baralatie:
Which one is we live 1 hour apart but different cities
Is it Accra and Lagos .because it is 1 hour apart but two different cities🙄🤔🤣

An example is Awka to Onitsha.

Guy, if you suspect she is cheating, tell her over the phone that you know she is cheating on you and that you are done.

Do not continue with her (whether for knacks or otherwise) and never make the mistake of taking her back.

You might be emotionally attached, a little bit, but move on and find someone else.

Coolsat:
As for me I'll pay her back by marrying a second wife and enjoy my life.

Second Wife no truly send you. Na your money she still want.

BlackAdams007:
Cool, but that's how they all started soon battery will 📴 off on the way.

Person no work, complaint, person work, complaint. What do you want?

Jennyclay:
Men should learn to spend on their wife/girlfriend without expecting anything in return

Personally, Even though the man has spent billions and trillions on me, if there’s no love in the marriage I will seek for divorce.

It’s better for the woman to leave the marriage than to start cheating on the man.

What do you mean by no love? Do you think love is a feeling of excitement? Love is a decision! Women are emotional beings! The fact that another man is close to her in Uk whispering "sweet nothings" is enough for her to forget the good memories of her husband and then she immediately feels she is no longer in love and says things like " It’s better for the woman to leave the marriage than to start cheating on the man"

If you truly have the opinion that you can leave a marriage based on how you feel "in love or not in love" please do not marry. There are grounds for divorce and your feelings are not included " both for the man and for the woman".

The idea of marriage is a lifelong commitment to one another, supporting, understanding and deciding to love each other. If one is not up to the task do not do it. Why do you think many men are not married? They are not ready for that kind of commitment, which is okay!

I know people with good intentions in marriage have low periods when they catch feelings for others and all that, but they would never think of leaving their marriage due to such fickle fleeting emotions.

What exactly is the complaint? Your husband doesn't carry you or he doesn't suck you or you are seeking a new romantic experience entirely thereby relieving your very first?

The summary is that whatever it is you want indirectly will not help you since you are married.

If you act based on your wrong feelings and u are caught, you will destroy the small peaceful family you have. You can't eat ur cake and have it.

You want an expert sucker and u expect he would have been faithful to you if u had married him?

You are looking for a romantic fling which is normal as a human, but I advise you squash the feeling.

You want to marry someone you met online, who lives in PH and whom you are yet to date physically.

I know it's a new age and all that, but if you know how immoral young people are these days, you no go try am.

The tests that should be carried out should not only be fertility tests, but also, mental, spiritual, hook-up, all medical tests, possible abortions, and body count test!

You dey here dey argue about only fertility tests.

Please be wise my brother and obey your Father. Obedience is better than sacrifice!

IamPlato:
remaining calm would make more sense

You can't force calmness in extreme situations. You prepare for it over time.

So they are allowed to do anything that will calm them down in the moment of panic. If speaking in tongues or prayer will calm you down, better do it.

Gboom:

I don't think you have been in a terrifying situation before.

I remember some years back , I was a passenger insider a commercial bus from Obalende to Oshodi, in the middle of 3rd mainland bridge, one of the Tyres busted and passengers started shouting Jesus Jesus Jesus. There is one alfa that joined the shouting too and the bus was on top speed. After surviving, some passengers asked the alfa that you were shouting Jesus and he said, he noticed the bus was maintaining its balance when others are calling the name of Jesus and that is why he joined.

Can she afford it based on her legitimate earnings?

What exactly are the reasons for the reservations you have?

lhordspy:
Since this is not Lagos. No one cares.

These same people will come into lagos and start preaching to us about voting competent people.

They voted an incompetent disaster like Ikpeazu twice. Two freaking time ! . Orji kalu is in the senate again. They voted him again.

Voted or rigged their way? Please get your facts right. How can the citizens vote Ikpeazu who is owing so many months of salary??

I pray he buys his parents a car soonest. May we not meet entitled women.

Persephone1:
He loves her truly by stabbing her where it hurts most and not respecting their vows. Love kwa

Una just dey give advise, dey conclude without any evidence.

I think the woman should not rush into conclusions. She has discussed with the husband and he has reassured her. I expect her to believe him.

