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Blackbishop:
You just nail my thought about marriage on the head. Most successful men don't get a woman to tie Dem down. It is just business as usual ... Sex get pregnant and I take responsibilities..

Lobatan.

And that's the real problem with marriages today. I think many are just business deals which leaves a soulless marriage, with divorce inevitable.

Ybaby:
Yimu!!

If a man is not a provider which money is he now locking up ??

You guys will fight everything except poverty

O ma se o

I am telling you real life issues I have witnessed and you are here making noise.

Empathy is the key here. When a woman have your kind of mindset. It makes men become more business minded in there union. I am talking from experience.

I have always adviced guys to hustle up and not just have one streams of income, but several, that has been my philosophy . But on the flip side a mean less empathy wife is a no no. It turns marriage into more of business which may not augur well with the woman. That's how some men place there siblings over there spouse concerning there money.

Preferito:
Wow! This is so disheartening. Love has really waxed cold. But I think the type of foundation given to the youths of nowadays is what's causing this. The Bible stated that the woman is an help meet to the man. This means that when the man is incapacitated she should be able to augment him. She should not compound his troubles. I see no reason why a woman will be troubling a man because he is trying unsuccessfully. Had it been that he is not trying at all then she could have charged him up. Before exhibiting any nasty behavior towards your husband you need to remind yourself the reason why you married him at the first place. To be honest men are now an endangered species and all these things gives me cold feet towards marriage. Why can't the women of these days be like our mothers? I started hawking since I was in primary 2 all the way till SS3 along with my older siblings because my dad was trying unsuccessfully. But there was never a time I did see my mother insult him. Neither was she in any way ever promiscuous. We were in it together and we pulled through. Why can't the women of these days have the will to build with their husbands? This reminds me of the popular quote that says it is only women and children that are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved base on what he can provide. May God order our steps in the right direction.

That's why many men lock up with there money. Some have died with huge money in the bank without any of there family knowing about it.
Some men even place more value on there siblings than there spouse, so any day he goes, his close family members lay hold on his things.

That's why genuine honesty and empathy must be displayed in a marriage. Because it makes some men Harden up and see marriage more like a business engagement.

crackkhaus:
I also wonder if you didn't read through her posts and updates to see exactly what is going on.

The man she's married to does not care about her or her respect, he is not looking for it. For a man to tell his wife to go ahead and sleep with other men if she wants to, then nothing she does/says gets to him. He even earns more than her, yet is not interested in contributing to their home.
Nigga is just there fulfilling all righteousness, I saw it from the first post but nightingale who has been living with him is still busy singing hymns hoping for a miracle.

There are only three things available in a woman's arsenal to keep a man under her thumb - the sex she gives him, the respect she has for him, or the children she birthed for him.
A man who doesn't care about having sex with a woman or being respected by her, has become immune to her manipulations & blackmail. Your friend here has lost both of these things - she can't use sex to hold him ransom because he doesn't care if she sleeps with other men. And he doesn't need her respect hence he is okay with not providing even though he can, and doesn't mind her doing whatever she wants and likes.

The only thing left is the kid which she said he dotes on. Remember, the only reason he even married her in the first place is because of that same kid (pregnancy), something which he was manipulated into in the name of testing womb efficiency.

So yes, she has the blame, there's no sugar-coating it.
The man is simply not seeing her at all, I'm sure she's dead to him already. The only thing he seems to care about is the child and remaining with him trying to manipulate/force the love and affection out of him, simply means she has still not learnt her lesson from the beginning.

The guy is psycho simple.
Most times guys like this feel they can get away with this, but they always gets paid back in full. And I have no mercy for men like this when there payback comes.

That's how many men are reaping the evil they sowed when the children are grown,
It doesn't end in good.

That's how a family friend of ours, her mum was messed up by there highly irresponsible dad for years since they were kids, only two children
Now they are grown. Lady in question studied engineering, sponsored by her mum through pain. She came out with First Class. Got employed by Exxon Mobil as an international staff. Been living in the US for over 5 years now. That woman ridiculed now spends almost all her time in the US.
The useless man wanted to make amends but the daughter told him its too late. He is miserable in the village.

Maltreatment never ends well. The man may feel he has an upper hand now, but by the time he realises what's happening, it will be too late.
For you to know how useless that op husband is. She said she had suggested that they separate before. But the useless psycho said no.
Why didn't he want separation? Because he is very useless and selfish.

