Sonnobax15: Today, a friend of mine invited me to the traditional marriage ceremony of his brother in-law......
After travelling for over 2hours via my keke, so we finally got to our destination.
After exchanging pleasantries, kola nuts and other traditional rites were done,then it was left for the main dowry which was #2000. It was then the bigger problem came because the groom's family didn't come with cash. They insisted on doing transfer but the bride's family insisted on it, saying it must be paid with cash.
Omoh, the whole thing became funny . The bride's elder brother kept insisting on it until a POS attendant was invited into the situation.The dowry's money was later withdrawn and paid in cash.
Now, my question is, is it right to pay Bride price via transfer considering the new currency policy that's affecting everyone at this moment? Or the groom's family could have withdrawn the money and kept it until the D-day while it was crystal clear it could have expired due to the deadline of the naira swap?
Mods abeg make una shift this thread to the permanent site so that make other enlightened nairaladers for torchlight the matter small.
BadRadio: Honestly... This thing happened to me... I had sex with this girl and since then, I haven't had one night of good sound sleep... I have had series of multiple Nightmares in one Night.
Ómo... no be small thing...
before u sleep with a girl ask these questions, 1.u don mary? 2. U get spirit husband?
pacino26: I tried not to bring this to Nairaland or any social media platform until justice is served but matter is taking a new twist.
Sometime in August last year, my friend’s fiancée was beaten and raped by her boss. She walked in on him freaking the cleaner in his office and after the act with the cleaner he sent for her to come up and did what most cowards thinking with their third leg do; forcefully had his way with her. This was almost at the close of work so he went on to give her money 5k for medication plus the first threats. Young lady told my friend as she got home and got him arrested same evening by the Police in Enugu. There he admitted verbally and was apologizing until he was bailed and turned tiger to take back his words that he only beat her for coming to use his bathroom (which is open to all staffs and the only functioning one in the plaza as at time of the event). There was an agreement that if the girl brings an affidavit she will be given NGN600,000 at the police station. My guy kept demanding for justice and he is not bringing in any affidavit. I joined them at the station to ask questions which the IPO and DCO couldn’t provide to actually establish a case before talking about compensation.
Was the scene of crime visited after the complaint? No! Were other staffs interviewed to establish the usage of the restroom by the office? No! Did the IPO collect or tried to view recordings from the CCTV in the office and retrieve the hard disk for further analysis? No! The clothes and tights submitted have they been taken into evidence and sent for analysis? No! When she went to the police clinic for checks and tests what was the report from the doctor who met her, was there evidence of forceful penetration and other signs of rape aside the physical bruises on her? To this last question she was just seen by a doctor and even her samples collected that day were not analyzed neither did they carry out swab on her for DNA and semen. It was when I was asking these questions that they reminded me that she was asked to come the following day after obviously taking her bathe to come to see a doctor. In other words no medical report from the police on the day of incident.
There and then I knew it was going to be a difficult case to prove. As usual IPO was sponsored to go and visit scene of crime 4days after the incident and took gratification from the accused in front of the complainant with the boss threatening to deal with my friend when this is over.
The next scene was at the OC medical’s office. I must thanks the medical director for her blunt address to a rape victim. The summary of her comments is that female staffs take low paying jobs with the hopes of having affairs with their boss and receiving benefits more than what they earn. That from her POV the young lady is having an affair with her boss and this is a case of lover’s jealousy and makeup. That for the fact that the young lady is not a virgin, there is no way they can ascertain if she was raped or not. My friend was expressly told that he failed by allowing his fiancée to continually work in an environment where she could be sexually assaulted and is culpable for negligence and conspiracy! Omo I was shocked to my very genes. So those women working in banks, corporate offices and even some forces who are harassed by their bosses is a fault of the husbands? I lost hope there and this further emboldened the IPO to go and tell the man that there are no evidence to prove rape. My only question to the head of medical was; who was the doctor that examined her on the night she visited and what were his observations? There are no records, in fact as they didn’t pay for tests that day no card was issued and it was assumed they were not coming back. At this point all hope was lost.
