₦airaland Forum

whats the deal with the absentee ballots? how do they count those?

SMH. This is what happens when the govt leaves the people to do what it meant for the police. When the govt has sat back too long, the people have decided to take the law into their own hands and this is how they know how to do it best.... Who do we blame?

CVHP: The first pix is REAL. Did u know Sentinels stood guard during Hurricane Sandy?......The tomb has been guarded continuously since 1937. Service in the 3d U.S. Infantry Regiment (The Old Guard) is considered to be an assignment of the highest honor for soldiers. Their dedication to the duty is so strong that when Hurricane Isabel approached, the soldiers were ordered to seek safety. It was an order they disobeyed, and the Tomb was guarded throughout the storm. Google for more info.

The first picture might be real but it wasn't during hurricane sandy. That pic was taken in Sept according to ABC news. The photo taken during the hurricane shows only one soldier. Here's the link: http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/politics/2012/10/soldiers-guard-the-tomb-of-unknowns-during-hurricane-sandy/

Now where was that person that was telling me it was not the fault of the govt and that it was a natural disaster We get what we ask for in this country. I hope in the next few years, we will be vote wisely.

Ariyke: why faking pictures na wetin dem wan gain for there

some of these photos are form facebook. People just messing around and trying to get attention. One guy reposted the photo and got like almost 2000 friend requests based on the photo. It's not about aid. It's a bunch of prolly young people having fun. The 2nd pic is actually from a movie. I forget which one though and the first looks so familiar. I swear I've seen it before somewhere.

shymexx: I concur 100%! However, you don't need to thread carefully when you're expressing your opinions... I like your point-of-view and it shows you understand the concept of creating a balance when imbibing a new ideology, so as not to let it change who you're and your cultural outlook on life... You need to educate some of your sisters on nl who think copying all the feminism ideology/propaganda is a good idea, without doing check and balances... Personally, I'm not a big fan of anything with "ism" at the back because it leads to extremism - and when we borrow ideas/ideologies, we need to stay in the middle and learn how to create a balance....

Thumps up!



I also agree with you on this one... I know a lot of women would disagree with you because they just want to see women occupying the position-of-power, or decision-making - without actually checking if they have got what it takes to be there...

You are right when you say that the problem with "-isms" is people taking it to the extreme. Not everything needs to be swallowed hook line and sinker. You pick and choose what suits you and that's why I find it hard to label my type of feminism because I agree with a bit of some of the various types. Finding what works for you and developing your own philosophy to create your own school of thought is what we need to do. Many women get too carried away with the feminism idea that they dont even understand the foundations - where it came from, the philosophies surrounding it and how it has grown over the years. So na so so "FEMINISM" dem go dey shout. There are no doubt some hardcore feminists but there are also the ones who dont go about with a feminist label.

ifyalways: Can we get the meaning of feminism?

Speaking as an ordinary layman, I'll say that feminism is not just un African but also created to spite the black woman. Feminism(how its largely understood and carried on here) portray women as oppressed, powerless, confused and unable to take charge of their lives. Its even safe to say that feminism is coined by "certain" group of women so they can dominate over and project their counterparts as weak, to see them as a "problem to be solved" that's a twisted mental struggle, IMO.
The African woman might not be ambitious(we can't deny that we live in a patriarchal society) but we surely are not entirely without vision or goal.

My views would change when I get a clear definition of feminism for an African woman .

I dont think it was great to spite the black woman at all! The white women created it for themselves - The 1st wave of feminism. Over the years, other groups have adopted it and there is this argument even in the world of academia about white feminists not understanding other women of other cultures and so we get the idea that they believe we are oppressed, powerless and incapable of handling our own affairs. That's another issue that is being discussed right now. e.g. western world trying to "free" the "oppressed" women in the middle east. BUT feminism wasnt created to spite the black women. What we see is the oyinbo people doing too known and putting on the "savior of the world" hat and imposing their ideas and beliefs on us without a clear understanding of who we are. It doesnt mean that we cannot form a sisterhood, white feminists only need to sit back and support not control.

fellis: ^Are you the same person as Egba girl?

HAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHA this got me LOL-ing! Nah we are not the same person. My definition of feminism is Rebecca West's which is "Feminism is the radical notion that women are people." The other definitions you'll find are about equality and social rights which for me all fall under the notion that "women are people". That's where I'm coming from in case you are wondering.

shymexx: I kind of agree with this... So, what do you think about women who want to play the role of "husbands" in the family on the premise of feminism?



