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ote author=Nbv1 post=125631980]And who told you people are not depressed abroad. Lots of people here in canada are battling depression. A lot can happen where you are, either their is no much commitment from your end or your time hasn’t just come yet.

I wish I was happier than I thought here in canada , you won’t understand until you come in here.[/quote]

Can't you see the man is not ready to support with domestic chores , if a woman is providing the man should be able to help.
When the man is the one providing , the woman , will cook, clean house , wash, take care of children carry pregnancy, take kids to school, but you see men a woman will provide and you still expect her to do all domestic work.

This is as simple as A BC quote author=DaddyCoool post=125674821]

Women RESENT being bread winner. It almost never works out[/quote]

[Chai this woman has married a useless thing, women are suffering ooo, how can man come on media to ask how much he should give his wife .

God forbid badthing.



quote author=gentposh post=125630061]Pls married men in the house help him out here...

My friend just called men to as me . I am yet to reply him[/quote]

FOOL











quote author=Think9ja post=125626294]I don't believe that girl.

May be she offered to suck him first but baba refused.

Nothing fit make me believe these hoes on rape matter[/quote]

It is this mindset that will destroy that marriage , keep taking advice from fools .


The only way a marriage will work, is when the man is ready to love the wife as christ love the church, then the the wife will submit, but following advice of useless guys that did not create marriage will destroy the marriage totally.







uote author=thesilentman post=125599255]
I have same mindset like you,but when i look at the innocent cute boy,i get madly confused.I don't want to believe my woman really got me this time around.[/quote]

You are a mumu, watch idiotic men like you comin g to tell you to divorced her, you open your mumu mouth to say you tamed an adult?
You tammed an adult?

You also used red pills tactics that damaged naira land boys thought you.

She is already tired if been tamed, she wants her freedom, now you are crying, at the end all of you men here will be divorced 100 times , because what you learn here from gay guys will destroy your homes .


Uncle she is tire of your alpha male , redpills and uncarring attitude . So rest .


If you like divorce her she has nothing to lose , if she has a job,




uote author=thesilentman post=125599029]My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.[/quote]

Thank God you parted ways with her, because she would have suffered all her life, anythibg that can make your partner steal.soap, means she is really suffering , in your hands, you are one of those useless guys that believe you should not take care of your girlfriend or even wife .



I pray she finds a man that support
her financially so she can stop picking things she needs in guys house .




author=Lutherblaq post=125547548]This happened to me, last year, When i was dating this random lady, she visits me like Twice to thrice a month.

she is a good partner i will confess , but she has this ridiculous stealing habit that i don't like,i mean every time she came visitin me, something must always find a way to get lost in my apartment.

The last time she stole from me. before i part ways with her, was when she stole soap from my bathroom, (i saw it inside her handbag) can you imagine comnon soap oh, she should had asked me na...,

Anyways back to the main question

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Have You Ever Been With A Patner Whom Steals From You?[/quote]

[You are not suppose to expose your body in present of that boy in the forst place, you have a male child already , your sexy dressing should end in your matrimony room, not even in the sisting rooom, cover your body, you are disturbing that boy mentally .













quote author=Iyaebube post=125571269]It started last two Sunday at the children's department. They were taught covering of the body as a child of God and ever since that day, my son has not remain the same again on his way of reasoning. My husband n I was all joking about it but it's getting out of hand the way my son is going about it

What he does now is he doesn't allow us especially me to wear skimpy wear at home anymore.whenever I put it on he will be shouting mummy cover your "private part" even my last baby that's not up to 2 was playing with the sleeveless top she was wearing the chest was showing immediately my son started shouting baby cover your private part. The private part he use to shout instead of another word cover your body provoked me to flog him to stop using that word cos he's just 4.

The incident that happened yesterday made us speechless was my family n I went to have a nice time because since that last two Sunday my son haven't stepped out of the house. We decided to have fun yesterday only for my son to screaming mummy see this one she or he is showing there private part. It brought alot of attention to us that we quickly ended what we came out to do.

