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LarryBeryl:
And if all the question prove his curiosity right or lead to more lies..... What should he do?

they should still communicate with each other. there is so much talking and opening up do to marriage. bottling up emotions does more harm

EMPEROR48:
Thanks alot I truly appreciate your good comment, I am so ashame of myself all this while for my actions that was y I brought this here so I won't misfire. Your advice was truly helpful not like other kids who were spillin rubbish. Once again thanks a million.

you are welcome. may the good Lord keep your home

slap will only lead to more harm. I know it hurt but hold your anger and ask questions. such as why did you encode his name? what do you have with him? slapping her will push her farther from you. help your marriage work.

simply put, your wife has low drive for sex;it could be due to mutilation, past experience like rape, or health related. Anyways deal with her patiently. sex is an important part of marriage and 8 months without it reeks of bad plot. Talk to a counselor and try to do little things that will put her in the mood. express how you feel to her in a calm and loving tone. If she is a considerate person she would change.

on the other side, this could be spiritual. maybe she's lost every atom of attraction to a man and see herself as a man too. so pray

cheating is crazy! is fun to some and to other for emotional reason while some just cheat because society now praise cheaters. you can't stop a cheat from cheating. a cheat will do it again and again even after been caught . they will only be careful next time.

the truth is you are both tired of each other you are quit possessive and she is nonchalant . you need her attention and want to hold her as a wife but to her career comes first. I don't know what led you to abusing her as you obviously deliberately skipped that part. you were wrong to have beaten her you have only pushed her further away. and I sensed that wasn't the first time. reach out to her call her family and both of you should talk. tell me which woman will gladly accept you to her bosom after you have dealt with her physically? you are just unfortunate to marry a woman who doesn't care. That doesn't exonerate you either. it takes two to make a wrong in marriage.

hdeeman:
i have always have a very close relationship with my siblings while growing up, which i have tried much to see that everyone is comfortable. i don,t based in Nigeria, but my family has always been my first priority. but everything changed immediately i want to get married. that i have to settle everyone first before getting married. they automatically ganged against me, that if i don,t settle that no one will come for my marriage. this really pissed me off cos this is the same people i have been struggling for over 10 years now. am no longer a kid if i start to settle i will never get married. this is really disturbing me, they only call you on phone when they need something. it really hurt when people you love dearly treat you like this. how do i go about this cos i have decided what ever will happen let it happen, let me look for my own life. i owe no one a dime, every struggle is me and me alone,

my brother be careful. there have been cases like this where family killed their own for matter of settlement. thread with wisdom and caution . it is the foundation you started with. what is your mother's say on this? I will advise you chill a bit call for meeting and settle the matter first least they gang against the innocent woman you are about to get married to. Nigerians and their entitlement mentality

what you are is what you will surely give birth to. I hope this family get rehabilitated some day

Gurusizkid:
WhatsApp has finally been banned from in China mainland by the country's government, with photo and video sharing, text message and other WhatsApp features are currently not functional.
Meanwhile, WhatsApp has previously been blocked but was lifted with few days and this time, it's unclear when the ban will be lifted.

The ban of WhatsApp has also affects some other services including normal messaging. It's not hard to get the reasoning for the move WhatsApp surveillance impossible or difficult.

However, the move had made all Chinese users to switch to a popular messaging service in the country called WeChat which is owned by Tecent, a Chinese company that often accepts information request by china government.

Considering the ban of Facebook, Instagram and even the last Mark Zuckerberg messaging app in China, WhatsApp ban, I think this has likely put a dent for Facebook's plan to expand more services into the country.

For me, I can't live in a country where there's no access to Facebook, Instagram and even WhatsApp, i don't know about you.

Cc;lalasticlala Seun Mynd44


pusan,

I read your write up twice , and saw nowhere you mentioned the reasons these social medias were banned. you just ranting about how you can live where there isn't such.

jayjayp:
Good evening Nairalanders,
Trust your day went well. I consider nairaland as a second home, a place i can find answers to questions bothering me.
I guess this post is meant to be for Romance section but decided to post here cos i believe we have more of married people.
I am a 27yrs old lady, been dating this guy for 4yrs now (though off and on). He recently proposed marriage to me, we love and understand ourselves alot and i believe we are meant to be together but.......... Few months ago, i visited a white garment church (celestial) where i was told he is not my husband. Now i have mixed feelings /about his proposal. Do i go ahead with my personal believe and instincts or adhere to the warning? Has anyone ever gone against a prophet concerning marriage, what are the consequences? Do you believe in white garment prophet? Am i acting out of desperation? I’m so confused right now, i love this man and he has the qualities i want in a man. He is even more confused than i am cos i indirectly turned down his proposal and i’m unable to tell him why. I can not tell him i visited a white garment church, we worship in same church and i went there out of my will.

firstly, cele will always tell you negative revelation to keep you at their fingers . Don't you know how to pray? if there is any evil, it can be averted . Ask God to guide you rather than wait upon the revelation of a flesh. in marriage a lot is required to sustain it; even if you were told he is your husband, and lack the requirements for making marriage work, you will still fail. what does your faith tells you? Yes or No

kinginvagina:
It's an expression that means a girl in your life can be your ruination. Naturally ladies bring their emotional, financial, physical and any other form of problem to men in exchange for their love, support and body.

