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SirShymexx:
It depends on the severity of the corporal punishment.

A little bit of smacking isn't bad...but when it's too much, then I'm against it.

If you don't smack them, someone will outside - that's how it goes.

Hmmm...maybe, and maybe not.

I think it depends on the kid's personality. Some only need a disapproving look to "whip" them in shape. Others can be a bit er...headstrong, while a harsh word could make others literally crumble. But yeah, I get where you're coming from.

SirShymexx:
But you lot take it too far.

I love my black women and all the goodies they secrete.

But damn!- you lot are a pain in the arse.

Aren't we just so? But you wouldn't have us any other way. i.e: cowering under the staircase when we hear your engine revving in the drive way, or on hearing your keys turn in the lock. That's very Caucasian-ish.

SirShymexx:
Chill - enjoy life to the fullest.

Raise great kids - educate them about what life is about when he needs to, by using stringent tried/tested methods a la bootcamp-esque style.

So basically, the dad gets the time of his life raising his kids bootcamp style?

Come oh, are you for or against corporal punishment? You know, the kneel-down-pick-pin.....froggy jumping while balancing a coke bottle atop one's head...or being asked to go pluck the cain that would be used in flogging your bottom.

SirShymexx:
A leopard can't change its spots - the melanin and excessive testosterone in black women are responsible for the anger.

ABW syndrome is incurable, no matter how you spin it.

Lol! Shymexx!!

We aren't angry. We just ain't nobody's pushover.

KanwuliaJara:
Thank you jare!!!!
The truth be always BITTER!
The lists of NEGATIVITIES are ENDLESS!

*dis thread go disappear soon. Saving snap-shots in my NL archives offline*

Haha!

Before, or after some of us get banned?

Come to think of it, sharing a cell block with you and SirShymexx would be an experience not to forget!

SirShymexx:
Dysfunctional? - I don't think so.

Their methods might be a tad bit stringent, but they're the best.

I hated my dad growing up, however, every time I look back now, I appreciate him more. He's a warrior!

Be honest.

Would you be that strict with your own kids when the time comes? I bet you'll be a softie, Shymexx.

SirShymexx:
Lol.

Naija dads just wanna chill and raise great kids, man.

That's very oxymoron-ish.

How can a man chill and yet raise great kids?

This is fun.

KanwuliaJara, nuffin do you.

@OP:

#10: The chronic 419er

#11: The Jailbird

#12: The Schizophrenic nutcase

#13: The bone-idle, jobless, shyte stirrer, and ever-watchful monitoring spirit (Your average Nairalander male)

Stillfire:
What culture requires you not to speak up when you have been disrespected?
My Igbo tradition does not require I keep mute when a man disrespects me.
So next time make sure you state the ethnic group that tells you to die in silence and rather whine on the internet when disrespected.

edwife:
It is not a must to open a thread and please learn to mind your business!

damiso:

You don't know that the wife so as not to appear 'submissive' should have chased the girls plus her hubby out of her child's party based on the 'FACT' that all bleaching woman are runs girls and are definitely dating her husband '
NL and comic relief

Chillisauce:
How do you know they were runs babes?
And what's the difference between you and your friend with these so called runs babes.
E bi like say é dey pain you say dem dey receive attention while you and friend no one ask una whether una dey sell market?
typical lagosian amebo.

You ladies are just killing me, I tell ya!

@OP: a.k.a Justfarb2... How old are you? Pls focus on your JAMB / NECO / SSCE exams or whatever it is they're called these days. If you aspire to be a runs girl when you grow up, at least you'll have your education to fall back on when times get hard.

KanwuliaJara:
Only if he is a WHITE MAN!

Lol!

What difference does it make na?

Shiningmama:
Thanks dear, God bless you.
I didn't inform anyone I want to leave, it was when the mum noticed we weren't doing as we used to that she asked him what happened. And he said I can't stop him from chatting with his female friends, though he had affairs with them one time or the other but he can't say because of me he will stop chatting with them.
I expained to the mum thaat all what I need is for him to just respect me once he is at home. He should postpone the chat till next dayy at his office when I won't be there. Atimes, these women will send messages, maybe if he didn't reply on time, they will call to tell him to come online, I will see the name of the caller. From there I was able to get their names and no. I saved it on my phone. Whenever he is online on whatsapp, they will be online too.
He got upset when I told him in the presence of his mum to respect me when he is at home by not chhatting with them. He said and I quote“ in that case, then you have to leave my house becos can't becos of you stop chatting with them. What do u have to offer me, they have lots of things to offer” end of quote
I then asked if leave what of my children, that was when the mother replied that I didn't bring children here bla. Bla bla

Shingingmama, sorry I haven't been following up on you.

