Mzflexydeeva:
you can prevent a woman from nagging you out when you do the right thing of been you, taking care of her, been her partner & understanding the mood she's in.

Taking a close look @ d write up again, u'll fig out its not talking about ladies who nagging is part of their dna no! It's more focused on ladies who became the nagging type due to circumstances. This I believe can be prevented

am not referring to the whole write up, but that particular statement I quoted in my initial post.

zaynie:
Before you judge and castigate, listen to both sides of the story.
I live with my MiL and many times I have wronged her and so has she too. Sometimes when she tells me my offence( most times she doesnt, she just gives me bad eye) I will be so surprised cos I may not even be aware of it as being offensive. I apologise when necessary and I give my reasons for my actions when necessary.
How are we sure that you are not the one to blame? Afterall all we hear is your side of the story.

And this MIL went ahead to report to her son instead of sorting It out with the DIL.

Venom104:


And when there isnt anyone else to take care of them, what do normal parents then do? They would rather die as you said in your first post right?

When Nigerians start dey do honeymoon sef.. i am not absolving the MIL of blame, but when did honeymooning become so important that a son cant decide to call it off just to check on his own mother.

What I meant by they would rather die in my first post is that calling those new couple would have been the last resort they come to. Not the first thing they do.

How is that possible that she has no one else to take care of her?

Ok, fine, let's assume she doesn't have anyone else to take care of her, and they came home to take care of her only to find her cooking away, and then she later packed her stuff that night and went to her house.

That sounds like someone sick enough to call people home from honeymoon?

And you just have to bring culture in here? Common sense is that those people just got married, and yea, they deserve some beautiful alone time. Every one knows that if you are calling people off their honeymoon, it better be worth it and in this case, it doesn't.

Venom104:


Well, this thread has made it more apparent to me the animosity most wives/to-be wives have towards their MIL. You failed to pick up on the subtle clues that this DIL has her own issues, isn't it strange that smack on their honeymoon the husband already thinks she hates his mom and a wicked person? and she said they were friends before the marriage.

I dont see how the MIL seems over attached to her son and wont let go from what the op wrote. The OP was more concerned about her honeymoon than the well being of her MIL, would she if it was her own Mum?.

Did u miss the part where they came back from the honeymoon and met the MIL cooking up storm.
Someone who is that that sick to the extent of recalling people home from honeymoon should not be at home but in the hospital, but if they are at home, they should be in bed.
It is called being considerate. Normal parents don't bug their children on honeymoon if they are sick. They look for someone else to take care of them.

suck it up people.
Pay ur bills.

tempest01:
Na him I dey pay 570 pounds a month for shared three bedroom for abeerdeen

Ok. That is ridiculous.
so the house goes for about £1700?
Dang!!!

Mzflexydeeva, I have only one question for u;

DaFuq does this

Groom a lady the right way & watch grow into your ideal woman.

means?

See madness!!!.
Pls tell me she said yes.

Shymm3x:


Loool. Naughty girl.

I'm a monk for now...the rest legs were just pushing 119kg and my body just got messed up afterwards.

I am a nun too.
And I push about 500kg with my head.

Being a while though.
U got banned again?

Shymm3x:


Lool. Nah, I just over-trained my legs and got knackered.

Shiit happens.

More like overused ur other LEG.

Shymm3x:


Can you believe I slept off, just when the game was about to start, I swear down?

Thank God I recorded it - should watch it tomorrow.

Madness.

Overfeeding on badonkadonk.....

She should have included a picture of Paul also.

RedBenson:


What are we talking about here? The two instances i've given, were they girlfriends? Come on guy. The moment you realise that your wife, yes i said "your wife" is not worth full investment of your resources, the better that will be good for you.

and you haven't seen cases where siblings turned away from their siblings who trained them through school or helped them make it big.

Just pray and make all efforts to marry a good wife instead.

Op refuse to realise that the status of your wife reflects on you.

legendboy:
I hate dix Obama

Obama doesn't even know u exist sef. Keep wasting ur emotion.

1. Suwe and ten-ten with the kids on my side of the estate.
2. Climbing the trees in my compound. It stopped the day my brother saw a snake on one of the trees .
3. Spending my transport fare on fried fish and the likes and walking home with some kids from my primary school. It stopped the day my mum caught me walking.

And how can I forget taking food to neighbours and family friends on new year's day and getting "owo-odun" in return. Plus getting "owo-odun" from visitors who called at my home.

sexymoma:
Folasade!
Yes mummy
Talo na e
Awon egbe mii
Moju siwon na
eh eh
Sako siwon na
Eh eh
sebi mummy
i am mummy
sebi daddy
i am daddy
sebi olowo
olowo olowo
sebi talaka
Olorun maje
ah 1 kola
ti ke ke
ah 2 kola
ti ke ke

i don't think kids of this days know this song

Acted this song out a lot, with my cousins during Christmas at my Grandma's.

I think the lady probably saw this coming. The guy must have been showing some traits of aggressiveness.
If he can hit you once, whether provoked or not, chances are high that he will do it again.

Kingtim:
This guy has been off for months if not years i presume... He is one famous nairalander back the in 2013/2014.
A funny dude with great sense of humour. Nickname Chief sweetus Known for words like banana island. And also crushing on rita dominic whom he refers to as rita dummynick.
Here is one of his famous post with over 500likes in 72hours. https://www.nairaland.com/1577360/100-accurate-prophecies-2014-yuzedo
where is yuzedo

And here he is!!!

yuzedo:

DesChyko:
Are you asking after the blessings of something abnormal?