That's one thing I learnt from my dad. Any man that wants to marry his daughter, he will warn you strictly that on no account you maltreat his daughter.
And all his son in law no dey try any nonsense at all
One lawyer came to marry my sister who is a doctor. My old man tell the guy he was not serious. I sorry for the guy. But he knew what he was doing. The guy that later married her is very responsible and my sister is enjoying her marriage.


Our women must be very careful. There are a lot of irresponsible men out there. That has no respect and value for women and marriage. Shine your eyes well we'll. And avoid getting pregnant and marrying because of pregnancy. Women should have great respect for themselves. That's one major way of avoiding irresponsible men.

Romanoff:
A sinner in the church? Who claims to be born again?

If she said he wasn't a Christian or just a church goer, I'd have been less judgemental.

Someone who leads people to God's presence and still comfortable fornicating, there is every thing wrong with that.

And do you know how many of them that full our churches?
Repentance and true change of a human being can only come from genuine encounter with God. And most times we humans judge people a lot.

I have seen music ministers like that change and turn a new leaf. Judging them or playing righteous won't change them. It's only God that will humans, nothing else does
All you owe them is to keep praying for them.

Confusedwomsn:
I'm not dragging anything, i want him to be the captain, I will be extremely happy if he is the captain.
It's my cross and I'll carry it, you can judge me but your not my GOD.
God is my judge

Lady I understand you. You don't need to explain anything to them. You needed a true leader that knows what it means to be the captain of the home. That's why you are frustrated.
But you married an immature, directionless man.

It's a cross you have to carry if you have the perseverance. And there is no guarantee he will change.

Richy4:
You are a man, I guess you know the difference between pity and love right?

Let us assume that your best female friend played a cancer card on you,.. telling you how her world will come to an end without having a baby... and u were overwhelmed emotionally, she says can we try to have a baby? I just want to know if what the doctor said was true.. Please help me, .. what will u do?..

Second stage, when she got pregnant, the guy pleaded that she should terminate it, she refused.. all of a sudden she started singing the songs of marriage...different from the original let us try to have a baby . he doesn't want to offend her considering her medical condition..

Third stage, she wanted another baby again... I know that whenever the word cancer comes up, every one's sense of reasoning disappears. That could have been what happened to the Husband.

This is no justification. Did she force him to impregnate or marry her?
Why did he impregnate her and go on to marry her if he wasn't interested.

That guy is totally directionless.
You are with a woman that hustles and works her as.s off. Born pickin for you supports you. And yet he doesn't know how to be a man in his home.

He is irresponsible, immature. I am sorry for that woman.
It's just because the woman in question has a soft heart.
If it's those mean ones, she for Don Waka tey tey.
A woman that hustles like that can still get hooked to another man that will value her, because she is industrious.
What the poor lady needed was a real man that will complement, support and love her.

That guy is totally misfit and mean.

Confusedwomsn:
Thank you all. I'm reading and I totally appreciate.
I know I have to learn how to be humble but trust me it's easy to lie and say I can or I will but. It's not.
Wwe had no settee when we got married and I was like let's work on this it will be nice, he said okay but no real plans to do, I had to save and get it.

The same with the generator, our television, our sir conditioner, our fans, even stabilizer, even extensions. Our gas cylinder was stolen but I had to replace it,
I do sell these with joy because I want to make my home comfortable but when I see men struggle to put their home together I feel jealous, my mom said I should stop buying properties but I can't, how will I see something that is good for my home and not do it.
I've calmly asked him why he does not think about providing these things for us. Even when these things get bad, he will ignore not until I quarrels and shout or report to people before he will grudgingly do it.

I'll try to be humble but trust me it's not easy, I told him just play your role small and I will worship you because with all I'm going true it's difficult because I'll just pretend and be cursing you in my mind.
When I hustle and save to get these things, I'm never appreciated. I'm not boasting but I just felt like explaining how I truly feel...

I wonder why people will be blaming this lady. She is married to a man that has no sense of direction. How can a man like this get respect from a woman.
Why will the woman not be frustrated?

The lady is carrying a very big cross.

Romanoff:
No one is born again if they are still fornicating.

Only a pretender would be raising up holy hands in the choir stand and be living a life contrary to the scriptures.

