Na for the pre-intimacy, as a lady understand your man and he's weak point.
The nipple is one of most guys weakness

Preshieben:
I pray so too

Really? you could just snap ya fingers and you'll get guys in line and ya talking bout praying so, God made it so.

Your prayer should be finding a good guy or the right guy but mehn goodluck with that

Preshieben:
Babe
Don't let love fool you ohh
These guys, they know what they are doing.
If he had really wanted me,he would have pushed on
Imagine just one attempt,he expected me to jump to his proposal..at the first attempt
No na... that's not how stars do

Smiles don't think like that dear, guys can be crazy sometimes but trust me whether you accepted his proposal in his first attempt or after several doesn't really change anything.

A player has one objective, to get you laid whether now or later and the truth is the harder you make it the worst it is for you, just hope you don't meet one.

Tho am not saying actually saying he's a player or not, my point is for you to never be deceive by how consistent he kept chasing you from the ass

Preshieben:
No darling
I enjoy single life

alright. You're a belle so i guess it won't be difficult getting guy in line, Hope you don't end up letting the wrong guy into ya ❤

Ladylite:


You must be a learner, you expected it to be chill and frozen cold right? Is her name Elsa, from Frozen?

Ogbeni go and Iron your foam. Hot Iron will clear it up

Hmm seems you gat a lot of experience

Preshieben:
Good morning to y'all


Have been single for the past 11 month.since I broke up with my ex,
I decided to stop dating and focus on improving myself,learnt a skill(Makeup tho)got a job before lockdown while still studying...
I so much enjoyed my single life
I turn down guys I don't like and friend zoned alot.
Then I met this guy online,we chatted for over two months
I liked him,his personality and every other thing about him
Was ready to stop flirting and get serious with him
I was actually waiting for him to ask me out,and when he finally did,I turned him down, wanted him to put more effort..told me he can't take A No for an answer and then blocked me on WhatsApp.I had to go delete his number, Deleted everything about him.cos I hate nonsense
But what could be the reason he blocked me?


MODIFIED
To all those guys saying what they don't know.
This thread was just for trolls
All I do now is sit,read, laugh and ignore
I don't have strength to argue with your deluded minds.
Keep the comments coming
I'm enjoying your stupidity
Kwantinue Biko

Hmm turning him down wasn't the right way to go bout it if you really liked him, you could have told him you'd think about it.
Nowadays guys don't wanna be tolerated plus the fact that you must have killed all the courage he gathered just to confront you la, you hurls think it' easy to open feeling? Ask yourself the question if you like someone and told him your feelings and he turned you down, would you still wanna try?

You didn't include the fact that if she kaka finish and doesn't clean well, you be seeing some shit particles hanging in some corner of her ass

Shugavee:
I can’t wait for the day I will squirt this squirt I always here about ,, I hear it’s the sweetest feeling on earth !! Cuming is a lower level of squirting

And I can't wait when I'd see a lady squirt, Biko whenever you experience it do tell me bout it, or better still we lock ourselves in a room running marathon till you squirt

merahki:



How you can be confidently ignorant like this is a marvel

Ova who knows it all, you could have just save me the stress of been ignorant and explaining since you know better.... A lady once told me what squirting is all bout and how disgusting and smelly it is. In ever bleep girl till she squirt even tho I would love to see what it looks like myself, so no enter my matter and just skip my comment oga

Mehn after going through all the 14pages reply, all I can say is "This life no balance at all"

Anyways my gf is trying just that she herself never see road well sef, I believe if she have it she'll do more...

But one thing I come to observe is that Nigeria ladies ain't trying at all, they always thing they are on the receiving side, I have a sis whom I pity her bf cause that guy does everything she want and he lost respect from her, I wondering how he's gonna get it back.
This guy keep buying things for her without getting nothing in return I think the only thing am aware of was the cake she did on his birthday shikina.

Guys "tho not all" who are treated nicely and appreciated by their woman wouldn't wanna leave her for anything whatsoever. Perhaps if the ladies want change they should start treating we guy well na, that's a lesson have learnt from those married men here.

