₦airaland Forum

Of course he sees Obi as the biggest threat to Atiku and Tinubu combined ambitions. Nobody ever thought Obi's candidacy would gather such a great youth power base, and they're left with no choice but to start attacking him from all angles. Reno is simply a jobber, and I see him from that angle.

The marriage has been weak from the very start, it's just that the man has been proping it up by taking alot of shits and nonsenses from the wife.
The woman is not only a bitter human being, but had indirectly wanted out. Otherwise how else would one explain all these crass behaviours. There is no point reconciling unless she changes for good. Be very careful with her please. This kind of woman can send someone to great beyond.

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

I think both of you went too far in arguing on such minor thing as who does most work in the family. Needless to say that you crossed the redline by dropping the call on him and giving him cold shoulder for 9-weeks even after he tried to reach out for reconciliation. Haba, is this how you dey vex or is there sth else going on. Well the marriage is nearly ruined. This is kind of shooting oneself on the foot. If you still love him, go and get relatives or friends to intervene as I can see he's upto sth.

Very nice work. He should be empowered to produce more. That's the direction Nigeria should be going. New Nigeria, New Thinking

Dalil8:
No one in Oxford will vote for you during the election.

Better come home.

If i were him i'll focus more on the North and reach out to religious leaders there. They are the key.

Of course, yes. But those people that are there, are also Nigerians. No one should be left out in canvassing for the vote. You reach out to everyone and treat everyone with respect except those who doesn't deserve any respect because they lack it in the first place. He will definitely warm himself up to the northern Nigerians. It's a tricky one though but with time they will fully accept him because he is genuine and meant well for everybody. He will serve everyone's interest, not just a section of the country.

Why is he, and his principle then fighting the so called fourth position candidate? Or is someone having a nightmare.

Na their way ooo! Nothing else to use to convince electorates, they will resort to destruction. It might even get worst with time but somehow Obi-Datti will overcome because I can see a different, angry, youths who have had enough of political nonsenses over the years.

Buy one get one free.

derecho:
See sweet presentation... compare it with Jumoke okoya-thomas 29 mins of sham


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nEf08QBlyRI

God have mercy for Nigeria. If Nigeria repeat the same mistake of 2015 by next year, then I'm done.
No I can't take it any longer after watching this interview.

Now I see that ASUU has no conscience at all. How can you keep Nigeria youths at home for 8 months over a protracted fight. You win some, you let go some, then fight another day. Abeg pity the youths and go back to the classroom. When Obi comes he will sort things out. He understands the value of education.

Sheikh Gumi just come to my mind.. I don't know why.

Who listens to FFK? Where belle face politician. No substance.

Emperor on the beat!

Wike the emperor. He's currently intoxicated by power. Very soon that power will pass to another person. It will be interesting to see how Wike will fare politically at that time.

mapist:
I second some of your points but for some, i disagree. Imagine being milked and your co-operation is still expected? This is why it is very difficult to blame the guy for his reaction.

I clearly said, unless he's being milked by his inlaws then he has the bragging right to react in a way to send a message that he's not a fool. But as the lady narrated, it's just ordinary courtesy for Christ sake. I know some relatives can be "busy-body" on things that doesn't concern them, but a smart and savvy guy would always know how to navigate thru and still go home with his trophy.

Marriage is not painted in black and white, it is a spectrum of uncertainties - all b/c people are involved. But if people are not involved, it can no longer be called marriage.

GboyegaD:
Let me start from courtesy, in life everyone licks ass however, it is about knowing whose ass you want to lick. That she is with her aunt doesn't imply he needs talk to her. He's got no business with her and perhaps, he wasn't interested in the over familiarity. He doesn't owe her a thank you as such, it's got nothing to do with been courteous.

We don't have the details, it would be nice we don't overstress it. He did what was best for him the same way she did hers. If she wasn't feeling she did bad, she wouldn't have resolved to Nairaland. This is my opinion.

Oya naah make him go marry a m. Shey if someone come dey show your family say e no send any of you, say na only the girl e sabi, you go give a m ur sister? It's a big red flag - potentially he could do worst after marriage.

Let him go and try same shit in another family wey get strong level and ground, e no fit enter gate sef. Nonsense!

For the lady, she did the right thing. As a human being you have to use your God given senses to pick bad and embarrassing behaviour as early as possible in a relationship. Many people hide it and package themselves very well until marriage contract is drawn and signed, but if you are fortunate as this lady has, you should call your would-be partner to order and if he's not going to pay attention to it, then take a walk. You don't willingly and awakenly enter fire, it will burn you. Enough said.

GboyegaD:
I would rather say to each his own. There's no need pretending and if you read her post well, it is obvious hers is an intrusive family and they labeling him as rude is expected because he isn't giving in.

She should grow up to learn marriage relationships is about the duo getting married.

