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njokusboy:
I know...

But we men don't relish the sight of old women hanging around all the time...
We go run leave the house for una.

Abeg, let the couple manage themselves like that...

But it's an effective deterrent. At least the oga won't be entertaining ideas about "knocking up" the hired help.

njokusboy:
That would be two mamas in one house....
You wan suffocate the man...
Pls 0p, stick to washing machine and any other machine even cooking machine...
If ever the machines fail, we'd eat out or prepare something easy...
Don't bring any 50 year old efe abeg
I take God beg you

Lol! You flatter me.

Yes, a woman of menopausal age is what she needs, to help out where the domestic appliances can't - like looking after the kids in her absence.

That is afterall, the reason for employing such a lady in the first place, and not to provide the man with a bedmate.

This isn't nice.

Well, at least they've still got N3m from doing nothing.

By the way, did that money come from the governor's pocket / personal finance? Or is it state-owned money that could be better used for improving the lives of the masses (such as stocking up hospitals with medicines), being diverted into greedy pockets for personal use?

Interesting post, but I must add that a fifteen year old is still a child.

Good thing you've been able to workaround this, and invested in domestic appliances. That would have been my first suggestion to you as they make light household chores, require low maintenance to keep working, can work unsociable hours, and most importantly, will never talk back at you.

My second suggestion, in addition to the above, would have been for you to consider hiring an older, more mature woman. Preferably one that's reached menopause.

dangotesmummy:
Woged the judge Kontinu judging. Which one consain you with husband and wife matter. If e pepper you for body why you no tell the woman wey dey shout things you're typing here. You sef you get for body. You no go face wetin you wan buy and leave there Mrs gbeborun busy body somebody

There is nothing judgemental / busybodyish / gbeborunish about Wodge's post.

When that uncouth wife chose to shout out her private matters in public, she made her "ish" everyone's business.

mohammedabiodun:
You aren't gaining anything from him, instead you are losing your money and your head. Your situation is like an organism that has an ectoparasite parasiting on it but feels the parasite contributes to it's beauty. Your children are your future; invest heavily in them (both morally and financially).

Oh, you mean her.

Okay, I get you.

arabianights:
men, you get issue ooooooooo!!!!!!!!! na so you dey beat dead horse, abeg its okay, have a nice weekend and use it on important things not trivial issues that dont add value to your life.

Thanks.

Now move on.

mohammedabiodun:
I hope you will read this, that is all I have for you "When there is nothing to gain there is nothing to lose". Apply it to your situation.

And what is my "situation"?

Go on. Tell me.

arabianights:
it was a rhetoric question

i frankly couldnt care if u r a lesbian.

Good.

Like I stated earlier, it's none of your business. Drop your "advice" to @op and stop trying to fish for info that doesn't concern you.

Thanks.

edwife:
The other guy was netose i purposely wrote his name wrong.Yea you are right,it's better to troll around and leave people to their imaginations.

Time to prepare for church,see you later....

True that.

See wahala. By trying to dodge Bukatyne's ever watchful eyes, pessin come dey jump from frying pan to fire.

Already made up my mind to press the "ignore' button. You should too, dear.

So you wan go church? I haven't even made up my mind yet. Still toying with the idea of hitting the gym instead.

Okay, later babes...

edwife:
My dear,i read her previous threads....

Op is depressed,she is dealing with a lot!

The fact that her parents are back in her life now,i think she wants to hold on to that.

This marriage is complicated meh!

I think a lot of it boils down to their differing cultural perspectives, which isn't uncommon for mixed marriages.

They ought to have smoothened that over by now but they haven't - because they've been apart for so long.

edwife:
After all these years your parents have stood by you and the kids,he has the nerves to show up and hate on them with no reason?
That man has issues,what is his problem with your folks anyway?
Sweetheart having your parents by you is the greatest gifts anyone can ask for,do not let anyone to separate you from your parents.
You need to let him know that your parents are part of your life and it ain't changing for nothing,it either he accepts it or the high way.
He should concentrate in putting his family together and being a dad to his kids,he is busy focusing on your parents

They both have issues and it's been going on for years. Check out her threads.

Me sef, I don tire to advice.

edwife:
That's how the take people pictures and claimed to have a connection with them,thank God threads don't go away.

I don't even know how they got there,that thread was dead.

Anyway,if he likes let him save it,it is his business.

I wrote to the mods to unban me,the hidden post was me telling you the name of the other guy viewing...

I didn't see that post. Who was the other guy?

Anyway, at least our faces weren't shown. Good thing. Now you see why I have reservations posting anything personal here.

edwife:
Spambot got me yesterday,after writing to mods and nothing was done for over 30 min,i had to log out.I was just there reading and couldn't do nothing!

What were those two guys doing on that thread?Jeez!

Don't mind him.

I dislike immature guys, you really have no idea babes. The whole point of going there was to avoid wandering eyes.

Now, he claims to have seen our pics. Even if true, did he have to voice it out? Couldn't he keep his trap shut?

And why would he even think of saving them? To do what? And to add insult to injury states he won't do anything silly. Like seriously?

And he wonders why I'm píssed off? Mtcheew.

You wrote to the mods? Why? Did I miss something? I did see a hidden post there, though.

coogaluta:
It will depend on how curved it is...
Can you upload a picture, so we'll know what we're dealing with here

Now this is just too funny! Comedy relief at it's best.

@op: post this at the health section. Or ask the mods to move this thread of yours to the health section.

byvan03:
Abi? She claimed she doesn't ooo, that everything was rushed. One read the strangest stories here, it could still be wannabe writers at it.