The easiest way to get ya parents approval is bringing shame to them, Nigeria parents hate that shit.


If you guys are ready to train a child, which I think you guys are up to age and doing well financially tho you still need to invest more to get multiple stream of income.

Impregnate her she would be aware tho so she doesn't try doing anything to remove it, so when it like 2-3 months she can tell her parents. You too can tell your parents, bruh believe me una go wed that week

LadySarah:
You must feel very accomplished with yourself.
I hope life is perfect for you. That you don't ask for help from anyone again.

You and those who support you are the reason why ppl make demands before helping someone, why ladies are called Olosho.
I hope you don't have a girl child in future cos it will come around.

Ladies, reserve some respect for yourselves. There is dignity in labor.wgat you can't have today will be yours tomorrow. Hardwork, God and contentment.

Aunty go and sleep and stop preaching gospel here, the only person responsible for your care is either your dad or husband, so many lazy women come out talking bout feminist yet they go behind and do all sorta shit with men cause they can't stand for themselves.

Everything na decision you choose, can't she work for her money? Must she sell her body, obviously you don't expect men to be giving any lady they meet AIDS cause you'll either be called a maga or as some would save some guys digit "upkeep guy" or something stupid cause the guy was just been genorous and not asking for anything in return.


You guys have problem a lot, could be that that money is for something stupid sef, maybe to upgrade phone or buy wig, clothes or whatever...

nonhuman:
I met this lady few days ago she came over and as we were on the bed having sex it didn't take long i began too feel wetness everywhere and the feeling was hot to be frank. I was enjoying the warmth of the wetness on my dick as I continue to dig harder, I thought she was squirting, it continues to pour and my bed was all soaked at the end I had to check what it was by smelling it, and to my greatest surprise it was pure urine, I was really disappointed, I vowed from that sport never to invite her again and it rained that day, there was no sun, to dry my mattress. now my question is, is it normal for a girl to keep urinating during sex, or is something wrong with her?

Squirting na combination of urine and female orgams, which literally smells like pee.
And it's practically impossible to urinate during sex so am definitely sure she was squirting

I intentionally didn't buy runner cause I knew she wouldn't wanna bleep without it since she's a runs babe and she can't to sleep at my place, when the heat was getting too much she just asked if I have rubber I told her no, mehn I could feel the diappointment in her tone

Sweetgirlmimi:
Then this is what to do


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urudxaqTStw

Weldon ma, you just wan show us say you get curve abi say you fine to attract us to ya inbox without even showing any exercise as your heading states

Nice write up, I must commend, you hit the nail at the right spot

This is just a fact that if we observe, we would see it' strike, whenever one becomes or act weak you become a prey for those ready to eat you up

wjxavier:


It doesn’t matter if she just came out of 40 days of prayer. A weak male personality is the major trigger for gold diggers.

And it’s not just about money issues alone.

Look, they may not have told you, guys...but money/gifts/things cannot buy a woman’s loyalty. It doesn't.

But las las you still said it, they're gold diggers but I would say not all.

Not that there's no gold diggers, even if she's not eating you all in the name of love, she's eating someone else somewhere.

PrecioussB:
Just like the title says.
I have noticed, when guys talk about some exs, they will kinda hint that the girls is an addict or crazy, but then after looking into it, I just realised that these guys can bring a lot of it on themselves, oh do they know how much torment not having closure brings on someone. Not knowing why your once beloved girlfriend or boyfriend refuses your calls, why they won't explain or even see you, why they just disappeared can leave you very confused.

The women aren't crazy because they call you all the time, they are probably really desperate to find out the truth, which guys often don't say (though I've noticed that Nigerian guys, tend to just let it out which can be good at times). This feeling is like being stood in front of a brick wall, the truth is on the other side and the ex is the wall who refuses to budge, to even hint what went wrong, so you're left guessing, you can't see the truth and the ex is barely interacting with you too.

