₦airaland Forum

omoharry:
Nice write up. It a food for thought really for the Igbos. Truly the Germans accept defeat and their mistake and moved on. They even went as far as reaching out to other aggrieved nations by apologizing and making reparation when necessary.Now they are one of the greatest country in Europe.

You can't compare the Germans to the igbos.
It's someone ignorant of history that will talk such.
The Germans with the Japanese were the aggressors during the second World War.

The Germans exterminated six million Jews and millions of Europeans.
The Japanese dealt with many countries in the Asia Pacific region from China, to Singapore, Malaysia, even far away Australia during the second World War.

Those two countries were the aggressors.
We the igbos were never the agressor.
Rather we bare the brunt of the civil war, losing over 2 million of our people.


Secondly the world accepted and assimilated with both Germany and Japan after the second World War.
Read about the marshal plan fund that the US used to revive the economy of Europe after the war, including Germany.

But the igbo man has been marginalized since after the war.
The gains made by igbos so far has been Because of there God given resilience and grit.
If not those God given ability to the igbo man. He would have been in shambles.
Except that God has been with the igbo man.

That's what the younger generation have seen and become restless.
If God has not been with the igbo man, he would have been a lost cause.

The igbo nation of a highly complex developed society will still come to be.

Mires:
You are somewhat correct. I don't understand when students as well as graduates testify that they were given fake admission. I some times see it as desperation on the part of the student(s) that landed such people into the mess. For instance, I was denied admission three consecutive times after scoring above 200 and successive score in them. However that didn't make me desperate. When I finally had a score that was convincing that no federal University in Nigeria can deny me admission, I was not only happy, I was confident while in the lions den (UNN) whenever we hear certificate verification is to be taken place that I am free. Mind you, I was offered admission in three federal University (same course) but I chose UNN.

During registration and certificates verification at Ekpo Ref, I wasn't scared. Final year certificate verification, I only paid the required money we were asked and I went to sleep.

In summary, we should be sure that we are not doing what we are not supposed to do. It backfires more especially in UNN. Shalom

But the morale about this inspiring story is that she didn't throw in the towel.
Many would have given up, but she didn't.
It's not surprising that she later became SUG president of uniben.
That's someone with a great unconquerable spirit!!!
And her story is very inspiring

This lady will go places!!
Failure made her stronger!!
Most of the greatest achievers of our time came from insurmountable difficulties.
But it gave them resolve, to achieve greater things

People that just go through life without great difficulties rarely live mark on the sand of times.
They rarely make great mark on the earth.

Firstnebo:
Felicia don't mind all the negative comments here, your post is very accurate

So many negative comments.
Funny thing Nigerians will be claiming saints but look around the country and tell me whether it's positive or negative people that resides in it.
Still they will claim the best.
Nonsense

They will claim faultless but are very corrupt, raising children withour character.

Strictly raising children won't stop the one that will corrupt from being corrupt.
My dad was very strict while growing up
It affected my relationship with him for a long time
I wasn't close to him
And it really bothered him
He even complained to my mum
Although with time our relationship has gotten better
We relate very well now

But the strictness of many African parents
Alienated there children from them
It even destroys a child's creativity
Compare the level of creativity and innovation of oyibos to Africans
Many parents use beating and rough handling to drive away the creative quotient of there children thereby raising children that can think and reason critically out of the box thinking

And this is one reason Nigeria and many African countries are backward and under developed. Because quality of humans raised don't have creative and innovative mindset. They can pass class academic work, with excellence but put them where to use there intelligence and they will be found wanting.

That's why you see the types of Bill Gates, Zuckerberg, Steve Jobs were academic drop outs but still did excellently with there creative genius.
But where can you find such people in Africa?

ednut1:
Case of artists who felt they could make it on their own.but failed and are now bitter

Exactly both Cynthia Morgan and May D were crap artists. What were they really singing.

