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Ejaisky:
The gestation age start counting from the first day of last period not the day of intercourse.

it still doesn't tally

snnazzy24:
I have been able to get one of her family member, I forwarded her number to them, there are family members in Lagos who will reach out to her neighbors via her number. I'm sure they will take it up from there.

thanks so much

kindredspirit:
Here is what happened. She and I used to talk some years ago and she had written my number on a diary of her's because her phone was bad back then.

It was while the neighbours were rummaging through her stuff that they found the diary. They saw my name and felt that since it's a South-Southern one, maybe I was her family. They then called me.

There's no doubt about this as I was on the phone with the neighbors, mostly elderly men and women, yesterday. I told them how I met victorian on Nairaland and they asked that I put this out here with the hope that someone might know her relatives as they have zero information.

What of church members

Nonexistent:
Got this from her Facebook page. Can any nairalander in Lagos or Warri check it out?

Does her phone have fingerprint?

Heh!!!

I don't believe this

I don't really know her family, but I don't know if she was on good terms with them.

What of friends?

There was a church she went to.

Iamafinegirl:
Please I need your help or view point in this matter. Am I just over reacting at is this a red flag to which I need to run far away from?
My current boo asked me out for like one and half year, it was like it’s either me or no one else. His friends and bosses in his office had to speak to me to consider him as I might be missing a good man and how crazy he is about me.
I finally accepted.
I decided to move in with him after a while just to see what marriage to him would feel like with him. I have stayed a year with him and it’s void of sex and kissing.
When I came he would say they should put on the gen anytime there was no light for me and all, he was sweet.
With time he started complaining that he was buying all the food in the house and I wasn’t contributing as much as he wants.
He eats about 5 times a day while I eat twice or one and half times (fruit, oat and pap) a day because me I am watching my weight.
He would complain the milk he bought had finished and all...and it was with some level of anger or bitterness about buying the food stuff.
Pls note that I consume 25% - 30% of all he eats.
I later started buying my milk to avoid issues since I knew that’s what I consume most (with my oat or pap) which makes one of my meal for the day but he was angry about me buying it separately but I did that because I felt there would be peace that way. I would still buy milk and keep and he can say I am using more than he is using inside the milk
He complained about repairs (light), complained about buying dstv subscription, nepa light payment etc. You just list any house thing he started complained about doing it.
I on my path do contribute the way I spent before I came to stay with him. (I wasn’t a huge spender as I eat very small food) and so my money use to remain which he used to borrow from me when we werent together.
We had a him 60k and me 40k arrangement for food fuel light etc but we never put it together and so each week I did ensure I spend 10k. But apparently he wasn’t seeing it. I would come from market and he would say what is all this, this is worth 5k. It use to hurt so much because I wld show him the list but he would still say this same thing. I have never asked him how much he bought things if he goes to market talk less if say it’s not up to a certain amount.
He said later that he can’t marry a woman who works and won’t contribute for light, food, repair, gen etc....
So even today we contributed for dstv 4700, I paid half and he paid half.
It looks sort of absurd and a no no to me
Yesterday he bought apples 800 naira and I paid half and he paid half....
And so that’s how the current life would be....
I contributed to the rent also but he said no... that he would “dash me” rent. I shouldn’t pay so I won’t come tomorrow and say I contributed to the house rent. I even said ok use the money for food and other things you complain about, but he said he won’t collect it under the umbrella of house rent that never.
I see it upside down for a man to be saying he is paying rent and see it that he is dashing me. When I can pay my rent by myself and he knows fully well. If I was living alone the same way he has been living alone, won’t I do my repair, dstv subscription etc without asking anybody? So why is it a big deal the moment I stepped in? This are things if my friend came to live with me to God who made me I would do/ take responsibility for because the dstv subscription I would have paid for before won’t change with your presence...the only thing that may change is water and food and so if they contributed it would go towards that.
This is dating phase, please what marriage would become of this.
Am I the one at fault?
I need honest reviews so I can know if I am having problem and if I need to work on myself or if I need to run.
My parents marriage wasn’t like this my dad bought food and mum did other investments for the family or so and it was never an issue or was there a specific fight that you, you are not buying enough milk on the house or I can’t see d 10k food u said you just bought...it doesn’t look it etc.
He would also say me I want to be saving my money and all.
Pls what’s d way forward or backward married folks, married men and women, what am I not seeing that you can see?

Run..

Just run!!

I applied petals relaxer on my face thinking it was face cream because i wanted to copy all those fine girls on the delta soap advert.
My face started to itch and my mom came in. She screamed and told me to wash my face or it will burn off.


