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I guess what some are answering is 'is it allowed to fvck your friend's ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?'

The only thing I can say is WOW!! There are some real painful breakups here , DAMN!!

hmm , I mite have a contribution here

I did have a galfriend until Q2 2009. This was before she got engaged to another guy (they have split up already with her claiming she doesnt know the guy well - women?)

Now I was introduced to a young lady. Turns out she is friends with my ex. Now we started speaking and later found out that we do have some ish in common. At the moment we are dating.

I dont know if it is wrong but the way i see it wrong is if your friend snatches your current gf/bf from u - that is wrong. But dating after you had been the one to break the relationship up That is plain selfish!! If he/she was that good why break up with him/her!!

we do have a defensive crisis now , Corluka and THudd are not CBs , they can play there but it is asking a lot although i wonder about Dorian Dervitte, the former French youth captain. WE will see what happens - In Levy we trust,

st nick said

@druss
u cannot be advicing the poster to break up with her. because she once cheated does not mean she is going to do it again. i believe she will be more mature now than in 2005 when she did it.

Druss says - it is better for him to break up with her,

vicky said

@druss
i don't think you read wat this guy wrote. fine the gf cheated on him about 4years ago. he did not catch her. she was feeling the guilt in her conscience and she opened up with her own mouth to tell him and that he shud 4giv her.
from my own point of view, i think the gurl really loves this guy and the guy too love the gurl for him to have 4given her and also accepted her back. i think this is for the ladies to answer so ladies wat do you think about the gurl? i know there are many nairaland guys who love their gf dearly and cheat on her but cannot say it to their gf cos of wat is going to happen 2 the relationship

If it was when i was more naive - i for don believe you. The fact of the matter is the way and manner in which she did it. Weda she felt guilt or not. The fact of the matter is the guy cant trust her. If there is no trust there can be no relationship!! And for him to still not trust her now means he has spotted other things. FACT is guys often know wassup - however some use love to try and hide it. That girl will open her legs for another guy provided the circumstances are right.

It is alright but there comes a time when you must stop feeling self pity and disgust and step up.

1) Private life - I also just broke up with a long term relationship. Girl did things that totally changed my thinking system. Thanks to the breakup tho - I have greater self confidence and wisdom. It is normal to feel bad but what I told myself is 'what is this bloody self pity going to do? It wont give me a step up.' So you need to move on.

2) The scars - hmm i suffer from a peculiar male condition - imbalance of male and female hormones. It is quite obvious when you see me. I am not saying a scar is similar but i guess we both suffer similar stuff. It took me a while to accept what I have and then build on my STRONG points whilst improving my weak points. Your scars will go but for now ,  enjoy it - you dont have to wear short skirts to be sexy ,

3) Stop feeling like he insulted you. Why should he suffer? Because he broke up!! One way for me to get over my breakup was me calling the girl and discussing with her. I made sure I didnt see it as an insult more like two business partners suffering a difference in opinion. When you view it as an insult that is when you start harbouring feelings of hate et al.

That is because you are still freaking keeping in touch with them!!

The sad thing is that women will read this and attack the guy not knowing it is their own behaviour that contributes to this. Guys tend to be naive until a woman deals with them and abuses the trust he had in her. In this case dude, I have read your story - Let her go. If she could do those things before NYSC forget her and move on. She will def do more.

I just had a real painful breakup with my ex - Discovered through another person that she was engaged - not even seeing - engaged to another guy. I also know at least three girls who are cheating on their current boyfriend. I know one who just did her traditional wedding and the day after is doing the dirty with one of my colleagues. Dont let me mention the so called female pillars in the churches that I know of. I have now joined the school of thought of guys who think women all have something wrong with them mentally. There was a dude on NL that I used to shake my heat at because of the way he cusses them out. I can understand him now.

They all have their prices - all of them. Women dont seem to understand the notion of loyalty. I have tried to persuade my female friends that cheat on their guys - that look you wanna taste - let your guy go and go adventure but this same notion of backup. It is even worse when one notes that this has been their behaviour since time. There are some good ones out there but they are increasingly rare.

Harsh but the sooner you realise this as a guy , the better. I knew it before but thot treating women like proper beings was good. Unfortunately it seems playing with their minds is the better option. My advice let her go and find another one.

dominique - you sure that wasnt caused mentally?

is this for real - am interested in finding out!!

Will I soon add my own to this list?

samething my pops and moms are saying , my own sha is na me go live with am , i just dey watch them, i no dey break up with am ,

For her to be telling you means - nothing dey happen ,

Dump his ass,

You did right , She as your girlfriend shouldnt have done that.

mukina - this is not a graveyard like Highbury - although you are in rubbishton grove now , i hear that is even more of a dead pan location than the former one ,

**i do like arsenal chics tho especially before spurs play arsenal most especially those that dont know that form is nothing in derbies**

arsenal females tend to have a thing for Spurs males , they dont wanna do kids!! they need real men!! :p

COME ON YOU SPURS!!!!

I am so glad to see this. I can see the usual lineup of Spurs haterz are here!!

heard some rubbish about COSSY ORJIAKOR and a porn flick featuring dogs ,

She can go - however she is no longer my girl as soon as she tries to buy the form ,

rockhaven - kindly state why you respect her.

mods kindly check IP address - dont want to be talking to a D-ID

sad - this is sad,  engaged? - wow? i wonder how you gonna live with this. You wont trust your guy with any female friends after this because you will be afraid of what you did happening.

What I can see - that guy in your office is playing you. As someone said he will never marry you - simple reason - he has chopped you before you committed to him - he has chopped you whilst you were engaged to someone else - he will never trust you and if he marries you, he will treat you like a piece of shit.

Wut you should do - first thing is to forgive yourself - second is to stay away from that bastard who is knowingly wrecking the good thing you had - thirdly is to refocus on your relationship - fourthly - dont do it again.

Another option is to break up with your engaged guy so you can refocus ,

What is sad is this is common in Nigeria - Innocent guys get gals like you who do this stuff to them. I pray all goes well but I wont lie it is hard for me to respect you after this - Hardly anyone here would - even ashewos wont respect you.

Engaged,  chei!

Dont do it again and dont tell her - believe me , she will never trust you.

But why cheat tho - oh well na medicine after death be this one.

I hate driving in Nigeria because of the factors involved - bad roads, bad drivers, bad policemen. I do it once in a while. I will not blame any guy for not sending driving.

That is a parasite not a wife!

Iranoladun has said all I need to say and I agree with her. Your friend has not acted wisely. She has brought the bank and herself into disrepute!

Report her. She has acted unprofessionally and is a thief.

I make a rule that as soon as my female friends get a boyfriend - i immediately reduce the calls , Because I dont like guys talking to my babe.