Even among the P Square, Peter was the weakest link. Talentless.
Paul was the creative powerhouse behind the group, Jude also added his own contribution. That's why Paul went with Jude and there combination has not been bad at all.

Martinez39s:
I was born at night but it wasn't last night. Take your lies and garbage to individuals that are naive about the system over there.

My friend stop spreading ignorance around.
Have you signed agreement or contract with westerners before.
Oyibo has great respect for the rule of law.
It's not like Nigeria you do anyhow.

Many illiterate folks will be spreading ignorance on this forum.
When you call them out, they will result to insult.

OldSoul1:
Get your facts right bud! No one signs prenup under duress! The process is clearly Explained to you before you sign on the dotted lines. You either sign or not. You sign if you have no hidden agenda or decline if you have one; or in some cases feel spited.

Sir Paul McCartney of the Beatles band was warned when he married after his wife of over 30years died of cancer. To sign prenuptial agreement.
He said no that he was in love.
Didn't last long with the so called woman, I think not up to 4 years.
And she filled divorce and took almost 200 million pounds settlement from him.
He said he was warned before time.

OldSoul1:
Get your facts right bud! No one signs prenup under duress! The process is clearly Explained to you before you sign on the dotted lines. You either sign or not. You sign if you have no hidden agenda or decline if you have one; or in some cases feel spited.

Good addressing it. People will just be spreading ignorance on this forum.

OldSoul1:
Prenups no be moimoi guys! First it’s for wealthy people to safeguard their wealth, plus it usually involves lawyers and fees are quite expensive!

Here is someone that understands the whole stuff.

Martinez39s:
The divorce court system isn't bothered by that. As long as the woman claims she was made to sign the prenup under duress, the court will toss the prenup aside.

Again this is a very false narrative.
Contracts is a serious binding thing in the west. There is rule of law and respect for agreement over there.
All the men I know that signed prenuptial agreement won there cases.

Martinez39s:
Prenups are nothing but glorified toilet papers over there. A judge could toss them aside for whatever reason. If the wife claims she was made to sign the prenup under duress, she would be automatically believed even if there is no evidence to back up her claim, and the prenup would be annulled.

prenup is no glorified newspaper.
Just get a very good lawyer when signing it.
It saved Donald Trump from his second marriage, she got none of his wealth
Also saved Tiger Woods who with a net worth of over a billion dollars payed his wife only $100 million, which he gave her out of being kind.
If not for his prenup, she would have taken half of his wealth.
Most wealthy guys in the states sign serious water tight prenuptial agreement to protect there money.

Kaien:
This my next door neighbor, her husband is always beating her even in front of their kids. It has become a norm for her to receive beating two to three times weekly, he beats her and sometimes locks her outside with her two kids.

Most of the beating always happens when she asks him money for food, this her husband is rich always driving around with small girls in his car. When I ask her to leave, she would say no that she doesn't want her marriage to break up. I wonder what she is protecting. The type of abuses I am seeing, domestic violence is a norm, cheating is a norm.

Nigeria marriages are scary.
I am moving to a new apartment, just if my neighbor's husband ends up killing her, I don't want to be interrogated for murder.

Stop posting all this scaremongering news to put fear into people.
There are still Nigerian marriages doing extremely well.

All a marriage requires to be enjoyed is kindness and friendship from the couples involved.

Selfishness and self centeredness from partners breeds bad marriages. That's why couples should check there attitudes.
And when you are marrying, always look for a kind considerate partner also ensure you are same and you wont have any problems.


So stop with all this your scaremongering news to put fear in people. Marriage is still fun.

RTSC:
$1 =1230 South Korean won.

This is the same South Korea that has Hyundai, LG and Samsung and export heavily.

$1=500 naira.

Both nobody will say Nigeria is half as developed as South Korea.

The CBN should focus on the fundamental.

Electricity, infrastructure.

Once that happens, manufacturing investments will pour in and it is the FG that will even look to artificially weaken the naira themselves, just to favour more exports.

You dey mind them.