However, women in politics and decision making roles haven't really shown that they are up-to-the-task... For example: Hilary Clinton has shown that women don't really have the decency, or diplomatic skills needed in decision making, when it comes to international politics...

playing the role of "husbands". Hmmmm omo, dat one na wahala o. I mean the truth is, it all depends on the couple. They should establish what roles they want to play. Each couple should define their own relationship. If the guy wants to be a stay home dad and the woman wants to work, so be it. Na dem get their marriage. If they both share the responsibilities equally so be it. My own is respect. Respect for each other and that way no one feels like they are being walked upon or disrespected.

I get what you are saying about women being the breadwinners and calling the shots. In some cases, that is how the guy wants it. I'm treading carefully here so as not to sound like women are on a lower level than men but respect is the key. A woman needs to respect her husband and vice versa. I believe in equality but at the same time, I believe in respecting my man's authority. There needs to be a balance if you dig what I mean? Each party should know the role they play and execute it accordingly. How they choose to define those roles is up to them.


On the issue of politics, I have to say that I agree with you and as for me, I am more concerned about the political structure and not the presence of women. (There are many women in power that have done nothing or who are simply puppets for the men. There are however, women who have been put in power through quota systems and what not and who have performed well. It all depends on the country and the current situation - war torn or just recovering from war etc). I would advocate a less rigid and more accepting structure of women. My take on it is that, as long as you are qualified, you should be in power whether male or female. This is probably where I would be a postmodern feminists. The political structure needs to be reshaped to allow women who are qualified come into power without hassles and their opinions should count because they have meaningful contributions.

La Parisienne: I know my rights and I don't take bullcrap from anybody. I also try to educate other women to stand up for themselves and reject abuse(physical or emotional).

What I don't do is walk around with a chip on my shoulder, feeling that being a woman is the next big thing.

Men and women are different, there's nothing we can do about that.

Right I see what you mean and yes I dont fancy acting like a womnan is the next big thing either. Good to know you do all the above though. Thats wassup. And I definitely agree that men and women are different and they play complementary roles but hey if a woman chooses to be in the military for example, she should be allowed to as long as she can. To each his own but there should be no discrimination based on sex.

La Parisienne: You pretty much descrbied my stand on this issue.

Right which is what stndpoint feminists want. I think you should embrace feminism (the type that you are) and educate others on what feminism is and the different types. Let's try and do away with the negative connotation attached to it. Women have been trampled upon too much and seen as 2nd class citizens.

shymexx: Can you explain the different types of feminism and the roles they play in the society?

Personally, I'll like feminist ideas/types which have African roots like: the Aba women, Efunroye Tinubu, Mrs. Ransome Kuti, Margaret Ekpo, Queen Nzingha, Nefertiti, Dahomey female warriors etc.. Women who fought against injustice in the society(revolutionary women), not just Eurocentric feminist ideas about just the male status quo - that ideology is counterproductive and selfish IMO.

See that's the kind of feminist I am. I dont believe in inequality because I am a woman. Why should you treat me unfairly based on my sex? Women's voices need to be heard. Their work needs to be acknowledged and they should be left in the dark because they dont count or put on a different level because they are women. They are human beings too. Respect me and treat me like you would any other person and I will do the same. Shikena. Especially in this 21st century with education and all. You cant say that men and women should attend school, learn the same thing and then one sex will be paid higher than the other. Are women paying less tuition than the men? Such injustices need to be addressed.

Now in some African countries, politics is the main thing here. Especially in war torn places, women are completely ignored except for places like Liberia, and maybe Rwanda (They about half the parliament or whatever it is called made of women. Impressive!). But my argument is that law makers need to take into consideration how the political, economic and social structures negatively affect women. Maybe we need more women in politics which is what most people (women) are advocating for. Women in politics is another issue entirely.

Im off to class mehn! lol. will be back.

I got class in a min but we need to move away from the stereotypical idea of feminism that it's all about equality with men. Truth is feminism has a negative connotation mainly because most people dont understand what it's about. I was like that initially but then I came to the realization that all I want is to be treated like a human and not looked down upon by men because I was a woman or not ignored in the decision-making process because I was a woman. All I ask is that when I apply for a job, don't pay me less than my male colleague who is doing the same thing as I am simply because I am a woman. Now, the closest I would be is a standpoint feminist.