WE NEED CLOSURE, EVERYBODY DOES > now that can drive a woman crazy. All the questions roaming through our heads, of 'why did he leave?', 'why didn't he even tell me what I did?', then you start thinking 'Am I that disgusting that he won't pick up my call?', 'was I that bad a girlfriend that he avoids me?' and worst of all 'I don't want to seem psycho or like a stalker, I'm sure one simple phone call to him will sort everything out.', when these get unbearable, you try and call, and he doesn't pick up because little did you know he's so over you and he doesn't have the time, even just a little time to let you get over him.

MAYBE you guys actually don't want us to get over you. Maybe that is why the mess made is left there. Surely if you want us to move on, you will meet up with us, tell us the deal and move on.

GUYS please understand the power of closure, and so what if you hurt our feelings, at least now we can move on and so can you, and you won't need to explain to your new girlfriend that your ex stalks you and such. Ok, ok, I think the stalking is a bit much, but it is just some women are so desperate to find the answers that they will go to some extents, think of it from your point of view.

Your girlfriend of 7 months, just tells you one day that it's all over. Ok, so in the past 2 months she's been slowly distancing herself from you, less phone calls, visits and barely any enthusiasm, so of course, she's prepared herself for the breakup, but you are completely unaware, you think everything is fabulous, you're even thinking about what to get her for her birthday. The birthday comes, and she's all fantastic, you think you two are a match made in heaven, then a week later, she breaks up with you, and of course you're stunned so you don't ask all the questions you want to ask and the questions just float around in your head, you sulk for ages and then after the initial stage of upset, you now want answers, but guess what, she's moved on, she's now got a new guy, your number's been deleted off her phone, and you're calling to ask her why she left you, because you deserve to know, and she just speaks to you like your wasting her time, she is uneasy to talk to you or acknowledge the good 5 months you spent as a close knit couple, and it hurts, in order to move on, you need to know where you went wrong, so it's not too personal, after all it could easily be her cheating ways or wandering eyes. Just knowing this would save so much soul-searching, further heartbreak and just confusion.

Now do you understand the power of closure?? If you don't I will gladly go on and on and on. .

This is just my plea, so you guys give us a break, stop dragging things along, we know you hate confrontation and hurting our feelings, but being left to our own thoughts could actually really affect us, and is far worse for our psyche than being told the truth.

CLOSURE is KEY!

Peace

Lads sha, I got several stories of how my ex left but I'll talk bout one cause hers was painful.

Know her since around 2012 and we started dating around 2013 till like 2017 when one day she chatted me and told me she's done with the relationship, little do I know she was already seeing someone engineering her to end the relationship.

I could remember that night I was in a rehearsal when she broke the news to me that night, I tried calling and asking what I did wrong she just kept saying nothing even tho we had broken up several times and reconcile I just wasn't myself that night


The kind keyboard tire me to just play sef, was praying time would fast forward so I can call her in the morning or perhaps get a text that she was just joking as usual or what ever story she has to say so I can form jagaban and be like stop playing with shits like that.

Omo 2 weeks pass and nothing change, usually outperform quarrel or break up no dey reach one week so I just know yawa don gas.
So I tried reaching her and even apologizing for what I didn't even do, cause this girl was just too fine and can make you look like a king and the only one in her life..

Well as I see say nothing fit come outta fish head I begin accept fate tho I just asked her what my offense was so I could learn from it and be a better bring , well she kept saying nothinh and that was how I died the matter.

Fast forward to 2018 a year after, we begin chat again and started talking bout our life's and all, then I brought up the question, wenti I do wrong? And even invited her to come around sef but somehow that year pass and we didn't see until 2019 when she come find me for house and spent a week or so in my place, she didn't even give me any reason still, only how she met her bf of 2 years she was dating at that time so I use my head calculate when she break up with me and when she start dey date the guy to know she left me for that same guy, so to pay the idiot back I decided to bang her which for straight one week was a marathon even the girl sef start they tell me to come back say she dey willing to leave the guy for me but too bad cause I was in a relationship with someone I cherish so damn much I wasn't gonna lose her for some confuse human being.


