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Go and try it, if it did not work, come back and take 1 million.naira from me. Most of you damaged men should go learn.from the almighty God that created marriage.

To damaged men like you, everything is trash, i am sure your father beats your mother, andand subdue her to submission,


And you think that will work ,total rubbish.







maltreated her,

hobat4cash:
Trash

All these small small boys think marriage is like that,

How do you think maltreating a woman will give you her body,

Just listen to what women are saying here you will understand that all women want is love and affection , then everything is settle.





uote author=Chinny024 post=126606223]
Remind Koo, reminder kini...Till u are married![/quote]

[You are damaged you need help, Fools like you keep spilling rubnish, instead of you to seek for help to your damged life, it is men like you that women put inside bottle , when you love your wife it means you love yourself, unfortunately you do not love your self, how will you love your wife.





uote author=rumenase post=126606805] you’re finished bro[/quote]

The truth is always trash to damaged men like you, continue with your attitude and keep chnaging women, like they are the problem, not knowing you are the reason.



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hobat4cash:
Trash

Your wife is right, i see a lot of men crying for sex, this is because men feels after marriage is sex sex,sex. Remenber men get aroused by sight , why women by touch, if you want your wife to get attracted to you sexually, you must touch her heart, with lovelly things, treat her well, you must respect her feellings do not rubbish her by insulting her, be open to her, let her know you have plans for her, and you are building future for the two of you, let her know she is your number One and you love her above all., show her love, and above all do not ever cheat on her.

Sex is otional for women, when we see love, we get wet easily for that person, and we always want to have it, when we see geniue love .


All women are de same, so do not let damaged men come here to tell you to get it from outside, because it is only girls with Aids or runs girls that will give you sex for a token without demanding love, and this will hurts you


Your attitude is hurting your wife , reason she is not giving you sex, change that attitude.

Backup plan is one of the reason relationships do not work, even martied people are not having backup plans, so how will the marriage work? If you are in a relationship, just break up with any body having a back up plan, because they will hurt you emotionally .Anybody with a backup plan, has ended the relationship before it ended .

Do not listen to that idot asking you of body count, he is out there to destroy your marriage, i am sure he is single ,

Focus on the advice others are giving you, if you like stupidly go and ask your wife I want to know your body count, that is the beggining of your problem in life.


uote author=Ayodeoba post=126549638]i met her not too long after she dis virgin[/quote]

Thatnis why she is your ex, because you are not worth her time ,if yiu think revealing your finance to your woman is bad, then all women should run frim you.







uote author=Sonnobax15 post=126553128]
Greatest lesson I learnt from my ex was--

"Never reveal your finances to your woman,no matter how the love dey shack you reach"

Cuz the moment you mistakenly do that, the kind emotional smack down wey you go receive go pass undertaker own..[/quote]

They will not like your post, reason their life is always damaged , and they keep damaging more people, they think or feel, more women is the solution to their problem. The solution to their problem is to work on the negative character of them selves.



















ote author=Mercisharelove post=126545345]The scripture comfirm one male and one female relationship!

Not one male, more females as wives, no, not so from the beginning. How do you know?


Genesis 2:23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

The man is the specie, the male and female! The spirit being, the creature of ELOHIM, THE CREATOR!

A man isn't a boy, no, it's the combination of male and female.


2:24 Therefore shall *(a) not two or more)* man leave his, not their) father and his mother, not their mothers), and shall cleave unto his *(wife) not wives* : and they shall be *one flesh, not many flesh, but one.* Pure spiritual! Follow the truth!

His rib, his wife and they shall be one flesh. Now if you want to relate physically, I am talking about marriage, romantic relationship, living together.

So, stop hurting yourself, be free, pray you meet the man you can meet their needs.

You know the female is like God, like THE HOLY SPIRIT, she has and is built to display all the attributes of GOD ALMIGHTIEST, the help meet for him, the man is greatly help, the same way Isaac was comforted, when Rebekah arrived, that's what THE CREATOR , GOD ALMIGHTIEST SAID before unveiling the most beautiful of HIS creations, while Adam was deep asleep, yet Adam was aware, through revelation that she was taken from the bones of his bones and flesh of his flesh, he said "she shall be called a woman", because she was taken from a man that THE LORD HAD CREATED AND MADE!

Ladies fly...Proverbs 31:29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.[/quote]

I have notice this about Igbo people, they do not like themselves very envious and jealous, and they see human Life as nothing, to take life is nothing to them, only few are good most are evil.

