₦airaland Forum

This is excessive punishment. 10yrs is enough

I'm not foolish to cohabit with a woman in the first place but if i was in such a situation,
I'd never marry the dead or pay any bride price.

Nothing can be done to the guy, the family of the girl knew she was sick and they were giving her traditional concoction instead of taking her to the hospital

frozen70:
Talk is cheap

Pray to God to put you into such situations then you can practically do all you are saying

Not hiding behind a key board

The woman is in the mortuary so whoever comes for her body would pay the mortuary bill.

He should just continue his life and take care of his son.

Again, the son is with him but he said if they want the boy he can let them have him. A son would look for his father with time

frozen70:
He never mentioned that the child is with him as at the time he brought this report

Whatever rocks his boat, that woman must be buried

And whatever he was asked to do, he must fulfil it

The child is with him already, if the name on the child certificate is his or he is listed as the father then nothing can be done to him legally

frozen70:
Advice him not to not do the marriage rights and also advice him to go to her family with thugs to collect his child

You can volunteer to help him

This case is different, dying during childbirth could be attributed to dying because the guy got her pregnant. But in the op's case, she died after being sick. Infact, the family should pay some of the bills the Op is paying

Dorwadora:
Such happened to my uncle around 25 years ago... They met at Benin, she's from Delta, died during childbirth. It was hell for the whole family. I was young then.

My grandfather ( May God rest his soul) had to borrow money from Yoruba association at Benin and my biggest uncle hadto sell his car to finance the whole thing. The debt was so hard for the family.

They did normal wedding ceremony, bought clothes for the father and mother, all rites were completed. Then the family carried the cropse to Delta and asked my Uncle to come and bury his wife. Lol... My uncle was in his early 20s then. It was traumatizing for him.

The family had to hire 2 soldiers because there was rumor that they could harm him. They went and buried her and the child that died with her. Said he must sleep with her, that's when our family declined and hell broke loose.

They sha concluded and came back to Benin in one piece. The experience left a scar in my uncle's heart. Didn't marry on time. He's older than my mom and his first child is just 4.

Kidnapping what? Does she not have friends, pictures and public to testify that she was never kidnapped?

Stop being afraid of shadows, accusing someone of kidnap when it can be proven the person was going to her work normally, going to church etc is preposterous

HUSTLER001:
He must pay. You don't know the risk involved in co-habiting with a girl. You can be charged for even kidnapping and you won't go scot free. I don't know why some men like to gamble.

Once someone dies, that person stays dead.All the people Bubu killed at Lekki, how come he's not disturbed by spirit, too much naija films dey worry you.

The child is his and nothing can be done about it. If the girl's spirit wants to disturb(hypothetically), it would be her family that gave her traditional portion that did not wirk.

frozen70:
You better handle this issue properly and right with them before it starts affecting you

What her family mean to say is that, since you did not do the proper thing while she was alive and you have been living with her and now that she is dead, it has to be done before her burial can be done and before you can be recognized and attend her burial

There is Jo big deal there after all, your sleeping with her hit her pregnant and she gave birth to a child for you

The issue of taking your child is not an issue, even if you go to court, court will still advise you to go and fulfill her marriage rights then come back to court to claim the child, probably through DNA test

Do you have the time and money for all that, if yes then use it and go and settle with her family

Being stubborn over it, will delay her burial and the mortuary cost will still be on you, including the burial cost

But if you feel you can't subject yourself to do what they demand for which is not out of place, you will be hunted by her spirit

If that one will be easy for you to handle the good luck

But don't cine back here to complain about spirit disturbing your life and future, you already know the spirit

Why should he send them money, for what? Was he not taking care of the girl? She came to him on her own volition, she got pregnant on her own volition, he didnt kill her so why should he pay?

HUSTLER001:
You seem to be an arrogant person with the way you are responding to people. You impregnated someone's daughter out of wedlock and for years you kept her under your custody without doing the formal rite.You better pay the bride price. If you have sense,tell them to send account number for you to pay. Don't go to the her village now that the tension is still high. Also,I'd advice you to act mature when dealing with such a sensitive issue. Heed to the council of the elders here. There's one thing I assure you,there are quite a whole lot of intelligent dudes on this platform. Sorry for your loss!

People die everyday, stop scaring people with fake causes. Why will he marry a dead woman? The son is his son and a dna test would confirm. A child is legally binded to any existing parent

dobnina:
OP, pls try and raise some money and pay her bride price. This life is very deep. A lot of thins are happening that we can't even explain. Don't jeopardize your future.
This lady bore you a son. Pls respect her and pay the bride price.
Something like this has happened before and the guy died mysteriously.
This life is very deep.

Story for the gods!

Always my friend, somebody i know bla bla bla. They absolutely cant do nada

tommy589:
Don't you fear oracle? You remind me of what happened to my late friend when they went for the girl's burial. My friend's brother guaranteed her family they would come back for the marriage rites,the girl's family accepted with warning that the guarantor must not attend any burial until the needful is done. But he failed to heed, he became the first to die mysteriously followed by others in the family. My late friend was the last to die in agony after facing different health challenges that defies treatment for years.

I used not to believe in God or voodoo,up till date I am not religious,but I have encountered things that shakes my belief. Marriage can be done in your absence when their is money. I pray you become blessed soon to do their requirements

The child's birth certificate, whose name is it bearing? If yours then you have nothing to worry about.