But wenti shock me be say when she come she been no ion dey get her brother time or pick em calls cause we dey bleep, and at some point the guy was suspicious so she even promise to dey call the guy five times a day, which she dey do and call him sweet name while I was still bleeping this girl.

Honestly speaking I regret having bleep her cause there was a big price I paid, story for another day tho..


There are some stuffs I skilled tho, but what am I trying to say in excess, I no pursue her for long bugging her life and disturbing her like you said, I left her and after some time she came back so maybe you guys are going bout it wrongly..

See who first break up for relationship no dey feel the pain at first na after sometime wey em don dey miss thing wey una don share together, that's why I would advise girls to always at all time trying new stuffs with their partners cause that memories would go a long way, no be when na just to bleep, like I can't get that with another prettier Barney?

Bluethong1:
Do you know if her boyfriend also got side chick.

Don't speak for everyone rather guys are the reason girls cheat, get that into your skull.

Aunty shout up jare, if you no get talk better speak for yourself.

How can you say guy are the reason girls cheat, so why do guy cheat? Person wey wan cheat go cheat, don't give excuses for your stupidity or ignorance.


Even if a girl meet a loyal and calm guy she'll still cheat, was it the guy that made her cheat or her stupidity.
She actually cheated herself not the guy....don't come and vex me here, I hate rubbish oh

mamagee3:
Do you like my profile photo?

“Like” my profile photo if you like my profile photo.

Why can't I see people's profile picture on nl, I don try I don tire oh... Someone assist lemme see if she fine doh

Spicebros:
my galfriend of barely two months told me 2 days back, that she went to visit her lockdown exercise couch that told her he wasn't feeling too well and he slept with her. she has told her friend too and both of them has been begging for her forgiveness.. and honestly I don't know what to do...pls don't mind the writeup errors.

If she's sorry and she even involved her friend, then you guys strike a deal.
You sleep with her friend to make it a tie, that way you'll know if she'll still see you the same way

delectablegyal:
guys, share your experience.

This one ya asking, it's like ya friend and bf bleeped or you wanna bleep you friends bf ni

goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc... She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night(and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end... Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it(3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to... It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me... I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too... So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger(To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy(which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)... So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.


I would really appreciate you guys input �

My advise for you is if you're going to get the phone back, please do go with your receipt or prove of evidence that you got the phone, if that girl truely no like you and shouts thief na Fire go fall on you oh, cause girls can be destructive and you can never know who's who

Stephenmoka4:
In most cases if it's a female victim, the chances of winning a physical fight against the pervert is low, most cry and submit. If it's a guy (victim) in a one on one situation, a punch in the woman's belly or throat will knock her out temporarily. The way guys act to gay rape Vs different gender rape are different, the guy is likely to fight the male (gay) compared to the otherwise.

What if she dies in the process?

You'll still be charged for murder do you know that?

You're in her house she no come find you and you killed her in her own house, or you can think say people go believe say she wan rape you and you punch her for throat or stomach?

rosy1992:

His write-up indicates that he had a mutual sex with her not rape.

Rape is not something to be proud of, he practically enjoyed it.

You see why girls are always the problem?

A certain trended sometime ago how a married woman who was raped by arm robbers enjoyed it, how she was begging the robber not to stop, moaning and even had orgasm twice. Yet the same girls started blaming the man that he didn't perform well and she should go and enjoy her life and all, but they all agreed it was a rape case..


Now because he enjoyed it ya saying it not rape?�

This was before the lock down right?

AmIaYahooGirl:
Hello Nls,
I'm not really someone who listens to what people say but I just want to share this so that y'all can air your views.

I'm a young girl, 23 and an orphan, dropped out of school and came to Lagos to make ends meet. When I first came to Lagos, I stayed with a married female cousin of mine, along the line, the husband started making advances to me which I politely declined. He got angry and told his wife to throw me out of the house, and yes she did.