Poverty eat and go home. Because even if a girl had come to prepare that food, you will still insult her and not appreciate het, So pay and get out

They have cursed you. You are under a cursed, but i love the way you are not ready for a serious relationship, i love the way , you are not forcing anygirl into your mess.

Men do not have peaceful life, and no woman has intention to marry a man ,to frustrate him, the problem is you men, you want to give 10percent in marriage and withdraw 100percent, and when women complain you say they are not giving you peace of mind .






ote author=libertyfather post=126390959]unessesary , married ones sef looking for a way out...see them praying as hell when they get the man next is frustrate his peaceful life[/quote]

AND you have a PHD in front of your name is that not madness , most that married why they are young are suffering today .







quote author=PhillipPHD post=126405044]Three categories of people who will realize that men are the prize.
- Married women
- Single moms
- Single 30+ ladies

Eventually every woman must belong to one of these categories.

You better maximize your youthful years towards marrying a top prize or you will lurrn.[/quote]

God bless you you said it right, God bless all.good men, but punish all bad men and cheat, all bad men will end up with women that will killed them. AMEN

LISTEN if you are a bad man, maltreating a woman that loves you/ open to you and good to you., i pray for you you will end up with a bad woman that will kill or use Jazz to take all you have worked for, for maltreating a good woman that genuinely love you, you will get a bad woman that will make your life misrable till you die.


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[I love her she jad good marketing skills , just start patronizing her, or tell her yhe place you use to buy is your cousin. Or child hood friend,

Afterall she will not expect you to leave a childhood friend and patronise her.







quote author=pocohantas post=126297761]Backstory...[/quote]

Igbo man, I am sure you told him not to marry from another tribe, Igbo parents are the worst on earth, they frustrate people married to their children , your son wants peace for his wife , leave him alone .

They gave you notice because they know you can not pay yhe rent, paying half rent and paying balance after six months is terrible for the landlord.




Landlords also eat nah.just leave, and rent a smaller apartment, I am sure they will still give you additional months once your rent is due .



uote author=anainterior2018 post=126229018]I promise to make this simple and short. Please kindly bear with me. however i write this am mind is filled up.
I just got an apartment where am living for now with my wife and daughter which is going to be 2yrs of me staying by January 14 2024. but the issue i have right now is that i was suppose to renew my house rent January 14 2023 the sum of 550k year due to how difficult everything was so

i make half payment on December 2022 to the lawyer and make the lawyer understand the situation of thing at the moment and he accept with me sum of 275k that's 6 month payment so hoping before June/July i will be paid the remaining half. fast forward to August 16 i message the lawyer

again on whatsapp again concerns the second half payment which i did another 275k but to my surpise after paying the said amount i got quit notice letter just 1 weeks after making payment that i shoudn't renew my rent again and i should leave the house before january 14 or by january 14. so i went to the lawyer office and let him know how i feel about this that what my offend and when you know you're given me QUIT NOTICE why collecting money from me again and he doesnt respond to my question saying the landlady complain my wife doesnt use to greet her whereas we are living in the same compound but we tenant have our own gate while the landlord have their own personal gate and compound we doesn't share the same compound because there's demarcation between the tenant and landlord.

my problem and concerns at the moment is i dont have money yet on me to rent another apartment i will really need enough time. I want people here to enlighten me on this under the law, is it how it works in Lagos state and secondly i was told they are coming for inspection of my apartment by November if i made any damage in the apartment when am still living in the apartment likewise am new to this i pay for damage the sum of 60k i never damage anything in the apartment still this moment everything is in order. i really better knowledge on this about the quite notice and inspection of house around November because i dont trust the landlord for who they claim to be PASTOR

I'm still to read and reply back

thanks[/quote]

Give all of them.quit notice, and put to let outside they will all sit up.

If you can not handle your house give it to people like us that are Care takers












landlord, these are tough times for me.

My tenants are pushing for a rent reduction in October, with some even suggesting late payments.

I urged them to submit the full rent upfront before October to avoid story that touches the heart, but they decline.

This is my livelihood!

How am I supposed to weather this storm without their full cooperation?[/quote]

Because they are dogs









quote author=saphiere post=125810913]Stories of men sleeping with their house helps and even impregnating them is not new to us.
Why do men indulge in such act?
If you must cheat as you men do saying it's men's nature to cheat. If you must cheat why should it be the househelp?

please I need answers[/quote]

Men that comes here to take advice, will have a broken home within few years of marriage.


Stop talking rubbish.