Sometimes I ask whether this people running our economy, the value of there education.
What you highlighted is the solution.

But I don't even think this people really want Nigeria to industrialise.

An industrialised Nigeria will not suffer fools gladly. There will be more enlightenment and better standard of living and more Nigerias will know there right. And it will be hard for touts, fat cats ripping off the system to climb political power. So they don't want an industrialised Nigeria. It will be enemical to there interests.

They want the darkness, poverty to continue in perpetuation.

DanseMacabre:
Hmmm. To be very blunt, killing a cheating husband sounds a hundred times easier than practicing all these.


You seem to be forgetting that crimes of passion are committed in the heat of the moment.

In reality how many cases of women killing there husbands do we even have?
Very minute. It's rare
More women are even killed comparative to men.

To kill a human being no easy. Leave all these ones claiming.
People that do such don't even say it out.

12345baba:
If she says go out and make money , just go and book a hotel room and rest with ur smallie girlfriend. In the evening go home and form tiredness. With that peace will reign and u will live longer

An associates wife was complaining to me 2 days ago that the husband rarely stays at home. Always out for his business.
That the correct soup she cooked, the guy never tasted it.
I was saying in my mind, maybe if the guy was a house husband always around not hustling. She will take him for granted. The only thing the guy knows is hustling

I think women take men that hang around them all the time for granted.
That's why you hear such stories.

A man should face his hustling more. The more you are out there hustling, the less she will take the man for granted.
But once you hang around them all the time, you get ridiculed and insult will come.

Genset:
She is stating the fact and the truth and u know it. Better go and work hard. 90% of problems on this section is caused by lack of finance and the woman having to overwork herself and ends up complaining bitterly. In Africa, finances has never being the women role no matter how much they earn. They always complain bitterly when they have to do it because she is overburdening herself with two different roles which is providing and still having to take care of the home whilst the man sits and does nothing.

In as much as we will stress it or discuss it on this forum. In many families in Nigeria presently, women are still the bread winners. Some men will work, make money and not give a dime to there wife.
It's very much obtainable, especially in the poor homes.
It's even the educated men that you will see, that works to take care of there families.

Deliberating here doesn't change much thing. To each his own. The person that knows the right thing to do, should just do it. Simple.

sulaak:
Oil Dependency or oil rental: = leads to state capture where arrangement between elites align themselves with multi-national to exploit and abuse the state resources.

Oil dependency opens the doors for corrupt opportunist that are prepared to invest in corruption to occupied high office to access the sharing of oil wealth at the expense of good governance.

Remove oil dependency and you have productive and creative leadership that have more to offer their respective regions and states.

The key word here productive and creative leadership is the only thing that will transform Nigeria.
Not rise in oil price

Macphenson:
Britain always creating disaster all round the world for the wicked and selfish reasons.

Imagine enslaving a country without their consent and permission.

Which enslavement
Hong Kong has better per capita income than China just like Taiwan. And better recognized international passport than China.

mannobi:
I hope after completion we will be able to buy rice again at #10000 per bag

Prices will go down with time by the time the market gets saturated, more producers will come in, who will crash the price to take there market share.
but it is still long way.

HeadShot:
That's to show you the audio achievements of these politicians

It's not audio. Nigerians are eating more of local rice now than foreign rice.
In fact there are more demand for local rice than foreign because the foreign is more expensive than local so Nigerians are going for cheaper one.

Then among the local rice there are grades and quality levels. The low quality ones are still cheap.

Farmers are cashing in big time

LuciferInSiege:
Yearly


Political statement

Reminds me of Ogun fake rice pyramids

Rice pyramids with 95% bags of sand

It's not even about the rice mill it's about but about land for cultivation. Lagos doesn't have lands for agriculture.

I am also setting up a rice mill of but I have access to huge cultivated rice farms. Agriculture is the thing now

Kennydoc:
Ótúọ́chá — Headquarters of Anambra East LGA
Ọ́tụ̀ọ́chá — the nonsense you mentioned.