The more I read your posts about what's going on in your home, the angrier I get. Sweet Jesus! You're even having to plead with him not to disrespect you at home? He shouldn't be disrespecting you at all!

I swear, none of this would be happening to you if you were my daughter!!

I know you don't want to leave your kids but you've swallowed a lot of shyte from this man for over 10 months now. The initial advice I gave you was to help you rebuild your self-esteem. To rediscover yourself and look forward. It was given to help you cope with your situation then. Now, you need to move on from that.

That notwithstanding, the fact remains that you're a young, vibrant, married woman forced to live like a nun in servitude in your own home. Can this man survive a month without sex? And yet he subjects you with worse? This isn't sustainable. You can't live the rest of your married life like this. We're talking the next 40, 50, 60+ years. You're looking at the wrong people again and saying to yourself, if she (his best friend's wife) can manage without sex for 8 years, then what is 10 months in the grand scheme of things?

Shingingmama, throw yourself into your business o! I know you said you've started something small on the side - good on you. But you must really put your head down, girl and make lots of money! Make money, make money, make money, Shiningmama so you can get your independence. And freedom from that bondage of a marriage. You need to set yourself and your kids free from that environment. It isn't healthy. Not for you, and certainly not for your kids who see how their dad treats their mum whilst having his numerous affairs.

You husband's got you well and truly trapped because he knows you won't leave your kids, hence him treating you the way he does. Just like Cococandy suggested, keep your mouth shut and carefully, methodically plan your exit strategy from that bondage. This should give you something to look forward to. To strive and work even harder to gain your financial and emotional freedom.

The sooner you leave, the better for you. And hopefully, someday, you'll meet someone who'll love, and respect you for who you are, and not for what you can "do for him". Someone who will cherish you and treat you right. No one has the right to hold you back and down. You need to move on with your life.

alizenbohr:
I think you misquoted sirman.

Yep, I did.

Apologies Sirman.

Acquilla:
Woww this is an eye opener...........I cant thank you enough!!!!!!!! I am really grateful...... . By the grace of God, I will send you our wedding invitation personally!!!! I see tips on how to be the best husband she could ever have in your analytical replies. May almighty God bless the source of your huge knowledge......may your oil never run dry.....may you continue to progress higher and higher. I called her just now and spoke in an unusual manner. She was dumbfounded while the conversation lasted because i was expressive for the first time ever!!! she was so happy!!!! I found alot of peace and Joy in your reply. You said 55percent could actually turn to 100!!!! given the right environment.....wowww!!! I will definitely call you not to give you her number for someone thats gonna treat her as an "empress" though. I will treat her myself thanks . I will do a hard reset on my heart as you have indirectly suggested. I feel so peaceful. I have been unhappy and this has been a burden for awhile. God bless you abundantly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry to be a party pooper, but I doubt the sincerity of this your response.

You've had two whole years of chronic indecision and now, in the space of just four hours (i.e: the time lapse between Bellong's post and your response), you've made a complete U-turn? Is that how easy it is for you to switch emotions? Like a tap? ON and OFF at will?

And what did you mean by the bolded bit? Re: speaking to her in an "unusual" manner. How?

You know what I think? I think, you were shocked at the responses you got from your initial epistle. Almost everyone, both male and female have been totally against you and now for some reason best known to you, you want to get back on the "right" side of the lane?

Bros, if this your story has any shred of truth in it, you just aren't into this girl. You've given your reasons and just because people don't like them (me included), doesn't mean you should be insincere to your heart and go ahead and marry the wrong girl.

Just let her go, mate.

Bebetter:
Add this: Some men don't cheat because of their current financial status!

Cheating costs money people! whether you are keeping a concubine outside or just plain picking up hoes at the clubs... some men will not bother to try any because they just can't cope financially... but if level venture change ehn! you know the rest of the story.

Wicked!

Yustash001:
All the ladies are only talking about infertility....they ignore the impotent aspect.....well for me if I find out that my wife is infertile...I may try marrying another wife....shikena..