Ondo state Governeors wife is older than him

Peter if psquarr wife is older than him, I just cited very few popular people to make you feel you lack sense when it comes to marriage issues


Marriage works only when the two people are willing to be sacrificial in all things, willing to see them selves as partners, and willing to , be faithful .




You agree to do court wedding or not as a man, is your business and for your own.good,

There are things that kills love and marriage in the heart of a woman, although many women will still stay in that marriage, but whenever they remember these things are missing , they start hating the man


Things women think daily on, are one
A man not ready for court wedding has plans to remarry behind her, and does not love her .


A man not wearing his ring is a chronic cheat. Most women do not take them serious


3. A man not giving her money does not love her


4. A man not sharing things with her, like carrying her along in buying properties , ensuring her names or kids names are part of the document

A man not proud to identify with her , does not love her


A man that does not respect and value her, like make her feel she is the best and number one,
The very moment a woman discover a man Values another woman above her, or praise other woman above her, or always take side with other girls above her, the love starts falling gradualling


The moment a woman feels she is not the number one in a man life's. , a man that makes it obvious that his mother or father or siblings ,or Ex is more important than his wife, has destroyed the marriage from the beggining. .


When you are doing any of the above to your wife, you have succeeded in showing her that you do not love her.


Now these things will happen in your marriage , she will nit and never be happy, no matter what you do, she starts thinking the man has a plan.B, and for her not to get hurt when the marriage crashes , she should not put in too much emotions in.the marriage , and thatnis where the problem starts , when a woman start feeling unsafe and hopeless in that marriage , she find it hard to trust the man
Love she has starts dying gradually.

Dis respect comes in, because she feels how will she respect a man that insults or talk down on her because of other women

Sex become boring, let me tell you for women sex is nothing , especially if she is not a teenager, any woman above 25 years , only get Hot when she sees a man that treats her well and right.


You can not use alpha male in.marriage, you can not use authority to earned respect in.marriage.


Some women gave been subdue to submitt by force , for fear of not been beating, when you see women in such marriages they look old, and frustrated and it might get to point such women will either leave or hurt the man, or seek help from wrong powers to subdue the man.


Dear Men loving your life and treating her well like a wife, is the best gift you can give to your self not her.

You are helping your self, to have a good home a peaceful home, a family that will stand by you and stand for you at old age .



Women are always mumu when you know how to love them.right,

Give them a drop of love, and you will swim in oceans of river of, love, peace of mind, respect , worship .


Your wife is not your slave, do not ever insult her, call her names , or make her feel worthless.


If you feel.she is useless and worthless, then you are useless and worthless, because only a worthless man will marry a worthless woman.

If a man agrees to do court wedding or not as a man, is your business and for your own.good.

There are things that kills love and marriage in the heart of a woman, although many women will still stay in that marriage, but whenever they remember these things are missing , they start hating the man


Things women think daily on, are stated below
A man not ready for court wedding has plans to remarry behind her, and does not love her .


A man not wearing his wedding ring , women see them as chronic cheat. Most women do not take them serious


3. A man not giving her money does not love her


4. A man not sharing things with her, like carrying her along in buying properties , ensuring her names or kids names are part of the document

A man not proud to identify with her , does not love her


A man that does not respect and value her, like make her feel she is the best and number one,
The very moment a woman discover a man Values another woman above her, or praise other woman above her, or always take side with other girls above her, the love starts falling gradualling


The moment a woman feels she is not the number one in a man life's. , a man that makes it obvious that his mother or father or siblings ,or Ex is more important than his wife, has destroyed the marriage from the beggining. .


When you are doing any of the above to your wife, you have succeeded in showing her that you do not love her.


Now these things will happen in your marriage , she will nit and never be happy, no matter what you do, she starts thinking the man has a plan.B, and for her not to get hurt when the marriage crashes , she should not put in too much emotions in.the marriage , and thatnis where the problem starts , when a woman start feeling unsafe and hopeless in that marriage , she find it hard to trust the man
Love she has starts dying gradually.

Dis respect comes in, because she feels how will she respect a man that insults or talk down on her because of other women

Sex become boring, let me tell you for women sex is nothing , especially if she is not a teenager, any woman above 25 years , only get Hot when she sees a man that treats her well and right.


You can not use alpha male in.marriage, you can not use authority to earned respect in.marriage.


Some women gave been subdue to submitt by force , for fear of not been beating, when you see women in such marriages they look old, and frustrated and it might get to point such women will either leave or hurt the man, or seek help from wrong powers to subdue the man.


Dear Men loving your life and treating her well like a wife, is the best gift you can give to your self not her.

