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debosky and mccrackles , I know quite a few peeps on that range who have their own homes. And when I say homes i mean homes - not owning a small house as is common in the UK.

Kindly ask around - yes it also depends on the person's expenditure, and on the person. However if you ask around from peeps who have done both - you will find it is easier to save in Nigeria.

dblock - you are funny - show me pics of VGC!! or mobil quarters in Lekki area. A company decides to take good care of its estate. Those people staying there pay about 125k naira per month - Dont ask me how i know , They pay that amount cos that is how much it costs for them to produce their own water, electricity, pave their own roads, have their own sewage disposal, fire engines, security !! Stuff the govt is meant to provide for Nigerians , They have taken care of it cos the govt has failed them in the same way it has failed the rest of us.

I am impressed - I thot i was the only who knew what the original thread poster knew!! The problem is the govt doesnt make this knowledge public - It suits them for the MNO to be blamed!!

You have to consider that if the girl is earning 35k pounds - her counter part in Nigeria earning 20k pounds can save more than her. The girl has to consider council tax, mortgage, income tax, vehicle maintenance fees, cost of living. It is much easier to save in Nigeria.

Real impressed ,  and indeed SAP is where the big money comes from - pity i found that out after i had chosen my venture. It is now I am having headache trying to figure how to train for it!

as uche above me asked - is there an office - i cant go fulltime on a course - but would loved to do a part time one,

Cults decent - Pls I have known some members of buccs who have confessed of being ordered deal with somebody - I have witnessed aiyee - bunch of miscreants try to come and recruit from navy school - na then they know say navy no dey play!! Dealt with them airheads!!

I have no respect for cults - it is as a result of their fruit - Good trees do not bear bad fruits, Bad trees do - Cults in Nigeria are bad trees!!

i laff - well done tubby tubby - i appreciate the bravery u have shown in doing this. am disgusted with jon and his ilk.

I so get where you are coming from. Female friends tend to be girls guys have an interest in - sorry to say - most of the time the interest is sexual.

Female (other sex) friendship can be useful but there are some peeps who dont know where the line is. All I know sha is do not get female enmity - Females who hate you will do anything to destroy you even if it means their own downfall.

Then why ask us - I was suspicious that you had already made up your mind.

Not happy with your decision BUT as you have said IT IS YOUR DECISION. I pray it works out well for all parties involved!

You must be frigging a joke!! Dude you cant get laid in Nigeria!! Besides youa re 18 WDF are you chasing girls this desperately - Believe me premaritial sex is over rated - Focus on your books Make your money - Keep fit and be strong with GOD - Girls will chase you - Then you have to filter out the chaff from the good ,

I mean you are in frigging Ibadan!!

One way I piss off my girlfriend when shopping is to tell her -

Baby I am not gonna choose for you - You go right ahead and make your decision - Dont ask for input from me - It is your choice - I will support it 100%.

Then I walk away - SEE vexation!! Girl gets so damn confused!![quote][/quote]

drive and wisdom!!

This is my first reaction!!

I want so badly not to be harsh but COME AGAIN!!   You have been married for five years - Some guy shows up and you now want to throw all that away because of you feel you love the new guy!! Let me be real honest - that rubbish you wrote about your husband doing stuff to you - THAT IS BULLSHIT!! It is what you cooked up to make yourself feel good and have an excuse.

Damn it - I cant believe you are writing this!! Why then did you get married?

This is my second reaction after thinking this all through!!

You need to sit down with someone you trust and respect and discuss this!! That somebody must be wise!!

If you are in just to shag her - then go ahead and do it , She will tire anyways and one of you will force the other out

If na for wifey - tell her no!

With my girlfriend - I always pay unless she tells me beforehand that it is on her. Another reason why I like her - she actually does pay for them!!

1) Economic Situation - That being said - I know girls whose families are seriously well off - Peeps whose parents are managers in oil, banking and government firms. These girls still do shit for cheap. It is demoralising for a guy trying to settle.

2) The so called rebel mentality

3) Peer Pressure

4) Desire to remain at the forefront of fashion in their environment!

Let me get this right - A playboy is a better MAN than a non-playboy!!

The thread starter has issues - Those boys agreeing that have sisters - KPELE!! I hope you recommend a playboy for them!!

I have a female friend who when she was telling me she found her 54 yr old married boss attractive - I looked at her and thought you need prayers!! Serious prayers!!

Guys - if you are really so insecure about your manliness - my advice is do not marry. You will kill your wife - the first day she questions your judgement!

compatibility then love!! Believe me!!

Notice how a man calls a girl ugly then after a long while of knowing each other - well he becomes used to her and begins to find her attractive. Compatibility is more important IMHO!!

I agree with sistawoman - That is what all male should aspire to. I do not see how that means you will be the main person multitasking in the house. I see we are so used to the way we see the so called 'dominant male' doing stuff. There is nothing wrong in caring for your wife, There is nothing wrong with taking an interest in the kitchen (men in the past needed to know how to cook - how the fvck would they survive on the road? you think it was by buying from peeps on the road - when you catch deer, na raw you go chop am? Arent the best cooks in the world male? Not to mention being well versed in the kitchen allows for a fair bit of lvoers' play in there!!) - Is it taking an interest in the house cleaning? No be your house as well? Shuo? Now my problem is if she asks me to wash her undies- I have never done that ish for anybody and I dont intend to do that now. We have a washing machine - stick it in there!!

Now with financial stuff - the way I see it - there has to be joint account - fvck that hiding money from each other. We will have a degree of autonomy to making decisions - but fvck the woman who decides to call me if she needs to spend money on some minor object. Only call for discussion if it is some expensive stuff or some irrelevant thing that either of us want to use to oppress.

Sex - Pls I am beginning to realise I have a high libido and from what I see - my current girl matches me in it - although we are now in our born again virgin mode - we aint doing it till we tie the knot - tough and requires trust but hey - that is life (as Keshi would put it).

Did I miss anything that I feel it is relevant for all ball-less males and cotton brain females? Most of the things I read here sound like they are coming from insecure brats!! you dont need to prove you are the man - you are already the man - if they like let them cut off your dick and balls - let them amputate all your limbs - cut off your head - You are still the man - Aint nothing gonna ever change that - Quit with the frigging insecurity- So what if the dumb female says 'you are not a man - i am more man than you - eff da ho - dont marry that girl - she is confused , you dont need no confused woman by your side at home with a kitchen full of sharp knives!!

Help me ask them - the thing wey vex me na the naive Nigerian girls wey dey fall for this. One girl - guy meet am ask am to marry am - they no date - it be like say they don gree. When she ask me for advice - i simply yarn am say 'make she dey careful of men wey wan enter her pant!' see vexation!!