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Celebrities / Re: Uche Jombo's 40th Birthday Party: Thrown Inside Pool By Ini Edo by EfemenaXY: 10:10am On Dec 29, 2019 |
Kate Henshaw and Ini Edo. Two of my favourite actresses 1 Like |
Family / Re: Please Give Me Another Chance To Live Again by EfemenaXY: 9:30am On Dec 29, 2019 |
Liveagain: Believe me, no one really cares. You’d only be worried if you’ve claimed to be what you aren’t in the past, or written abusive and insulting posts to others; in which case you need to face your comeuppance with karma. Opening a new account to beg online reeks of dishonesty and you won’t be the first online scammer trying out his/her luck. Anyway, rather than spend precious time and data overzealously begging for money on here, use that time and effort to look for something else from which you can save towards accumulating a deposit to hire / purchase a keke for yourself. Go to your local restaurants and ask for work as a dishwasher. Or offer your services as a wheelbarrow pusher in the markets to help customers carry their items from the traders to their cars. Offer your services as a toilet cleaner locally. Or as a labourer. Money doesn’t smell, nor will good old fashioned hard work kill you. It’s more honerable than begging strangers online and you get to keep your integrity. |
Family / Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by EfemenaXY: 8:47am On Dec 25, 2019 |
Ujuvals1: Madam. In as much as I commend your efforts to help your husband and build your family, YOU NEED TO SLOWDOWN AND STOP TAKING ADDITIONAL RESPONSIBILITIES!! Do you want to die from high BP or stroke??! What’s wrong with you? You’re not a single mother, neither are you a divorcee or widow. You have a man there with you and it’s high time he stops feeling sorry for himself, gets up and starts hustling. Bad things happen to the best of us but that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. That’s life. So you got swindled / scammed by a bàstàrd out of borrowed money. Tough! You’re young. Your man is young. You two have got the energy that comes with youth; good health (my inference based on your writeup), and your whole lives ahead of you. Both of you should learn from this. Him: not to trust anyone. You: not to take on more than you can handle. Your man should grow a backbone and try to at least meet you halfway in terms of effort. You only have one life to live. Make the most of it. I understand your need to vent and you have my heartfelt sympathy for what you’re currently going through - and that of Nairalanders reading your posts, I’m sure. You don’t have to keep explaining yourself. We get it. You started off well initially. Now spend less time on Nairaland and more time facing your pressing issues. The longer you hang around here, the less authentic your story becomes. It is well. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Do You Stay Around Lekki And Its Environs? If Yes,please Help A Brother. by EfemenaXY: 8:20pm On Aug 05, 2019 |
walyx: What sort of job do you do at the school? Please, don’t say teaching |
Web Market / Re: UPDATED: How Any Dummy Can Make Money Writing Online by EfemenaXY: 8:17pm On Aug 05, 2019 |
Only you - nine pages and still counting. Boy you deserve an award for persistent marketing 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Need A Young, Dark Skinned, Wealthy Igbo man for Marriage. by EfemenaXY: 8:11pm On Aug 05, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1: Lol! Of course it isn’t real. Even someone high on igboo won’t type such. Makes one wonder what she brings to the table apart from being “fair-skinned”. I’m good though - thanks 27 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: I Lost My Cousin And His Friends by EfemenaXY: 8:08pm On Aug 05, 2019 |
Family / Re: These Leaves Can Lower Your Blood Sugar Levels Quickly by EfemenaXY: 8:04pm On Aug 05, 2019 |
Omaricha002: @op: Any pictures of these wonder leaves? |
Family / Re: I Need A Young, Dark Skinned, Wealthy Igbo man for Marriage. by EfemenaXY: 7:21pm On Aug 05, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1: Lol! MBJ in the house! Howdy? 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Lost My Cousin And His Friends by EfemenaXY: 7:17pm On Aug 05, 2019 |
thorpido: Indeed it really has been We’re all good thanks - you and yours? 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Lost My Cousin And His Friends by EfemenaXY: 7:14pm On Aug 05, 2019 |
ahnie: Haha! Tuzémè Omoté Isoko! Vrendo oh Kobu wö? Kor Oza we, avo omomo?? |
Family / Re: bugs by EfemenaXY: 6:57am On Aug 05, 2019 |
damesilver: Why would you sell heavily infested furniture? Were your buyers aware of this? 19 Likes |
Family / Re: I Lost My Cousin And His Friends by EfemenaXY: 6:46am On Aug 05, 2019 |
thorpido: Exactly my thoughts. @op: my condolences. Take heart. |
Celebrities / Re: Anita Joseph Cringes After Seeing A Viral Crocophilia Video Of A Nigerian Lady by EfemenaXY: 7:11pm On Mar 10, 2019 |
cococandy: Oh lord! How can I unwatch what I've just watched?? |
Family / Re: See How I Started My New Year. Wow by EfemenaXY: 8:51am On Jan 03, 2019 |