Lol! Perhaps.

cococandy:
He said this to your face?
The guy doesn't even love you.
He's there because you're his meal ticket for now.
Watch him bolt when (if) he gets a means of survival of his own. What kind of man won't even make effort to help his wife take care of his kids' needs? Even if he's bringing only a quarter of it. At least that something.
And if he loves you, he won't be ok watching you stress yourself to death doing two jobs and doing all the house work on top of it all. He's both physically and emotionally not with you and it's not your job to fix him. He's an adult.
If you can't do it anymore, tell him to his face and not us. For example, that chair incident, I'd have left it there let rain fall on it and the sun shine on it. Or better still return it to where I bought it from. If he can't use his muscle to lift the chair into the house, we might as well send it back where it came from. I don't believe in stress lai lai.
Stop killing yourself slowly.
Anything you can't do? Say you can't and so be it.
You are probably afraid that he may misunderstand anything you say as disrespect for his lack of money. Even when you're very respectful about how you say it. It's not a new phenomena. (There's actually a name for it) But guess what? If it makes him sit-up and be an adult, the end justifies the means in this case.

You've totally, totally, nailed it.

This man despises her and even blames her for his "predicament". Unfortunately for her, no matter what she does, it'll never be good enough for him. He probably even runs his mouth like a tap and judges her outside to anyone who cares to listen. Sad but true. There are men like this.

At the end of the day, she and she only can decide when enough is ENOUGH. No one do that for her. In the meantime, she should always keep at the back of her mind that health is wealth. No amount of money in this world can substitute good health.

I reiterate: she should kick him out / walk away. A few weeks out on his ear ALONE should make him sit up. She needs to take that cushion of comfort from him to help reset his attitude, because right now, he's sponging off her living rent free, food free, bills free, hands-off uninvolved father...even demanding sex too.

I doubt any sane person would want their daughter, sister, or even mother to go through what this lady is experiencing.

arabianights:
i will be surprised if u are married.

she is working hard coz of d kids and dont want them to be from a broken home but he isnt worth it. she needs to accept that she married the wrong man and walk out

My marital status is none of your business.

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed, and not endured. Besides the bolded bit of your post is also echoing what I've suggested.

Kanwulijare, you need to come and read this!

steamylious:
Hello friends,
Please don't insult me as I'm in a really difficult time of my life. If I knew this would be my story I wouldn't have gotten married at all. I'm married with 2 kids. My husband has been out of work for most of our 5 and a half years of marriage. I don't think he has worked for 1 year in total. I have single handedly done all the works in the home financially and physically. I practically work 2 jobs to take care of the home. I don't get enough assistance from this man. I feel he is very lazy for example When the kids wardrobe fall apart he would rather call a carpenter and make me pay- but because of the financial load on me. I fix most things in the house myself. I do manly things because I want to save money for other things- I pay all the bills, school fees, home helpers etc.
I don't get enough rest because I care totally for the home. I lost sleep planning, how to manage my money. I have no savings.
I'm crying now- I really don't know what to do. Only God can help me out of this now. Looking at myself on the mirror I see serious stress on my face.
He is lazy, he leaves everything for me to do, he always procrastinate. He doesn't take care of us.
Just yesterday I bought a chair and I asked him to help carry but he didn't, he ask if someone else couldn't carry the chair. So I carried the chair while he watched me - that's what he does always. Which I know the kids have noticed. They say mommy buys and does everything.

The worse is he expects me ,with all this to come home to cook for him. He sleeps and lay on the bed till I come back from work , (8am - 5 pm) ( i live 2-3 hours away from my office when there is no traffic) which after that I start my second job.
I'm fed up. I'm tired. I have help this man I paid over half the fee for his masters - which I encourage to do so he can get job after 2 years staying home. But I was disappointed that my N800k was used not considering he has a family but messing around with female class mate like a single guy.
He disturbs me for sex- but I can't see myself making love to someone who is comfortable living on me completely. He made a statement that he would meet other girls when he is back on his feet and flaunt them to my face.
I have lost respect and love for him. I'm overwhelmed, lost, finished and confused. I feel used. I still fasting- hopefully God will hear me out soon.
My life has been perfect except for my marriage.

You actually are the cause of your predicament. Your trying to be a superwoman is simply enabling him to continue being lazy. He sees no need to change. Why should he? You've made things extra comfortable for him.

Kick him out.

Otherwise, ask yourself why you're clinging on to a hellish marriage where despite all you do, you still aren't appreciated.

Sagamite:
I don't have a pot-belly, I have a barrel-belly, am bald, 4ft 9inches and have only one eye.

Lmao!!

Your descriptions are something else!

^^ That's all the proof I need.

Just guess work on your part + you using my comment about her height.

Eds, don't mind him jare. All these small boi moves don't shake me.

I'm out of here jare.

Lol!

You saw nothing.

^^ I said describe mine.

iykedare:
Edwife took her pics in a gym.

Should I go on?

I have the damn pics.

But I respect you two so I won't do anything silly.

BTW,you guys are fine so why are you both bothered.

Common, what is wrong in displaying your pics?


Infact,make I go change that my pic. Those my million dollar pool abs eh

Really.

Describe mine.

edwife:
I don die i don die

Stop panicking. He saw nothing. Zilch.

edwife:
efe we don die!

I don't believe him.

iykedare:
Should I post the pics here?

Describe what you saw.

iykedare:
Yes . I have the pics sef.


Even that of efemenaxy


Beautiful women

Thunder fire your eyes!

You saw nothing jare. Stop telling porkies!

byvan03:
I genuinely felt sorry for the lady, I can imagine her hurt viewing hubby life

She knew what she was getting into when she decided to marry him jor.

I take all these stories with a pinch of salt, these days. Anyway, she an adult. Let her deal with it.

Sagamite:
Loyalty at its best.

Lol!

Jenny trained me well.

edwife:
Thanks love

I am tall i know ,both parents are....

Let's go back to the lingerie thread babes.