The Bible says "if the foundation be destroyed, what will the righteous do?" I believe you both need to trace your steps back to God. Put Him in the centre of your marriage. Seek counselling from older couples in your church and maybe involve your pastors in the counselling sessions.

Marital crisis are not a war you fight physically and with insults. It is a war you fight with wisdom and on your knees.

God help you sis.

You should have given your advice without judging her. Jesus came for the sinners and the ungodly, not for the righteous.

dukeprince50:
though I deleted the post, u were quick.
Weda I become successful or fail in life, I'll still feel it more and people won't point fingers at my parents, so I think everyone has the right to choose a path, after all u will still be the one who will account for it in the future, nobody will blame ur parents for ur failure and nobody will praise them for ur success. Nobody is blaming shekau's mom for not raising him properly and only few people knows Bill Gates mother. Our destiny is in our hands,
so to ur earlier question, I'll say if ur parents gave u advice, u have the right to take it or not, If parents are smarter than their children, Mark Zuckerberg won't be richer than his parents, Ben Carson won't be more successful than his parents, they also have their flaws.
Modified
To those quoting me that success is not what determines wisdom, biko we are all entitled to our opinion.
Success means having any of or all of wealth, fame and power. Those who has it more than u do are wiser, if ur wisdom can't show in ur life, that wisdom na scam if all u can do is give advice. Solomon wisdom was showed in both wealth(richest in his days) , power(he was a king), and fame. U go school, do masters and earned 70k but a school drop out build and owns Microsoft and u think u are wiser? If u are very wise, u will be powerful, if u are not powerful, then u ain't wise

That's why you should hustle on your own and look away from there money.
That you focused on business doesn't mean you will succeed. All still dey for God hand.

But one of the personal lesson I learnt is you have to use wisdom in having scuffle with your parents lest it turns to dishonoring them.
The Bible enjoins us to honour thy father and mother that it may be well with thee that your days may be long. Your success and long life on earth is tied to honoring your parents.

You can disagree with them but never dishonor your parents or hold a grudge against them. It never ever ends well.

Bagehot:
In Churchill's words, 'Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others'. China is not a democracy, and yet has managed to become a global power - but you didn't mention how that has worked out for the Uighur, or the millions of lives sacrificed in it's 'great leap forward'. You assume this Dictator would be benevolent, competent, wise, and even-tempered, but you didn't mention how we would manage to find someone who wouldn't turn out to be an Idi Amin.

I repeat myself. We don't need democracy in this continent. It has not favoured us.
Our people like to hide under the so called freedom but behave lawless ways.

When the Europeans came to Africa they forcefully put law, order and government on our forbearers. Did they ask for our permission?
They created Nations and boundaries. Some of us up till today don't like it. But that was the only way to put order in place.
My own line of argument is that we may not like it. But thats what our people need.
Africa has been free for over 5 decades and nothing to show for it.

SoNature:
Stop deceiving yourself; nobody gets the position of a Nigerian president on a platter

The Yorubas were compensated in Obasanjo because MKO Abiola didn't get a chance to rule when his election was anuled

Niger Delta ex-militants blew up many pipelines in their region to snag a spot at the presidency. Later, Jonathan was controversially booted out.

Nigeria's north used insurgency to undermine the system and get compensated in the person of Buhari. Today, the region is still trying to recover from the ruins.

My point is, you have to pay a price to get that position. If the Igbos don't build intertribal bridge, stop feeling like superhumans, cease the agitation for secession and end online name callings, the quest to get a Nigerian president of Igbo extraction will remain a mirage.

There is a fact in what he is saying.
The IPOB has been a menace to Nigerian government. They have to be nipped in the bud. The owners of Nigeria may want to give the presidency to the igbos.

There most loyal servant in the South East are Orji Uzor Kalu and Rocha's Okorocha.
This two are completely loyal to the caliphate. That's why IPOB don't use eye see them.


The owners of Nigeria is Northern Nigeria, whether you like it or not. They are the most beneficial of Nigeria.
And they know how to control power. They have the population to install anyone.
Southern Nigeria has no direction, they are not united, and they have Les votes compared to the North.

If the North throws there weight behind there servants in the East. No part of Nigeria can stop that person from winning.

And mind you. The North is very very careful of who occupies that seat. They guard it very jealously. Only who they trust they give power to.

EmmyKrim:
honestly lot of nigerians are very lawless, if you treat them with soft hand they will always misbehave, but when you go hard on them they will start blaming the govt.