I was thrown out of the house without anywhere to go and as someone who has survived losing both parents at such a young age, I literally lived and survived in the streets. Did all sorts of menial jobs, hawked purewater, soft drinks, worked in a bar and all that before I finally got an apartment.

The story isn't quite necessary but when I get talking with people and I tell them that I stay alone, next thing I'll hear is "you're too young to stay alone... it's not a good idea...blah blah blah. Some older woman even told me to go back to my cousin's house and beg them so I can continue staying with them, another told me that it's better I stay with my boyfriend than staying alone.

I really don't understand all these talks, like despite all I've been through, isn't staying alone the best option? Or is there something wrong with staying alone as a single young lady

Your humble opinion is needed, thanks

Well from my perspective I think you're at fault here seeking advice from people and sharing your personal life experience, trust me at the time you had the issue and you asked them for help they wouldn't but yet advice you to do anything to help yourself, now that you're doing well and you didn't wreck someone's marriage they be talking shit...

If you ain't tired of shit then go live with people that ain't your blood, and you'd chop all kinda shit especially when they know you have no one to help you.

For me I'd say you're doing great as long as you can afford the apartment and take care of yourself , then kudos to you strong lady

I once had sex with a girl and everything began to fail, my properties kept spoiling for no reason, things kept happening that go me scared, was even threatened to be shot and killed. All sort of ish from left and right that before I could solve one 20more surfaces.
Money kept I kept losing lots and lots of money until I was finally broke....

Thanks God I could actually pick up from scratch and start afresh, funny enough she was my ex



Tho I learnt my lesson, some guys outside are walking coupes, some no get destiny some are looking for who destroy there destiny from

Happy989:
I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.


I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

Hmm there's a funny thing about vibes or as a friend would call it 'mojo'(mind you, I ain't talking about porn)that shit tends to confuse people a lot.
You see eh vibe is like a temporary feelings or the early stages or foundation of any relationship, am sure you had that with your current boyfriend when you guys first met and all.


To me I don't think it's reasonable keeping those kinda people, affairs or even having those kinda mojo when in a relationship,see eh people that cheats just don't wake up one morning and cheat on their partner, there is always the building steps you take that leads to cheating.
Most important conversation in a relationship is the key to a success relationship, have you ever told your boyfriend about this ? Am guessing no! Because if you do and he talks to you am sure you might cut this thing you think is going on with you and this guy.
Those personal shits you talk to this guy about have you try talking to your boyfriend bout it, trying to get him to open up, learning stuffs from one another, challenging yourselves in the relationship, do crazy shit that leave a mark or memory in you heart.
That way you can date your guy for years without getting tired or even looking outside


Trust me if you can leave this your current boyfriend cause of a mixed feeling, you'd definitely leave that guy due time when you find another guy that's giving you sweet mojo, you'd also leave that guy or perhaps advance to cheating where you get bleeped by another while in a relationship or probably keep multiple boyfriends.


You've three options here :
1.either you talk to your boyfriend bout it and cut the other guy off if you truly love your boyfriend
2.end things with you boyfriend and follow a guy who you think you' we fallen for and perhaps time would tell it you made the right decision cause for every action there's always a consequence or
3. Date both and if caught you might end up losing both or getting to choose who to keep, gonna be your lose if both guys are good.
But before you take any decision still ask yourself this simple question, what if he just wanna bleep and go and you end up losing everything? Sha don't turn to all those frustrated female that has been exploited and be saying shits like "all guys are the same"
It was always a choice they made and perhaps they always kept taking the wrong decisions.


This is where I hang my boots now

justwise:
Here is the part 8


An incredible job by all contributors including those who ask questions and those who provide answers, job well done!

This is part 7 https://www.nairaland.com/5296943/general-german-student-visa-enquiries






For newbies your German school search starts here https://www.daad.de/deutschland/studienangebote/en/

In other words we need to have at least 8k £ plus in a account overseas to be considered. Hmm not bad since you don't have to pay any tuition fee although that amount is not cheap either. But the procedures seems a bit complex even after you've gotten the 8k£ ready