You can see they are clearly not the same thing both in spelling (Igbo alphabet spelling) and pronunciation.

You did igbo language well in your school.
You gave the exact vowel sound for pronouncing it.

gees101:
an u think u have sense ？nawa oh

You dey mind am. He thinks he has sense.

martineverest:
u nailer it.... ironically,same Christians will call northern Muslims ignorants.. Nigerian Christians are worse.

of the pandemic ravage Nigeria the way it's doing to other countries,these pastors will be the first to hide their families from their worshippers

Nothing will ravage Nigeria. How many weeks have we gone in this whole epidemic issues.

There are more things killing Nigerians than so called epidemic.

Chief Dokpesi the ait man was diagnosed and isolated in Center and later discharged and he said he still has serious doubts about the issue. That he was treated for malaria simple.

People are just panicking for nothing.
Fearing over nothing.
Even physicians are talking of people dieing as a result of fear.

Fear is the major thing being sold to Nigerians. One should just do the needful and live his normal life and stop believing the fear being peddled around.

AstuteJay:
You may be right but the learning point remains same.

8 out of 10 women would react same way if not worse. A friend's wife packed out when he had same issue, thank God he is equally geting out of the hole now.

Resilience, patience, perseverance are virtues that differ from person to person.

Like I said men that don't have shock absorbers may not survive such treatment. That's why it's very dangerous. And there is absolutely no justification for it. Someone that you have been taking good care of, and then turns on you when things get bad is not just an eyesore before men, it's same before God.
That's why wedding vows is a very strong swearing : for better for worse.

It has ruined men without heart, just like a bad behaved evil husband has ruined good women too.

AstuteJay:
I have refrained from responding to your thoughts on this issue but with your latest submission, I can't hold myself any longer. You have thought me what will last a lifetime.

I have been through peaks and valleys in life and have experienced close to what the OP cited but never understood why until now. You carefully dissected women's and nature's expectations of men and the consequences of possible shortfall.

I have had my own share of these consequences when my business went South. Though I struggled to meet some basic obligation like shelter, clothing, feeding and schooling (at a substandard level), I was still lashed at.

It got to a point that she questioned my "manliness"; "se okunrin ni wo yi sha? ti won ba n wa okunrin iwo na a nawo soke, hmmm" meaning "are you really a man, if they are making roll call of men, would you raise your hands"? I heard that particular statement two different times and vowed never to forgive her.

A woman that have been to different countries that I have never been to on my bill, a woman that I have bought three vehicles, the last being a brand new SUV. I could not meet those luxury any longer and all hell was let loose.

@ybaby changed my mind with her submission and made me see reason why she acted that way. Between Thursday and today I have had to give her something daily against my earlier vow.

Gentlemen, take it as it is and do all you can to discharge your responsibility to your wife and family. Do not be an infidel!

In real sense actually the woman married you for all those things you could provide.
She wasn't for your person.
There are other men in there hard times, there women remained faithful, true and supportive.
And some men can die of heart related issues, who doesn't have strong mind.

Such thing happened to a cousin of mine, his own lasted close to five years.
We were discussing about it earlier this year, he told me if he had married another woman from his wife, he would have been dead by now. Actually he met two ladies before his wife, but God saved him that he didn't marry them. They would have left him.

But his wife stayed and totally supported him, those five years was terrible for him.
Today he is worth 100s of millions, owns a manufacturing plant that employs over 80 people. Bought a brand new top of the range SUV last year for his wife. Who he sees as his best friend.

A man can have serious down time. I have seen billionaires go bust. Even Donald Trump one time went bankrupt, but he later bounced back to later become the US President. Life happens.

ejanla077:
They never make it to any national competition...


Schools dat pay 15000 in Anambra keep representing Nigeria in world competitions.. Nonsense

Those expensive schools are where you get some of the dumbest and unintelligent kids. Bring them to any competition and they will flop woefully.

PrimadonnaO:
It is better to err on the side of caution... once divorced, do not remarry.