How do I handle this issue to clear it off his head cos I have spoken n spanked him to stop but this is what he refused to stop saying n is embarrassing. Of all they where thought in Sunday school, why did he chose this one to practically implement?[/quote]

Mumu, more women will damaged your heart, you need a full bucket to cry more , even your sisters that are not virgin, will die single in your parent house, because they will keep using their overused pussy, .


Do.you have virgin in.your generation and entire village .RIFF RAFF.



quote author=jeromestarks post=125550361]Never marry a woman you did not disvirgin.
Spend on her, feed her, fvck her and let her go when you're tired of her overused pvssy but never marry her if you want to have peace of mind.[/quote]

Every body talking made sense, unfortunately you are the only idot that did not make sense. Must you always bring your damaged soul to comment on all post,

Have a plan B, why will he do that when he has a good family, and who told you all women are interested in controlling their partne r?

flokii:
@OP Didn't you guys agree on relocation before your wife left for studies?..

In whatever you do, don't sell off your properties here in Nigeria cos it might be the only thing you'd fall back to.
When your wife completes her studies and secures a good job or pay rise, then you'd see her true nature. She'll want to be the one controlling you and be making all the decisions.

Summary of it all.. Plan well and have plan B in case things go south.

You guys keep talking trash, you see nothing wrong in a man that has a wife at home , to rape another, rather you are focusing on the woman becaise she wants to leave ?


Commo sense is not common, stay faithful if you want your wife to stay forever.

PhillipPHD:
She’s announcing her singlehood for the next simp to wife her up.

Sadly, no commitment at all, these women are only for the fair weather. They are with you just for a good time, not a long time.

[Why are you quoting him, you want him to be stupid like you, let him learn to become a better husband , you people are all over internet, attacking good guys that have been trained by good parent to be better.






quote author=Map1 post=125540930]My brother Marriage is entirely different Ball game,no amount of motivational speaker, book you read about marriage, chancellor advice that makes marriage works,most of those pastors are in there marriage with sadness and regret but they can't back out,no sane man can satisfied and make women happy with out a regret at the end.[/quote]

The idiotic men , street damaged boys on naira will not like this post, , instead to change their attutude , they are advocating for marrying more wives that will end up killing them.








uote author=LoveUdie post=125524517]

Pastor Bisi Adewale

Lots of Men are making mistakes in their Marriages, this is making life difficult for their wives and Children. We need to examine this and tutor all Men to behave better.

Here, I will be exposing 8 Mistakes of Many Men in Marriage:

1) SLAVE-WIFE MENTALITY: It’s not funny to know that lots of Men see women as slave, servants or something close to that. They believe women are good for nothing but sex, baby making, house chores and cooking. They operate with that kind of mentality with their wives. Many believe a wife should only be seen not heard, it’s really funny the way some men treats heir wives.

2) PUTTING FAMILY OVER WIVES:
Lots of African Men are fond of this, they put their extended family first, they even make their wives to slave for their extended family members. Some beat or even divorce their wives because of their siblings. This is totally wrong. It’s madness to allow your family Members who are in their own Marriage to destroy yours, it’s high level of foolishness to allow your siblings to take over your marriage.

3) SPERM DONOR MENTALITY: Lots of men are more-or-less sperm donors in their marriages, apart from getting tingling their wives pregnant they have no other roles in Child bearing and rearing. Whenever babies cries, It’s very common to hear Nigerian men saying, come and carry your baby, don’t you hear your baby is crying?,most of the time only women attends Children parties in School,only mothers attend PTA meetings and many other events in School, Men thinks they are too busy to do that what a mistake?

4) CLASS TEACHER ATTITUDE: Lots of Men believes their wives have nothing to offer, they believe they are wiser, stronger and better than their wives. So they develop Class teacher mentality, whereby they are only ready to teach, lecture and tutor their wives. To them their wives should not advise them. This is very wrong, God planted your wife into your life to complete you, if you don’t listen to her you are missing a lot.

5) LIVE AND EAT ATTITUDE: This is another bad attitude of many men. They believe their duty at home is to eat, watch Television and sleep. Anything in the management of the house does not concern them. They believe only women should cook, boil, clean the house watch the plates, fetch water bath the Children and dress them up, this is another very funny lifestyle of many men, they should please note that this is 21st century and improve.

