avicky:

That's not true. I have seen a father who abandoned his son after separation. The wife wants him to be involved in the son's life but he wouldn't budge. School fees, feeding, health has been the responsibility of the struggling mother.
Look, so many irresponsible fathers out there. Two sane adults should not bring their kids into the fracas between them.
So I don't buy your assertion.

I don't know how you people think, the woman should leave the kids to the man, he will take good care of them. She can be the one visiting. Or you don't know men also feel pain spending more but not being really involved is painful, so it's best he forgets all and work on his peace of mind.

Miami11:
Because they are mean and selfish

I would have said, it's best experienced, you don't need to say nothing.

If you are a man pray to experience it and see exactly what you will do.

Following

The kind of leader every country need to help correct all this confused persons.

Happiness is all you want and need.

Hmmm

Nice

Village work so tirelessly, so stay woke always

Mille:


And to even think according to her comments that the man has only lost his job for a few months. The man better be saving vigorously for his future. I dread the hell that awaits him when he is old or not in good health.

That's if she even sees the married man to be side-chick to. Pussy is now cheap in Nigeria. A Married man who intends to cheat can get varieties of younger women for 10k or less. I'm sure he'll prefer that to an old woman with a worn-out pussy who intends to put her family baggages on him, and who might even be stiff in bed.

Mille:


You're right not to believe her.

All I see from her previous posts is typical of the Nigerian women. A man loses his source of income, told her to let them relocate to the village to start things afresh, she refused. And keeps nagging him about his inability to currently provide rather than support him to rise again.

I hope for the man's sake that she divorces him. She already mentioned that she denies him sex, food and exposes his current situation to family and friends. She is currently of no benefits to the man and at least when she's gone, the man will have peace of mind and a less nagging voice singing in his ears every day. The only benefit the man currently gets from her being his wife is the constant belittling and I'm damn sure he will be relieved to see her go.

Typical selfish woman. Makes a vow of "for better for worse" during the wedding ceremony. And after enjoying the better and once the man is in a mess and needed supporting hands and ears, they kick him while he is down. When my father fell on hard times, I was withdrawn to a free public school close to our house until things got better. At least my mother knew then how wise and understanding it was to ease the pressure on her husband and not start reporting him to neighbors, friends and family members about "his inability to pay school fees". Too bad they don't make wives like my mother anymore. Because I don't seem to understand the fact that a struggling man is still being tasked with paying school fees when there are free government schools all around us.

Momsloved , I sincerely hope and pray that you divorce him. You are of no use to him as a wife just as he is of no use to you as a husband. Take your kids and divorce him. It will lift a huge pressure off him, and at least, you'll know how easy it is to continuously fend for your family.

Wisdom encrypted, thanks for breaking a lot down for people who are in need of this advice.

Men really need help in our society.
She will divorce him and end up being a side chick to another married man.

It's best she divorce him, so he can pick his pieces and build himself up.

A woman can be loyal to her pastor, her boss that pays her peanut but will not respect a man that has been doing more than all this before now.

momsloved:
So this thought keep resounding in my head. Divorce.
The beauty of life is when two people In love decided to join hand and work hard to survive.
It's becomes difficult to survive alone when the one who is supposed to hold you up, is the one breaking you.
Life is hard and it's very difficult to get help from other people because everyone is facing their own challenges.
I understood. That's why I asked everywhere for help, and non helped me.

Now,
If a woman is married to a man who cannot or making effort to provide for the family, shelter, food, train the children, non take any responsibilities in the family,
Is this act not worthy of divorce?

A man who sleeps comfortably knowing that everyone in the house is hungry including his little baby, hasn't he proven himself worthy of divorce?
What exactly is the essen of being married to a man who lives all the responsibilities of survival to his wife, knowing that she's struggling and can't just ignore like he do when the children are hungry?

To a very sincere man, pls tell me.
What go through a man's heart, why would he refuse to make himself valuable to provide for his family and yet comfortable?
To a very sincere woman who can put herself in this shoes before commenting.

Would you stay married to a man who push ALL the responsibilities on you? Knowing you are not financially capable?
A man who watch you struggle to feed his children while he's there, you struggle to pay school fees, struggle to pay bills, struggle to get shelter.
You do all these yourself because if you don't, he wouldn't make effort either.
A man who can even thought of living you behind because he couldn't afford the rent, so you could sort it out on your own.
What kind of man does this?
Are these not enough reasons to divorce him and walk away?
What would you advise?

I feel sorry about your situation.

But from first hand experience, I have learnt not to believe everything a woman says, I really need to hear from this man to no why?

What changed him, before I can advice.

98% of problems in marriages are caused by women, but play victims when the pressure starts coming.

I use to think it's finished.

And some are planning to kill their husbands.

Good news

Intelligent crook

IconicR:
Why are you scared

Of what? I know people who treated their wife the best and still experienced worst from her, someone you meet today can be there for you much more than who you thought will ever be.

Stupid and one sided message. And did you also visit the women's ward? Or women don't fall sick.

It's simple treat your partner with respect.
The woman you feel is going to be there might die before you, she might be the sick one.

A lot of persons can take care of whoever genuinely.
Just be nice to all and not only your wife

Rest on Ma.

Why kill him? He only stole just to eat and not to be rich.

Most Nigerians and naturally wicked.

If you have ever suffered and finally win, feel free to flaunt what God has blessed you with.

Personality difference.
If you feel comfortable hiding yours, let others be.

Hmmm

Drivers will soon start loosing jobs.

It seems we Christians from different denominations worship different Gods.

I'm not understanding

This is getting serious

Hmmm

Jennyclay:
Too bad

R.I.P to the departed soul.

Biko, Igbo women should be calming down. I don’t know why igbo women are fond of maltreating & torturing toddlers and adults to the point of death . I can never support this act.

The Hotel should be closed till further notice and the owner should be arrested ASAP.

You must be very stupid to mention Igbo women here, owner of the hotel name withheld and you already know it's igbo, when it happened in Rivers state abi yoruba and Hausa don't live in Rivers State.

If she and her mum likes, they can let, prediction deceive them

I'm proud of this girl

Nice

This is totally unacceptable.

Too bad and good