Take these Nigerians to developed societies, they will behave themselves or else they will end up in jail. But here they are lawless.

Bagehot:
Africans need very mean leaders Even when people actively disobeyed lock-down rules in Italy and America, I didn't see anyone talking about this sort of draconian measures. With people like you, Africa doesn't even need democracy.

I don't think Africa needs democracy. Democracy creates weak leaders.
Look at China, are they democratic? No. But they are still economically very successful.

Africans don't like obeying laws. They need very strict, mean leaders, that can now discipline the people ruthlessly and channel everyone to sound economical development.

DECENCY3:
This is seriously serious.

Lagos number keeps increasing as if they have a Target to hit. Lord please heal our land.

Abuja!!! This is good news

Yeah team FCT rocks!!!

seunmsg:
No new cases in FCT. Should we start dancing?

We are decent. I drove around town since Monday. Almost everybody was wearing mask and social distancing was observed. Unlike Lagos were people are very lawless.

funshint:
Before you reply first go and check the meaning of "mean" . People like you should be feared...Idi amin mentality.

Ah if I was president it will be operation law against Indiscipline and lawless ness.
Traffic law, government laws, tax laws etc must be obeyed.
Anyone that goes fowl will be dealt with ruthlessly.

We like weak leaders that will just allow us do anything we want. Not at all.
Weak leaders are impotent.
Look at President Jonathan, he was weak as a leader and people took him for a ride.
Compare him to Obasanjo.

funshint:
You can be tough as a leader but being mean is another level. Sometimes some of you don't know what you're saying.

I mean what I am saying. Africans need very mean leaders. Majority of our people are lawless. They don't obey laws.
Go around the country and see it everywhere.

Up till today, the most feared government in this our democracy time is still Obasanjos government. If you mess up, you are ruthlessly dealt with. Be you a governor or whoever.

BleedingPen:
https://m.facebook.com/rvsgng/photos/a.2226699437424865/2901922216569247/?type=3&source=48

The only thing that Africans understand is force and meanness. If you are too nice as a leader they will disobey laws.
Tomorrow let me see who will come out to disobey government.

mvem:
United?... when it is only the igbos that have sabotaged themselves politically a number of times, history is there to attest what i said. See! if societal problems are not addressed let Nigeria divide into 100 you will still see that same problem you see in Nigeria and Africa as a whole. Many try to say that everyone is united but have you seen how an Ikwerre man hate the Igbo and vice versa or how a delta man will quickly tell you that he is deltan-igbo not igbo and many other similar reactions. Have you asked why this still persist and you think a nation that divides will quickly become Europe because of propaganda you are being feed . Use South Sudan as a case study. South Sudanese are even homogeneous, they fought a civil war to liberate themselves for years against the Arab North. When they were granted referendum and an agreement was reached on division, what happened ?...South Sudanese now are killing themselves like chicken, ask yourself why is this ?

You spoke the truth. Africa is so much divided across ethnic and religious lines. It's so prevalent here. And honestly this will be a major draw back to development.
It's a very huge problem for the black man. And that's why oyibo people laugh at us. They know us very well like the back of there hands and they know we are not going anywhere in terms of development.
How can you develop when primitive and backward behaviours are prevalent.

The major reason Africans have not killed themselves finish is because oyibo use force and colonialism to enforce government over our people. To maintain order. And that's why they gave power to the North when they were leaving because Northern Nigeria is the most organized when it comes to power in Nigeria despite the fact they are the least educated.

As for down south, tribal hatred is worse and serious killing and fight will ensue if any part of South is given independence. That's why the Western world won't even succumb to Biafran agitation for independence. South Sudan has already taught them a lesson.
We abuse oyibos but they know us well like the back of there hands.

DexterousOne:
Let me ask you


How do you think Forbes come about the value of a business?

Let's starr from there
Maybe you got things a lil mixed up

And what "risks" are you talking about?

Example look at the present case of Kanye West. He said he was worth $3.6 billion. Forbes said no that he was actually a billionaire now but worth $1.3 billion.
And they valued him from the revenue of his sneakers sales deal with addidas.
They value people based on there revenues, stocks etc. They don't value those there companies are not listed.
When did they started valuing Dangote and other Nigerian business men was it not around 2003 or 2004 or there about. Before the richest black person used to be Oprah Winfrey. All those times where Nigerian business men not rich?