Men have to be most careful when choosing a girl to be with, if you don't have a future with her quickly have your way and dump her, Never keep her for too long because of your future.

A woman's world revolve around men while a man's world revolve around the world.

Be wise

How intelligent you are. A man who has a future won't use and dumb girls. he looks for one he is truly in love with, cherish and build a future with her. small minds see sex as an achievement- a class which you obviously belong to- big mind discuss solutions to human problem in turn leading to creation of businesses

I was the last person that would have done this. since this week I have been using my partner's toothbrush. mine got spoilt I have been so busy to get another. although I know it isn't hygienic, but then , I am using it anyway!

uzoclinton:
We don't know what he did that pushed her over the edge... and the only time I would take it lightly if my kid was flogged this way is if he stole something....

even if the child stole, flogging till the skin pulled off is still no proper way to orientates a child. there is little to what flogging contributes to good training

uzoclinton:

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I'm not in support of what she did ooo. but I don't think she just took up cane and started flogging him for nothing.... when she's not MAD. Abeg poster go and do your research... ..


As gentle as my mum is, even her get boiling point.... Every woman does...

nobody said she was wrong for flogging, but she over did it to the extent of pulling skin off his body. That's inhuman. kids will always misbehave, but flog with love and caution. Tell me, if your child was flogged this way, would you take it lightly ?

Agreed, she hasn't acted properly; but do not entertain the thought she might be cheating. please trash out the issue with her and place your foot on the ground as a man. why allow her to take a loan from a man? that alone sells you short. secondly why allow a stranger drive your kids ? oh please sort it out rather than sit at a corner sucking over whether she is cheating or not. you lost your respect the moment you allowed segun drove them away in your presence.

this is obviously a spiritual matter. take your case to God He alone can rescue you at this juncture. you and your wife should fight this war together if she is willing

Gidobaba:
Assuming the bible didn't make it clear that we should bring our thithes into His tabernacle, i would have been paying my tithes into the lives of people whom are less privileged.

you can still do both. there is a place for tithing and there is place for arms giving. don't make excuses my brother as long as the earth remains , seed time and harvest time remain

this is death sentence.

Addicted2Women:
This is 2017 not 1954

remind me! I thought we were in the 1980's . what happen to using phone that are not internet enabled ? if he bent on allowing his kid use a phone ? well let's begin with the father's purpose then we would know if it is logical or just a show off.

why give her a phone in the first place ? worse still allow her to own a social media account? what is wrong with the 21st century parents ? all in the bid to emulate the white .

what are the rules? what makes them difficult to keep ? I think the school is moving up to a new standard, and if you can't keep up then you should leave . you sound like a mediocre who is scared of growth and change. I know the new codes of conduct won't be to witch hunt anyone, rather to build professionally . you write poorly for a teacher ; go for a career switch and save our education

please, for the well being of the child both of you should separate for now. if things will be sorted out latter, fine. But go apart now. get her father involve and and an elder . bring in your mother. I as a mother will not be happy to have my child keep me in the rain because of a so called "wife" I don't want to throw stone at your wife because I know you also have your own errors which led to where you both are now. when she leaves, make effort to reach out to your child. and focus on making something out of your life. purpose first before marriage and children rearing . a wife relationship with a mother-in law should be as Ruth and Naomi.

so many things is lost in this relationship- love, respect, togetherness, feelings , kindness and sympathy to mention a few. please bring mama in. if she can't stay let her go! your mother is your god you hurt her you hurt your root. Having a child together is not a ticket to being married .

BBBlaze:
Thank you "mrs perfect"... I am only human and imperfect!... Nevertheless, it was my keyboard that made that mistake(my bad! I did not proofread), but in future if you want to correct someone, please do it nicely not in this harsh intonation!

I do appreciate you!

sorry if I sounded harsh; that wasn't my intention. And you didn't not change it

BBBlaze:
Nevertheless, it still boils down to "seeking the face of God", before destiny can take its full course.

*don't forget, the devil can give you his own destiny or manipulate your destiny, so you have to be very much alert spiritually*

if you are going to post things online, always double check with your dictionary. it is mar - to destroy or damage, not mare - a female horse

moststylish:
hmm my kinda girl, can I PM u

nope

moststylish:
can u date guy with no Money to pay even d least of ur bills

I pay my bills. I don't give a man that joy to think I can't survive without his money. that's why I work .

moststylish:
when it comes to serious relationship finance is always involved, how can u maintain a relationship when u are not financially bouyant

why do people always attach money to relationship? yet you all come out to cry fowl saying a woman is after your money

your argument does not have a strong point. what parent will say he\she prefers the boy child because they don't have to worry about making the hair and buying of pads ? you said a girl is at risk of being raped and chased around by men. were this men raised rightly would they have raped and chased their counterpart? if we clamour for a stabilize society then we must raise both genders with the same doctrine ,toughness and commitment. Today, both genders are endangered with the same social vice- smoking, drinking , sexual immortality, rape , neglect ,without fear for God , parents and authority, wild parties , wrong company . poor academic performance. Raise your child well irrespective of the gender .

you mean to tell me your friend got married without having his own apartment ? I wouldn't support that . soon the woman will remind him that "this is my house" by all means I think your friend should man up and get his own apartment move his wife in, rather than throw his respect and ego to the mud all in the bid to save 'cost'