There's also Feminist Empiricsm who believe that men and women are the same and women should be allowed to do what men do. No difference, no discrimination, none of that.

Then there's the post-modern feminist who are all about the ideas and they are concerned with power relations and power systems between men and women. They are all about the societal structures rather than the different gender. If that makes sense.

Now there are still other types of feminist. Black feminism, African feminism, White feminism. Infact they are plentiful. lol. But um what I have here is a brief summary of the ones that I can recollect at this point. But um try googling types of feminism.

P.S: If I messed up my summaries, kindly let me know. Oh and keep in mind that it depends on what lens you look at these various types of feminism: anthropological, sociological, political, etc.

La Parisienne: What Revolution are you refering to if I may ask? And where exactly is ''the struggle to liberate Africa/Africans/African-minds from the perpetual servitude of neo-colonialists and their corrupt stooges holding the African continent down'' going on? I don't get it.

I'm for equal rights and all, but I'm not a feminazist. I know that each gender has its own role to play. Men and women are built differently. We aren't the same and we'll never be, no matter what the feminazists preach.

you can be a standpoint feminist (which is what I think you are anyway) because they do not disagree that men and women are fundamentally different. They only want women to be included and considered when decisions are made etc.

I need my computer for but um yea african feminism does exist but you rarely hear about it. Its "anti-african" cause it was "born" out of eestern feminism but has been adapted in a diff form. Anyway I'm a feminist. (Mind you there are diff types of feminism)

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odum desmond: Why do foreign trained graduate stil come home to seek for job in an already choked up labour market? I think once you have studied somewhere, its better you settle down there and get a job than job and scramble for few positions that are available for children of the less fortunate Nigerians. Here in Nigeria you need more education to survive, you must have that Nigerianness, that streetwise, smart nature of Nigerian tough environment! Otherwise the local hustlers here know how to conspire and make life miserable for you guys in the work place. Please you guys should just remain there while the local trained graduate hustle here for few posts available. Or abi them deport una come Naija, lol.

But when we dont come home, people complain that those who studied abroad dont want to return etc. Now when we try to come back, una dey sack us. Wetin we go do?

dridowu: Afta ur nysc , pls cari ur load waka pls. D job 4 9ja neva reach 9ja graduate. Pls kindly go bak to where u come from. Shikena

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAAHHAHAHA Oga calm down na. lol

yuzedo: Yes. Queen Elizabent is my nebor. i know her horseband.


Sweerie, huh? Joke? I don't jokes wit morny o! My daddy is reach, very reach like his friend alaji dangote. i have iPad. so sweery, you married? Wuz yo numba?

afi reach na. morny ko LOL. abeg, i never marry and I no get numba how we go do am? LOL.

Even if these people were just a bunch of jobless youth or whatever, maybe if there was some structure in our society and things were working and they had jobs to occupy their time, they won't have the valuable time to spend coming up with silly plans on how to bomb people? If people had school to go to or work to do, they surely wont have time for this. If BK members are from neighbouring countries, shouldn't the govt take charge of our borders and protect them? Why are we so complacent? Na so e go start. Before long, we will become accustomed to it. BK bombing will become part of our everyday lives. that is if it hasnt already happened.

Murphy T: I used to share in this line of tot before, but on a second tot I realized itz not really d President's fault, no doubt he is incharge of nig affairs but he has to carry out his duties wit tact without trampling on d rights of Nig..put ur self in d President's shoes, wot wud u hav done? Kill every body in d north? Obviously not...u hav to carefuly look for d source frm wish dis is emanatin and tackle it frm der, and I think frm recent headlines in de dailies, tremendous efforts r bein recorded, I believe in no time dis ugly trend will disappear...I just pity d innocent nigerians dat r bein killled, it so unfortunate, really unfortunate.

Did you say without trampling on the rights of Nigeria?? Do we even have any rights as citizens anymore KMT! When we are brutally harassed by the police for no reason at all, will you claim rights?? When you are oppressed by the politicians, the president included, you sit there and talk about rights? He doesn't want to trample on the rights of Nig?? What rights? Abeg leave matter. What more support does he want?? For how many years has BK been terrorizing the country? For how many years? All we hear is "The President has condemned the attacks on ...." If he no condemn am, na wetin he for do? Condone? Of course he has to condemn.