Tinosa: Stop trying to defend the indefensible. Doesn’t make you look good. Next time use the Literature Section. The Family Section is for people seeking advice to real life problems. Genuine issues. Not for illogically-thought-out and make-believe fantasy tales. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: See How I Started My New Year. Wow by EfemenaXY: 8:44am On Jan 03, 2019 |
Ishilove: What??!!! So you mean this narrative is nothing but a pack of lies?? Some people sha. Anyway I must admit she’s a poor Story for the gods. @op: there’s nothing wrong with weaving a web of lies / fairytales for entertainment. It’s called creative writing. But it doesn’t belong here. Next time unleash your inner passion for fiction in the Literature Section. We promise we’ll still be thrilled... 1 Like |
Family / Re: Wife Drags Her Cheating Husband By His Manhood Publicly [Photos] by EfemenaXY: 7:46am On Jan 02, 2019 |
Lol @ “How can you see a grown up man like this and think he is single?...you can even see he is clean, to show that someone is taking care of him. Madam: First of all he isn’t grown up and secondly he isn’t clean. Do your self a favour and go check yourself for STDs incase he’s passed on something nasty to you. |
Family / Re: Fayemi’s Wife Pays Hospital Bills Of Ekiti First Babies Of 2019 by EfemenaXY: 7:37am On Jan 02, 2019 |
Cheap, tacky, publicity stunt. What makes those few selected families more deserving than others whose babies were / are to be born after the new year?? Every citizen is entitled to basic infrastructure and this includes good roads, access to good education, and affordable healthcare at the very least. These amongst others are what Nigerian citizens pay tax for. When access to these basic infrastructure is viewed as a luxury, then there is a problem. It’s also not her money to give out but the people’s. Anyway, the 2019 election is just around the corner. |
Family / Re: What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity by EfemenaXY: 10:31pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
Seahawk: Sounds like an ôrgy. What’s the point of being married? Better for both parties to “untie” themselves and become free agents rather than undermine the institution of marriage by swapping bodily fluids with numerous partners. Eeek!! |
Family / Re: Hilarious Thanksgiving Dance (Video) by EfemenaXY: 9:27pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
Moneyfem: I doubt you know the meaning of the words “hilarious” and “dance”. Replace “hilarious” with “irritating” and “dance” with “screech”. |
Family / Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by EfemenaXY: 8:58pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
royalamour: Divorce. Divorce. Divorce. Divorce isn’t always the answer to marital problems and should never be taken lightly especially when there are children involved. This should only ever be the last resort if all else has failed. Besides, there’s always three sides to every story: ~ His side ~ Her side ~ The truth Based purely on your side of the story, you need to do some serious soul searching and ask yourself why your wife changed overnight. The first few years of marriage are the honeymoon stage. You courted this woman for 11 months. That’s quite a while to have studied her. There is no way a person can keep up the pretence for 11 long months (unless yours was a long distance relationship?). There must have been red flags. You just chose to ignore them. Nonetheless, there HAS to be a reason why she’s suddenly turned 360os on you. Obviously there appears to be: 1. An emotional black hole in your relationship. The ex turning up is a symptom of the underlying issues with your marriage. A woman would only turn to an ex or another man if her emotional needs aren’t being met. For example when discussing with your wife, do you seek her opinion / input or do you wave aside her views? Do you say “Thank you” to make her feel appreciated when she gives / does something you are a recipient of? What is your sex life like with her? Do you take the time to satisfy her needs? Or is it all about you, you, and you? Is life with you one endless boring routine? Or do you make efforts to spice it up? 2. Trust Issues. When a wife starts stashing away huge sums of cash in secret, it means she’s preparing a nest egg for herself and her kids without you in the picture. Most times this action arises from betrayal or if she perceives you to have betrayed her. Have you ever cheated on her? Or done something to make her feel insecure in your union? 3. Immaturity. A refusal to acknowledge one’s fault / mistake and apologise accordingly is usually down to misplaced pride and immaturity. Wisdom comes with age. How old is your wife? For a marriage to work, both parties have to roll up their sleeves and get stuck in. You have to ask yourself if there’s any part of you that wants to salvage the marriage. If you do, then you need to ask your wife if she’s still interested in the marriage too. If the answer is “yes” from both of you, then both of you need to make the effort to save it. Start by seeking help from a neutral third party such as a marriage counsellor. Book a couple of sessions with them so you and wifey can talk through your issues. Your problems didn’t start today. They’ve festered for over four years so you need to be patient and not expect everything to be miraculously resolved in one day. A lot of patience, perseverance, and constant communication will be needed to get your relationship back to a healthy state. It is well. 173 Likes 20 Shares |