I used dettol to cook rice for the entire family thinking it would kill the germs.

OlayemiAshraf:
Hi nairalanders , I don't know how to start this article, but I hope you understand me......

I noticed something weird happening to my genital ....my dic was 8inch long(fully hard) last year...... Then this month , my gf said , my dic was shrinking, I thought she was just joking, until I noticed that my dic is competing with my pinky finger.....mehnn I'm depressed, I can't even think straight this days.... I went to a doctor , he said there's nothing wrong with my dic...... He said I should be eating fruit "banana, apple, etc"" ... because of my dic, I have turned to a vegan ..... but still no improvement , no nothing..... From Johnny sins , I have turned to don jazzy
guys please is there any "home remedy" i could use to get my hulk thang back........ Please save a nigga

@ bolded had me laughing hard.


On a more serious note, try seeing a urologist. I honestly don't know what can make a penis to shrink.

CalmElder:
What if he rejects you?

he won't.

CalmElder:
This thought has flashed in my mind severally.
Imagine this scenario to really understand the implication of the question.
The man you know as your father, courted your mom, did traditional, church and court wedding with her.
She takes in, your "father" is the one by her side for the nine months, every time she needs something, maybe food, climbing stairs, a hand to rub her stomach, cuddling, he's the one.
He's outside looking for money to take care of his sweetheart plus the baby that's on the way, then he gets a call from mom that she's in labour.
The guy abandons what he's doing, and hurriedly delegates before rushing home, or pleads with a neighbour or family member to help convey her to the hospital if he's indisposed. He's not there physically but his heart is.
You finally came, he looks at you, holds you, feeling a rush of emotions, he hugs your mom, (as every sane man should) who is staring up at him from the bed, looking worn and tired.
He bought you clothes, bathed you, helped with assignments, employed lesson teachers, played with you, spanked you when you went out of line, stood up for you against bullies and your mom against family members (in some given situations, a sane man should), alienating some in the process.
He does all these from the cradle until you bagged a masters.
When time comes for him to sit back and enjoy his old age, your mom informs him that he's not your biological father.
He's devastated and heartbroken, he calls you and break the news to you.
You ask mom, she confirmed it as true. You are the result of adultery.
One day, a man calls to inform you that he's your father and wants you to come out as his son, that you can carry out DNA test to confirm it.
What will be your reaction if you are at the center of the controversy eg the child?

correct the stranger and put him in his place by calling him a sperm donor. Then I'll run to the real father that raised me.

doggedfighter:
Just like that?

A suspicious text message and boom you killed her.

After 20 long years of marriage.

You didn't remember anything you have shared or been through over the years?

At least to soften your heart and spare her life or even send her away.

he stabbed her from the back. Spineless coward

debbydams:
Wetin we no see for NL oo

somebody will now marry op and be making her life miserable. I reject for people i know

Gang90:
Who is talking about grown here, I'm talking about tonight, where I'm I going to sleep, washing it is not the problem, I can get a new one tomorrow or get the dry cleaner to come pick it up and wash, I'm talking about today, where should I sleep, i had told you that sex from strange people disgusts me, so it not about pick it up and wash, that bedsheet currently looks like puke to me, or even worse

you are a baby, very immature fellow

handsomeyitayo:
I didn't think of anything like going to club, meeting any lady, I was bored today and decided to take a nap and I slept off..come to think of it, I saw myself sitting on a rock and a lady came towards me and sat on my lap ,twerking , twisting her waist behind a river ,..and she start smiling and she said did I enjoyed it ...I was like what kind of dream is this...
Please house what does that dream mean?

wet dream

sirjamesjnr:
Sweetheart, you have always been the very best friend to me right from the day we met. I may lack the right words to let you know on this valentine day how much you mean to me.
The sounds of your voice, like a melody for my heart, is sweet, gentle, it always eases the pain. The touch of your hands makes me forget about everything that seemed important before. The expression on your face is a divine picture created by God. Ife mi, I want to dissolve in your inner beauty and love.
I need you to know there’s this thing that holds my heart down whenever I think about you, I would have called it love, but it’s more than just love, and Words lack a name for it. Indeed, I am glad that you are my own, and I am yours, true soul mates we shall always be to each other. In times of challenges, know that I am always here to lend a helping hand. In tough times, know that I will always have your back to protect. No matter how tough the situation gets, know that you will always have my shoulder to lean on.
I can’t explain the way you make me feel when I hear your voice or see your face, but I adore it. Loving you is the best thing that has ever happen to me. I never regret the day you came looking for an apartment to rent on this platform(Nairaland), Since that day, you became everything I ever dream of in a woman.
You are the sweetness that breathes love into my heart and my tongue shows forth the fruit of your sweetness. What else do I want in a woman? Babe, beyond the physical look, you remain the truest person who has made my life so beautiful. Sometimes I check the mirror again and all I see is the expression of your loving heart.
Happy Valentine. DrFunmisticGlow.
I choose Nairaland to send this to you because this is where it all started. ...

cherish you, love you always,.
Happy?! I love you
Sad? I love you.
Angry? I love you.
High? I love you,
Mellow? I love you.