You can tell that to Westerners that introduced this Christianity to us. Where majority have had 2 to 3 marriages. Including there clerics and Pastors.

No one is praying for divorce. But if unavoidably it happens like ops case.
One can comfortably remarry. Even Baba God understands.

Many evil people have used this no divorce issues to mess up the life of those they are married to because they can't divorce. Thereby tormenting the life of there fellow spouse.

TonyeBarcanista:
Market women are people with dignity irrespective of the wares they sell!

OP is the typical Nigerian hungry slayqueen littering social media. From her narrative, you will know that she is one woman that doesn't know the value of money because she probably doesn't legitimately earn. Such people always claim what they are not and hold the ideology that a man's worth is tied to what he has. If he is rich, he deserves respect but if otherwise, he deserves the most undignified treatment.

Meanwhile, they themselves have nothing

You hit it spot on. Thanks

TonyeBarcanista:
My brothers, na you get time reply that woman

Bro I just had to reply her.
That woman absolutely has no class from all the crap she has been giving out.
She might even be a market half baked local woman.

Tufia

Ybaby:
Any one that reads this will think I am trying to initiate you into some cult....

They will not believe me when I say all I am saying is that you pay for your kids shelter, food, clothing and school fees

You are now crying all over the thread like baby kingsway

a ma se nkan o

O ya clean your eyes ..... pele.... ma binu .... o ya gba choco milo.... mabinu sho gbo

I will buy you colouring book when I go out. Ok ?

Ah!

Woman you are a gutter and very local woman. Go and find your mate.

Inukwam akuko with this mgbeke that can't read or comprehend.
I wonder whether this one finished secondary school self.

Ybaby:
His wife never fed him. When things were bad he took a scale to the market to be checking people weight to make ends meet.

His wife did not give him money.

The bible that said a man should provide for his family must be dark too

daft man

His wife was way above him in class. She was from an influential family in Nnewi, I know her family very well.
They never belonged to same class.
Cos was serious nwa ogbenye. Poor of the poor. Wretched.

So her people never wanted him. In fact he was chased away when he went to ask for her hand in marriage.
The woman accepted him despite all this. That's why they are very close.
He doesn't play with her.

They started from nothing.
Your ideology is a very dark and evil one.
I wonder the igbo man that will marry such a woman like you.
Our women don't behave like this.
We train them properly. Maybe na audio igbo man that is marrying you, in your dreams.
.
I don't even look at a woman's money
A woman can't even feed me
When my dad in his seventies can still doll out better cash to his children talk less of taking excellent care of his wife. Na me no go spoil my woman?
Even my sisters are married to men taking excellent care of them, but they have there own money too and sometimes support there family.

They were going on summer vacation with children. My sister told her husband to fashy that she will buy there flight ticket for every member of the family.
Her oga was shocked and surprised.

Woman I have been reading your comments and you are dark, evil, a gold digger extraordinary.
In fact all you claimed here are audio to me. And you got no class by the kind of reply you have been giving here.

Ybaby:
That your last line is a foolish threat.

They donot have to settle for low par men so they can be married - the ones that did are opening thread or maltreating the men

They can go online and meet men from other climes - the world is a global village but I will never subscribe to abhoring infidel

About Cosmas Maduka ..... I love that Nnewi small god.... what a man!! no formal education - no father to cater for him - he could not read or write but with faith he changed his story and today you can mention his son.

Do not deny faith and end up as an infidel or if you already have kids you are not providing let me know o so I can call you an infidel

Strange woman Coscharis had a very supporting wife. He was born poor, when he wanted to marry his wife, he was poor. His wife was from a very influential family in Nnewi.
Her family never wanted her to marry him. They said he was a poor man. But she held on to her man.

That's why cosmas doesn't joke with his wife. His company name is a a combination of there two names.


Don't ever mention there name again because there ideology is light compared to your darkness ideology.
Using upright people to compare with your evil ways. Stop talking about what you don't know