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Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

Imho
No need involving a third party
Be creative
Be spontaneous
Eg
Pen a heartfelt apology
Organise a surprise romantic dinner for u both
Read the words to her
Reiterate your love for her again
Acknowledge that wat u did was stupid and will never happen again
Buy her a gift of what she likes to boot
All will be well
Thank me later
So help u God


If u say such things again

Na u use ur hand scatter ur marriage
Shikenah

All i see is people bashing this woman.
What if its those pecks on the side of both cheeks as the brits & french do nko?
Local man will call that kissing too
& call off a marriage cos of that?
I really hope ia one of those ig comedy skits sha

Thread the needle joor

XaintJoel20:
Coming online to share the 'testimony' in the heat of the situation is not ideal and he went as far as tagging a particular cult group to the failed kidnap which is also a miscalculation.
We should not be swift to rush to social media to post stories primarily for 'likes' and ' comment'.
I thank God for his life and that of his family.

"Checking instagram comments to crowdsource my self esteem..."
Kanye

Pappyto:
Alexa play me Cardi B; Do anything for clout

Anything

Avedonn:
I hate tribalism but seriously some Igbos wickedness is beyond comprehension. They don't have human feeling when it comes to wickedness that's why they kill with ease.

It's only in Igbo land that you will see blood brothers not eating each others food for the fear of being poison.

It's only in Igbo land that you will see someone being killed by his relatives with charm cos he is succeeding in life that's why most of them don't like going back home.

The term "village people" commonly used by people to refer to any misfortune, was coined by the Igbos based on their ugly experience from their people.

Yoruba and Hausas don't refer to their old folks using such terms. Only the igbo"s do.

Some Igbos always accuse Yoruba of digging dead people skull, well, It's better to recycle the bones and makes it beneficial to humanity interns of wealth and powers than allow it decay in the soil. Even the white donate their body before they die for humanity to benefit from it instead of allowing it to decay uslesly.

You talk this one o
Thst last part tho

JohnCruise:
Tbh i didn't actually read through
But i realized you spoke out of pain
Just take heart bro
Dont give up

Rotfl