Regardless of whether they all accepted him or not, it is immature to go into stupid argument with your would be inlaws unless they are out to milk you or they are simply useless. But in this case, I think he just failed the very basics, of playing and paying courtesies. You have just spoken with your lady on phone, and on finding out that her aunty was with her, may be a little hello and thanks for helping xyz with shopping today will not do you harm but endear you more to the family - regardless of whether you mean it or not. Play the politics for Christ sake. You are a stranger and you should know that every of your moves or behaviour is monitored and read. Going there and dey show yourself with crass rudeness is recipe for failure. I cannot fault the lady because the bobo failed the basics.

More will join him, as they all seem to lack sense.

GboyegaD:
You are the one I should ask if you are ready for marriage. I wonder how you allowed people get into your head. You said he argued with your aunt, and you were pained. Should he keep quiet if he's not okay with whatever the cause of the argument was because he wants a marriage?

I don't even understand how your aunt was pissed that he didn't call to thank her for taking you to the market to buy the engagement clothes. Was he the one who suggested you approach your aunt to help you? If he is not, then he doesn't owe her that obligation. If he chooses to say thank you, so be it and if he doesn't, no big deal.

Lastly, your parent's (mom in particular) reservation indirectly beclouded your thought and you suggesting you put the wedding on hold gave him the opportunity to think through the entire thing. Perhaps, you guys were going on a fast lane and that statement made him think and also, have conversation with his folks who might have felt with this much troubles from external influences before the wedding, he should just save his head.

Like the Yorubas will say, "Oju to ma ba ni kale, kin ti a ti owuro se pin" implying, whatever would last long doesn't stress you from inception. You both are lucky in your ways and you both should see it as each party is right with his/her decision.

I just needed to add this, in your next relationship (whether he comes back or a new relationship), remember you both are the prize and treat each other that way. If he doesn't treat you like a prize or you can't treat him as one, please, be quick to move. Don't be carried away by the people of the world who have no place in your home. Imagine some telling you to do thanksgiving when you were the one who put the wedding on hold should tell you they are like dance instructors who teaches you to dance but will never borrow you their legs to do the dance.

If what the lady narrated is correct then the guy is very rude and immature to venture into marriage. He probably thought marriage is done in isolation of families, no, unless the family are messed up family.

You have to play the politics until you go home with your priced possession (your wife or husband) then after, both of you will establish your own family boundary. Quarrelling with families from onset is not good.

Atiku, once upon a time, was talking about restructuring Nigeria for equitable representation of the constituent regions but opportunity has presented itself and he didn't walk the talk. First, he hastily withdrew his statement condemning the killing of Deborah. It smacks of someone who chose ignominy rather than doing the right thing. Now PDP is about to implode. Restructuring is gone with the winds as well.

Why is PDP lacking in "balance of roles" from it geopolitical bases esp south. Seems they are towing the pathway of APC who succeeded in putting knife in the fabric that holds us together. Lopsided appointments for nearly 8 years of APC govt.

At least he went to university and never lied that he had philosophy degree 3rd class. And he had improved so much academically over the years that he could teach Reno et'al in Economics and Government. He has attended Ivy colleges for advanced degrees, and have chaired the affairs of companies and state.

Nigerians youths should pls compare and contrast Peter Obi's credentials (he publicly declared it) with Buharis' credential that Reno mentioned, or Tinubu & Atiku credentials that he didn't mention. Transparency is antidote of lies.

As clear as crystal!

We should not throw away what has kept us together for decades on the platter of political expediency to gratify an individual or group of people's selfish quest. We should rather preserve and even improve on how we should equitably get things done in the interest of Nigeria. Some of the candidates are only there for self glory, not that there is any significant or new ways of doing things, they want to bring. It's up to the youths to try and rein in Nigeria back to pathway of peace, security and equitable distribution of resources (human & material). You choose wisely amongst the four candidates.

He is very different and unique from other three candidates. Needless to say that he's far more better than all of them put together! You see why all of them are on him, trying hard to find something to nail him. This is the first time in post military Nigeria, that the youths are championing a candidate to lead Nigeria. They should not let down their guard by listening to rhetorics of the old brigades. They will use anything to fight (esp money, religion and tribe) but the strength of a nation lies in their youth. Don't fall for any of it.

Wike is doing the right thing, the North cannot take all the positions and expect other regions to understand. What kind of one Nigeria is that? Scam!

I just remembered Timaya and Phyno song " telli person"

Different strokes for different folks. It is good.

Reno is gradually sliding into delusion or schizophrenia because of Peter Obi. Haba, Tinubu and Kwankwaso are also candidates.

A council filled with "former this and former that"...no new young person with brain to bring bright ideas. Same of the same, they will go out and touch mumu button of poor electorates again.

Imagine Tinubu and Shetima on driver's seat of Nigeria affairs, it will be another hell. Is it that Nigerians simply like suffering?

His weakest point is sex and it has ruined his reputation forever. Would justice have been served if he was in Nigeria? No!

It is even worst crime to deny citizens the right to be in school when their mates in other climes are studying.

Buhari and his delusional thoughts. It is difficult to market failure. What do you think ShehuGarba, FemiAdeshina and Lai Mohammed were doing?

Nigerians let's vote Buhari one more time