My brother took his fiancée and made way to their house to wail in peace and seek redress in native courts. The man was summoned to a community close by his own. He evaded all summons and threatened fire and hell. We neglected and left it for the land to handle. He came up later to admit his crime which my friend have on phone records but is not willing to accept terms such as ; vowing not to ever rape someone again, paying for all expenses incurred in pursuing justice and compensating the young lady for emotional trauma and other pains caused. We left the venue of the talks few days ago and I was informed by my friend who took his dad for eye surgery that the police came to their house early morning looking for him and his father that they are thieves.
All through the talks my friend has maintained his stance for justice and have made it clear they will only accept compensation when the man openly admits to his crime and apologized. This is to avoid been tagged a criminal for blackmails and extortion same thing the police came to say this morning.
May this piece guide those who may be in similar situation to act as I implore those who have good suggestions to drop. We have contacted a lawyer and the outcome was disappointing.
Thanks
Update: She has been arrested at her new place of work.
una the waist time,if una dey sure,make una carry am ok juju.
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Eva2000: The governor of River State, Mr. Wike Nyesom, says that if he should open up about the secret that keeps the leader of the Indigenous People of Biafra, Nnamdi Kanu, in detention, the Nigerian government will have no choice but to release him immediately.
He further stated that Nnamdi Kanu is still in their custody because he has refused to dance to their tune and because Buhari has asked him to do something and he has refused to do it, so they are not releasing him. and I am really sure that if all this is exposed today, Nigeria will divide, he said.
According to him, if I talk now, they will say that Wike is talking too much, but if I reveal the secret that still keeps Nnamdi Kanu in detention, he will be released immediately, and I am really sure that this country will be divided after saying it. Nnamdi Kanu refused to dance to the tune of the federal government of Nigeria; that is why he is still in their co-study, he said.
mmadu4: I love her so much but she is draining me I send her Momo everyday, yet she is not content. I have caught her before with a man as old as her father, yet I had to apologise to her before we could get back together Currently, I have taken a huge loan from the bank for her which I am still repaying yet , she has password on her phone. I beg before I can even touch her.
I love her Soo much, what can I do for her to love me back?
Preciousgirl: I am highly convinced that my boss is interested in me I can't imagine that my boss left his office yesterday to my office and sat before me. He was jittery all through his convo with me and it wasn't work related. He told me he has a surprise gift for me
Is this also not a clear sign? Also, as a married woman, can I accept his gift?
supremsuccess: That's native way of curing a child that can't walk after 2-3years of birth.
It's a goat not snake.
The goat is cut open, the baby insert from morning till evening before bringing out the baby and they will be using some animals oil as cream for the baby.
Fmartin: I am dating a lady, and we are about to get married. She's already carrying my baby. I have taken her to my parents. I have never taken a lady to my parents before. I have seen her parents too, and have communicated my intention to marry their daughter.
The only thing holding me now is to get things in order before paying her dowry.
The main problem now is that we keep having issues, coz, she's always making calls with her exs. i have confronted her on Several occasions, we have had fights, physical fights as well.
She told me she dont have the guts to tell them to stop calling her. She can only keep playing them till they walk away. I told her i dont have that Luxury of patience. She has to choose between me and her exs.
Now, the issue is that she's pregnant and I have already taken her to my parents, they all like her.
I would have broken up if not because of the pregnancy. Coz, I wouldn't want to leave her with the pregnancy like that. To make matters worse, She have a kid out of wedlock. Though the father of the baby and her are not in good terms.
I hhave told her to stop making calls with her ex, but she seems sturbon. She's ready for me to Change her sim card but I want her to use her sanity and end things with her ex in a boldly manner rather than hiding under the guise of changing sim. I have registered a new sim, but It's still with me, I have not given her.
Am confused, I need you guys advices for way forward. No think insult, coz I gaht over dose. Peace.....
G00DHardDick: I saw this beautiful thread on frontpage about a guy's travel to Russia and his teaching experience, so I decided to share my experience with a Russian Lady.
I met this Russian lady in Dubai late 2019 and we became close friends, this lady speaks English but not perfectly well (you can easily tell from her Russian accent that she's still trying to learn English). But she was beautiful and awesome. I noticed that Russians loves blacks alot, esp if you're Africa. I used to think Russians are extremely racist far more than the USA, but I was shocked to find out all that was a lie. Russians are the most nicest people on earth, well mannered, cultured and highly respectful.
