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Minxie:
Interesting saying...
Well so far I have a bachelor's degree: BA Law. But before you judge, im currently in my final year of honours and then heading for Masters I know I still know very little but I'm trying. Ive met many other Africans with higher degrees so I always feel so inferior Lol

Oh no, why would I judge you? I know the struggle. Been there, done that. I followed exactly the same path. LLB then LLM and aborted a PhD.

Do you plan on practicing law in any capacity?
Do you plan on going into academia? I'm asking because of the masters degree you intend to take. If you get the masters, will you stop there or head for a PhD?
Degrees don't make a person superior or inferior to another. What I like to see is value.


You have business ideas, have you thought of a way to combine your legal knowledge with the business world?

A curious thought just occurred to me. You wouldn't happen to be left handed would you?

Minxie:
Just based on the lack of shoprite stores in Nigeria. It has the potential to have more stores in Nigeria than South Africa according to population statistics. I think South African companies have approached Nigeria the same way they approached South Africa. They didn't get to know the people of Nigeria and assumed they are the same as South Africans. They didn't spend time with the average Nigerian to properly identify what is wanted and what is needed. They approached the rich Nigerians and forgot the poor. They completely neglected the socio economic responsibility and I think this especially would've given them proper marketing in Nigeria. Poor people see those stores as out of their reach. It's up to these companies to make the average citizen feel like they need them and want them. You can't want and need something that you feel no connection to. Like I would rather buy a gatsby from a takeout place than a gatsby at a fancy five star restaurant. I won't feel connected to the five star restaurant because it doesn't have my vibe. whereas the normal take out joint speaks to my culture and social circle.

This is obviously just my opinion...

No unfortunately I don't own a business. I'm still paying off student debt Lol but I'm here talking like I know things ! please don't take my opinions as me trying to be an expert

I see what you're saying about the potential of shoprite in Nigeria and I agree with you to some extent.
I still think shoprite has done well wherever it has been able to set up and will do well if it chooses locations properly.
As to why it's not everywhere, I think some politics is at play in that regard.

I also know what you mean about the Gatsby takeout vs 5 Star restaurant. I think most people feel that way too. Not to worry, theres something for everyone. When I want to feel down to earth, I know where to go. When I want to feel like I'm doing well in life, I also know where to go

A friend once told me, "Dyon if you're eating and you dont see a single fly, be very careful about that place but if you see flies, you can relax and eat whatever you like". Its not to be taken literally but theres a meaning behind that, can you decipher it?

If you're paying off student debt, then you've graduated. Can I ask what you studied?

Minxie:
definitely, im sure the people will be fine but it's just a very harsh business environment. There's also such a big difference between SA and Nigeria. without proper understanding of consumer demands and the market, my business will surely fail. I mean, if shoprite can't successfully penetrate the market, what chance do I have? lol but thanks for your interest in listening to my future business ventures

Proper understanding of consumer demands...

Right! I didn't want to type too much before but when you said businesses struggle in Nigeria, I wanted to raise this point. It's very important to a business but overlooked or underestimated by many.
Also the business climate isnt as smooth as it could be but still many businesses overcome it.

Why do you think shoprite cant/hasn't fully penetrated the market? They seem to do well anywhere they set up shop.


Do you run a business in S.A?

Minxie:
I would love to but the overall business environment isn't too friendly. I can see Nigerian businesses struggling, imagine how hard it will be for a foreign business. But I would really like to tap into Nigeria's tourism and hospitality industry though... aaaaah a girl can only dream...

Well that's another thing entirely.

And we dont actually think of things as "foreign businesses" (with possible exceptions for cultural stuff like cuisine, arts and entertainment etc). Its just business, something new and different. We may know its owned by a foreigner but we dont think of it that way.

I dont think anyone thinks of mtn, dstv, shoprite as foreign (except when the chips are down ). They are part of the landscape and so would yours be.

Minxie:
I can't just access their market like a Nigerian can save money to open a small shop in SA. So our government needs to address this imbalance by either negotiating more access to their market or closing off access to our informal sector. It's only fair because an average South African doesn't have the means to open a business in Nigeria because it isn't legally allowed. Yet an average Nigerian can open an informal business in SA. So what I'm saying is that if Africa wants to unite, they can't expect unity to only come from one side. It takes an agreement that favors all parties and not just a few.

PS before people attack me for being xenophobic, i was pointing out situations on the ground by using Nigeria and South Africa as an example.

You can open a business in Nigeria, pay a lawyer he'll do it for you.
You're welcome Minxie.

Minxie:
I wish I can pack my bags and just move to Nigeria for a while but unfortunately the process is exhausting and expensive. I have many business ideas that would thrive in Lagos but the admin is just too much.

There's an easy way to do this but you must be prepared to fall in love first

I could find a strapping young bloke for you and your move to Lagos becomes stress free.

