastors. Look at the success it became today.

Bishop Oyedepo understands that

Grayoso:
This is what I keep saying about you Igbo men. You lot are simply too emotional to ever face or accept reality around you and staring you in the face. You lot keep revising reality as if said reality pertains to another planet other than Earth we all live in.

My friend, the sovereignty of independent Nations is even more respected today than when your Biafra was defeated. Why is the UK, USA, France etal not interfering as Spain jail secessionists like Kanu up and down?

Just follow Kanu and try Nigeria again you hear me? I triple dare you. I will see any nation that will come to fight in your favour, in this day and age of clear premises of international relations and engagement , when you are moving against the explicit provisions of the Nigerian constitution.

You are right this is not 1967 so go ahead and act foolishly again thinking all Nations, including your favorite Isreal, will support you even in words alone, let alone war partnership, to declare criminal and illegal secession against Nigeria. We will see the universal attack against the hypocrisy of any nation that will come and challenge sovereign Nigeria, the biggest est black nation on Earth, for doing to secessionist what Spain is doing to them below.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/world/2019/oct/14/catalan-separatist-leaders-given-lengthy-prison-sentences

You just love to make noise.
If you lot don't get Nigeria working
You can't hold any region down.
It's just a matter of time

We will first go into regionalism
Because it's not working as its presently constituted.
This one igbo man won't even have a hand in it
Just nature will take its course
Every region will take its matter in her hands
Over 6 decades
No progress
Everyday it's one killing or the other
Like the one happening in Southern kaduna presently
And you think it will continue like that
Like I said
You are very delusional


As for Catalonia
Spain is working very well as a nation
They are very prosperous
So Catalonia issue is not same issues with what we have here.

Grayoso:
Guy, you were the aggressor and deliberately forced the hand of Nigeria, daring us to act, by declaring Biafra treasonously and against the clear instructions of our constitution because the greedy and mad IGBO (I Go Before Others) called Ojukwu wanted to exorcize the oil rich SS from Nigeria for Igbos to control.

Ojukwu led Igbos to war and the death of many of his own people for nothing but good old greed and covetousness of what belongs to others. Reprehensible character flaws Igbos still continue to show abundantly today.

Was Ojukwu not aware that our constitution forbade secession especially given that it was well-doxumented that Igbo man Azikiwe directly and treacherously colluded with the North to frustrate Awolowo's earlier attempt to include a secession clause in our constitution so any region not happy with the Nigerian union, post-independence, could go their own way legally and without rancor?

You lot them lost the war and went on to passionately hate Awolowo, Adekunle and all Yorubas in general till today, for fighting to uphold the constitution of their Country you Igbos wanted to be given the free hant to trample on without repercussion.

I really dont like talking with Igbos because very few of you are reasonable, truthful, upright, mature or fair-minded. Learn to acknowledge the consequences of your own action regardless of what they may be.

Would millions of Igbos be dead had the preening Peacock Ojukwu not arrogantly decided to show disdain for the constitution of Nigeria we must all respect or suffer the consequences for disobeying? What do you Igbos expect the rest of us to do when Ojukwu took the attitude that he was ready to go to war if Nigeria did not allow him to defy our constitution and get his way with Biafra?

What exactly is Kanu doing today, with his hate speexh against the Yorubas/Hausa/Fulani and disregard for our constitution, if not same as Ojukwu yet you people still foolishly queue behind him.

If the worst were to happen and you Igbos end up in trouble again you would then start another round of hate fest against Yorubas whereas it is the lawless madman you all chose to follow that got you in trouble and that you should blame for your travails.

I don't need to revisit stories that have been regurgitated many times.
The igbo man have learnt his lesson from before.
Learnt how to deal with issues concerning her well being

Even against all odds
We have thrived, succeeded and done well for ourselves despite everything thrown at us by the help of the almighty.

Thank God many igbos are awakening to think concerning there region unlike before they will go and build things in the land of people that don't like them.

And mind you
What happened in 1967
Can never happen again in this modern multipolar world that we live in now.
The world and even Africa presently have become very complex place to be
And if your likes think that 1967 will repeat
Then you are very delusional
That's why we remember it every May 30th
And never ever again will such happen.

Alfaab:
What would you then say about the Rwandas? They have gone out of sulking and hating and within 25 years,they have even done better than some African countries.It is more than 50 years now and you are still sulking about a war that was inadvertently caused by the Igbos because all the very important leaders of the other ethnic groups were killed.

Is there marginalization in Rwanda like its done here?
Are we truly in all honesty building a nation with the way things are being handled here?
You can't compare Rwanda to Nigeria.
There everyone was carried along
Here it's more about each channeling there own ethnic agenda.

And let me be honest with you
Nigeria may remain the way she is for many decades to come
because true nationhood are not being built. There is no sense of patriotism
There is no clear cut definitive agenda
Let's not lie to ourselves and embrace reality

And that is what fuels these issues from younger generation of igbos
For the development and liberty of there region
And there is serious awareness and consciousness among igbos to start thinking more about there homeland like never before
Many are realizing that living there place to go and build things in other regions is stupidity
How many of other regions build in the East?
So there is awareness, consciousness and awakening even among the elites.