While it may be true that there might be low racisms in Russia, you won't even notice or experience it because these guys are all nice and friendly.
I also noticed the moment you tell a Russian you're from Africa, they become extremely excited and interested in knowing more about you and Africa, (you must be ready to answer questions, because they love asking questions). They Love learning and educating themselves, esp on things they don't know. I guess this is why they're so smart. However, I don't know about other Russians but this lady made me think so.
NOW BACK TO MY STORY WITH THIS RUSSIAN LADY
Please before I proceed, Russians love using Sophisticated phones and the latest devices. I also think this is why they're highly intelligent, smart and advanced too. You'll find out how I knew about this shortly. Just keep reading..
Now on that fateful day in the airport in Dubai, this Russian lady walked up to me and simply said "hello! (With a half smile on her face)
As in, I was shock and stunned at the same time. Na me this oyinbo person dey talk to? I mumble, one can tell it was obviously my first time meeting a white lady, let alone having one approached me. I also noticed if they found you attractive or like you they'll approach you. (As in, it is not like in our country where women will wish for ground to open and swallow them if they ever make a move on you.)
Hello" she said again because I didn't reply her first greetings, hello" I replied. From there this lady starting talking. I was confused, I noticed she talked very fast but I couldn't understand one single thing she said. (The Russian accent was still there). I then responded "I'm sorry, but I don't understand a thing you just said" she was shocked, she paused some seconds, looked at me and started her speech all over again. This time around she was slower than before.
While I listen attentively, I figured out she was actually telling me her name, introduced herself and asked for my name, my nationality and if I came to Dubai to buy goods or business purpose. Russians speaks Russian language! Except when they learn English then they can speak in English, although not all but i discovered that these Russians are eager and love to learn English language with great passion.So if you're Good in English and wishes to teach English, I'll advise you to find your way to Russia. Forget Media propagandas about war in Russian and racism. Don't believe everything you see on Media!
This lady learnt English because she was a business lady (she learnt it because of her constant travels to Dubai and other non Russian speaking countries) she goes to these countries to purchase goods and cargo them back to Russia. Now you you can tell why she needed to learn English, right? She deals With non Russians on her business trip so learning English for her was very necessary for easy communication.
She asked my purpose of visiting Dubai and I told her "for work purpose". She seem interested all the more and enquired to know the kind of work. We talked at length until she started asking about my family, relatives, siblings etc. What a sweet Angel she is!
She then offered me to come over to Russia and probably meet her Dad and Mom. Omo na so I shock o. Me wey just land for Dubai, I never even go the company wey I wan work for, a Russian is already inviting me over to her country. I didn't give it a second thought at all I accepted the offer at once (who know like better thing?).
I also noticed that this Russian lady has lots of connection in that airport. As in, she's a business lady and she do come there to purchase goods from time to time through cargo, so what do you expect? Sometimes they even send the goods to her directly to Russia while she's in another country purchasing goods. She has that kind of connections!
LET'S CONTINUE,
While I accepted her offer to come over to Russia, she started making preparations for my arrival. First while in Dubai I was to go back to Nigeria and prepare for my Russian trip. Guess what?
This Russian lady went and bought bags of clothes, I don't mean anyhow clothes, she went shopping there in Dubai and bought very expensive female clothes (about 5 bags), she requested I should give them to my mom, she also bought apple laptops and wrist watches, and then iphone 11 pro max (that was the latest iphone then in late 2019). And that was the phone and laptop she was using. Now you see why I said these Russians love using Sophisticated phones and devices? I never asked her to buy any of these!
I also noticed she has a younger brother whose name was Vladimir. As in, Vladimir! I thought it was Putin! You know na! Lol
I also noticed that majority of Russians loves president Putin alot (their president). I equally noticed her younger brother uses the same iphone 11 pro max, I knew this because whenever he video calls me on WhatsApp, it was usually through his laptop webcam and dude always play games on his iphone 11 (I saw it through the video call). The guy seems to love blacks even more than his sister, probably because he wants to learn English.
