₦airaland Forum

When she had the fat, she made it seemed like she was all fine with her fat, and even make jest of slim girls.

First move out, then reach out to those NGOs that fight domestic against women and children. Hopefully one of them will pick your case. They usually don't ask for money.

And you financially independent? If not, begin to think of what to do as you might not go back to him.
Any children ?
The Lord is your strength.

This is subjective and not absolute. To some , it is a must do, therefore it is an achievement. To others, it is no big deal . we don't all have to be married. It is quite hard to stay married you know, and it is also quite hard to stay unmarried. To each its own. In all let's respect people's decision to either stay married , divorced, or single.

Woooo! If he didn't say I wouldn't have even guess it. Truth is, most of us didn't know

May the good Lord who help you escape, speed your healing

Bring your face Herr. You deserve some accolades. How dare you play with such ? You could have been killed. You ought to have got down when you had the chance to. Thank goodness you were not hypnotised. You are a easy prey to them. Those guys are learners

You don't give a fuuuuuuuuuuck yet you clicked on the topic. You actually care

Nigerians love for money is alarming yet they are bunch of lazzy assssssss.why kill a fellow man because of Cheddar? Materialism has taken over hard work and wisdom

Nigerian celebs(who/ what made her a celeb?) Are ill mannered and can't hold themselves. Why not ignore ? She is no much different from davido. With those words coming from her yuck! Is all I will say to her.

Our parents didn't raise us well, and if conscious effort is not made, we won't raise our kids well too. This is so because their way of parenting has been rubbed on us. Children are gift that should be nurture and groomed to become responsible adult. The mentality I hate most is how Nigerian parents see their children as meal ticket to break poverty. They expect so much from these children when they themselves can't achieve much. I know a woman whose child got 93% she was annoyed with the child and threatened fire and brimstones. She said she expected at least 96% just imagined. The boy felt downcasted. Nigeria parents live double standard life. They expect from their children what they themselves can't do

How old are you ? You both sounded and acted like teens. Do not worry, teen love is like that. When you become an adult, you will play the adult card.


Seriously, no reason justify her actions. Why block your main guy just so you could advertised an ex? To prove what exactly? If you believe their story, then set things straight with her and do some grown ups talk

okwabayi:
Why do people litter nairaland with suicide threads? If you tell them to go ahead they quickly change their minds, some going as far to ask "so someone cannot play with you again?".

If you are contemplating suicide kindly go ahead. The world is full of people as it is. I'm sure the same you won't dream of suicide if Nigeria was caught in a war.

It is because of people like you that depressed Nigerians don't speak up.they are afraid of being judged. Not everyone has natural will to survive. Some have to be encouraged. Please do not push the guy to sucude

Any man who feels he is doing you a favour because he married you , isn't worth being with . forget it that 6you are physically challenge , you are a human that deserves to be loved also.
For the sake of your sanity , please leave before he pushes you to into depression then suicide.
Take caution when starting another relationship. You said your husband used to be sweet until marriage. This one might just be pretending to be sweet , too. So take your time. You should tell him you have been married before, and let him decide if he wants to be with you. Why wait till you are through with divorce ? That's deceit.
In all love yourself. Your are valuable and does not necessarily need the validation from men.

After you successfully deliver this, please go for family planning; use any of the method that suit your health and finance. What are doing ? Are you working ? It is well. Five children in this time and season takes Courage.

You know, when I was pregnant of my child, my hubby and I wanted a girl so badly. I love baby girls. We didn't even Mind d if our planned two babies were girls. Alass we got a boy. Hubby and I have decided to love him even more, while still expecting our girl. Your girl is pretty. Please raise her well. Raise her that her voice ,too counts raise her that being a woman is much more than being a wife!