No matter my state of mind, i love you.


Every part of you.

You are the leaven in my bread.
The alcohol in my wine
The THC in my pot
The nicotine in my cigar.
The MDMX in my money
The sugar in my cake.
The tiny garage to your big truck.


I love you emotionally too.

You rock. Literally wink

This is how we know those that will masturbate and cry on thier pillow tomorrow.

Shokoloko:
1. The OP, that's me, is not a catholic. I will never be one.
2. What have you said here that I did not say?
3. Are you insinuating that these pictures are staged?

Yes. They are not the true story.

This post, especially the pics is nothing more than catholics twisting the truth to suit the narrative.
I thought the catholic church doesn't preach contraceptives.

First of all everyone has responsibility for every child they bring to the world.

The men are responsible for where they eject their semen

The women are responsible for who they open thier legs for and allow to access their womb.

Both sexes should take responsibility for their reproductive health.

Men, please wear a condom.

Women please be careful who you sleep with.

Em222:
I am a graduate but lost my job so am struggling to come back to my real self so I need a working class or real time bussiness woman who will help me to come back let's build a home together I am a litle bit fair tall handsome youngman in my early 30s so am looking for a serious woman within the age range of 27 to 42 to marry lets start making kids no much time so if u r interested u can call me or chat me let's discuss I am serious about this 08164084891

In essence, you want to leech of a desperate woman with low self-esteem.

Is ok! Is ok!

Masonkaycares:
Not even your mother loves you when you're useless but there are some that tolerate irressponsible male children. It's only in nollywood films that a working class woman marries a man without a future. Wake up and stop living in your fantasies

@ bolded is very sad, and is increasing today.

thebosstrevor1:
As someone rightly said, it is not only a women's nature, it is a human nature.

Your boss will value you if you add value to the growth of the company.

Your community will respect you, if you add value to them, they will reward you by giving you a chieftaincy title.

Your friends will respect you, if you add value to their lives.

Your parents will value you, if you add value to their lives.

In this life, you need to provide something to receive respect. The power dynamics of life is that everything is condtional and nothing is free.

Another reality is that once you stop the reward, your value reduces.

gbam. Truer words have never been typed.

Reex12:
women dont love you, you cant expect a women you met in a mall or wherever to love you unconditionally more than her own famiy,its not just possible and you think your in love?Then your on long thing,women dont love the way men do,they love opportunistically.if you need love and loyalty get a 'dog' for he'll be loyal to the end.As a man the only love you need are from your parents (agape)aside that any other love are hormones playing tricks on you.

Being a man in todays world is tough I agree but inorder to stay relevant you must develop value.Women have it easier mostly because they have thier bodies for softlanding in the society but a man has his grit.
Feminism is an illusion to the female gender,this why no matter how a NL feminist chatters equal right she will still create a thread for a partner , ITS NATURE.
Whether women like it or not they need a man's validation and value to stay relevant hence when the disorder of SIMPS plays out(where the redpill comes in ).

#mgtow

you sound like a whiny KAREN!!

Always the victim!! Poor me!! Women have it easy!!! Blah blah blah!!

Better dust yourself from the place you are in

GLYCOLYSISS:
“There is such a gap between how one lives and how one should live that he who neglects what is being done for what should be done will learn his destruction rather than his preservation.” -- Machiavelli

The "dynamism of power " is actually how the world IS and works rather than how we think it should be .
It takes our focus way beyond the good and bad deeds, and refocuses our attention on the key thing driving human behaviours :self interest,and how best to position ourselves to fulfil our needs.

We live in a world were everyone is telling you to be nice, be good and be a cheerful giver, but then, you will notice those qualities, though, sounds the right thing to do, don't get you any where in life .
Rather, more ruthless people are going to take advantage of you to further their self interest, and remain unapologetic about it.
Check those that got to the top in history, the world leaders, top tech companies, the billionaires ,you're going to notice something common among them : Machiaveinism.
Yea, they understand being cunning, ruthless and most importantly, putting their interest first, is the way to the apogee of their endeavours.
But then, these qualities are highly marginalized in the society by the greater masses and even those with those qualities just to mislead many from the reality on play, in the background.
You just have to take a step back, observe people's behavior, and not what they say, you're going to get my point better.