Now if your argument is that the president is trying and he cant kill everyone in the north etc... then there is a problem. Are we asking him to kill everyone in the north? Hell no! Ok. Lets assume that BK sponsors are not politicians or influential people or whatever but they are just a group of radicals with foreign support etc. Shouldnt our intelligence agencies picked up on that? Dont you think Nigerians deserve to know the cause of this menace? Shouldn't the president be committed to finding out the reasons why this group exists, who is sponsoring them etc and shouldnt we be informed of what is going on? today, na negotiation, tomorrow, na arrest of BK leader, next tomorrow, na escape of BK leader in prison, next week, na church bombing. and you tell me the president is trying? TRYING MY FOOT! If he is not capable, let him say so. ALL NA WASH!! He knows what is going on but will keep going round says these acts are condemnable and barbaric. Grammar.

If those guys there want BK to stop tomorrow, they know how to do it. They are messing with our minds. The day Aso Rock is bombed is the day BK will stop because that is when they will decide enough is enough. Na because d tin never reach their side. Na because d problem wey poor man dey face never reach their side. The day it happens to them, you go see how everytin go change.

You ask us to put ourselves in the president's shoes... How about he puts himself in our shoes and know how it hurts?

hahahahahha People abeg make una free Yuzedo. Na joke o im dey joke. Haba. lol.

answer to number 2: The TV actually breaks from the breaking news. that's why it goes off like that.

tirtimy: Na joke now

that's why I lol-d at the end. I sabi say na joke.

yuzedo: i schooling in Harvard University, London. My daddy is soooo rich so i don't think about problem in life or working because we have Rose Roys and swimming pull.
Help me thank God, thank you Amadioha.
So swerry, wuz yo numba??

Abeg if you wan lie, lie better lie biko. haba. lol

Thats wassup!! People like my brother will leap for joy. Always riding his bike everywhere he goes like as if na on top bike dem born am. I sha hope cars wont start eating into that lane when traffic starts.

Does he have a choice but to condemn it and call it "barbaric, cruel and uncalled for"? Isn't that the usual? All this na mere rhetoric. They might as well copy and paste the same old speech each time something like this happens. I want to hear something different for once. Even if its that he doesnt know what to do.

Gentle Naaz: D day i went 2 my girl's house 2 celebrat ha birtdy wt ha friends. during refreshmnt, i ws offered peppe soup n a bottle of legend, likwise evry oda persn. I ws chewing a vry tough meet 4 mor dan 15 minutes n it seems lik evry1 noticed it. So immediately i swallowd d big meet n it hung in my throat n my eyes spewd. D girls begn 2 form " hey, guy y na,u wud hv spit out d meet" my girl ws embarrassd n i madddddddd. Some were sayn "my guy cnt 4k up lik ds, hvnt u eatn meet b4?" i cnt evn say a word cos d meet ws still dia n my eyes still spewd

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!! ahhahahahahahahahahahhahahaha!! Oh gosh! ahh.. perfect way to end the night. Thanks for the good laugh

Paentera: Ogbeni didn't you read the post - it says they were going to open it ahead of time but decided to move the opening day to the initial scheduled date of Nov 6.

He didnt o. El Rufai said it. Nigerian youth are lazy and dont read... lol

dor75: I think the problem is lack of understanding, they read; listen to audio or video but still lack understanding.

Then maybe we need to call into question what it is they actually read. It's one thing to read gossip blogs and another to read GOOD books. Reading yato si reading o.

Really impressive. To all those hating, una no go understand. People dey advance dey use brain, una dey siddon dere dey yab them. And yet we wonder what the problem is with Nigeria. Instead of people to learn and get inspired o, they are busy talking. Na so we dey talk and yab people while our country falls apart right under our noses.

berem: Must the minister of works fly down to lagos to declare the bridge open? Na today dem build the bridge? Na must for them to do ceremony? In 2yrs time you go hear say the bridge they shake again! Mtscheeew!

If the ceremony doesnt happen, then the work is not complete. Every single thing, launching, cutting ribbon, etc. na jus to dey do feferiti everywhere. mscheeew. as if their "opening ceremony" will affect anything. waste of money!