I have been on a dating app for years without any meaningful activity.

Infact this thread made me go back to the app to delete my profile since I have hardly ever used it, before one aproko woman go go tell my wife sey I dey carry babe.

gshsj:

I was not online to check....it was this morning i saw it...i havent played any game yet, just still weighing my odds

Bros, no try am o. Probability you will lose the money is high. Do not complicate your simple life.

aribisala0:
You are half educated which often is worse than no education
What is the correct interpretation of data showing states with higher cutoff? That they performed better ? No It just means a higher demand which can be interpreted in so many different ways eg as evidence for more SE states
Anyhow UNITY Schools are not centres of excellence that is not why they exist.

Just imagine if we said we are going to blow up planet earth and take the hundred strongest people on a boat like Noah's Ark . About half must be female no matter how many strong men you find or how string they are if life must proceed
That is why we have Unity schools . It is not the FG role to provide secondary education

Please the cutoff mark is not done just based on higher demand. The average performance of candidates from the state is also a major determinant.

Imagine 5 candidates write from Kano and their avarage score is 150. Are you saying Kano's cutoff will be 40 or 50 or even lower because the demand is low? No! the average score forms a basis of deciding who goes in. This will be done in line with the demand( number who wrote/needed).

Also if 200 candidates write from Lagos and their average score is 80. Based on your demand theory, their cut of score will be higher than that of Kano in this analogy since a lot people wrote from Lag despite having a lower average. This cannot be so. Their cutoff will consider the average score of the candidates from the state vis a vis the number who wrote.

The cutoff marks are majorly based on average performance per state in line with the number needed from the state to ensure that high performing states are judged against each other.

States that have a high cutoff mark obviously performed better averagely. Lagos had most candidates in this common entrance exam yet has a lower cut-off than some other states despite their very high demand.

N/b: I am not here to argue about the demerits or merits of this system, just to correct the quoted misconception.

Shukusheka:
I was only speculating when I mentioned it will take minimum of 3 months for them to get back to us due to my experience with government job applications. It is already 3 months now, they likely will give us one half baked feedback before month ends to hold on, they are working on it. Then another 2 months before the final list is released. Let's sha be hopeful.

Its good they have sent feedback.

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Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


How did they not know about his kidney failure before marriage .
I know the optimistic part of me would really want to give that kidney to my husband but the logical side of me would not support that decision , marriage is not a do or die affair in my opinion since it's a new marriage and there's no child involved it's okay to leave if she feels pressured , it's not wickedness , the man could do same to her if she were to find herself in an unfortunate circumstance , I mean we see it everyday where the women can't have a child and the man ends up marrying someone else or having children in secret , and some will cheat on their wives because she's no longer pretty after 5 kids and is worn out from her very demanding job

The stories I see of this marriage thing is making me doubt that I will even marry who I love , in the selfish world the selfish succeed , you can't force someone to drink medicine for another person's sickness , if she offers to help willingly it's different but saying she has to because he's her husband is ridiculous , it basically means that she has no say in the matter , it's a very toxic type of entitlement

She has an obligation to help as the wife. That's why it is a marriage. It is her duty just as it would have been the husband's duty if the tables had turned.

That is exactly why before going into marriage both parties should understand what marriage means.

People should stop rushing into marriage and saying vows they do not understand. Then when the chips are down, they start giving flimsy excuses.

Staying single is not a crime, but please do not redefine marriage. Marriage means that both parties leave their parents and come to together as one.

Giving instances of selfish acts by men and women in marriage still buttresses the same point that people should stay single.

In marriage you don't sacrifice because it is comfortable. You sacrifice and discomfort yourself because it is what you swore to do.

The man must bend backwards to provide no matter how difficult. The woman despite not being in the mood smiles and allows sex. Despite being tired prepares food for the children. The man uses his last card to pay school fees.

I expect the wife to give up her Kidney to save the husband's life or find a solution together with him.

Running is not the solution. She is his wife and they are one!

OP, you need to quickly kill those thoughts before they ruin you.

Have a heart to heart discussion with your wife and sort out things.

Please also ignore the side chicks suggestions here as it will not end well too.

Always picture the end from the beginning.

This is hilarious!