6) WIFE BATTERING: In some part of Nigeria wife battering is seen as a norm, so many men are in this habit, some women where maim or even killed in the process. I wonder what kind of Man will beat a woman he promised to love, care and cherished if not an animal-like man, wife battering is barbaric and should be condemned by all.

7) MEN-SEX MENTALITY: Lots of men also believe sex is for men, women should not enjoy it, so they approach their wives with horse rider mindset, they have no plan to make their wives enjoy sex but to do their thing, enjoy themselves and go their way, this is very unwise and unkind to women.

CAT MOUSE SEX ATTITUDE: With Men-sex mentality most Men develop what is known as Cat-Mouse attitude towards sex. They grab their Wives the way Cat does grab mouse and begin to sleep with them, no romance, no pre-intimacy, no good or kind words, no mind for the ladies they are sleeping with, it is very unfair.

Men should wake up to the reality of modern life and improve their relational ability at home, loving and be loving and caring thereby becoming better husbands and fathers.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name[/quote]

If you take care of your wife well she will not run away from you at old age, if the man is taking care of her well, UK will mean nothing to her, all you fools keep talking about marrying second wife, if you like marry 100 wives , if you have a bad character they will all treat you like a rag.
100 wives will not Save your bad character at old age .

Old age is karma for all you wicked men.


quote author=madridguy post=125489405]

You see one of the benefit of having 2 to 3 wives if you can afford to? Many men will not know the true colour of their wife till their old or dying age.

Even though the woman returns today, at the slightest opportunity she will run back to the UK and leave the old man to be cooking himself.[/quote]

Mumu, sombody went to hustle , only God knows
how she hss suffered in Nigeria, before , you are talking about giving a woman trust .










uote author=izonborn098 post=125489263]Just like when bringing a woman from village to the city... Madam want to explore uk.
There is a saying that'' the woman you think is the best' na the opportunity she never get to abandon u or cheat on you...
Baba should still give mama sometime before he should think of taking another wife'' if he is the one woman one man type....
9month for a marriage with grown up kids'' he can take a side chicken for now... Till further notice...
Modified: the worst mistake you will ever make in this life is giving any woman ur 100% trust'' no woman worth that...[/quote]

You still do not get it, and you are talking from the men perspective , let me ask you this, if your siater is married to a man that beats her often, and she has reported to his family, reported to his friends but the man still continue , what do you expect her to do, stay there and die right? Arrest is different from report, when you report your partner for abuse, police will not come to arrest him, they will invite him over, they come to arrest when the man is proving stubborn to come ,


And in that case it is no longer the fault of the woman, but his fault for refusing to honour police call.

And I said in.my first write up, that there is a family unit where disputes are settled in all police stations, it is done peacefully. They will only be harsh if the man is stubborn,

So what do you expect .


You men always look at your ego without looking at your attitude and the damage it is doing to the woman.

White ladies call the cops every seconds and the marriage still continues , so what stops a Nigerian woman from calling the cops when her life is in danger?

You want her to fight back, or send boys to beat the.man, maybe kill the man, and end in prison?


The man is forming vex because she is in the house with him, felling bad for doing the right thing. Let her ignore him, focus on her self, and the man will realize she dis the right thing to save her self.


Marriage is two forgiver living together , if she is always forgiving him for beating her, why can he forgive her.

In marriage two parties must offend themselves and also learn to forgive, have a communication for such not to happened again, and move on.

You can not sleep with two sisters ,there is a curse that comes with it, when you start paying for your sins, hope you will not say it is the first sister that is doing you?








uote author=nairagenone post=125459019]As the topic states, I am close friends with a polygamous family of 2 wives.
About 9 years ago while a youth corper I dated the first born of the 2nd wife but we kept it secret, although I think her own mom knew although the mom is late now.

It wasn't a relationship per se as I was just sleeping with her and I knew she had other guys too at the time but she always wanted me to think we were in some sort of relationship just like most ladies would.
Anyway, the whole thing fizzled out when I relocated from that city.