Re: Impotency a.k.a can't get it up, that's not applicable.

Why? Because I believe in test-driving before saying "I do". So I suppose your question should be, "Would you marry an impotent partner?" And my response to that is a resounding NO.

tearoses:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_8mdH20qTQ


crazy cat

Poor kitty. Was scared stiff.

edwife:
but you must stop laughing now ,you know me more tantrums coming your way in case....

Okay.

Missed my Total Abs Workout class. Lemme catch the Indoor Cycle / Spin class and after that, will go for a short lane swim.

Later babes.

Lovely pics.

Nice one Onila.

Shhhh!! Nor dey shout like this na. Why d'you wanna wash our dirty linen in public?

edwife:
You stood me up after spamming my mention,do you know how many miles threads i had to go just to look for you?

I did?

Did you feel bad for long?

edwife:
I stayed for 8 hours waiting and waiting then you showed up briefly without letting me know then disappeared for another one week?

#...trying unsuccessfully not to laugh...#

Babes, nor vex. Na gym I dey go immediately after work and when I get back, t'is pretty late. Didn't think you'll be up till then. Abeg nor vex. Biko nu, Pele.

Cutehector:
Alright, let's chook our mind for this matter ontop dis station.. Abeg make una no change dah dial..

So d question is, will u marry a second wife (for the men) or divorce ur husband (for d ladies) if u discover ur spouse is rendered impotent or infertile from results from d family doctor?

Cc: ishilove, lalasticlala

No, I won't divorce him.

I meant every word of those vows I made that day with him - for better for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.

As long as he treats me right (i.e: with love and respect), then we're good to go. Granted, kids are an important part of marriage, but they aren't everything. Additionally, there are other alternative routes to explore, namely, adoption.

[quote author=edwife post=35032061][/quote]Don't you think it's a bit early in the week to throw strops, Eds?

edwife:

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Akposy:
Tanx. Add Cc NLJega

Done.

bellong:
The mention button gave you out. You can still survive it for 6 days

Ahhh!

njokusboy:
Okay

Lolzz, if I hear, I no dey do collabo things plus I can't even swim

Nd dat pix looks awkward nah, you know how many thousand bacteria those people dey distribute?

Okay, posh boi - I don hear

njokusboy:
A woman used that derogatory term other women, she agrees that women fall for meatpie and coke.... I was only helping her cement it...

Nd I no fit dey dat kain pix, I can't stand the sight of shirtless men around me, makes me uncomfortable and I don't do public pools... Jacuzzi maybe

You're going overboard with your reaction. Still fire didn't mean it that way. It was just a sarcastic remark.

Re: the bolded - na lie! You dey there wella. It's your kinda thing.

Anyway, which one be "dat kain pix" again?

njokusboy:
Yeah right, dats how much most women are worth

Your type of women, no doubt.

So, Njokusboy, where are you in that pic?

5minsmadness:

I beg your pardon madam!
It has been scientifically proven that the colour RED invokes emotions of excitement, arousal and passion. Hence it is used a lot in fashion, secret societies and in instigating the charging of Bulls by matadors in Spain. The colour RED immediately brings life and fervour to a situation; heck, it is the colour of blood which gives life!

Having said this it is well known that a woman in skimpily clad attire will always quicken the heartbeat of any red blooded man. Vile quarrels and bitter hatred, harsh words spoken and punitive silence, all can be brought to an end by the appearance of a sexily clad member of the female species. It is the one thing that calms a man down other than beer.

Now combine these two together : a skimpily attired woman dressed in nothing but a red bra and matching silk red panties... And you have heaven on earth. All quarrels cease. All in differences become insignificant. For in that moment the woman holds the manbeast in the palm of her hands. In that moment her every wish is his to obey.


Never underestimate the power of the Red bra and pant!

Lawd!

You need Jesus, man.

manee2:
__ it helped, TNX plenty

You're welcome.

smartmom:
how did you know? u b winch? lol am good. been a while dear. been verrry busy. how is my wife? and the others?

e dey obvious na.

We're all good babes. You and yours?

Akposy:
Cococandy, efemenaxy, herzumpther, roland17 babyosisi bring your people here and vote like this
I vote Akposy
cc NlJega

All right then. Anything to stop you yelling ma name from the rooftops.

[size=28pt]I vote Akposy[/size]

Add Cc NLJega

I see you peeping, Smartmom.

Howdy?