I initially thought he was being sacarstic not until I read the full story and understood that he was dead serious.

The lack of objectivity by some of our leaders is alarming.

It's shocking how everything is termed "racism".

I am suspecting it might be FIRS. Remember the first assessment had a lot of tax questions.

I also read in other federal government recruitment threads here on nairaland that FIRS will be retiring a lot of staff by the end of the year.

These are assumptions which could mean nothing. Please don't make decisions based on assumptions. You saw a wink and a pout, and you concluded.

If dem dey alone for house together, u go faint be that.

Things are not always as they seem. Be sure before venturing further.

Good One! Inspiring and workable strategies.

Queenlovely:
children full nairaland,they will not understand what it means to be kidnapped.

let me share my story with you.

back in 2006 I went to potiskum for a wedding, I was kidnapped. they demanded 50billion ransom, when they knew who I was.

my father made some calls and within 30 minutes, I was released, these people are dangerous

Who are you? Tell me!

Young woman, please don't visit that guy unless you want to risk being taken advantage of.

Verbal abuse is also not acceptable, neither should you abuse him.

Please tell him politely that you do not think it wise to visit a man alone and at this age.

Someone who really cares about you will understand.

Shine your eye ooo!

I know how difficult this may sound. I am also not saying I would have done or not do what I am about to say, but I am duty bound to tell you what I believe is right.

You must forgive all those who have hurt you.

You must not necessarily visit or invite them to your house, but whenever you can help them with financial assistance, please do.

We are to love our enemies and even pray for them.

Please help them when you can while you stay far from them so they would not infect you with their toxicity.

Nuttella:
Remember that a wife is a helper, she have to also help financially, why is Aisha buhari not a housewife, why is Ngozi Okonjo iweala not a housewife?

Neither Aisha nor Ngozi should be your standard. I am also not against you working or helping your husband. All forms of work are hounarable!

But then, your assumption that help must be financial is really flawed. How can you quantify raising valuable children, how much is it worth? What is greater than this?

I am against sterotypical views as mentioned by the teacher. From her statements, if a wife cannot contribute financially, she is a failure. Jeez! What has happened to our world?

If before you get married, you are already thinking that your husband will need your help financially, then your thoughts might come to pass, creating a future where your husband will always lack. Be careful what you think.

truthsayer009:


True, a house wife is a full time unpaid labour. If I was a woman, there is so many things I won't tolerate and house wife is one of them.

No matter how people tend to romance it, once you don't bring in money, you are a liability. Sad but true.

You guys talk a lot about money as a result of poverty.

The feeling by a man that a woman needs to bring in money is a poor man's mindset.

Raising ethical, productive children is a far greater honour than any kind of work.

A woman should decide to work based on passion/vision for an activity and not based on the need for money and her passion or work should never take the place/role of raising great kids which she brought into the world.

Our men should be taught to provide all the needs of their family.

Poverty is first and foremost in the mind.

Once you truly know that your supply is endless, working or not working will never be an issue.

Nuttella:
Ladies, never you agree to be a housewife to avoid see finish, not only will he control you, he will chase after women that are working or doing something with their lives, if your husband is working, work also, if he wants to do masters, also do your masters, that's if you enjoy being respected in marriage, na small thing dey make person lose respect for marriage.

Follow this advice at your own peril. Marriage ain't no competition!

People spew a lot of wrong suggestions based on their own failed experiences.

Husband and wife should agree on what they want to do based on their preferences. Both parties should love, submit, be willing to compromise while respecting each other.

Respect and love is a decision not based on actions or achievements of one another.

For a successful marriage, kindly refer to the Holy Books.

delkuf:
No body can obey God's law by himself. many of those people criticizing bishop oyedepo for what are only doing it to cover there own shame of not being able to pay there tithe. I repeat, if you can't obey God in tithing, that means you can't fully obey God

Did Jesus talk about tithing? I really would like to learn. All I have heard about tithing is from the old testament before Christ came and died for us. There are several laws in the old testament which are completely ignored but tithing is always the focus.
I addition to learning which I am very open to, my opinion is that the bible teaches giving as an attitude. A willingness to always help as opposed to hoarding.

Balanced write up by Dele. Interesting read indeed!