So it's now because Forbes have valued them then they are now billionaires.
There are still Nigerian businesses that there business turnover are worth several billions of dollars. But because they are not listed on stock exchange then they are not billionaires.


As for risks: absolute control of there companies there powers can be withled down, regulations from Securities and Exchange commission, corporate governance issues etc.

DexterousOne:
Never said you were a novice
You are the one calling yourself that

A business is a business
Listed or not.
And the value of a business CRASHES when there is economic upheaval
Whether listed or unlisted

That's just the fact
That so called importer is even more at risk because he does not have a reliable metric to measure the real value of his business as at every given point in time

When a recession hits
They are usually the first to feel the heat
If we want to be truthful to ourselves




Apart from regulatory bottlenecks
Dont see any reason why one cannot go public

Reliable metric to measure real value of his business. Then it's Forbes that's the reliable metric.

There are laid down standard procedure to measure a business. Even basic businesses which is well audited financial statement, profit and loss reports, balance sheet.
These are what investors and lenders look at.

Like I said, many businesses are not interested in going public because it exposes them to risks. They don't want interference from regulators.
They prefer to keep there business to themselves.

Recession affects every business.

DexterousOne:
The Forbes estimates are closest to accurate


If you have an opaque business (like spare parts importation or whatever) that is not linked to the capital markets as you say....

Once there is an economic upheaval
The value of your company will sink drastically

It's the same thing
Value of properties go up and down
Value of businesses go up and down
Value of stock go up and down
Even value of products go up and down

That's just the way e be

Do you think you are talking to a novice.
What's the main reason companies go to capital markets.
To raise funds for financing. You sell your shares, investors buy, you have money for your companies while your investors have a part ownership of your company.

You also raise money through issuing of bonds but your lenders have no part of your company.

Banks also give funds to big companies for there working capital.

The reason some owners of companies Dont like going public is that there companies can be taken away from them.
Example Steve Jobs was sacked by Apple shareholders in the early 1990s it was when they couldn't handle the wahala they called him back and gave him back his company. And he came back and introduced all the products that made Apple a global giant today : mac, iPod, iTunes, iPhone, iPad etc


Importers may be exposed to exchange rate risk due to its volatility, but it' may not necessarily affect them when the worth of there goods appreciated against the rate they bought the goods.

Capital markets are more exposed to the risks of currency devaluation, recession etc

ImaIma1:
For me, I projected into the future based on the character of the three men. It wasn't enough for me to be married to a rich guy that was not disciplined in his life and now be frustrated later. Or to be miserable in the US with a man I wasn't sure I knew well.

And I have been enjoying peace and happiness for the past years. Thank God

You were wise and you knew the most important thing you wanted in life.
And you made the right choice.
Enjoy your life jare

Jayoficial:
When they were making the money where were you? They owe nobody 1 cent.
Wait oh, you that's talking, what have you done for your people?

Most of these guys ripped off Nigerian economy. How many of them were rich before 1999 that Nigeria returned to democracy. They just hung around the corridors of power and milked the entire nation conniving with the elites.

Nigeria has been talking of diversification, how many of them have innovated there business to become global players of even African players. At least we can feel the impact of South African companies like mtn, multichoice, shop rite etc around African countries, including Nigeria.
How many of them have companies impacting Africa, talk less of the world?

lalasticlala:
Source: https://nairametrics.com/2020/05/04/nigerian-billionaires-lose-billions-amid-covid-19-pandemic/

That's why I don't take all these Forbes estimate serious. Most of these billionaires can get totally wiped out once the economy, capital markets, or currency value goes down south.

That's why some rich guys don't want there business to be exposed to capital markets. They just want to be anonymous.

I remember one $ billionaire from Brazil Ortega. In 2012 analyst were speculating him to be one of the richest men in the world in few years. Because his company discovered oil off the coast of Brazil.
But later the Wells were not viable and the guy crashed, even went bankrupt.
These there billions can be wiped out.
And the present global economic outlook is not looking good at all. Depression which is worse may hit the world and not even recession.

ImaIma1:
But a lady should have rich and poor guys at her disposal and settle for the poor one abi?

Rich guys are constantly marrying poor girls and rich girls marry poor guys. It's not only money people have to offer.

When I was also planning to marry, I had a guy that had his own company, plus an interstate transport business: quite rich and I had a civil servant working with the fed govt and another doctor based in the US. And I wasn't from a rich home. I chose the civil servant.