Family / Re: See How I Started My New Year. Wow by EfemenaXY: 8:11pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
Tinosa: What is this?? ~ You were on an N80k salary ~ You borrowed (probably with interest to pay back) 12.5 times your salary (i.e. N1m) to loan to someone else I’m sorry but I’ve got to ask you this in the nicest way I can.... WERE YOU DRUNK? Or BEWITCHED perhaps??! Funny thing is I still see this person and family once a while but we aren't relating No surprises there and things seems to be going fine for them yet am here roasting and I have 500k out there. It is well. Another one is owing me 200k and I still see her but no mention of my money. I learnt my lesson from those big monies and was really tight fisted for a while but not for long . I really love giving to people in serious need but I just don't have d means to give right now rather I'm even d one in need. It may just be my weakness No, you obviously haven’t learnt you lesson as you seem to have bottomless pockets. Look, if you really want to help others, then direct your funds to a more worthwhile cause. A cause where the beneficiaries will forever appreciate your help. Donate to an orphanage. Sponsor a child’s education. Help purchase medical equipment for your local health centre, find ways to help the less physically abled eg the blind, mute, etc Anything rather than throw away money at lost causes. 10 Likes |
Family / Re: The Agony Of An Over Ripe bachelor/spinster by EfemenaXY: 12:18pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
The word “overripe” is out of context in your title. You aren’t referring to fruits! Anyway if your main issue is needing a well prepared hot dinner awaiting you when you return home from work, then perhaps what you really need is a live in cook. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Grade "A" Akube(okirika) Shoes Available by EfemenaXY: 12:00pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
Do you disinfect your footwear prior to sale? |
Family / Re: See How I Started My New Year. Wow by EfemenaXY: 11:52am On Jan 01, 2019 |
chendstone01: So sorry about your loss. May the good Lord comfort you and give you the strength to carry on. It is well dear. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: See How I Started My New Year. Wow by EfemenaXY: 11:49am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Tinosa: This is such a predictable story and the outcome isn’t surprising. I know it’s an unpleasant feeling having to remind a “borrower” to keep to their promise but the fact is, you lent out of compassion and you really do need your money back. Go back to her and ask her to pay your money back. Be direct and don’t beat around the bush. I.e. you might say, Morning madam (or whatever her name is), I’ve come to collect my N13k as agreed. Can I have it back now, please? Just get straight to the point and don’t waffle by asking questions such as “how are you? How is the family?” etc. You don’t want to give her an excuse to digress with more woeful stories. In the meantime learn from this. Never lend out what you can’t afford. It’s either you give out “dash money” or you learn to say a firm “No” disguised as “sorry I don’t have oh! Me too dey find money”! It is well. 5 Likes |
Family / Re: It Is Getting Difficult To Have Good Family by EfemenaXY: 11:33am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Interesting thread. It takes dedication, trust, and respect from both parties / spouses for a marriage to work. It also helps if the couple are on the same page (Financial, Religious, Cultural Values, etc) as this fosters patience and understanding, thereby helping to alleviate the challenges that EVERY marriage faces - especially when the kids start rolling in. This is why it’s so important that an intending couple take the time to thoroughly understand and get to know each other properly before tying the knot. Love is just the icing on the cake. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Help! My Wife Has A Flaccid Boobs by EfemenaXY: 11:17pm On Dec 30, 2018 |
Mindfulness: I rarely watch comedy movies. They have to be really, really, really funny otherwise I quickly lose interest. I came across one titled Date Movie 2006 It had potential. The first 7-10 minutes got me going...but the rest afterwards was just bleh... |
Family / Re: First Fruit Is A Scam,be Wiser In 2019 by EfemenaXY: 10:51pm On Dec 30, 2018 |
babeosisi: Do such people still exist?? 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Wale Adebayo: I Relocated To US Because Acting Didn’t Work For Me by EfemenaXY: 10:46pm On Dec 30, 2018 |
SAMBARRY: Lol some people’ll never change! Sambarry quick with the insults and crazy profile pictures Seasons greetings ma’am 1 Like |
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