OP, 100k isnt much especially for a family man but you seem to be an enterprising person. You have the capacity to make more and even own a small business empire of your own.

I'd say give it careful thought. Ask questions then make your decision.

BLUELemon:
who is David bond? The younger brother of James Bond?

Look him up on YouTube. I'm sure many "red pillers" will enjoy his channel but I dont care for such stuff.

It's a phase in life, one I hope most of you will grow out of.
That's how a client said I should look up David Bond on YouTube. I did and shook my head.

Focus on yourself, all round development is what makes you a winner. If you're a winner, you get everything even the flesh you so desperately desire.

robosky02:
The only cap I know is



The Oceanic Bank cap and t shirt



Cos he never played for Nigeria

Ok

Pacesetter123:
English boy.He refused to play for Nigeria.How dare u say we should include him in de list of Nigeria players in EPL?

I think he got called up at least once. I cant remember.
He's a Nigerian sha, make una sofry sofry

robosky02:
Did he play for Nigeria?


No. .. So get him out

But he's Nigerian and if I'm not mistaken, he has one cap for the country. No?

robosky02:
So guys who do you think is the greatest Nigeria to play in the EPL



The statistics:


1. Efan Ekoku was the first to grace the EPL when he represented Norwich City in April 1993.

2.Celestine Babayaro is the youngest debutant in the history of the Champions League,

3. Shola Ameobi has made the highest appearances in the Premier League with 299 Premier League appearances representing both Newcastle United and Crystal Palace.

4. Yakubu AIYEGBENI (Portsmouth, Middlesbrough Everton & Blackburn – 252 appearances/95 goals/26 assists)

The highest-scoring Nigerian player in the history of the Premier League and behind only Didier Drogba and Emmanuel Adebayor amongst African players


5. John Mikel OBI (Chelsea – 249 appearances/1 goal/10 assists). Is the Nigerian player with the most trophies in England after making 372 appearances in all competitions for the Blues and winning two Premier League titles, three FA Cups, the Champions League and Europa League amongst his extensive silverware collection.

6. Osaze ODEMWINGIE (West Brom, Cardiff & Stoke City – 129 appearances/36 goals/13 assists)

The Only Nigerian players that have won the Premier League Player of the Month award thrice.



7. Austin ‘Jay-Jay’ Okocha (Bolton Wanderers) 124 appearances/14 goals/11 assists)

Austin ‘Jay-Jay’ Okocha was one of the most skilful players to grace the Premier League with his dribbles, flicks and tricks for Bolton Wanderers helping to earn him the Player of the Month award in November 2003.

Slow down. John Fashanu of Wimbledon nko? He was in the EPL before Ekoku. No?

SouthWestBlood:
This can't be true because that guy is a comedian and goes by the name CALLMEWYZEE on Instagram. I guess none of the onlookers recognised him.

I didn't even know he was a comedian but as soon as I saw the video, I knew it was fake.
Didn't make one bit of sense.

Wasn't funny either

SKhanmi:
Hmmm. We are not a unique species nor alone on this planet. But some folks will rather believe the disinfo the mainstream feeds them.

Did it cross your mind that the person narrating these fish tales might be making it up as he goes along?

eazzzy1:
This is not always the case for immigrants, especially the ones of coming from Africa. There is a minimum wage system in most developed country, meaning no matter what you do, you can not earn below certain amount of money. These wages are put in place with consideration to cost of living, i.e housing, transport, feeding, taxation etc. Most minimum wages are livable wages, you can survive and live comfortably if you live according to your means.

Most Diasporans who come back home only do so because they do not see themselves doing these minimum wage paying jobs. e.g your cousin with a master degree wouldn't want to work as a security or sales associate at a store. Depending on ones course of study, grades, age, past work experience, not every diasporan will get the career of their choice. As long as you are able and willing to work and spend according to your means, you won't suffer.

Another valid post.

There is much wisdom in you.

eazzzy1:
Are you a Nigerian? do you have friends and family in diaspora or home who are doing well for themselves but will ignore your request to send money all the time? before you call them stingy or wicked, here are some of the reasons why rich friends do not give out money;

1. They don't have enough: Enough is subjective, someone can earn as much as $100,000/annum but feel he's not earning enough, some people have these dreams of being wealthy and that salary isn't sufficient to get them there. So you have a friend/relative who works in a big firm abroad, you think he's rich, he thinks he isn't earning enough. Even millionaires have needs too.

2. You are not the only one making financial demands: You think you are his best friend because you went to secondary school together and were seat mate or bunk mates in the hostel so automatically he should be predisposed to meeting your needs, well there are primary school best friends, university best friends, first love, NYSC best friends, Neighbours, uncles, aunties, brothers etc who think their request should be met too. It is impossible to meet all these needs.

