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lefulefu:
nothing wrong for u to be a high value man urself
if u always in her shadow she wont respect u
true story
be the better version of urself so women wont look u as a houseboy

happy new year, longest time!!

GhostWisperer:
in the military, police, prisons, customs, immigration, medical degree holders earn more than their colleagues in the same rank.


You don't even have any idea about what you're dabbling into.

in a way, but they hardly get promoted. In the military, a medical consultant will be given a honorary rank of major. They hardly get promoted as much as others officers

studentofTruth:
While Nairaland folks can bash for Africa, they raised some salient points you need to work on.

I can understand the effects of being in different cities, but keeping your guy waiting for 3 days when he visited was a big thumbs down! I'm sure you knew he was coming, yet you didn't make out the time to see the love of your life — even if you were on call, you could have swapped with a colleague!

You can make your relationship work if you want!
Wish you guys the best!

Him coming to lagos was impromptu. I only knew the a day or 2 before and couldn't make plans in advance.
The day he came to lagos and came to my place of work when i was on call. He saw me rescucitating a man on the verge of death, who was being irrational and i was the only person on ground.

There were also many other people waiting to be seen. But after like 20-30mins, i was able to see him.
We also spent the next day together.

But thank you for your input

emmachukwu99:
Biko give that guy some quality time if you love him or want the union.. that's all he's indirectly masticating.

I will!! Working on it it this year

emmachukwu99:
So you have all the time in the world to quote people upandan here okwa ya? Yet you can't devote time for Ur man and he's here lamenting and pretending..

before I had time to quote u upandan, i called bae and he told me he wanted to sleep

Victorclean1:
This is the greatest lie of the new year. Doctors have more time than most civil servants.

This guy is just faking story to creat traffic. Call duty gives doctors 24 hours work and 3 to 4 days off. Even doctors in private practice have time as well.

Am sick of all these fake news or stories here. Maybe he want to tell us he is dating a doctor and was dying of the hallucinating joy because of low self esteem.

please, which place is that?

I will love to work in auch a place

UDbester:
This is what I will advise you to do, anytime you miss her and wishes to see her so badly, go to the hospital she works, pretend as if you are sick and register to see a doctor making sure it must be her, if you succeed explain to her how you became so sick that seeing her is the only doctor's prescription that can cure you. This act is both romantically and emotional sensible. Thank me later bruh���

Aww!!

Thanks. We stay in different states

Profadvocate:
Are u sure the man is still alive?
Something bad might have happen to him

Let's not conclude yet pls

I agree.

How desperate is the guy to use his family as collateral

May we jot be in such a situation in Jesus name.

Zico5:
Economy is truly bleeding. The level of poverty is now very high. Someone told me today that nearly all the youths are now certified yahoo boys. May God heal our land. I wonder how average man will cope till 2023. This Buhari government is all about suffering and poverty.

it's so sad that Yahoo is now what education was to our parents. I've had a 8 year old patient tell me that he wants to be a yahoo boy when he grows up

MrBachelor:
@DrfunmisticGlow, seeing how you are gallivanting about on this thread like you have all the time in the world makes me wonder why your man would complain that you lack time for him.

OP, a piece of advice from one who's seen it all. Done it all. No one is ever too busy for the one they are truly attracted to. High-value or low-value, it doesn't matter.

*whistles and walks out of thread*

I have not spent up to an hour gallivanting

YorubaPrince:
Mama, gbenu buruku e soun joor! Keep deceiving the Fool, OK?

don't use foul language at me.

It's not my fault your mom didn't train you well

Ekemeze:
Wait a sec! you actually believe op's bullcrap? op and "dokita fund mi I fvck you glow", same person using different moniker.

you are petty as hell.

MrBachelor:
@DrfunmisticGlow, seeing how you are gallivanting about on this thread like you have all the time in the world makes me wonder why your man would complain that you lack time for him.

OP, a piece of advice from one who's seen it all. Done it all. No one is ever too busy for the one they are truly attracted to. High-value or low-value, it doesn't matter.

*whistles and walks out of thread*

i only have time now, cos i called bae and he said he was tired and needed to rest. I have not had time since yesterday that he created this thread.

FLESHnBLOOD:
If I was op right now I will delete this thread. I have seen and heard enough . Just follow ur instinct cos they are always right.

Honestly, nairalnders should have left this attitude in 2020.

yemmie:
@DrFunmi, pack well and reason..

I have consultant neurosurgeon, consultant cardiologist, consultant Gynecologist as buddies, we roll right from Uni days in their undergrad days and still roll hard till now..

Look into the mirror and get your priority right so you don’t regret in your old age ..

Hear word from AgbaAkin ..

how old are you? Your forties? Fifties?

Those people have thier lives figured out. We are trying to figure out ours.

A consultant neurologist with Time? Now that's something you don't see everyday.

Otuchi:
This thread depicts three things; Advertisement, Upliftment and/or Awareness

Please could you explain.

The5DME:
Have you guy had sex before? I'm sure the anwser is no. You probably have no time for that right? Smh

That's very private. Please learn to be courteous at all times.