You are helping your self, to have a good home a peaceful home, a family that will stand by you and stand for you at old age .



Women are always mumu when you know how to love them.right,

Give them a drop of love, and you will swim in oceans of river of, love, peace of mind, respect , worship .


Your wife is not your slave, do not ever insult her, call her names , or make her feel worthless.


If you feel.she is useless and worthless, then you are useless and worthless, because only a worthless man will marry a worthless woman.

Signs of Bibolar disorder , you betyer run, it is better to be single z than to marry wrong










quote author=Nengiraw post=126142029] Thank you!! I felt the age gap was too much and he was already coming for me in a weird manner. if I missed his calls. When I call him back, he starts being mad that I missed his calls, and it was not just normal calls, it was video calls, and I told him I didn’t like video calls, yet he will be blasting my phone unannounced with it.[/quote]

Run, Run , Run, you see men that tells you their wives are abusive ,or mad , such men are useless men, very soon he will say same about you . With their useless characters , they made the woman a nagging women , full of complains , and end up calling her made




Run for your life

Close your ears. But I am still wondering how you will be hearing your neighbors voice when it is flat. If your wife is her friend let your wife talk to the wife that her sound ID sounding too much.

Idiotic liar, nothing of such is happening










quote author=Cogs post=126072385]Hi guys,

This subject is important to me and I need some kinda mature advise and some funny ones as our custom is over here.

So, I have been in this house that I live for a while, everything has been going on smoothly. But, recently some guy moved in to the flat directly beside mine, this guy is single, and looks great and a lot of things changed.

Fast forward to the present day, this guy has this girl who comes around every weekend and sometimes during the week and I have been working from home throughout this month and I my ear is full really. They have sex almost every minute and the lady moans really loud, I can't get in between them na. Some times, if there is light, I play music very loud, to help protect the other neighbours from participating in their ceremony as their young teenagers also in the compound.

But guys, the frequent moaning sound is kinda tormenting. I am not single, I have a girl, we are practicing celibacy, but Omo!

Guys, how can I manage this kind of situation please?[/quote]

Your father better give him his right, it is our culture.

We must obey our cultures in all arears , not when it comes to women ,you people will start shouting men should obey culture and marry two wives. Your father must obey this culture.

You and your father can go to the village, let first Son take what is rightfully his own.

She might not like staying at home, neigbours hardly respect a woman at home, why not open her business outside your home, a mini fast food and bakery? Where she has to wake up and go to, not staying doors?

Also why do you want her to drop her own vision for yours? I think accepting her own vision, and helping her to buikd it, will bring peace in your home, some women can not be entrepreneurs, they prefer office work

You do not have problem in your marriage, just do not let foolish people advice you otherwise.

Open her bakery office outside the house
Or. Let her start the job.

Stop listening to all these nairaland boys that have been damaged, and their heart broken, they are all out to destroy good relationships.

If you are wise take this advice i will give you, you said she has all good qualities except sex.

Now let me tell you what can kill sex in a woman.

But before then let me tell you this ,
You are selfish, you are earning 700k in a month, and you are giving your wife just 100k to run the house , for you and the kids?

Like out of the 100k she will buy food stuff ,buy provisions, and still cook from it? Ha it is not enough ,this might just be what is amking her withdraw from you.


My questions are
1. Does she work, if no, have you open business for her, so she can make her personal money? Do you put eyses in her little money despite the fact you are earning 700k and you want her to spend the little she has ? If you are doing all the above she might be seeing you as a selfish husband

My next questions are , the properties you are buying, or what ever you are investing in, is she part of the plan? Like do you put her name as partner maybe in the land house or business ? If your answer is no , this might be another reason she is withdrawing from sex.

Let me boldly tell you this , in.Nigeria of today, you are giving a woman 100k to cater for you and many kids my brother it is not enough , and can.never be enough.


The solution to your problem is not divorce, the solution is communication. Call her and have a discussion with her, ask her what the problem is , ask her what are the challenges and things that are painting her in this marriage, if you do this , you will be surprise at things she will say.
Apologize and tell her your own problem is sex ,

If you change , about things she complains about, trust me she will change and start giving you sex.

You are a stupid man, anyway you are saying this because your wife got pregamant immediately

Just imagine your wife saying she will leave ,when doctor says your sperm is low? What happens to together forever, at least you should have try to find solution together ? Some infertility cases are just minor cases, that can be resloved .

Thank God there are other ways to raise children


1.surrogate
2.IVf
3. Adoption

If a.man wife's can not give birth naturally the two of them can agree on what to do that will make them happy.