3. Making financial demand is never a one time thing: I had this habit of giving money to people who ask for financial favors the first time. I thought since they never asked for such before, they must really be in need. I soon found out that after that first time they run to me whenever they need money again, sometimes they space out the request like two months, some every month etc. I then realize that the $100, $200 i send them is never going to be sufficient, they will always come back for more. So i joined the God will provide gang.

4. Yahoo boys : Not every fraudster hacks into companies accounts, or forge the accountants signature, or even find lonely older women/men to scam. Some yahoo boys have resorted to begging, they send you message of how their dad is dying in the hospital, how their sister got arrested for a crime she didn't commit and they need a lawyer bla bla, they call these lies format and once you send them money they pop champagne and call you client.

5. General realization : One day i was going through my bank statement and i noticed i gave out about $500 monthly to family and friends. The same me who will walk into H & M, see a shirt of $40 and think it's too costly. I either buy it grudgingly or wait till it's on sale to buy. I realized i wasn't taking care of myself enough. Most people will come to this realization at a point in their lives.

This thread isn't limited to just people abroad, it include people who work and earn who are home based too. How do you cope with demands?Diasporans what made you rethink your generousity?

Feel free to add yours.

Very on point.
I people just feel free and entitled to demand and expect.

matrix199:
I'll remove the money from the indomie pack, buy some indomie sachets, put them inside the indomie pack, then hope the pastor has a rethink and comes to ask me for the indomie pack. I'll gladly give him the indomie pack now containing indomie sachets, then collect my N20,000 from him. Scoreline: 2 - 0

Clever eh?

matrix199:
I'll remove the money from the indomie pack, buy some indomie sachets, put them inside the indomie pack, then hope the pastor has a rethink and comes to ask me for the indomie pack. I'll gladly give him the indomie pack now containing indomie sachets, then collect my N20,000 from him. Scoreline: 2 - 0

Clever

Oh wow.

I'm excited for the young lad. Beating Carlsen is no mean feat especially someone that young.

OP are you a chess fan, chess player or both?

And the orange one stumbles yet again.

After putting America in danger by ignoring pandemic warnings, he has now chosen to affix his signature to relief checks thereby delaying much needed palliatives.

Behaving like your typical Nigerian politician.

Americans are lucky they have a system that tries it's best to hold him in check. If it was Nigeria with no one to hold him accountable, he would have run the country aground tey tey ago.

Bluethong1:
Good morning bro/sis.


Please I just want to make this brief. I have this girl I have been dating for 2years now. She is black bold and endowed behind.

But lately she has been getting fat excessively and I'm planning to wife her. But right now I'm scared she might get worst when she start having kids for me.

I don't want to offend her. Please how do I tell her to loose some fat without hurting her?

She is the type that manipulate things and I don't want it to seems like I'm getting tired of her of trying to quit or body shaming her.

Please your advice is needed.

Thank you.

Tread carefully, for landmines are ahead.

That said, haven't you been enjoying that endowed behind? How do you think she has been maintaining it?

As for adding weight because of pregnancy, it's almost inevitable.

I think there's a deeper issue though. This one that you are scared to express yourself because of her manipulative behavior indicates serious problems ahead. You better have an honest, straightforward talk with her before you do for better for worse.

Emotional blackmail can lead to resentment and later hatred. Think twice, think well.

Finally, there used to be an advice given in the days of yore.
If you want to know what your wife will look like after many years, go and look at her mama.

Reverse Samson effect.

Blankcard:
I hear it's not so easy. Imagine the whole family faced with being excommunicated.

It's just a lot of complexities. Little wonder it has eaten deep into the core of those who may want nothing to do with the practice.

The question is, how long will humanity endure this?

I get it, I'm just saying that personally I think I would defy the norm.
It's my happiness at stake. They have lived their life, I have the right to live mine.


Edit: I just realized you're the OP.

I think a lot depends on the man in question. If you're willing, and he is brave enough you guys can "cut chain".
Don't force him or emotionally blackmail him into it. It has to be his decision so he realizes the implications and is ready for it.

I wish both of you the best of luck.

Evablizin:
hold your "lurr." i don't want.

Ah don't do like this na.

Issa very gentle beating. I will even pet you after

donuchris007:
decent fun seeker

Contradiction perhaps?

Onions?

Ever had someone try to kiss you after eating suya?

donuchris007:
Are you 35_50? You don't want to marry but need a man for fun, adventure and companion.Email me let get to know each other.
I am 30, 6 feet tall. Self dependent. Mature, responsible and good looking.
I don't want commitment (marriage for now) so no marriage on the table. I can hold my end so I won't be depending on you.

OP, I thought you said decent woman?

Evablizin:
Attention seeker. Weldone oh,i no fit use my data watch wetin go vex me.

Come, let me beat you small. You know I lurr you

Well this is just sad.

I would go ahead if it were me but then maybe I'm just saying so because I'm not in that situation.

I still believe I'd go ahead. Family shouldn't interfere, they should limit themselves to advice and support whatever decision is taken by the couple.

Confusing tatt.