8 years later, I am in a new city and meet her step sister, who is younger than her but from the first wife and we are getting along fine, turns out I really like her and now considering marrying her.

The lady I dated previously is currently not married, in her 30s and I heard she lost a pregnancy recently, I dont have any relation with her other than the fact she calls me occasionally to ask for money for assistance which I render when I have the means but sometimes I don't as I am also trying to put my life together.

I recall that she could be diabolic and wouldn't put it past her to do jazz or something.

Do you think I should go ahead and marry her step sister 9 years after dating her and how should I go about it?

Should I inform the lady I dated in the past out of respect for her cos she will still eventually get to know ?

Should I tell the lady I am planning to marry about the past relationship with her step sister ?

Please advise.[/quote]

It is only death that can seperate a man from a woman. Let no culture deceive you, as along as the hus and is dead you should not be afriad of anything .


She does not need to return.any bride price


Your mindset is what is affecting you.


quote author=fineboynl post=125319930]I’m in a serious situation. i have been dating this young widow for a while now without any issues.

But From the day I slept with her i have been noticing some things i don’t want to talk about.

Many things have been going through my mind concerning her.

From the igbo/Yoruba and all other cultures in Nigeria. What should a widow do before she start sleeping with another man? Should she returned the bride price?

Because I’m considering cutting ties with her and go for deliverance.[/quote]

Is not true , the relationship is not over, only a man that has mission previously to end his marriage will do that when the wife report, she reported because her life is under threat .

If she is your sister, will you tell.her to keep watching till the man stiffed life out of her.?

police is to settle case, some cases you can.not handle the law enforcement should handle it, when a man is behaving like a mad man, report to his faimly, if the family can.not do anythibg report to his friends, if they can not do anything, report to law enforcement agent.
So you prefer her to die with beating than to report ? Right,

You prefer she use knife to stab him at night than to report right, many women will revenge by eithe killing the man or putting the.man into spiritual bottle , any woman that decide to usee the law is a good woman.


Let me tell.you, a male friend beats his wife , the wife did not report, because of what you typed above that reporting g to law enforcement means end of relationship, you know what she did after months, she paid some uniform men ,gave them her husband car number and pictures ,told them.where he alwys drives pass, the day they overtook the husband they beat hell out of his body and left him with one eye,

.till date the man is still wondering who did that to him, the boys lied to him,that he was beating because he drove roughly, he can no longer raise his hands on the wife, because the wife will always remind him, that he can not fight the men that gave him one eye, but has mouth inside house.

Some women will just put a man always beating them into in a bottle and make his life like. Vegetable .

Go and see the millions of women, jumping from one spiritual house or the other looking for solution for their husband, it always affect the men, because most of this spiritual houses render the men useless.


Women are using all these secreat means because we have this mindset of when you report your partner to law enforcement, relationship ends, and mist Nigerian women do not want their marriages to end ,so they use hidden means to find solutions .

I am very sure ,she has reported to family, friends, before using the police, I am very sure this is not the first time , he must have been doing it, and she has no help , reason she reported , reporting your partner to the police is not bad, there is. Family unit in all police station where they do mediation, they settle family dispute , they will.not beat the man, but will counsel the two couples and settle them.

The woman has done the right thing.

How to get a man that is beating her back? She wan die? The man should be the person coming back to her to apologize, she is married to a narcissist, that is playing victims card.






ote author=Mrbllymer post=125299032]
She wasn’t asking for validation all she wants is how to get her husband back can you provide solutions to that ?[/quote]

[Yuou do not have sense , what is the op going through? He should go and work on high libido, sex twice a week is ok, especiallly if he is not taking care of the woman, or assisting her in doing domestic work










quote author=henrimoto post=125338906] You are not married yet!! You don't know anything about what the OP is goiñg through with the woman he called his wife.[/quote]

Itnis you that do not have sense , some of you men, we wear dirty boxers , with smelling mouth, and be looking for a woman to kiss you like that that is why side chic will eat your money and run away.

henrimoto:
You are not married yet!! You don't know anything about what the OP is goiñg through with the woman he called his wife.