Life has never been easier with anyone. Even the rich cry. As concerning your depression, please talk to someone who wouldn't huge you nor your parents but will point possible solutions. This won't be easy but think of something that could give you money. Sell okirika, make hair, wash cloth just any menial job or pick a part time teaching job. Your parent are wrong for letting you struggle and caring less, but give yourself a clap back, snap out of suicidal thought. Tell yourself I will push it through till I get it. Talk to God, he understands.

You have to open up, if not, your depression will eat deeper. I understand how you feel and I have been there. My mistake was that I didn't open up early enough. Tell your parent. They might judge you, but brace up this phase will pass too. Is hard I know but prepare yourself for the rotation again, and try speak to who is in charge. Why would you be asked to write courses that you have passed ? As regarding your depression, your best bet is to speak up!

CptBule:
Funny, if you are a Nigerian and venture into a non-profitable venture because it is your passion, the person must be prepared to ride on personal-life recession for years long.

Most Nigerians go into a profession they actually detest but brings much money into their account because you "can't come and kill yourself."

I didn't say go on and pursue your career and be broke. I said f after working , and there is still time, in your retirement you can pursue your passionIF TIME PERMITS

CptBule:
Funny, if you are a Nigerian and venture into a non-profitable venture because it is your passion, the person must be prepared to ride on personal-life recession for years long.

Most Nigerians go into a profession they actually detest but brings much money into their account because you "can't come and kill yourself."

I didn't say go on and pursue your career and be broke. I !want if after working , and there is still time, in your retirement you can pursue your career IF TIME PERMITS

Nigeria economic situation do not allow one to pursue what he/she really wants. We just want a job that pays the bill constantly, because your passion might not have money value, or little value here in nigeria.

But I will rather that we pursue our passion at the end , that's if time permits, as this brings satisfaction.

God indeed answers prayer. Look at him a fighter indeed

heendrix:
Lol is that a pole?

correct yourself lady...

A pillar rather

You write well , so I will assume you are educated.go get a teaching job they are easy to come by, or pick a factory job. Just do something. To raise little capital to start your insecticide business. Put your kids in a public school. You won't have to pay school fees. No one will help you unless you help yourself. Don't just sit down. You could sell off some things to start again. What about the property you had in your former apartment? Your phone ? Sell them off gather money and start no matter how little. Stop waiting for people. Every needs help these days. Begging doesn't suit

I find this disturbing and the woman needs mental evaluation. The child obviously is sad and abandoned. Why tie your child to a pole? Is babaric.the craziness for social media

winningwinner:
I never seen marriage as a competition between the man and the woman where the one that provides calls the shots. The woman should complement the man without having to call the shots. This is what I know marriage to be before getting married.

In this case, the woman is not complementing you, you have been bought , and your pride trashed. Keep quiet and listen "Mr married man without a job yet demands full respect from wife and Inlaw"

If they pay your bill then you should listen and dance to their tune. The piper decides the sound. If you want to be in charge of decision making, be in in charge of your finance. Who those that ? Your in law feeds you and you are comfortable as a man . if I pay your bill, boy you can't bulge my instructions.

Words are powerful, much more curses from one's mother. Apologized to her, tell her you will contribute as soon as things fall in places. Ask her to pray for you while you go on your knees. your mum is lonley depressed and broke. Is she working ? Being idle could run her down mentally. And please , no matter your financial commitment, put the house first. While I was till with my parents I make sure I gave my quota every month even when it was not convenient to do so.

Whatever your hand find doing , do it well . people are watching silently

Non of those believes is true. Our mothers where told by their mothers who were also told by their mothers. This lies began, I think as a result of helping a mother stay cautious. They know if these lies weren't told, pregnant women will be carefree. I never believed any of those, so while I was pregnant I was free spirited, yet I have the most healthy baby till date.
Don't eat plantain, don't eat groundnut, do not cook moi moi, use a safety pin ,after having the baby another rules set in put thread on hair and many more. Rubbish. No new mother should live in fear and bound to those laws, they are lies started to keep you bounded