So stop thinking it's totally up to the man. What makes him decide to or not? Is it not the value you add to him? Or is it all about money for you?

Very good. I like this reply. Guys think women don't reject rich made guys. Everyone goes for what will work for them.

There was one where the first born of a billionaire was rejected by a girl from there town. And she picked an upcoming young dude. The guy rejected was mad that with all there money.

The truth is that quality, responsible women, young from poor homes still make there choices from various suitors. I have seen it countless times.

iamloyalty:
May ur days be long.
Op just please learn to save for the raining day.

Amen ooooo I receive it in Jesus name!!!

anslem04:
Thanks God you know the basics, before you conclude men are selfish how about we analyse r/ships women had upperhand (i.e the men more in love) is the same "maltreat" women dish out to them .. please go research babalola & his wife.
The best form of marriage remains wife & hubby 60-40 respectively cos men manage power well than women, whoever is less in love as more power in that r/ship. such power is like an alcohol men handle it better.
I don't see how settling for a rich man, enforces a perfect marriage or home ... both poor& rich men are fallible, women only came up with "it is beta to cry in a mansion than cry in a face me i slap you" to console there being either ways both victims are not happy. we can't get it right as long as people keep using calculation & permutation to marry, more divorces will spring up just a matter of time. the way forward is for both genders to accept there roles & tolerate one another.

Actually there are more divorce than ever before because people are becoming more insensitive to relationships.
Which sometimes have been as a result of past suffered wrong.


True those married to a rich or made man is not a guarantee of happiness.
Same way some ladies are married to a poor man and are still unhappy in the relationship. So they prefer the made guys.


The truth is that for a union to be successful it involves a serious work from both the man and the woman.
Once one part renegades from its own share of contribution, the union will fall. They may not divorce, but it won't be a good experience.
There are couples having a terrific enjoyment in there marriages, but it's work.

A good marriage is the closest way to experience heaven on earth.
Because the only tangible thing that we humans leave on earth anyday we die is good memories in the lives of our loved ones and good legacies. Nothing else, even if you have all the money, treasures in this life. The day man dies, not even one cent is following him to the grave.

anslem04:
With much respect to your experiences, do you know love is neva 50-50, in life 4get the word "balance" the best anyone can get is 60-40.
From collective experience r/ship tends to work or survive beta when a woman loves more. ... i believe u agree no need 4 me writing epistles.

Women have higher tendency of being in love or falling in love more than men.
In fact they easier fall in love that's why the Bible was silent on them loving there husbands.

But men have higher tendency of not giving in to love emotions so that's why bible commanded to love.

A relationship works better when a woman loves more but neglecting that love can lead to catastrophe. Many men prefer that situation but they use it to maltreat and neglect there woman. Which leads to scenario like this topic.

We men look at these things from our own selfish position.
You marry a woman that loves you more but at the other hand still maltreat and mess up her life because she loves you more. And this is exactly the case with many Nigerian homes. Many women are in regret.

That's why many of these modern ones go for ready made men. Especially the younger ones in there 20s. They trade off there young freshness for a ready made man. At least she knows what she is getting.

anslem04:
Surprisingly men with these unique attributes are the ones who suffer the worst blows from women , naa such men dey father bastards, women live such men to Bleep with guys below benchmark tell me its a coincidences
... you can research if its not a big deal, the founder of cac ayo babalola life and how is wife treated him. naija male & female deserves one another.

life is not maths where yu say 2 + 2 must =4 , life is a mystery that is my point.

Not really true. You should love but one should not be mumu.
The man should be firm as a man. But still love his woman.
I mean being balanced. A man should show great love, care and attention to his woman. But on another hand he should be firm and call his woman to order when she messes up or goes overboard.

Women greatly respect those kind of men.
And I am talking from experience.
And I never meant being a doormat or weakling.

Apostle Babalola married an agent of darkness. I know his story.
He didn't make a good choice so it haunted him. Even made him to die young.
That's why wisdom and being sensitive is very important when making a choice of spouse.

You must with due diligence wisdom and prayers look very well before marrying anybody. Because it can even cost someone there life in a wrong one

veave:
I'm happy for both of you. Enjoy your fantasy world with your fantasy wife and her equally fantasy boyfriend. I bet you live next to Bill Gates and Elon Musk in lala land.

nothing person no go see.
I had a really good laugh.