The5DME:
You're feeling fly all because you're dating an insecure man who 'worships' you.....it will end in tears las las.

The only insecure person i see here is you.

I can only help by recommending you to the nearest psychotherapist or clinical psychologist in your area.

bigpicture001:
And you don't close from work ?

You are the only one employed in such a busy hospital..?

You don't go home nd sleep because of 32hours is obviously longer than 24hrs.

You think you can ever be busier than a business owner ..? Especially one whose business is promising with lots of patients..?

I repeat adjust your ways..well everyone and their kind of guy cuz real men won't take those lame excuses

I am also a business owner. I own a skincare line in the process of rebranding.

You change your ways Mr!!

Learn to appreciate the differences in women instead of comparing.

iLegendd:
Nice post to an extent, but not for my kind.

For iLegend, me and my woman will be billionaires without working day and night and with all the time in the world to catch cruise.

No work obstruction. I don't compromise quality time for money/work. I compromise money for quality time.

This is why men should work smarter to avoid being in OP's shoe. At last, he will raise another man's child.

The woman is in control and she subtly dictates all in the name of work.

You know there's a pandemic, right?

Xilsbridalhouse:
Sirjamesjnr is same as DrfunmisticGlow!!!! Very very obvious, I stand to be corrected with solid evidence though, otherwise both monikers are for one person.

If only nairaland had the rolling eyes emoji.

kazyhm:
Bitter soul ?

You don't really understand....how can you slept in three different hotels just to see or talk to your girlfriend....ordinary girlfriend....this op is not normal.

Even if you're pursuing a billion dollars contract.....you apply sense and portray yourself as a person of value.

wait till you hear the full story before commenting.

Raalsalghul:
You didn't need to write it.

Your attitude and previous write ups was screaming it to the sky.

I don't take shit, especially from freeloaders and NFAs.

Many people had an issue with that.

bigpicture001:
Same state..but different towns: like 40min drive difference

We are in different states, in different geopolitical zones.

So when i say that Sirjamesjnr has taught me a lot about how to put in the effort to make a relationship work. Please take it from me.

I'm very sure that if we were in the same state many of these issues wouldn't exist.

Also, assuming your girlfriend is busier than me and trying to compare us is real stretch and i don't appreciate it.
How many 32hour calls does she take in a month?
How many babies has she helped deliver?

We all have a role to play the health team.

Everyone of them does something that other's can't do, and that is put others first.

So please refrain.

Chii59:
Aunty you don calm down o. Love good o. I remember as you been dey hyper everywhere.
Sirjamesjnr continue loving her Abeg. So she can be calming down on nairaland.

To be honest. This pandemic is taking it's toll.

And yet people don't believe.

Zeinymira:
Nlers are wicked. See how they made the relationship look stupid. I bet Op was feeling fly when he typed all that damn

i don't think he has seen the hateful comments yet!!

Raalsalghul:
I thought "Men are scum" in your dictionary.

i never wrote 'men were scum'

People just assumed i did.

humilitypays:
the Dokita must be the biggest chick that replied the Op's hello in his lifetime, I can imagine it already

Only small minded people hate!!
I would advise that you be more productive. Please try it.

bigpicture001:
Babe u can never b busier than my girlfriend..lemme give you the load down....sh is in the health /medical profession..

Sh crested the now very busy health center which see's minimum 35patients daily.sh has a resosibility to keep them happy let's sh folds up...unlike just a professional whose job might job b to do your job

Sh has responsibility of getting all the drugs,medical test kits and associate professionally with head of numerous other clinics.

Sh is saddles with the huge responsibility of continous nd non stop marketing of the health center which as sh says "no paid mrkter can do it with much zeal as the creator."

Sh deals with the account books daily nd balances out all printed receipt by the accountants to reduce employee theft, sh deals with the numerous government and health agencies which usually com for tax and inspection.mind you,many atymx these arguments extend for weeks with her continuous visitation of government agencies..

He phone rings non stop.sh doesn't even have time for herself: cooking,washing out going are non existent in her life till I came in......sh needed me just like ur guy to fall in line of her heavy schedules. I was irritated..later realized juST like your guy that all I need do is compromise..

We sat down nd drew up ways off shedding some weight off her nd yet get efficiency. I started to take up some of her "meet the government official roles. Me my self am super busy then trying to grow my now good biz.

Time came out for out tings, visitations, company,dou sh visit me less Dan I visit her cuz of time constraints. But I want you to know we both compromised and are having a better relationship now...

So lady adjust for your man...ur not the busiest..you might firstly and hurriedly cross the finished mark of the race nd yet forget your baton

Do you guys stay in the same location?!

Tejuri:
If she has indeed seen this thread, her respect for you has dropped a little. Smh.

No it hasn't!! He's a wonderful person and will continue to be. The people I lost respect for are some nairalnders who wont let the past go!!

bigpicture001:
You will later complain..trust me u will..u are only carried away by her personalities. Later attension,submissiveness ,togetherness will catch up with u......I currently date a more super woman than all you just said...but everyone adjusted till we found a compromising balance from both of us....

Remember my moniker and hit me up when reality starts to creep in

Wow!! Nairalanders can never be happy for other people, can they?!