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quote author=Poisonousman post=125338790]

You are talking rubbish... Absolute rubbish.. you no get sense... Na this rubbish dey make her Mumu... Common sense no dey your head..[/quote]

Itnis you that do not have sense , some of you men, we wear dirty boxers , with smelling mouth, and be looking for a woman to kiss you like that that is why side chic will eat your money and run away..









quote author=Poisonousman post=125338790]

You are talking rubbish... Absolute rubbish.. you no get sense... Na this rubbish dey make her Mumu... Common sense no dey your head..[/quote]

[You typed rubbish, i see you as a narcissistic person, from your write up, you said she was not like this before , so what went wrong? that is what you should be asking your self.

All you talk about is sex sex sex, , Hello sex is nothing to women, without a caring attitude from her man.
You want her to chnage , have you changed? I am sure there are things she is complaining about in that marriage , and you failed to do them, but you are fast to come here and shout she is not giving me sex,

You said she complain about stomach pain, did you take her to hospital to know what is the cause or what she is going through?


You said she focus on her business, let me tell you before a woman can focus more on her business, than her man it means the man is not providing or taking Care of her.


You said you threw remote on her and she fainted , you are a lier, it was not remote you beat her and she fainted , you need win her trust back here . This might have made her have some dislike here ..


All I see in your write up, is a man that is not taking care of his wife, but keep shouting sex sex sex.

Seex kill you there .


Do you help her to do do domestic chores to reduce stress?

Do you take care of her needs , or give her money and gift

Maybe you are the type of man that is use to cursing her or emotionaally abusing her , and she has develop dislike for you.

Oga you need to check your self first and work on.your bad habits , and see if she will not change .

You people will be maltreating your wife , and still be asking for sex, who does that.

Sex is not food for woman, especially the married women,

Married women need care love more .







She is even giving you three times a week she is overtrying,

I join.the family to call you a dog, you are indeed a dog.

You know get work?


Three times a week is more than a enough, oga put that energy into making money to provide for your house hold .


Allowed some frustrated men who's heart has been damaged to advice you here , you will regreat it.

Can you take your own children to Orphanage
because things are tight?

Wicked siblings everywhere, how there you even mention Orphanage for your own sister siblings? Please look for their father and hand them over,

When they grow up and hate you as an aunty now ,you will say children of this generation are wicked .

You do not have sense and you have a wicked heart to even think of fumping thewm.in ophamgage. Can't you start food business on the street to take care of those children?





uote author=Loveabove post=125292685]Please I need you people's advice and I want to be as brief and straight to the point.

My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month.

Since we were just two of us, (our parents are late) the responsibility of taking care of this little kids of 8 and 5 has fallen on me.

God knows I love these kids and would take them as my own but I don't have a job and struggling seriously to survive. It's killing since they became my full responsibility. I was thinking any of the extended family member or a good person would come up to take them.

House rent has expired and problems everywhere.

Since no where else to take them to, I'm considering taking them to the orphanage. It's not my fault please. If I have the means, i would keep them and take very good care of them as they are very dear to me.

Like i said, i love this two boys and would take them as mine, providing for them now as it should, is the challenge.

Their presence is even affecting the small thing I am doing, especially by way of paying attention to them.

Please advise me on what to do.

Edited: File Photo by nlf.pmod[/quote]

You are very wrong, here, when a man is feeding his family, the wife is always supporting , either by cooking, keeping the house, cleaning ,she is very supportive, but you see men, when they are not bringing money they will still not support, they can not assist to sweep, assist to cook, assist to do anything, they will sleep wake and watch tv, no assiatnat to even take care of the baby,

Is that not wickedness? A woman will still go out, bring money and still run around to the market cook, take care of children and still take care of house,the mN not bringing money and still.not assisting in any domestic works will still be claiming head and demanding respect.


Even an Angel will not tolorate such.


The reason.why men provide for long without complain is because the woman is assiting

The reason why women provide and complain is because the man is not assisting in anything.


They are two differnet thing .


You can not be useless both financially and with your hands .