Now on their dad's part, the man has a restaurant and he's even more friendlier than I thought. They can't speak English. Only the lady can! The father was just similing all through the video call because he knew I won't understand whatever he says. Sometimes the lady interprets if her father wishes to say anything.
So I came back to Nigeria with the items she bought, and we do make video calls 24/7. She speaks with my mom and siblings too. But her English was and his difficult for them to understand. I find out that these Russians have a thing for black guys, although not all but some. Maybe it because of our English, I can't tell exactly!
In early 2020, coronavirus came and started our whole plans, and I was stucked in Nigeria. Even though my Visa and other documents were already getting prepared, I couldn't proceed further because of the travel restrictions all over the world as a result of the COVID 19. It was so terrible! But we still speak on video calls 24 7 even till now.
Permit me to say this, Russians are one of the most nicest people on earth. They're so sweet, welcoming and friendly. The only way they'll dislike you as a Nigerian is when you try to scam them online (yahoo yahoo) and they discover you're a Nigerian,. whereby giving yourself and Nigeria a bad impression.
In summary, Russians in particular are great and lovely people. If you have an opportunity to make friends with one, please do! If you're also good and fluent in English language and wishes to teach English, I'll advise you to find your way to Russia.
they say their nice,e get one way marry 9ja doctor, when things no come good,she go back to Russia.(agreement with the husband)but when things better she come back and come carry the man go.
A Video of a bride being touched inappropriately at her church wedding in Enugu-Ukwu, Anambra state, has sparked concern for the bride, Reports.
After the bride and groom were joined in Holy Matrimony, guests stood in a line at the altar to hug them.
In a Video recorded by a bystander, a female guest is seen walking up to the bride. Rather than hug the bride like other guests did, the woman simply reached down and touched the bride's crotch.
Viewers have expressed concern, with many asking why the woman had to touch her nether region of all places.
Jeweltz: We have been conditioned to believe that sex will keep a man glue and obsessed about you. No.
I read a thread yesterday of a man dating a single lady who's denying him sex, but the man doesn't still leave her. See that .
Men are wired differently. A man will beg you for sex for many days and immediately you open your leg, he run away after hitting it and stop giving you attention that you deserve. Before you open your leg at all, make sure he's obsessed and his brain programmed to the thought of you alone. This is not difficult provided you don't show him how much you love him. Make him do the chasing. Men like that won't leave you.
There was a guy who was on my case. I like him. But I know Nigerian men. They'll use you once they see you're in love with them. I hoard my love and I told him no sex. No amount of convincing worked. And he was always on his toes making sure he doesn't deviate from showing me love and care.
But still, most of our men are liars and could be getting the sex somewhere else. That's why a woman should close her leg until you know that he will marry you. Don't fall for their lies
if i know say na only once i go hit u, bye bye.but if i hit u,i go like to hit again and again.
Sweetplum: Well, some women v turn themselves to oblect of ridicule. However, dear Vawulenceee, I also v a story of a man that sleeps with over 50 girls in a month. You care to listen?
LocalStandard1: They say a picture is worth more than a thousand words. But we all know pictures now can be faked. Right?
I saw this picture of Tinubu making rounds online, licking a microphone, I thought it was a photoshopped trolling and a joke. After seeing a video of the actual act I am still asking myself "who did we offend in this country?!", "who is bent on punishing Nigerians with this, even after Buhari?!"
olaifablessing: Come and learn from someone's pain. He thought he found the love of his life, a woman with whom he would grow old with.Not knowing she was a wolf finely dressed in a sheep's clothing. This Dark young man named Tosin tied the knot with a woman named Ronke. A proper wedding done with the attendance of family and friends. The union soon brought a son . One unfaithful day, this woman named ronke absconded with tosins properties and 3 years old son. Only to see on Facebook few months later that she is married to another man under a different identity. The light skinned man known as ade ola is her new husband. Tosin, the dark skinned man is demanding access to his son. He doesn't know her whereabouts or that of his son. Needs the world to please come to his aid .
Family › Re: My Experience At A Traditional Marriage Ceremony Today. by dnawah(m): 12:54pm On Feb 03, 2023