A broken home is not something abnormal.

An unbroken home filled with fights and hatred is abnormal.

Inter-tribal marriages.

LadyFiona:
I think you believed the evil mother in law stories before even getting married. You portrayed the attitude or showed an intent towards that for your husband to make that comments on your honeymoon.
From your complaints, I honestly do not see anything wrong from what the mother in law did except she is trying to help out, but your already biased mind won't see the good deeds in her actions.

How do you define evil eye? Remember that actions and reactions are always equal and opposite. You don't show disrespect to an elder and expect love in return.
Allow the mother in law sometime to realise that her son is married and well taken care of for her to back out. If you keep on exchanging evil eye, Mum will win because it seems son is more attached to her than the obvious emotional bond that binds you both.

Dude. You clearly have a problem with comprehension.

Venom104:


Hope you aren't one of those 'me and my husband' type of wife. Its kindah strange that straight on your honeymoon your husband already feels you hate his mother and that you are bad person, as they say, there is no smoke without fire. Check yourself

Be compassionate and understand the woman, don't see her are as just your MIL but as a second mum, treat her as you would yours. Surely if your husband is a rational man, he will see your efforts and believe you.

The bond between sons and mothers is quite strong especially one without the father in the picture. Help foster that bond and include yourself in it instead of trying to make him believe you over her.

No normal mother will recall his son home, from the honeymoon.
Most mothers would not bother, even if they arr dying. They would want the new couple to enjoy their first few days together.

The bond in this case is weird, I have seen mothers whose husbands passed away and single handedly raised their son from when they were just few months old, yet they knew when they had to let go.

Niyeal:
Pray very well. She wil do herself. You self behave like Ruth in the bible.

Behave like Ruth in the Bible?
The fvck does that even mean?

bukatyne:


I agree with you

Just sharing What I heard up and About.

I will still say the women should also develop themselves alongside

thank you.
no woman should play victim.....
Encourage your man and all, but don't loose youself in the process.
Let it not be that after he left u, u havd nothing to fall back on

Lol.
Why bother take pictures....

arabianights:


TONYE,SERIOUSLY AM PISSED THIS EVENING AT THIS MAN'S RESPONSE.IF AFTER THIS RESPONSE PEOPLE STILL RESPECT HIM THEN WE ARE IN TROUBLE.

When the news on his marriage was posted her ,all those that analyzed the marriage were dealt with by his agents or who ever but here it is in clear terms.....with out mincing words, he has stated why the marriage was sealed nothing on love and of course the lady must give her consent she dares not say no this is a tradition on going for years.

Just go through that part he dared to state that shes from a royal home so is her mom so she will give birth to princes etc....... imagine!!! is that her job ?? is that her value

Royalty isnt like before so he should not flatter his dying image and ego,No one gives a damn.His post caries no weight like other royalties eg uk,saudi arabia, morocco etc


rubbish! PRIDE GOES BEFORE A FALL

thanks.
You are seeing what I am seeing, that some people have refused to see.

To think that I like to crossin advance on that particular road, before getting to under the bridge proper.
Lesson learnt.
Never cross to that side of the road until I get to where I can walk under the bridge.

happney65:


Wait,Note--I am not a Fan of Sanusi,Neither am i a Muslim nor an Hausa..But to be sincere,Omotola,etc married at 18,married a Older Guy and not her Age-Mate..Am sure Captain Ekeinde should not be less than 35 then,so why the hell?This Babe is 18 and not a Minor..An Adult..If she said No,Nobody would force her into it..That is it..Nobody forced this Babe into it..She is an Adult and not a Kid..If this Babe was less than 18 i would have also ranted,But for goodness sake,Have you forgotten that 18 is the Adult Age in Nigeria?At 18,you can do anything you want,Isnt it as long as it isnt against the Law..So why the rant gan gan?I dont understand..

So after my last post, you still do not understand or see the reasons for the rant?
Sorry I can't help you on that!!!

happney65:


But was he 18 when he married her?Am Sure he was even more than 30 when he married her..So definitely So is there any difference when you marry someone older than 10years or by 30years?..The Koko was,Omotola also married at 18 and Hell wasnt let loose..This Girl is an Adult isnt she?So why shout and rant all about?Na wah for una ohh

Lamido is old enough to father that young girl.
Was capt Ekeinde Old enough to father Omotola Jalade when he married her?
Have u ever read her story? Did u not come across the part where she said her mother objected to the marriage cos she considered it early. Thats is the difference, Omotola wanted it for herself, she went for it.

But in the case of this young girl, it is not like that. Am sure the consent they said the young girl granted to the marriage request was because she knew she can't really say no. We all know that a female child has no say in that part of the country.
Plus was Captain Ekeinde married to four wives and with gazillions of kids before marrying Omotola?

You can try to justify Emir's action with religion and culture, its fine. But its a mistake to compare it with Omotola's early marriage.

happney65:


But a Dude here in the Southwest Married Omotola then?And omotola was 18 then isnt it?So what the Fuss?..She is an Adult and not a child..Note am not a Fan of Sanusi,but on this he hasnt done anything Bad..Skikena!

Omotola's husband was 52 when he married her?
Abeg, dey debate with sense.