Why didnt you send her to her family when she was seriously sick?

StilmaVsBorn2w:
joseph,how can you claim I killed her when she's been back to the village twice this period when she was sick with several tradition medicine you all gave her still it had no effect. I had to borrow money to take to several hospitals for test and different expensive drug's, while you all were just sitting there with no monetary assistance.
I said am tired.
I can't marry your sister dead body, am expecting the worst from you

You're too dull

Kingpele:
Hahaha..the point is that if goodluck and his gang of thieves didn't swallow much of the oil dollars when oil boom was recorded buharia and his own gang wouldn't borrow much because they will have enough to work with and loot from

How Nigerians turned Hausas to Fulanis is shocking. Most of those Northerners are not fulanis, but pretending to be for political reasons

SwissMass:
Northern Christian, so Fulani go dey sama Igbo

Where is called Lagos today is not where these groups settled. If you're going to your village, where do you go to? Ikeja or Lekki?

tollyboy5:
Who are now the natives?
Aworis, egun, Epe are also immigrant?

Every Yoruba claim to be from Lagos State. Go and trace your root, your home town is not from Lagos State, almost everybody there are immigrants

tollyboy5:
My home town is in Lagos

Are you in your village?

tollyboy5:
Lol make people remain 4 their village abeg

Many people in Lagos don't know their village sef .

The North does not always know what is good for them.

Obi is needed at a time like this!

Then you must be a kid! The president has the greatest influence in a country's direction

marcusaurelio:
Lol you don’t have to become a president to make an impact brother man

Just implement electronic transmission and collation, that's all I asked!

You dont know how to analyze politics. Go to romance or sports section.

tesppidd:
Nonsense..

That's how you continue to play politics with development.

In terms of infrastructure sef neither of them performed as well as Buhari.

It was during Gej that many died at that immigration job stampede when millions of graduates were looking for work...

Since Obj that 90 percent of Nigerians were living below the poverty line.

Even Buhari when he came in had to give states bail outs to pay workers salaries accumulated from Gej's government.

i could go on and on.

If both of then had made good efforts to try to diversify from oil resources we wouldn't be so impacted today.

And you dare say Obj and Gej weren't failures

We saw how sharia riots killed thousand in this country during obj and how boko haram started and festered during gej.

WAS IS NOT DURING OBJ THAT EEDRIS ABDULKAREEM SANG NIGERIA JAGA JAGA?

Buhari is a failure due to security and the economy alright, but we have never had a good president in this Nation.

This tortoise mentality dey worry many of us.

Obj and GEJ werent a failure. If you look at the developmental indices before and after their tenures.

tesppidd:
Bubu might be the biggest failure of all, perhaps 80 percent failure.

But Gej was 70 percent failure.

Obj was 65 percent failure.


But they endorsed people didn't they?


You guys need to stop acting like we ever had any President who wasn't a monumental failure.

Bubu, a big failure endorse someone? Nigerians are just a joke to consider Bubu for anything

tesppidd:
2023 will be the most interesting presidential race ever.

Bubu might end up not endorsing anyone...

And they will fight each other.

So if a monumental failure like Bubu endorse anybody, Nigerians would take the endorsement serious?

duro4chang:
He dare not! He should just remain neutral.

There are competent people in every zone. SW using greedy logic to justify their greed

Mynd44:
In the run up to this 2023 election, there are 2 groups.

1. The aspirants who want zone, shouting tribe and how it is the turn of this one or that one

2. The aspirants who are just running their things and telling people what they will do based on what they have done before.

That first group, clowns and jokes. Same people who claim nigeria needs good competent rulers yet want to be president not based on competence.

As though if they zone the presidency to North Central Saraki will win the general elections. Yahaya Bello will have more votes than him sef

You know but pretending not to know. We do not use the 1960 or 1963 constitution so even if they carry seccession clause, its useless in the dustbin.

Perfectbeing:
I don't even know what you're trying to say here.

Saying Awolowo wanted seccession clause but Zik said no makes Awolowo weak. Besides, we dont even use the 1960 constitution so even if it carries seccession clause, how useful is it in the dustbin? The 1960 constitution recognizes parliamentary system and regions, are we doing those today?

Perfectbeing:
It wasn't just shortsightedness but greed. He wanted to rule over all the tribes in Nigeria that's why he challenged Awolowo, the man who saw tomorrow and wanted a seccession clause in the constitution..

The hate of Igbos did not start today, Nnamdi Azikiwe was just shortsighted to bring Igbos to Nigeria in this manner.

Bala Mohd is doing anti-party activity with this yeye talk

You haven't said anything. I'm telling you that if he is either APC or PDP presidential candidate, nobody can defeat him right now!

Slynation:
Not everybody are fools, he will lose woefully, if he even considers jumping party to APC, then I will know that "clueless" they have been calling him ever since was not an insult but a compliment...

How come every Yoruba claim to come from Lagos?

helinues:
Why is any news related to development in Lagos always give some of you guys sleepless nights?

If GEJ comes back, there's no politician in Nigeria that can defeat him. His biggest huddle is the primary afterwhich it would be smooth sailing!

You're trying to push the fact that you hate men down our throats. Nobody cares!

Candidlady:
Lol

If it is a boy child ithink your suggestion makes sense!!! They shouldn't just lease the kid they should sell it!!