A man who don't understand these will keep wondering why other more ruthless, self centered and cunning men keep ruling the world .
A man must learn and unapologetically embrace those qualities to get anywhere meaningful in life.
I didnt make the rules, nature did.

And some basic on these power play is well explained and listed on in these books :
48 laws of power, 33 strategies on war and law of human nature,all by the same author, Robert Greene.
Check them out, it's going to lay a strong foundation on these "dynamism of power" for you going forward.

Do have a great day.

Yes, put yourself first, but that should not be to the detriment of others.

The power dynamic is simple, the person with more power in a relationship gives more percieved value. Emphasis on the bolded. It has to be percieved as valuable, doesn't necessarily mean it is valuable.

There's just something twisted about the way you reason and put words to lead guillible people astray.

People with your mentality are dangerous and will greatly benefit from therapy and rehabilitation.

sirjamesjnr:
As a man, the provider, you are not been loved for who you are but for being useful this is a fact. Only a MAN create his value, a woman only preserved it. Success is not a lifestyle for a man but his value depend on it. So it is life and death. Tell me who will want to be with a loser. Even our fellow men despite us when the chip is down.
Growing up, my mother will only reward good behaviours which include doing her bidding. Sisters will remember to buy Greek gifts just because you were at their services. I grow up in a loving home but now that I am a man, I can see the reason for those care and love. I now understand what my mom meant by "Be a Man"

In a family TREE, man doesn't benefit anything for nothing expect legacy(VALUE). How many women are abandon in the hospital? If you see any Aged man cared for just know he is been rewarded for good behaviour(your output). Have you ever wonder why boyhood to manhood is an especially rough transition for male? You have to prove your usefulness. Now, this is the most painful part, do you know it is easy for a girl to accept your shortcoming than your fellow men? It is either you have something to offer or you don't belong. Our identity is Value(worthiness) nothing more nothing less.

As a man, you are faced with hardship, expectation, responsibilities, mental torture, you have to make your bone or you are of no value. This may mean rubbish to some person but it is a fact, you either fall in line or been throwing to the dogs.
According to Chris Rock, only women, children and Animals are loved unconditionally, Men are only loved under the condition that they provide something. I agree with him. It is our Cross to carry, so do let do it with pride. Stop whining, Nothing is free in a man"s world. Even the Air..... Your output will determine the level of love you can get, plain and simple.

this is enlightening. True, what you give, you receive. It is a simple universal concept. But i believe this applies to everyone, but more to men because they create societies.

Kriss216:
Story.

Can't imagine a real man reporting to his father in-law that his wife is fighting him. Only pusssy asss niggarrrrs do that.


Send her packing, let her go and report her actions to her dad instead.

he means report her to God!!

Unknown31:
if you can treat this disease with available medicine and even recover without going to hospital, it is a SCAMdemic. you can't lockdown the whole world for a disease that has 99% recovery rate.

i don't even know where to start from with your ignorance.

Unknown31:
Thanks for sharing your experience. From your experience, there are available treatments for this overhyped disease, that someone can do without visiting isolation centres. So what is the whole point of shutting down the country?
If covid19 is not a SCAMdemic, we should be seeing pictures of dead bodies all over Kogi state.

many people have mild symptoms, like op, those ones stay at home, like op did

The ones that have filled up the isolation centers, are the ones with the severe form of the illness.

Imagine this, if op's story is the mild form of illness that doesn't need isolation, how must it be for those who do? Protect yourself.

Brendaniel:
na wa o, and some kids will see this one as role model, well in everything he does in this life he should just avoid coming to Nigeria, because only his body will be sent back to America without his head, since his head is now a diamond field...

is he not the downlow guy whose lover friend impregnated iggy azalea and was playing videogames during her labor?

Abeg. This is trash

Better wear a condom. It will shock you

Nairaland is not a hospital. Pls report yourself to the nearest hospital

Reex12:
really wow we learn everyday

the long and short of what he's saying is that female doctors are most likely smarter and less easy to manipulate than the ladies he's used to. Ignore him and his inferiority complex

CsRockefeller:
Dr Funmi, I read that thread that day and really laughed hard

Are you saying that it's the same scenario likely to play out in my case?

no actually, the way your scenario plays really depends on you both.

We both learnt from that thread