When a woman is overstretched it affects her mental health and she starts behaving mentally unstable

You should not feel quity if he was locked up because of domestic violence , you have done the right thing, by using the law, just imagine if he had killed you, his life will move on or if you use a sharp object to defend your self, you will properbly be in prioson.


Do not let people make you feel.bad, reporting a crime is not bad, especially when.it is not the first time, if he has been.doing it, and you have been tolerating it, reporting to authority is the best ,

The people here telling you what you did is bad, will be same people typing rest in peace if you die, or type why did she not report.


If he repeats it, go and report again you have done nothing wrong.



if he is not ready to chnage from beating you ,you should be planning to leave that marriage , your life is the most important thing.

[You speak like a patient that just left hospital without conpleting treatment .












quote author=jeromestarks post=125263778]Girls are a copy of their mother.
If you marry a woman who has been fvcked and mounted by many men you will train another man's children and your daughters too will be fvcked and mounted by many men. They will bring their boyfriends pregnancy home for you to train them and they will become useless like their mother. Your problem will multiply and you will wished you're single just like many men are currently wishing they never married because they married a woman who has been fvcked and mounted by many men.

Marry a virgin woman if you want a peaceful happy home you can return to after work.[/quote]

You are repkying sombody that does not have sense .

Olufemiolaolu:
May you not marry a slim witch oooo . Slimness isn't a goal a good woman can be of any shape bro

And after givibg birth she becomes fat, you throw her away right?



Like Yul Edoche after marrying the slim one, you dished her out ,and start looking for a fat one like yudy.



uote author=Zonefree post=125260410] If you must marry a Nigerian woman, marry the slim ones.

A slim woman can never be wrong in my eyes.

I can sell my family lands for a slim Nigerian virgin girl.[/quote]

The girl should sue you for this nonsense , posting her pictures online

If all you listed above is true , the only solution is to leave, once he knows your sister is not afraid to leave he will change .

Let her leave with the children then call family meeting , if he comes back, and let them settle the whole thing.


But i am sure your sister is not ready to leave, how will she give birth to four children with such ill treatment.

If she is not ready to leave let her stand her ground
1. She should lock her phone. Since his own phone is locked

2. She should never allow him, take her panties to smell when ever she is coming back from outside
3. She should never give her money to him, she should just support with some of her salary and save some .

If she is earning 40k, let her saved 20k and give him 20k, she need to save because the marriage go still end, except she wants to suffer all her life .

She need to stand up for her save and say no to many of these characters, if she can face him, the man will chnage , and if the man beat her, let her search for NGO that fight for such cases

Confirm4real:
Please this is a serious case she happens to be my younger sister I'm putting this up on her behalf.

1. The husband doesn't give her money for upkeep.

2. Most times he beat her up mercilessly.

3. Disgraced her in the compound by telling a mechanic that she doesn't wear pants.

4. Treat her like rag.

5. Doesn't have regard for my family.

6. Monitor her everywhere and accuse her wrongly of following men, this is someone that they've been married for more than 15yrs and have 4kids together.

7. Always accuse her wrongly of stealing his money.

8. Follow her to the market and pays for any food items she buys.

9. The little money my sister earns as a teacher he will make sure she spends all the money at home.

10. Locks his phone but told my sister to always unlock her own so he will be seeing all her messages and calls. Even put tracker on her phone to monitor her calls.

11. Smells my sister's undies atimes to know if she went to meet a man.

12. There was a time my sister was into restaurant business the husband didn't allow the business to last, he told her customers should not sit down to eat they can only buy and go.

13. He now bought a Sienna he still put tracker to monitor the car and inner tracker to monitor calls inside the car. If he noticed some conversation in the car he will start calling my sister, if she doesn't pick while driving he will start insulting her.

14. He pays the children school fees and house rent with complains. They're living at Ajah.

Although I have reported the case to Human Rights. Please what advice can you give if she's your sister.

Note: They dated long before marriage almost 5yrs, but I wonder why she didn't see those red flags then.

Women should be careful in their choice of selection, most men pretends to be nice during dating but not knowing they're beast in human form.